| | Thirty and not marriedPage 2 of 25 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25) | I've never been married. I'm so tired of people saying to me "you're so nice/sweet/pretty/wonderful, why aren't you married??? Like this should be my only goal in life...get married, have kids and then my life will be worth something. Don't get me wrong, I would like to be with someone and if we don't end up getting married, that's fine too. But I haven't come across too many guys on pof that either don't have kids or haven't been married. Not that there is anything wrong with that. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 5:13:23 AM | you are correct getting married and haveing kid's should not
be any of our's, "only" goal in life.
people deserve to be happy and feel that
feeling they get, when they are around that
certain person.
Alot of people dont want to get married because
they have seen what it has, caused alot of people
they know and have been around.
Sometime's getting married won't make all
you'r problem's go away and won't make,
you love any "more or less" than you already do.
But i know i wan't to get married because i know
i have found the one i wan't to be with but why
rush into, getting married.? | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 5:46:37 AM | | I am 33 and never married, i always picked the wrong girls, bad decisions, but you know what? I am not unhappy either. I may become lonley from time to time, but i don't think i am in a complete rush to be married yet. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 5:50:32 AM | Maritime?... Bascily just saying "it will happend, when the time is "right" correct.?"
Thats the way i look at it and if you can survive going month's without seeing one another
or even talking than whats a few year's?.
If you truly love and care about one another you will wait until you
are both ready to settle, down and KNOW that you both wan't to
marry eachother instead of only one of you being sure. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 6:15:45 AM | I think there's 2 parts to this thread,
1. The people who are over 30 and never married BUT have had relationships and for whatever reasons have decided that marraige isn't for them.
and
2. The people like me who have never had a relationship at all and wish (in some cases) that they had but for some reason don't feel able to. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 6:19:23 AM | hey staggy65? what make's you think or feel that you'r not able
to have an realtionship?, i'm sure you will find somebody who will
treat you with the love/respect you deserve just like the rest of
us deserve.
Just wanted to ask you do not
have to respond to my question,
that's entirely up to you.
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Posted: 2/19/2006 6:28:39 AM | That is a good point staggy.
How many times have you come close to being married, and not ..
I have been asked twice. But could not see my future with them.
I agree it is ok to be single . But I am just meeting more more men that are already divorced.
Is it easy to stay single then try to make a marriage work? | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 6:29:33 AM | | Well in open chat all I will say is, if it's possible to be born with a fear of relationships and in particular a fear of sex then I think I was born that way. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 6:31:42 AM | I've been asked/talked about it two time's the first time
got shot to hell because, he was sleeping around..
The second time is with the guy i am with now and when
he gets home, we will get married.
Because i know i have found "the one" i want to be,
with and spend rest of my life togeather with.
I'm sorry you all have had such a rough/hard time,
during yall's marriage and realtionship's.
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 6:38:16 AM |
How many times have you come close to being married, and not ..
I have been asked twice. But could not see my future with them.
I agree it is ok to be single . But I am just meeting more more men that are already divorced.
Is it easy to stay single then try to make a marriage work?
Personally, I've never come close to being married. Been asked out a couple of times and had an ex-neighbour of mine drop a few hints that she was interested in me - but I don't take up any of the offers. I wouldn't say it's EASY to stay single but for me it's slightly easier to do that than to try to get over my problems. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 7:03:25 AM | I understand what pumpkin6 is saying too.
I hear from my aunts. Why arent you married?
I tell them I will have to ask my non existing boyfriend.
Lol...
But I general I wanted to know how many people over the age of thirty were not married.
And I am kind of glad I am not the only one.
Thanks Guys..: | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 7:07:45 AM |
I understand what pumpkin6 is saying too.
I hear from my aunts. Why arent you married?
I tell them I will have to ask my non existing boyfriend.
Lol...
But I general I wanted to know how many people over the age of thirty were not married.
And I am kind of glad I am not the only one.
I hear that ALL the time from my relatives and friends....not married? not got a girlfriend? It really bugs me. Mainly because they don't know me as well as they think and you don't go telling relatives and friends EVERYTHING. I just have to keep saying "I'm not interested" which is a lie really but it keeps them off my case! | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 9:44:19 AM | | I'd never say "I'm not interested." they might start to think I was gay. Personally, I am looking for that relationship (marriage, kids...) but it's hard to find someone else around my age (and location) who's also single, never been married, no kids....it's like trying to find a needle in a haystack. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 11:00:14 AM |
I'd never say "I'm not interested." they might start to think I was gay. Personally, I am looking for that relationship (marriage, kids...) but it's hard to find someone else around my age (and location) who's also single, never been married, no kids....it's like trying to find a needle in a haystack.
