| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/28/2006 8:38:28 AM | | Interesting statistics. It's too bad there's no way of knowing and factoring in the people that will never marry because of, for example, religious affiliation (priests), sexual orientation, or other reasons. In other words, subtract the percentage that are single by choice or genetics. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/28/2006 8:57:07 AM | Well I have been married which seems to be my entire life.
I have been married one time and still am, however i was in a committed relationship many mnay years, (mariage). I have never been alone ever in my life. I started my family very very young, my eldest son is 17, and Ive had 4 children. I never desired to have the "career", or worry all that much about security even though GOD I should have..
There are advantages to the way I did it, and dissadvantages also. Theres nothing wrong with not being married and having a family. In alot of ways i missed some very interesting things. I did not go out with my friends, i did not go to university, etc. I lived at home, had kids, moved out...for me I know no other life. But i do feel like Im doing what i want to do. Im 32, my childbearing years are over, and now i'd like to think more about a career and other interests.
I have grown up with my children. It was hard and still is, because i didnt think about having the security I wanted for me and my kids. But hey, to each thier own....and we've had a hell of alotta fun along the way!! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/28/2006 9:21:31 AM | | Nope, nothing wrong with never being married - never losing at least half of my financial assets and paying child support and or alimony. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/28/2006 11:35:38 AM | | I'm not sure about the United States, but in Canada these days living together is considered equivalent to marriage after three years for purposes of dividing property. And child support? Excuse me, but if you fathered the kids you should help pay for their upbringing. Period. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 2/28/2006 8:28:05 PM | 35, never been married, no kids.
well, tomorrow's another day! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/1/2006 11:30:06 AM | Lots of people over 30 are not married because there are just so many more things to do in this diversified age... such as school, work, travel, and hobies/recreation.
Also, unlike 1950 and earlier, women don't need a man for income anymore and have jobs right next to the men.
Marrage is also not as traditional as it once was, and it has become more aceptable to be single.
Plus, I suspect a lot of men are not in a rush to chance thier wealth to divorce laws that favor women.
It's a growing trend to be never married. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/1/2006 1:35:48 PM | I am sure we all have grandparents.
I look at their relationship, or as it was ( seeing as they are both deceased) but it had its moments.
Ups and downs, But no matter what they loved each other and had respect for one another.
Has all that changed? | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/1/2006 4:38:43 PM | | You are not alone ! Never married (close call), no kids (that I'm aware of) and 30 something! Although anyone in the same situation will have the depressive times thinking about what we've missed out on, we can appreciate the fact that if we choose to marry and start a family we will be much more knowledgeable and hopefully more stable in our lives. Sometimes we are just too damn picky ! lol | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/1/2006 5:59:58 PM | Thanks ntxtonka.....
I agree about maybe being too picky.. I have over looked someone who was the nicest guy to be with someone that was not.
In the end, still in the same boat of being single.
However even though I didnt choose the nice guy, I am not sure I could of made it last with the ever after.... I guess I am not looking for just a short term.. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/1/2006 6:54:40 PM | | well am not 30 yet but sometimes i think that its the farthest thing from my mind....as a matter of fact the way I see it is: the only way to avoid divorce is to simply never get married....hmmm to think i only went to college to realize that...lol | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/1/2006 9:31:55 PM | 32...and not married...and no kids.
At times I feel left behind as the majority of my close friends are taking their kids to school already...but at the same time I've had opportunities to travel and figure out who I am...something they haven't had the luxury of doing.
I also only want to marry once...there's too much divorce out there, so I'm taking my time finding the perfect one for me. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/2/2006 12:30:54 AM | Yep, I am 30 and have never been married and I have not had children. I have been too busy having fun and have not meet anyone that I want to settle with. I am the type of person that does not put up with crap just to be in a relationship. When Mr Right comes along I know that I will be ready to settle and not have a mid-life crisis, cause I have done a lot of things in life already. I am proud of myself really.... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/2/2006 8:10:45 PM | 32 never married never had kids ...hell never even lived with a partner
Must be my colorful personality 
LoL | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/3/2006 8:55:39 AM | I agree with you, non texan....
I was 30 and married. Now, I'm in my 40's and divorced.
get to know the other person before the going gets too bad.
think before saying .....you do! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/3/2006 9:00:21 AM | I am going to be 38 this year..
I have never been married or sex or a date or whatever... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 3/3/2006 10:48:14 AM | | I'm 34 and never been married, For me it's just that I haven't found the right one!! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 4/3/2006 12:14:34 AM | Dino-
I love what you wrote!! I am lovin' my "dirty thirties" My wish is to find someone to share them with. I think you hit the nail on the head with everything that women over thirty have to offer.
I am aging like a fine wine..... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 4/3/2006 2:22:29 AM |
For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when
you can get the milk for free". Here's an up date for you. Nowadays
80% of women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it's not
worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage.
Hilarious lol!!  | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 4/3/2006 5:50:09 AM | I'm in that boat. Over thirty and never married w/no kids. The kids part I have no problem with because I prefer being an Auntie than being a Mommy
But the hubby part? Who knows really - seems the older I get the more I think just having a long term relationship is best. But if there is a man - we fall in love - and if he were to ask for my hand in marriage......oh yeah. I certainly would give him a loud 'YES' | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 4/3/2006 7:30:09 AM | 42 - never married - no kids.
Half of my friends are saving for their kids' college educations. The other half are paying child support. Nyaaah nyaaah nyah-nyah nyaaah!
Not sure if I ever will marry or do the family thing. I'm not closed to the option, but each year that goes by makes the family option less likely. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 4/3/2006 8:06:38 AM | | The longer this goes on, the less married I become. As of Walpurgisnacht, (April 30) I will be 57. Probably, I will remain unmarried until a cave woman hits me over the head, and drags me off to her lair. | |
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