| Thirty and not married
Posted: 1/20/2009 6:18:24 AM | Interesting thread. Never-married men (I'm one too) may be a trend. Yesterday's USA Today featured an article comparing men in their late 40s-early 50s to Obama (physical shape, income, marital status, etc). Check it out:
Marital status:
•Married: 67.1% of men ages 45-54
•Divorced: 15.7% of men 45-54
•Separated: 2.6% of men 45-54
•Widowed: 1.1% of men 45-54
•Never married: 13.5% of men 45-54
Also: "The average 40-something male has sex 6.5 times per month."
The complete article is at
http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2009-01-19-obama-men-fitness_N.htm | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 1/20/2009 7:53:13 PM | Daisy
You are not alone, it seems like all of the guys I have met are divorced too. I have never been married but would like to give it a whirl at some point. It is hard trying to find a date these days. I hope this site has some hidden talent. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2009 7:55:13 PM | Nice article Easy.
If the average male is having sex 6.5 times a month-he is doing well and that maybe why he isn't married. lol. He is already being served. What is .5 anyway-oral??? | |
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Posted: 1/22/2009 7:40:29 AM | Hello all, just been reading the opinions of why men aren't married off by the time they are 30.
Let me tell you, I'm 43 [just] never even been close to marriage. Not even engaged[saved me a few quid on rings lol]. I had a philosophy when I was younger, that life, up til 30 will never happen again, so I had to cram in as much "young man's activities" before I became too old to ever enjoy them... You know what I mean fellas, sports, adventure holidays, bike racing...Most of the things that become increasingly difficult the older you get..
Once I achieved this I did try the settling down thing, and found it just wasn't for me, plain and simple. I valued my own space too much, I have lots of female friends, who have children [which they wouldn't change for he world] but its amazing how many envy my life decisions now !!!!
If I had to live my life over again, I wouldn't change a thing... I have my health and an active mind, which can always be turned if and when the right woman comes along...
Watch this space..... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 1/24/2009 7:14:50 AM | At 35 I accepted that I would never get married or have children. I dedicated myself to my career and dated occasionally. One night I had a snit with a family member and went to a dance on my own. A fellow kept bugging me and I wanted nothing to do with him. His nose was smaller than mine, you see, and his eyelashes were longer. Six months later I was married and pregnant. I delivered a beautiful baby girl at 38.
My marriage did not work out, but I am glad I married him nonetheless.
There are advantages and disadvantages to marrying late, like anything else in life. The truth is that I could have kept on having babies for a long time. There are lots of baby fathers out there, but a husband is the single biggest decision you will ever make. Take your time and take care. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2009 6:30:08 AM | oi......have you been walking around with ya goggles on upside down or somat! Try taking off your bike helmet and having a good old look at the women .....if your head cant be turned (in 43 years!) then maybe your in the closet! lol!!!
I actually think some of what you say is a bit sad...cos it implies you can only have one or the other!
I hope to god, (and I also have never been engaged or married), but should I meet somebody great and we both wanna get married, I hope it doesnt not mean that my life will be compromised, I would hope it would be enhanced!
...think about that! | |
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Posted: 5/4/2009 8:28:20 AM | Never been married...was more focused on getting through college and then making dough in my 20s and 30s than dating. Dating now in my 40s and having a tough time getting to square one, finding someone who gels with me emotionally, has a sense of humor, and finds something about me physically attractive, then having sex dozens of times, maybe live together awhile, before we discuss the possibility of nailing down the rest of our lives together in marriage.
So you had some relaxing fun and conceived your darling daughter, Daisy...well, I guess she's your priority now. You'll find plenty of guys who have kids too, in or out of marriage. Kids always complicate things (issues of joint custody bring the ex into the equation), but kids can make things a lot of fun too-! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 5/4/2009 8:38:51 PM |
If the average male is having sex 6.5 times a month-he is doing well and that maybe why he isn't married. lol.
It didn't say that number applied to only the single men. Nor did it say they were having any or all of that sex with women.
