| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/5/2006 6:44:46 PM | | <-------never married, no children. So no, sweetheart, you're not alone--not in that sense, anyway. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/5/2006 6:58:15 PM | | That's what happened to me. Was totally willing to settle down when I was the all knowing 19. Didn't. Now I'm going to school and work full-time. 30 before I knew it. Don't feel out of place. There is alot of "never been married" men and women out there. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:31:09 PM | well no i have never been married no children. so yes i am waiting for that one to marry me. i came close a couple of times but never got to the i do's.
so no your not alone on this one.
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:56:56 AM | | Hi im 38 have a teenager never been married but would love to one day if i find the one right now got a lot of options but only having sex with one man but he is not marriage material lol ok holla | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/6/2006 12:58:48 PM | I enjoyed reading that, yes.... I am over 30 childless and never been married lol  | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/6/2006 7:09:37 PM | Ok, I thought I would answer this myself. I am to over 30, 35 to be exact and never been married with no children. I chose to approach life a little differently. Instead of finding someone to marry and settle down with right away, I chose to concentrate on my career and get where I need to be today.
Now I am to the point where I am thinking of settling down and finding someone to eventually marry. Unfortunately, I have found that it is getting harder because my age group seems to consist of divorcees with children (some not wanting to have anymore children).
Personally, it may sound selfish but I prefer to find someone that has never been married and has no children. I prefer to have my own family rather than a ready made one.
However, I would not totally rule out someone with kids, only if they are willing to give me my own as well  | |
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Miros
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Joined: 5/16/2006
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/6/2006 8:58:29 PM | In some ways the life of everyone on this planet is identical. For example we all need the basic essentials like food, air, water, a certain temperature range, and other requirements in order to stay alive and healthy.
However, everyone is unique and the fact that most people attain a particular goal within a certain time frame does not mean that everyone must also do so.
Obviously people with more goals to accomplish generally require more time than those with less. And some people are born with more advantages than others and such advantages or the lack of them will also have an impact on how quickly one can achieve personal goals.
Yes, I know that having a goal to be happily married is not the same as having,for example, a goal to establish oneself as a professional, because whereas one can work hard by studying to pass the necessary exams, one cannot go out and meet and marry the first person with a pretty face in order to achieve a marital objective.
Well, firstly, even if one feels attracted to another, there is no guarantee that the other will feel the same way. And,secondly one could end up living a life of misery or being divorced if one marry in haste without taking the time to know the real person behind the pretty face.
Therefore, if one has not been wasting time, ones life circumstances, including the fact that one is unmarried and without children, are exactly the way they should be. All one needs to do is to remain positive, keep working to improve ones inner qualities, make an effort to be more physically attractive, yes, make an effort, and be receptive to decent compatible people.
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/7/2006 1:21:39 AM | I live in an area with the highest percentage of single, never-married guys over 30 in the entire United States, according to one magazine source.
Let me just say this:
It SUCKS. =P | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/7/2006 12:00:25 PM | | Yes over thirty and not (yet) married in NYC, lol... Love :) | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/7/2006 4:41:38 PM | *looks shifty*
Me.
Never been married, no kids. Not even lived with a guy. And I am 45 now.
I never set out to get married etc. We are told "it will just happen" "you will meet somebody when you aren't expecting it". But obviously that wasn't right.
Then one day you wake up and think "crikey, er .... right, that's probably it then. Too late now".
:) | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/7/2006 5:49:52 PM | Hi there: I'm 39. and been single for over a year! I've had lot's of girl-friend's but none of them I wanted to settle down with and have kid's. I wanted and needed to party all the time back then, and I'm sure they felt the same way. Now the party's over and looking back at my life it's hard to beleave that I didn't have kid's, (love them) Looking like I'm 29 the woman don't even give me a second look that are my age. It's hard dating sober now, so I'm trying site's like this to see what happen's. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/7/2006 6:24:17 PM | | Married at 27; divorced at 41. If I could go back and change something, I would have waited a couple more years before I got married. Sometimes it's hard to get your education finished and your career established if you get married. Money will get you though times of no love better than love will get you through times of no money... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/7/2006 8:36:19 PM | Count me in. I'm on the hind end of 30, never married, no kids... I think I've hit a lovely support group, here. I know! Shall we set up some arranged marrages with the people on this thread?
