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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 8/18/2006 5:08:42 PM | I usually find women who have not had many sexual partners, so i end up becoming the teacher, which is fun:) But i found that i have to lie to these girls about how many i have had because in my past when i did tell them they were uneasy.(lets say its alot.) So now im looking for a girl who can teach me a few things, any out there????????????????? | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 8/18/2006 6:02:21 PM | ladyjenna...you ressurected this thread from a 5 month death! You're asking for a comment but don't ask a question, so not really sure what response you are requesting...but generaly, no you're "number" wouldn't alarm me and generaly i agree with your post.
the number of previous partners before me isn't a concern. i'm concerned about the number of partners after me.
Football "never cheated" Penguin
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 8/18/2006 8:13:53 PM | You are not bad. You are human. The number of lovers one has/had says nothing about the person. It is the capacity for friendship,and trust that show good character. We in North America are too hung up on too early serious relationships without the experience to know ourselves. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 8/18/2006 8:30:08 PM | | Women are not too touchy about this subject but somehow men are more uptight about it. The only way women can have their numbers down is if men were banging each other. Even if she has had 100 or 1000 as long as it was before you it should not be an issue. So men, your sex life is good, please DO NOT ask that question. You dont want to know that answer. The reason men obsess with this is because in their minds they want to beleive they are the greatest lay the woman ever had. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 8/18/2006 8:40:56 PM | | It become "bad" when it is an addiction. Sex because one is aroused and has a partner of the moment is no less good. Not everyone is . Most of my encounters are with women I knew as friends before and after. But that is me. I see nothing wrong with a sexual adventurer. They being true to themselves is virtrue. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 8/19/2006 10:17:59 AM | my oh my... what does it matter how many people you have slept with??? im my eyes it has absolutely no reflection on the person that you are. some people just like to have more fun than others, some can't get any at all. it's all on how you feel about yourself, not the way others will judge you... Screw them anyway.
sex is great...those whose numbers are still in the single digits are simply jealous that they aren't having as much sex as the rest of us. when my friend calls me up and is like " i met this guy last night, and he was so hot, bent me over 8 different ways, we did it like 10 times" I'm like "good for you!!!!" , followed by.... "as long as you were safe".
you have to sleep with a few really horrible guys in bed before you can even reach something that was worth that notch on your belt.
STOP JUDGING PEOPLE!!!!! | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 8/19/2006 11:19:34 AM | well now let me see lol......it DOSENT matter who or how many. All that matters is the person u see inside not the amount of people..we all have pasts and i quite agree with those who say we are adults and it isnt relevant anymore....u cannot judge someone on how many partners theve had!...ridiculous lol.........javascript:smilie(' ') | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 8/19/2006 11:26:36 AM | | Frankly what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom between those two people. I poersonally how many partners I have or had not is no ones business besides my own. The only thing that matters getting into a sexual relationship with someone new is wheather they are clean, as in free from disease or not. If you want to judge a person based on partners then that is just as shallow as judging someone based on appearance. Not all of us are living in the fantasy world where the only time you have sex is if you are in love with someone. Lets face it when asking a man how many partners they have they are usually gonna inflate it to appear as a stud. In my experience those that talk about it getting it aren't. Woman will always deflate thier number as not to appear sluttish. So why even ask as you are not going to get the honest answer? As far as what number would be a turn off well the number in itself would not be the turn off it would be the way the number is presented. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 8/19/2006 12:24:25 PM | If she's loyal to me, that's all that matters. If she's clean, that's all that matters. The past is the past. When I enter into a committed relationship, I don't ask how many partners she's had. Ever. I don't want to know.
Agreed. Its also irrelevent to me under those circumstances you mention. I have never asked a woman I am dating how many she has had in her past.
If he were all that, and a bag of chips, she'd still be with him, wouldn't she? I'm man enough, and confident enough, that nobody can phase me by making snide remarks about her past.
Yep. If you get jealous that easy or all uptight over it, chances are you are not a very secure, mature and confident person.
