| | Thirty and not marriedPage 7 of 25 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25) | | I am thrity four soon to be thrity five, and have never been married. It is more common now than it used to be I believe. At times I feel a bit out of place, but when the right one comes along I know It will last the rest of my life. hopefully it will be soon. lol | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/9/2006 11:46:49 PM | | In a long term relationship in my twenties that did not end in marriage--so are thirty, and have decided that if the right person is out there then the next step will happen, but if not is ok too!!! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/10/2006 12:44:47 AM | I am also Thirty and have never been married. I have a really great career bought a house and a car and my freind says to me one day"Well Leah you are half way there" apparently she got all the way there by just getting married.
I don't want to sound totally material but i am damn proud of myself for taking the bull by the horns and making a life only if its just with myself.(and of course the stereo typically feline)
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/10/2006 1:14:46 AM | | I am 32 never been married no kids,sometimes feel alone in the world,but looks like I am not alone as I thought. I been in some serouse relationships came close but never tied the knott | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/10/2006 2:03:36 PM | Had that melt down last spring....30 , no kids, no hubby and had to get over that quick.
I think it is society that causes us to embrace the idea of the white picket fence or was it that when I graduated HS I had a plan. The plan was detailed and well, at 33 nothing on that plan but my career has hit the mark.
My dad was sweet when he told me that even though I may feel like a failure in that dept, that I am most certainly not. We all crave the approval of others in some small or in some big way....for me, it is his approval....him saying what he said, set me free and I was able to move on and heal a little. Moving on now...changing my perspective and now, if it happens, i happens. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/24/2006 1:56:09 PM | | I'm over 30 and never been married. I haven't found the right one yet. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/26/2006 8:53:29 AM | dont u worry, ur not alone in here... its pretty common now a days men/women...
it doesnt mean that when u reach 30 u must get married.. age is not a deciding factor to get married.. it will happen in the right time to a right person ....hu knows wen it will be.. just like wat they say " Marriage is like a burglar, u never know when they will come".. i just hope we will be prepared when it strikes.... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/26/2006 6:28:12 PM | I don't see what the big deal is with being married by a certain age.
I have never been married nor do i have any children.
The answer to why non of the above has happened is very simple. I have yet to meet someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. I know I am going to be a dirty old woman so I want someone who wants to be chased around the kitchen when we are a hundred and something..lol
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/26/2006 7:25:59 PM | Hi all,
I'm a member of the club too, and hopefully, things will change in the near future.
If not... it was probably never ment to be...
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/27/2006 10:21:28 AM | I've only been to the "well, we should probably think about getting married or she's going to leave" stage. Never the "I'VE GOT TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH THIS WOMAN" stage.
I think it's got more to do with who I was with and nothing else. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/27/2006 6:37:10 PM | Yeah- Outside of a couple of months here and there,I have been in some relationship since I was 17. I have had the "talk" with all the serious gfs. There is always something in the back of my head saying "the rest of your life is a very long time". I end up getting the ultimatum, or I decide she's not the "one", so it ends. I do tend to date for way too long before deciding to NOT get married.
I am pleased to see that I'm not the only one not "settling". | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/27/2006 7:00:15 PM | | I'm over 30 and never been married...I've been informally proposed to 6-7 times...no rings though...the closest was a handful of jewelry store business card, but I think it was because he was soooo sorry for cheating on me...whatever...didn't work. Just no one to date has met my everything...except mebbe one..but he was 21 at the time...this was looong time ago...besides I only want to do it once so I want to do it right the first time and am willing to hold out until I do...thus, still unmarried, which I believe is a much better position to be in then to be divorced...yes/no...and I don't regret missing out on one opportunity at all :)...cept mebbe the 21 year old, but he'd be 28 now though. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/28/2006 4:02:35 AM | Well I'm 33, never married, no children.