Marital status:
•Married: 67.1% of men ages 45-54
•Divorced: 15.7% of men 45-54
•Separated: 2.6% of men 45-54
•Widowed: 1.1% of men 45-54
•Never married: 13.5% of men 45-54
That works out to 41% of the non-married men being never married, which I think is much higher than is generally thought. In fact, there are six never marrieds for every seven divorce men in that age group. I'd guess the popular perception is that almost all single men aged 50+/-5 are divorced, and that never married men that age are a rare aberration. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2009 10:03:37 PM | I am also 35 and never married. I've family who are fairly concerned (and often express it) about this fact, but as I keep telling them I just haven't found the person out there that fits me. *shrug* Nothing wrong with taking your time, especially if you're trying to avoid the 45%+ divorce ratio that this country seems to enjoy these days.  | |
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Posted: 5/6/2009 4:12:21 PM | | I'm 42 and never been married with no kids. I have been engaged twice. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2009 8:26:01 PM | | I have never been married either at the age of 36 unless you count common law, I was with my kids' dad for 9 years and am glad I never married the jerk. I want to get married one day and want to do it right the first and only time. I am willing to wait to get to know a man over the course of a few years to really become acquainted with who he is and what he's all about and if I think we can both be happy for the rest of our lives together. Now that I'm getting close to being 40 it is kind of scary that I may never meet that man but I'm not willing to settle either. And being my age now I know what I want in a man and what I won't tolerate. The biggest issue in any relationship is trust I believe trust and honesty and it takes time to establish this, which I now know. So being over 30 and never have been married is really no big deal. In a way I'm glad I waited till now because I do know what I want and desire. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2009 10:47:22 PM | | I'm over 30 and never been married. Ive been asking my friends lately how it came that now we are single in our 30's now days. Thats huge compared to decades back when people got married at 18 or early 20's and started up families. now many like me have started the family, having the kids before ever being married. Go figure!! | |
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Posted: 5/7/2009 10:51:07 PM | | No shouldn't attack that....it takes 2 to tango & we all know what some men will say to get the goods. Next thing you know here comes baby in a baby carriage. We all have to accept it, learn from it, and move forward ma:-) | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 7:41:15 AM | 37, never married, no kids.
Funny thing is, that's all I really wanted from life a husband and kids). Never wanted to take the career path.
But at 37, I find that, contrary to public/societal belief, I am still alive, kicking, and *gasp* even HAPPY. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2009 9:04:44 AM | | Well I am another one that is almost 34 and I have never been married and have no kids (that I know of) | |
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Posted: 5/9/2009 12:52:22 PM | I would rather wait for the right person then it be a miserable marriage resulting in a more painful divorce.
It is a lifetime decision and shouldn't be taken lightly. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2009 5:34:01 PM | | Marriage is an institution of church and state, and while I am not opposed to it, it is definately not the end all of life. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2009 9:37:41 PM | I've never been married, I'm glad I didn't get married in my twenties, just because I knew I wouldn't be ready for it. One of my best friends got married at 23, I was his best man, and he said to me that his greatest regret was getting married young because he knows now that he wasn't really ready for it.
I honestly don't think it's such a sin that we're 30 something and we're not married, mind you I'm 31 but regardless you have to tie the knot when you yourself are ready for it regardless of how old you are. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2009 6:05:44 PM | I'm soon to be 32 and never been married....I guess I've just been dating the wrong people and haven't found the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. It is a little depressing since a lot of my friends are married with children.
I often wonder what people think of women over 30 who have never been married but really it doesn't matter what they think. I am just fine being me...single...but I am always on the look out to meet new people, make new friends and maybe meet my prince.
Just know that you are not alone....
Kelley | |
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Posted: 5/16/2009 6:15:47 PM | | Mr. Look here ....I'm in a relationship "But I've never been married" | |
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Posted: 5/17/2009 12:45:27 AM | I can wait... If it happens, it happens.
If not, well, there's one more unmarried gal out there than there ought to be...
Anyway, I'm happy with my current life. I have been given a lot already.
I have a job that I like and a side business that I like growing.
I have more computers than I have ever dreamed I could own (we once had to share one of those old 486's with the green monitor when we were kids and thought that was a huge thing back then...).
Got a car. I can have steak when I want, where I want. There's lobster tails in my reffie... I have learned many skills such as making a full platter of sushi... life is good. :)
Of course, I would absolutely love making food for someone I care deeply about. It's a perk that my ex will definitely rave to you about.
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