| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/29/2006 5:25:02 PM | | I am 36. Never been married. Don't have any children. And am tired of this situation. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 12/30/2006 7:15:56 AM | | I am in my thirties and never married. I have cohabitated twice and was wondering, while reading this forum, if that is the choice a higher percentage of people are making? Rather than do the big wedding and formalize everything simply move in together and see if it works first. Then if it doesn't you can each go your own way rather than go through a costly divorce. Just wondering how many people who answered on here have lived together rather than wed? | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 1/1/2007 8:25:58 PM | | I am over 30....never been married. Was engaged when I was younger to an incredible man who left this world way to early. Been in a couple serious relationships since then and a whole bunch of not so serious relationships over the years. But I am still hopeful that one day my prince will come :-) | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 1/2/2007 10:20:15 AM | | Personally, I think people are just busier nowadays and with the divorce rates being what they are (and the financial consequences of them), people are waiting to get married. I don't consider this a bad thing unless you are desperate to have kids. | |
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 380 | |
| Thirty and not married
Posted: 1/2/2007 11:58:41 AM | I agree sexyfunnyguy....
Everyone that I know that got married in their 20s is now divorced in their 30s...
I think society is changing and marraige is not expected as much. I used to 'dream' about my wedding day and had fun helping friends plan their weddings, but now I am just content to have everything that I worked for and living day to day instead of worrying if I'll ever get married. Truth is, I don't think I ever will. Nothing wrong with shacking up?? | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 1/2/2007 12:41:32 PM | | I am 33 and I have never been married. I also have no kids. It kind of sucks, but at least I didn't rush into somethin'. I have been waitin' for the right woman for a while now, and wasting time on the wrong ones in between lot of people are still single and 30 is because they were honest with themselves about their relationships. Sorta like I really like who I am with, but the rest of my life, uck. The right one I would marry in a minute, but I have had some pretty horrible relationships. I have waited this long, she is out there somewhere. So is yours, I am sure. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 1/2/2007 1:33:17 PM |
I am 36. Never been married. Don't have any children. And am tired of this situation.
LOL! I'm in the same boat. I just turned 37 and realized that I need to get serious.
I'm passing some of those key points in life. I think the next one is when I start getting older than my doctor, not for another 10 years at least, hopefully. Then I'll be freaking out. | |
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nalker
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Joined: 4/17/2006
Msg: 383 | |
| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/12/2007 12:44:30 PM | | <<<<<<<<--------- 40 here and never been married... I do have a 22 year old son and a month old grandson... Am I LQQKING to get married ???? No, I'm happily single, but would love to be in a meaningful relationship... You know the kinda of relationship where there are only two people involved... and where only the two of you have a relationship with each other... That "friends with benefits" is a crock of #@*%, dunno who ever thought of that... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/12/2007 4:09:25 PM | | I just turned 34 and i've never been married.. have one 10 yr old daughter. I'd like to be married but haven't found her yet so i'm glad i didn't settle. | |
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ddream
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Joined: 8/24/2006
Msg: 385 | |
| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:00:37 PM | Well, i'm 38 still single, never been married, no kids. I will probably be single for a very long time.. But that has probably to do with the fact that i'm a computer junky.... For work and hobby!... LOL...  | |
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IvyCoe
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Joined: 2/24/2007
Msg: 386 | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/13/2007 5:55:55 AM | Yes, I'm 37 and never been married. I've not lived with someone either!
VACANCY!
Wanted, homeless girl to live with me!   | |
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Mia828
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Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 388 | |
| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/14/2007 8:51:40 AM | | I'm 35 and never been married. Nor do I have any children. So I'm happy to see there are alot of us out there. :up: | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/26/2007 9:36:35 PM | Well, I followed this threat from a profile but figured I would offer a comment from an older guy. I am 49 and never married.
Some have said that we are too picky. But as many have observed, those same folks end up in divorce, and difficulty afterward for years on end dealing with child custody and such. And like so many we watch these same people who seem to now be dependent on having someone else around and they go from relationship to relationship. And so it ties you up even after the first marriage ended. I watched both my brothers go through divorce. While they were married, I felt guilty that I was still single. And now, I thank God. The world has changed. And most divorces get ugly. And the repercussions last for years and years.
Now as for many of us single folks, it is not that we are so picky but that we are so DIFFERENT than eveyrone else. We are unique. We are special. We are independent. We did not follow the crowd. Now maybe we could not put our finger on it, but we knew something was not right or something had changed.