Well to be honest I don't care what they think of me. I just find it a hell of a lot easier to tell them that than to have to explain WHY i've not had a girlfriend since I was 12 | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 2:08:38 PM | | 32 and going strong... no sign of a wedding in my near future. No wedding in my past either. And I was only a bridesmaid once. Its not like I have even supersticiously jinxed myself. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 4:29:11 PM | | Well I am 44 years old an never married! I would like to know why some women think that there is something wrong with that? I have had women say WOW...why never married? Makes me think I have got a problem and I can't figure it out! I think I am a good man and I think I could be a good man for a great woman. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 5:43:49 PM | I wondered about this...meaning wondered what women thought of a 31 year old guy that hasn't been married. I even received a response from one girl stating "I only date people our age that have either been married or widowed".
Ummm...OK, lol 
I guess maybe this has to do with a PERCEPTION of maturity (meaning that if you haven't been married it's simply because you're still sowing wild oats or something?). A PERCEPTION of having a phobia against marriage? I really don't understand this (assuming that's whats going on here).
I feel no pressure to get married just because I've reached some magical age. I am getting a little bummed by not finding the right someone for me yet. Better to stay single and occasionaly lonely than to get married to the wrong person in order to achieve approval of friends and family, me thinks.
P.S. If you can't follow the above, no worries. I had wisdom teeth pulled the other day and am FLYING on pain medication...you know, PUI (Posting Under the Influence).
Cheers | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 5:58:49 PM |
serendipitous17 - Its not like I have even supersticiously jinxed myself.
I'd help unjinx you  Uh...I mean...yeah....not like the fates said, "Your going to be forever single and that's that." | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/19/2006 7:10:36 PM | | I'll be 33 this year, never married. Got close once and since then it's been drier than the desert... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/20/2006 12:08:58 AM | | I am almost 32, and never been married either, with no children, but I was living common law at one time and engaged before that, just haven't found the right guy yet. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/20/2006 1:22:46 AM | | Going on 36 and never married. I'm still in as much of a rush to wed as I was at 16 and 26, which is to say... not. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2006 1:27:58 AM | | I think commonlaw is the marriage of the new millenium for a lot of people. I can think of many committed relationships that aren't interested in marriage. It doesn't seem to be the institution it once was, I mean seriously, who wants to be divorced? And I agree with SweetGreenEyes, it is only a contract of what is in your heart. A piece of paper won't define the relationship, its up to the couple involved. I did propose once though. What a mistake. Funny in retrospect. Not for or against it myself, I would if the relationship was solid, but it would mean nothing to me personally. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/20/2006 1:28:40 AM | I`ll be 39 in March and have not married or had kids. That is one thing I`ve never felt the need to do. I have been single mostly because of my profession - I used to move around a lot. I have had only one real relationship in my life. and that was my mid 30`s. We were common-law for about 2 years. I definately considered marrying this wonderful lady ( she is now 41 and still as of yet unmarried ), but as time went on, things went down. Single again.
Now, I have no problem with this situation. If I met a woman my age in the same boat, I wouldn`t immediately think something was wrong with her. I consider myself a decent person who has never been hit with " The Arrow ", so why not give her the same benefit of doubt? Mind you, I never entertained thoughts of looking at 40 never married myself! Just happened that way. Time really does fly!
I am the oldest of three guys in my family and the only unmarried one. I just thank my higher power that my family hasn`t sat me down and asked the dreaded question - " Are you gay? " !!! I`m just a lone wolf, and they understand that, thankfully. I`m am content to wait patiently for that arrow - have been for awhile now!! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/20/2006 5:41:05 AM | | I haven't been asked that dreaded question but I have been asked another question. My mom always asks "When am I going to have grandkids?". I always feel bad when I have to tell her that I don't know. I'm not even sure why I'm still single. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/20/2006 8:10:18 AM | It seems time does fly by really fast. Its just another day I have been single.
But I like Ibsco take on all the it.
again its good to know I am not the only one.
Thought there was something wrong with me.
I havent seen that forever after arrow yet. But I do know it gets lonely sometimes being single. Then other times it has it pros.
Keep writing.
To all the thirty year olds that are not married... CHeers | |
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