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/7/2006 9:46:37 PM | Yes, let's do it 
I am also part of the never married, no kids scene on POF. It reassures me that a. I can meet a similar guy, and b. I am not alone in being in this category.
Best wishes to all!
DW | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/7/2006 10:03:44 PM | | Well I just turned 31. Never been married, no kids. I've had 2 long relationships and lived with one for about 3 years. I think a lot of it is the way society is today and I think a lot of it is me. It took me a while to grow up I think. I was to busy running around and having fun to get married or settle down for pretty much all of my teens and twenties. Now that I'm in my 30's I'm ready, but its a whole lot harder to meet someone now then it was when I was young. Plus my life is more busy now then it's ever been which doesn't help. Oh ya, maybe it's like all my friends and family say "your to picky". Why settle for anything but the best I say, lol. Who knows. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/7/2006 11:13:53 PM | 35 and haven't been married here, haven't had kids, haven't had sex. Well think about it, Beethoven was 57 and never married, and died single. I'd love to marry one day, but at least I'm merry! It is easy to feel a little out of place. Which is why I go to concerts and do other social activities a lot more frequently than before. Too bad it isn't as easy as a snap of a finger to find someone who will marry you. Though I keep on trying, and hopefully one day someone I introduce myself to will say, I'm looking too, want a date?
At least I've had a few dates, but none of them were really ready to pursue a relationship to the point I'd gotten to know them well enough that I'd be happy to pursue a long term relationship with. Most have just been too insecure about themselves. One was only interested in sex, and didn't care about telling me much about themselves. When I realized they wanted to rush it, I wasn't really ready for that! First tell me more about you, let me know you are trustworthy enough to be with indefinitely. Then I'll worry about the other stuff. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/8/2006 5:22:39 AM | Designing, come to CO, I'll get you married to my brother & you can help me decorate my apt.? 'Kay? He's going to be 39 in 2 wks, never married, no kids! At least I'm not alone in my own familiy, either.  | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/8/2006 8:23:10 PM | | Yes, I have never been married and I have no children. Yes, I do want to have kids, just never found the right woman. I tend to be shy so I don't date much. | |
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babtet
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Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 147 | |
| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/8/2006 8:51:04 PM | | lol so true so true!! I was married all throughtout my 30's and now separated so finding all this new and kinda weird. I'm in no hurry to get married again if ever so not all women are after men for marriage! But if it happens and the right person comes around who knows maybe I will dip my feet back in | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/8/2006 9:09:36 PM | I'm almost positive I was a teenager yesterday, and this morning i woke up almost 34 years old with nothing even close to a wife and no kids either. I wish I could say I wasted away all those years partying and sleeping with any woman that glanced my way but I didn't.
It would be nice to have 1 kid of my own after atleast 1 year of solid marriage as i don't want to jump right in and start a family before me and the wife get a chance to build a strong foundation. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/9/2006 6:08:50 PM | kindhearted Cant agree with you more. I know alot of friends who are now divorced or in messed up situations cause they had that 'ticking clock syndrome' and then wonder how they got in the mess they are in.
Personally it does bug me not to have certain things in my life, that I thought I would automatically have by now, but I dont let it get me down.
If it happens it happens, if it dont, the sun will still shine, my rent will still be due and there will always be a start to a new day for something to happen. Dont sweat it.. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/9/2006 6:22:42 PM | | WAAAY over 30, never married, no kids... ah well, I guess I'll play the hand that Life has dealt to me... | |
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