Hard part is to find over thirty female who is single and no children. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/28/2006 4:51:55 AM | Would somebody throw me a fricken bone here!  When and if my princess ever steps into my life, I would marry her in a heartbeat. I'm still waiting... (looks down at my watch..."whistles"....starts to hum a good tune.....looks around the room...) Hmmmm, I guess nobody wants a great guy. Oh well, their loss...Next stop, the Red Light district in the Netherlands.  | |
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Shaps
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Msg: 165 | |
| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/28/2006 5:27:28 AM | | 33 - never married, ahh came close 2 times, and yet thanking the gods - they turned out not to be the one for me. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/28/2006 5:49:19 AM | | i will be 34 this sunday and i have never been married but my prob has been picking the wrong woman to start a relationship. i have been in 3 long relationships and was just a fool for not seeing the signs that they were cheaters and just using me. but now i have learned to see things more clearly and now hope to find the one to grow old with. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:22:20 PM | | I'm 43 and I'm still not married and don't have any kids. I do consider my self successful with a great career, a nice home and many friends. I spent a lot of time in the past taking classes at night as well as working during the day so this left little time to go out and meet women. I do however feel an "emptiness" in my heart that I'm not married and I don't have any kids. Sure, I've come close in the past to geting married, but things just didn't work out. Today, it is very hard to meet a woman 30 or older who still want to get married and have kids. On another site, I often get the question, "How long have you lived alone?" and then after answering it, I don't hear back from them again. I really DO want to get married and I hope it's soon! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/31/2006 6:57:08 AM | I noticed alot of my friends got married in thier early 20s only to be divorced in thier early 30s...yea they do have kids and all that fun stuff so it made for some tough and tense times. I also know quite a few people with kids who have never married. Same situation as yourself, it just happened the way it happened. Sometimes as I'm sure everyone can tell you....you have the ups and downs that life throws at you....yea they have felt out of place but I tell them, it seems that way now but you are only out of place if you allow yourself to feel that way. I point out they have a child they can now experience happiness and joy that someone like myself can only dream about....
I guess all I'm saying is that you are not the only one...don't let it make you feel out of place...
As for me, at 37, I never been married nor do I have any kids (yea I know for sure I DON'T have any kids...lol) Sometimes I feel I am missing out on what you have but as they say 'You play witht the cards you are dealt' right 
Hope this helps
BD | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/31/2006 10:09:45 AM | | I am a member of the Club too. Turned 38 this year, no kids, never married....hopefully will find someone soon but I am very happy with my life, home, family, friends and job. So it isnt all bad. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/31/2006 1:19:07 PM | YOu go girl!
I did the same. I am 30 with a great job, bought the house and taking care of myself. I was tired of waiting till marriage to be happy, thast BS! I went and took my trip to Italy for two weeks on my own with a tour. LIfe holds so much why wait to cherish and enjoy it. I still hope to get married soon and start a family but I am not waiting to live life until then. I am now saving up so that if that guy never does show up I am adopting an older child in about 5 to 6 years. Nothing is going to stand in my way to be a loving parent to child that truly needs it and lets face it the US is full of older children that need a good parent even if it is one good parent. God sure is good! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/31/2006 5:24:19 PM | ah, don't worry about it.....
42 here and life just wasn't stable enough to settle down and raise a family in an environment of a single "bread winner". Why get married & have children if you can't provide stability for them to grow up in? The 80's and 90's were hell if you were just starting out. At least for me they were....
And the world going to war in the middle east... it made you wonder what kind of future they would have in front of them when they did grow up. I always thought of having children as being a responsibility, not a right. So I chose to be responsible by not having any when I was younger.
Now looking around and seeing so many "happily married" people and all those fat lawers purched like vultures in our society; I surely wonder about the validity of getting married in the first place. (I've heard of several people mention everything was settled between the two people until a lawyer got greedy)
In the end "commitment" is a state of mind. You either accept the "till death do us part" before saying "I do" or the courts say you broke your word with the vultures swooping in for a good feed.
Synical? You bet. But still hopeful and still looking. If the right woman came along then commitment wouldn't be an issue because I would be commited to her before saying "I do". On the other side of the coin if she never comes along then so be it. After 20 years of looking I don't plan on spending the next 40 worrying about it.
(As a side note.. if I ever win the big lotto I'd never get married.... trust is the biggest part of a relationship in more ways then one.)
Cheers & beers!
Tony | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 7/31/2006 5:44:43 PM | Hello there, I am 34 years old and never been married and no kids ... trust me my mother reminds me all the time arghh well good luck fishies.. take care
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 8/1/2006 5:27:54 PM | Your not the only one, i am 37 and a mother of a 11 year old boy.Had the chances to get married i guess but nothing in those relationships worked out so you could say it was for the best. Could have been through some nasty divorces, saves all the headaches.I can always get married when im older, if i dont oh well had a few good rrelationships and my son so thats all that matters i guess.I am not saying i never will but who knows what the future holds for each of us. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 8/1/2006 5:30:33 PM | I'll be 34 and never married and no kids next week, and it doesn't look like it's going to change anytime soon. | |
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bunyan
| | Joined: 12/1/2005
Msg: 175 | |
| Thirty and not married
Posted: 8/1/2006 7:25:19 PM | | no you're not the only one. it just seems for a guy if your're not married or have kids by the time you're over 30 everyone seems to think you're either gay or have something wrong with you. you get invited to gatherings where everyone has kids or are in a committed relationship and they think that you're too picky. i sometimes feel like the one left behind but in the back of my head i no that i will not just settle to conform with people around me so just keep your head up and that person will come without the pressure of being out of place. | |
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