| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 12/5/2008 6:01:32 PM |
True, but the higher the number the more suggestive toward dysfunctional motivation
Although you are free to make judgments for your own purposes, don't try to rationalize it by suggesting others are dysfunctional. Personally, I think that the most dysfunctional people are those with the hangups that make this sort of topic such a big deal. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 12/5/2008 8:34:57 PM |
Personally, I think that the most dysfunctional people are those with the hangups that make this sort of topic such a big deal.
Personally, I think the most dysfunctional people are those who think other people's concerns are merely hangups.
To some people it IS a big deal, whether or not it is to you is not important. To those people to whom it is important it can be the make or break difference.
Everyone has their own concerns, some might not want to date a person who has kids, or did drugs or perhaps did jail time. Either way, it's not something to be lightly discarded because to you it's not important.
I find people who don't care about things to be far more screwed up than those who do care.
Love me or hate me, but don't ever be indifferent.
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 12/5/2008 8:39:01 PM |
Considering that statistically, 40-ish people became sexually active at around 17, just 1 partner per year makes 23 by age 40. Discounting a few for long term relationships but putting them back for being in between and dating around, that still makes 23 seem reasonable. In fact this seems low for someone who's 40 and never married, and good looking or otherwise desirable.
I have friends who's numbers are far lower than you might think. A couple of my friends are in the single digits and are older than me. They're also very happy.
I have a few friends who are in the double, and one in triple digits. Every time I see them, they're with a new guy. Always looking for a new guy or dating a loser. I was like that when I was younger. I was smart enough to stop, some people never change. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 12/6/2008 7:01:06 AM | It depends on who those lovers were too. Past sexual partners you never see again are one thing. If a lover was someone your present partner knows then it can be a much bigger issue.
The same if a past sexual partner is someone you still encounter socially or at work it can be a problem for you and your present partner. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 12/6/2008 8:10:59 AM |
Although you are free to make judgments for your own purposes, don't try to rationalize it by suggesting others are dysfunctional. Personally, I think that the most dysfunctional people are those with the hangups that make this sort of topic such a big deal.
There is just a slight difference between a judgement and an observation. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 12/8/2008 4:29:32 PM | Maybe I'm old fashioned here...but I think if the partners were a lot of one-nighters, random dates, and anything outside of a normal, significant relationships...that's when it becomes a turn off to me. Last thing I want to think about is someone I am with in the long run having sport-sex with every guy she went on a date or two with lol.
I wish I was born sometimes years ago...when sex actually meant something. Where cheating was not something that happens like its the social norm. I am by no means a virgin lol and waiting till marriage? Not gonna happen. But I've dated my share of very attractive girls and unless there is a solid connection where we are with just each other....I don't have any desire to sleep with them. Maybe one day I will regret it all HAHA but for now that's how I was raised and hopefully will find someone with similar values.
P.S. If you do think having sex with many people for just fun is ok, then fine. To each his/her own. I have no problem with that at all. It is just not someone I would want to be with.
Bottom line, what turns one person on or off will be completely different for the next. So this was a silly thread to post to haha I mean DUH we are not all alike!!!!
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 12/8/2008 4:59:20 PM | I could care less.
I'm with her, she's with me. I don't care if she's had several lovers or more than several.
I've been with a few women some would characterize as slutty just because of how many men they slept with. But, we enjoyed ourselves and thought nothing of it. Then again, I get turned on by a lot of things sexual, including dirty talk about former flames. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 12/10/2008 7:50:31 PM |
It doesn't matter to me how many he's HAD in the PAST, what matters is how many he has since me.
Yeah but after he's ****ed a few dozen women do you think you're really that special?
You're just a number at that point.
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 12/10/2008 8:16:24 PM | A number is a number. I don't know how many it took to become a turn off. I do know when I was 18 and dating this 17 year old girl, she told me she'd been with 39 and she wanted me to be 40. I got close to having sex with her, mere inches. When my manhood got close to her snatch. It started hurting. That told me right there, that it wasn't meant to be lol. But 40 at the age of 16 seemed a bit excessive. Now 40 at the age of 50.. that's a bit different.
To me a person's number is usually relevant to their age. If some people are with 2 a year. It doesn't make them easy. But let's say you're 29 and started having sex at 18. That's still 22 people. They could still get labeled. Which is harsh.. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 12/11/2008 2:52:11 PM |
Yeah but after he's ****ed a few dozen women do you think you're really that special?
You're just a number at that point.
OMFG. What a statement. I certainly hope you are with a virgin and that you were a virgin when you joined forces.  Then you two only have each other to "count" on the proverbial spread-sheet of sexual contact. Seriously now ~ to think someone near my age has only been with me is ridiculous and quite frankly, I wouldn't be interested in that anyway. (Sometimes experience can be a wonderous thing.)  As long as I'm the LAST in the line, I am obviously much more special to him than the previous one(s) or he'd still be with her/one of them. likewise, special to me has a LOT more to do with character, sense of humor, career, or x, y, z, than any number of women he's been with in the past. The glory of growing up, evolving and learning that some things simply don't matter when a meeting of the mind/heart are what we are truly seeking. Good luck to you and finding that elusive "virgin in the haystack" ~ I think you'll have a long road finding someone who thinks you were just out there saving yourself for years up on years for them to magically appear and calmly state: I've waited my entire life for you. (But hey, stranger things have happened I guess ~ they did just find a planet outside of our solar system!!!)  | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 12/11/2008 9:13:37 PM | As long as I'm the LAST in the line, I am obviously much more special to him than the previous one(s) or he'd still be with her/one of them
Bull, your argument doesn't hold water, it assumes your partner was the one to make the decisions as to past relationships, the others could have dumped him, you're just the last on the list (so far)
Your special partner may have been dumped by everyone for a reason... maybe you're just picking up leftovers | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 12/11/2008 9:18:02 PM |
I certainly hope you are with a virgin and that you were a virgin when you joined forces.
Nope. Long term slutty male past boinking slags. That's my history. So far I've discovered is that the last thing I'd want is some slag who couldn't keep her legs together and thinks everyone should be ok with because she is. And if you think I'm a hypocrite too bad. As I've said before, I've crapped in a toilet before, doesn't mean I want to marry one. | |
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