Its human nature to want to be with more then one person.
The concept of one man and one woman for life is mans creation from religion, not nature's.
There are cultures in the world where having multiple partners is no big deal.
Europeans for example tend to be much more mature about it then the west is.
I am not saying that going around and playing people is right. As long as your intent is known and you are not hurting anyone's feelings, you are practising safe sex and not transmitting any STD's, and you are tested regularly, having sexual relations with as many people as you want is no big deal. And this goes for both sexes.
Molonel good over all post, I agree with it all.
Its refreshing to hear from like minded mature people. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 8/19/2006 10:29:43 PM | id say 9 would be my limit depending on the age bracket, i like to take pride in things and not looking for the person who goes to the bar gets hammered and goes home with a random guy
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all depends on the girl, love can make me forget all, unless you cheat, then ill hate you forever :) | |
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| How many sexual partners...by ladyjenna
Posted: 8/20/2006 5:04:55 AM |
by ladyjenna
I agree with you! it DOES matter....about how casual or "committed" someone has experienced sex. its all about someone's choices and I dont think it matters from men to woman- promiscuous is promiscuous.....I have been with 10 men and I am a 25 yr old female, is that bad? I dont think so at all, because I have had meaningful relationships with 8 of them.....and the other two i was just 'really' wanting to have them-be in a relationship with them, and those men turned out to "SEE' me as someone NOT to be committed to , because I REALLY liked them. Doing someone in a bathroom after just meeting them, is called being " drunk" or " high" and is just idiotic. Sex is always important, But self control is the be all and end all to your life and happiness. People who don't care or cannot control themselves or who are just out to find that " fluttery" feeling..has serious problems. Ill tell you something, I get more "fluttery' feelings when im with someone who i know loves me.... as for any casual encounters..i think its sick..you have to like someone...know a little about them...not just 'bang' them and not be in some sort of relationship with that person.
just.my opinion..not trying to make a point here..just want someone else's oppinion on what i have said.
thanks
See? There are still heroines...all over the place. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 8/20/2006 5:13:28 AM | | I don't care so long as they're clean. I don't live in the past and what they did in their younger years does not concern me. What concerns me is who they are today, as some people are not who they are today, without the past. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 8/20/2006 5:23:28 AM | 153.......no, seriously, I basically agree with little miss philosopher. I wouldn't care about the amount of sexual partners, unless it was something like 10 in the last 30 days....That would be a little cause for concern b/c it would tell you about the person's mindset. I compare it to drinking in a sense....we've all had our indiscretions when we were younger, but if you've passed out drunk on benders 14 times in the last 30 days  ...lol, it might make you wonder. So, yes, it's all about who they are today, not in the past. | |
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| How many sexual partners...
Posted: 8/20/2006 5:42:05 AM |
What makes my woman special is the relationship we have, together. The warm body count prior to my meeting her is irrelevant. I've been treated like trash by women who could count their sexual partners on one hand. I know this, because despite the fact that I don't ask, or tell, some people insist on telling you, anyway. I don't know why.
I've been treated like a king by women who were both very experienced, sexually, and very loyal partners, and very good friends.
Your attitude is pretty immature, overall.
What a cop-out. Ask any woman, and she'll let you know that she doesn't ever want to be regarded as a "warm, soft hole". Well, welcome to the surprise...a man who cares about his woman doesn't want to think about her in those terms either. In response to chadskylark's comments - scores of nameless, faceless, alleyway partners exhibits a total disregard for yourself by you and others. Sidenote: this applies whether you're a man or woman. He wants to care about his special lady, whomever that may be, but with the wrong partner (the woman who, for him, has had too many), her BEHAVIOR is shouting to him that she's not worth his caring sentiments.
Unlike molonel (and some of the deluded here, not most people here...just some), I have been in FEW, long-term, loving RELATIONSHIPS. With my health, my finances, all of my choices...my wife has always had access to the COMPLETE TRUTH, none of this "hee...hee...everyone has their secrets" tripe. This is a consequence of having had LIMITS, BOUNDARIES and DISCIPLINE which has resulted in me having something acceptable to report when I deliver the complete truth. If one doesn't exercise personal discipline, that person will have the consequences that come with unwise choices.
