| Thirty and not married
Posted: 8/29/2006 9:36:42 PM | 34 and never married Everyone that I know that is married in my age group is miserable, going through a divorse, fighting over who gets the brats..........I get told that its time to settle down but the one's telling me this are the ones that have gone through a divorse and are enjoying there lives again!
It is just getting harder and harder to find a woman that doesn't have kids and is in control of her own life, oh and who still likes to have fun once in awhile. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 8/29/2006 11:32:34 PM | | I'm 34 and never been married. No biggie - love is taking a little longer to find me! In the meantime it's a helluva ride! | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 8/30/2006 9:06:51 AM | | 29 here...never married no kids (an apparent rare find from where i'm from) My friends have either been married and divorced or have no intention on getting married or having children and have taken permanent steps to insure the latter doesn't happen (which makes me wonder how many other guys ... especially... have done the same) In the words of Gene Simmons (watched Family Jewels for the first time the other day ) "I would much rather be happily unmarried than unhappily married" ... well said Gene | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 8/30/2006 12:17:33 PM | 33 never married and no kids. I get the you must be gay thing alot.
Most likely will never marry. Seems like dating get to complex the older you get and the more you get set in your ways.
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 8/30/2006 3:30:01 PM | Just hit the big 30 a couple months ago and have yet to be married. Well at least as far as I know, there was that one night in Vegas... 
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/4/2006 2:30:26 PM | The statements you posted "dino33062" are on the money. Especially this one......
"For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when
you can get the milk for free". Here's an up date for you. Nowadays
80% of women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it's not
worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage."
I am 37, never married (had several opportunities....all with the wrong guys), am the mother of adult twins. Why am I not married.....because all I seem to attract are the attentions of "boys or guys" who are my age or younger. I have learned that they believe I am desperate and will settle for anything......WRONG ! ! ! Due to my age and my experiences I am far from desperate and my B.S. radar is finer-tuned. I am looking for a MAN to marry and have a relationship with. If we find each other....he will be appreciated, fed-well on all levels, never have be starved for sex, attention, or praise. He will be a man of honesty, faithfuliness and strong character. I, among others, am willing to wait and not settle for less.
All the best to US 30+ who are looking for the "real deal" ...... Cali  | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/4/2006 4:00:30 PM | 35 here, never married but was in a common law relationship that lasted longer than most marriages these days, had lots of opportunities to get married, and have 5 kids.
I agree Calicat13... and think there are alot of Canadians thinking and living the same.
The common law relationship lasted for 18 years and I was proposed to 3 times during that relationship. I had 2 kids from a prior relationship (twins also Calicat13.. ha ha) and 3 kids were born from that relationship. When he and I got together we were one of many couples who hung around together, and became a very close knit group of people. We were the first to become engaged to one another.. and the only ones that never married... and we were the only ones that didn't have to get the "divorce". Proposals set aside... I couldn't see myself walking down the aisle with him. There always seemed to be some kind of drama going on in his life that I just couldn't accept and "take on".
Nowadays.. and maybe for a long time already.. marriage is not just the dedication of love between two individuals "to have and to hold from this day forward".. sorta fairy tale of things. Marriage has become much more politic, reluctance to depend upon someone else in this tough and harsh world of ours, and of course there is always the looming doubt that what if it doesn't work out.. then there is the nasty divorce and the who has what assets, who will get what, who will do this or that, etc. and so many see and acknowledge that it could very well happen to them... nothing seems to last forever anymore.
To add to this ... there has been for many decades now the ever present "independent woman" ... and women just don't rely on a man to do the things that women used to.. ie. earn the money, maintain everything financially, etc.. and this is not just a woman's idea.. society and economics have also swayed us this way also... to be the successful woman who can balance any and all... to be on the front of "Entrepreneur" magazine, to be on "Parents Now" magazine.. etc. and also.. with the cost of living and the high hopes and dreams of keeping up with the Jones and married couples overextending that credit a lot of times in order to "have it all", living in the big expensive houses, both driving new cars, having the best of the best in order to show off to the friends.. I just don't agree with. Been there and done that.. and I sure don't call that happiness. I've found that simplicity at its finest gives me much more satisfaction, gratitude and self-meaning of success.
For myself, I hope and dream that my kids.. some adults now.. were old enough to see some of the things that happened.. and how and what they have to give/receive in order to seriously make a relationship work... I have tried with all of my heart to show and teach my kids true love... and what happiness is. Their seeing me now outside of my relationship (been there for a couple of years now) and my having to start over and rebuild my life.. I think it has shown them strength, perseverance, will power, etc. .. and nothing more powerful than the words coming from their mouth "Mom, it is so nice to see you truly happy and to be able to smile and be happy for yourself and the world you have made on your own.. we're proud of you".
If... and I repeat if.. I met the one man who MUTUALLY wanted and desired and dreams of my alike.. and if all timing was right.. I might get married.. but.. like the song goes.. "Holding Out For a Hero".. and the hero has to be for me.. and I'd be his damsel... but I really don't know if things work that way.. it hasn't for me so far.. and I'm not about to hold my breath waiting.
My hat is off to those couples who can find their true happiness in today's world.. and be able to commit to another like they would have to... cause marriage certainly isn't just marriage anymore. Every person I think knows of someone in their immediate circle who has gone through the messy divorce/break up.. and saw the hurt, pain, anger, etc...
That's the way I see it... | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/5/2006 4:52:42 AM | I am 37 soon -- I have never been married but left at the alter twice in last 3 years
I also have no children
Why ---- thats fate I guess | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/5/2006 10:56:13 AM | | Never married, no kids. Thought I would have been by now. I guess that wasn't the plan for me. Absolutely no regrets. I do hope to be a wife though, for someone to love me to the point of wanting to spend their life with me sounds pretty wonderful. OH, how lucky he will be. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/7/2006 8:14:25 AM | I am 37 and never have been married or have any kids and darn proud of it. The divorce rate percentage in this country alone is alot more than what is officially reported.