Some are just smart. Marriage does not make sense to them given this day and age and they see it for what it is.... a political arrangement. Like others have said here, why do you need a piece of paper to love someone? Of course, some have answered that for me in saying the need it for security. In essence, that is a lack of trust - and a good reason to never get married in the first place! For some it is tax savings or arrangements and positioning among the elite. That is all it really is anymore. That or worse.... simply sentimentality. Corporatism preprograms us to spend thousands of dollars to make someone else rich. And lawyers again later again when it fails.
There is a LOT of money in marriage. It is an economic system whether you are filing jointly trying to save taxes or for the lawyers. But few really do a cost-benefit analysis. And those who do stay single. And I figure I will stay single and put my effort into the alternative economic system of building businesses.
I know what marriage used to be. And if I found myself in the 1800's, I likely would have married. But folks, it is not the 1800's anymore. Social expectations largely kept folks in marriages. The social systems of those days, promescuity was considered a serious crime. But not today. The social pressures are not there. The values are not there. In years long gone, if you were in the military or higher society and went through divorce, you could pretty much kiss your career goodbye. It was a far more religious and Christian society with real conseqences.
All of that has changed now. The context for marriage does not exist anymore.
Besides, you can always get married. You can't go back to where you are right now. And so yes, marriage implies something that you LOSE.
Someone early on posted a message about some famous people who never married. Try this one...
Sir Issac Newton. Never married. And a virgin until he died.
And so I figure I am in good company.
I hope I did not offend anyone. I am just being candid.
And smart.
The Wildlander | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/27/2007 5:53:25 AM | 33 and never been married and no kids, my younger brother got married last year, so at least the parents are somewhat relieved that at least one of their sons tied the knot.
Having always had difficulty in dating, (as opposed to my brother who was a real hit with the ladies), no one is surprised that he is the one to tie the knot first, since he has had many more dating opportunities than me, so he could find the right one,
im not too worried about not being married yet, as finding the right one is sometimes beyond your control. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/27/2007 11:11:36 AM | well if it helps, Daisy, I am 36 and never been married adn have a 9 yr old daughter. I guess I am picky but that is ok. I have to be now. It does get lonely and frightening at times but I will be ok. I'm a tough ol' bird that has been through a lot and will be ok in this department also.
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/27/2007 11:54:10 AM | funny enough I am not divorced and well ove 30...
just worked out that way for me and if I had been married at 22 I would probably be divorced now... so I am happy about that.
It happens a lot (getting married/divorced before 30) but there are lots of people who do not get married as well...
so do not stress it or it will take away from the fun that is dating! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/27/2007 12:46:11 PM | | Well i am over thirty and never been married,i guess i just have not found the right girl yet.But i think it is pretty normal these days,what with so many marriages not working out. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/28/2007 4:05:42 AM | | am 32 not married no partner no kids looking for someone to care for me and be treated the way iwould like to be treated i willl treat them ive got ms and that puts plp off | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:11:46 AM | It is funny when you say that you have never been married and don't have any kids for sure. Guys have to ask the question again to make sure they heard it right the first time.
Sometimes I wonder if they think there is something wrong with me because I have not been married? There is nothing wrong with me, I am just not one to get married and have kids because my parents did.
Mr. Right has not come knocking at my door. I would like to settle down at some point but just have not had the opportunity to do so at the moment. There is still hope for all that are over 30 and not married. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/31/2007 11:10:20 AM | | I'm over thirty and never married, but I've lived common law in two separate relationships, and was engaged to the most recent one; who thank god I didn't marry. Good luck to the guy she ran off with lmao.You know; if they'll do it to you, they'll do it to the next one as well. I'm holding out for someone with some more upstanding morals. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/31/2007 3:59:20 PM | | my god!!!!! why is everybody sooooo uptight about the marriage issue????? its not compulsary. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/31/2007 7:00:31 PM | Yep, 38 here and never married.
I was starting to get pretty upset about the whole thing... like I was behind everyone else or something (poster child for late bloomers)... :)
Now I'm actually enjoying being single! There are so many advantages to only being responsible for myself (and my cat)... Not to say I don't ever expect to get married... actually, I do... I'm not going to freak out about it, though... :) | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/31/2007 9:40:06 PM | | I'm 34, never marrie never really close to mariaged, two kids to two mothers. I would get married if I find the right woman but I have never been even close enough to consider it. | |
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