Women get married with the thought going into it that they can divorce anytime and get half, basically they come out ahead 90 something percent of the time. Men go into marriage thinking this woman is the one for them not thinking about divorce. The men are the one's who suffer dearly from divorce especially if there are kids involved.
Now I ask you why in thee hell would I want to get married???? We don't live in a time where marriage means anything anymore, where people have no morales and think cheating and sleeping around on their spouse is an ok thing to do.
I'm much smarter than the average guy in I foreseen this when I was much younger and avoided it. Now I watch my brother and friends go through hell from a marriage mistake they made when they were younger.
So to all the people who have been married repeatly and think there is something wrong with the few people who never got married all I can say is.....put your crack pipe down buddy your brain is complete mush. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/7/2006 8:16:53 AM | | Almost 43, never married. You'll never know if that is a good thing or not without INDIVIDUAL evaluation. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/7/2006 12:38:51 PM | Dino33062, lmfao, you kill me
Because women realize it's not
worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage. Is Andy Rooney spoken for? That guy is a gem.
To umm1, I’m not so sure that people way back were worried about socially controlled roles. I’ve known (been in) live-together arrangements that would have more accurately been called common law. It was not entirely acceptable according to society back in the 70’s.
I see living common law as quite the commitment. Maybe there isn’t a legal document. But, when those relationships split, people are hurt just the same. If you’ve lived with someone, you’ve been married (Some of you with your running shoes on at all times).
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/7/2006 12:55:09 PM | ... well if you're getting started on raising a daughter, why are you here posting threads and looking for dates instead of raising your daughter? If you're single I presume you work for a living, so she's missing out on that time that you spend away from her, don't go and be more absent from her life wasting it on dating.
And I guess my opinion pretty much states why I'm still single, no one seems to have any family vallues anymore and are self centered, who wants someone who speaks the truth on that sort of thing in their lives? Nope, it's much better to have someone who'll always support what you do so long as they benefit from it too and when your kids grow up and have messed up marriages and lives we can all say "these things happen, it's nobody's fault"
we all should change our name to "nobody" to make that a correct statement. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/7/2006 3:46:46 PM | Well said Lakota,
I had a good chuckle upon finishing your post. "put down the crack pipe..."!
It is just what you said, the moral fiber is completely eroded from western society.
I read somewhere that 1 in 3 marriages ends up in divorce and the top three reasons are:
1. Money 2. Sex and 3. Irreconcilable differences.
Well the first reason just goes to show what a disposable society we live in. We are wasteful, greedy and selfish and are disillusioned with the idea that money buys happiness. Number two just goes to show that we can't simply be happy with happy. My ex once told me that she couldn't fully commit to me because she was afraid of loosing out on something better!!! I'm sure you can understand why she is my ex.
As for the third reason, well, it's all the other reasons when 1 & 2 don't seem to work.
I'm single and 33 and hope to one day start a family but I'll be damned if I settle for anything that comes along. I'm quite happy with the fact that I've matured well - like a fine wine - and now know what I want out of life as opposed to getting married at 20 and now in my 30's being divorced.
To all you individuals in your 30's that have never been married - unless your a complete wacko, loser, with no aspirations to become anything halfway decent in your life - don't worry there is hope for all of us. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/8/2006 5:38:56 AM | | 39 and never married. No kids, which is fine with me. Maybe if the right man comes along, then I may think about it. I have had long relationships, before, but realized that I didnt want to spend the rest of my life with them. I am ok with not getting married, because most of my friends are now divorced. As for kids, I get to just get up and go anywhere anytime I want. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/11/2006 3:53:41 PM | Now that would be a little funny if your out meeting people and meet a guy in his 50's with a baby ! yikes.....
=======================
Err HELLOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Donald Trump!!
And apparently a hand's on and very doting dad too. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/11/2006 3:59:07 PM | | I`m 36 and not married. it doesn`t bother me one at all. If I meet the right one and we choose to get married then it will happen. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/11/2006 6:52:07 PM | I am going to be 40 next month and still haven't married. But I am still hopeful that I will marry someone very special someday.
One of the posters quoted Gene Simmons. Right on! "I"d rather be unhapppily unmarried than unhappily married!!"
I don't let being unmarried destroy my pleasure in life--I have many wonderful friends, and enjoy many different interests that are part of my life.
Cheers!!
DW | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/12/2006 7:51:46 PM | I've been married, but was surpised to find so many people in their 40's who have never married and don't have any children.
So, no, i don't think you're the only 30 year old, you have lots of company.
:) Cali | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/12/2006 11:49:40 PM | I'm thirty five and never been married and proud of it cause if I had been married and not now then that would have meant a divorce. Dont get me wrong I do want to get married and have wanted to since I was very young, but I never have found any one that I just knew I could spend the rest of my life with. I do addmitt I came clode a couple of times and even messed up a couple of those relationships my self, but when THE ONE comes along then I'll know it and be married till then I'll have fun and see what happens.
Love is out there,
Sincerely, Wolf
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/13/2006 11:28:34 AM | Woke up this mornin'
Alone in my bed,
Happy to say,
I'm still not dead.
No ring on my finger, so I must still be single.
Hardly anyone asks any more, if I will ever marry.
Sometimes I wonder, why does anyone get married?
The good thing is, I have no kids and no ex-wife. | |
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| Thirty and not married
Posted: 9/13/2006 12:01:56 PM | NEVER MARRIED MS. DAISY~~!!!!!!!!
Not once, not even close
R | |
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