Look at a HUGE percentage of the profiles here and you will note that most women and men on this site want a secure, stable, loving relationship that's going somewhere - where the two partners have mutual goals they're moving towards TOGETHER. You'll rarely see, "I like casual sex with strangers, and if you can live with that...you're the girl/guy for me". You'll rarely see, "sexual experiences are like cookies. There are an infinite variety of sizes, shapes, compositions...I believe in trying as many as possible. It's fun to try different types of cookies! Will you be my 174th different type of (sexual) cookie?"
When your behavior IS ALIGNED WITH what you say you want and what you're willing to offer, that's called integrity. It will take you far in relationships. | |
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| How many sexual partners...
Posted: 8/31/2006 12:02:16 PM | Wow. Somebody must be REALLY bored if I'm seeing posts I wrote back in March dredged up.
What a cop-out. Ask any woman, and she'll let you know that she doesn't ever want to be regarded as a "warm, soft hole". Well, welcome to the surprise...a man who cares about his woman doesn't want to think about her in those terms either. In response to chadskylark's comments - scores of nameless, faceless, alleyway partners exhibits a total disregard for yourself by you and others. Sidenote: this applies whether you're a man or woman. He wants to care about his special lady, whomever that may be, but with the wrong partner (the woman who, for him, has had too many), her BEHAVIOR is shouting to him that she's not worth his caring sentiments. - Imaginativeone
And how are you communicating to a woman that she is anything more than a warm, wet hole when you only judge her character by what she did with her who-who? Nothing else matters except a body count. Wow. What a clever way to make a woman feel special. I'll have to try that, sometime.
A real man who cares about his woman knows that this is all highschool BS. It doesn't matter who slept with who, or how many times, or what happened in the closet at some party. It's water under the bridge. I've known porn stars whose company I preferred to allegedly "virtuous" women, and I've talked with PLENTY of lily-white princesses who have more of a past than you will ever know.
Unlike molonel (and some of the deluded here, not most people here...just some), I have been in FEW, long-term, loving RELATIONSHIPS. With my health, my finances, all of my choices...my wife has always had access to the COMPLETE TRUTH, none of this "hee...hee...everyone has their secrets" tripe. This is a consequence of having had LIMITS, BOUNDARIES and DISCIPLINE which has resulted in me having something acceptable to report when I deliver the complete truth. If one doesn't exercise personal discipline, that person will have the consequences that come with unwise choices. - Imaginativeone
That's nice. Truly. More power to you.
Just understand that you will NEVER know the "complete truth" about anyone except yourself. Not your wife, not your girlfriend, not your lover. Period. When you choose to take her word for it, or she chooses to believe you, that is called trust. And trust exists in any relationship DESPITE the fact that you cannot know the complete truth about anyone except yourself.
If you think that you have determined the best criteria for choosing the mate you want to spend the rest of your life with, then rock on. Best of luck to you.
If you think it's a guarantee that you're going to find an angel, then I've got some waterfront property deep in the Sahara I'd like to sell you.
Look at a HUGE percentage of the profiles here and you will note that most women and men on this site want a secure, stable, loving relationship that's going somewhere - where the two partners have mutual goals they're moving towards TOGETHER. You'll rarely see, "I like casual sex with strangers, and if you can live with that...you're the girl/guy for me". You'll rarely see, "sexual experiences are like cookies. There are an infinite variety of sizes, shapes, compositions...I believe in trying as many as possible. It's fun to try different types of cookies! Will you be my 174th different type of (sexual) cookie?" - Imaginativeone
Women are rarely able to express their sexual lives honestly and openly without being perceived as sluts and whores by people like yourself, or receiving a flood of poorly-worded requests to f*ck from illiterate morons who assume that any woman with a past must also be a slut without taste.
People are complex creatures. Much moreso than you give them credit for. Someone can seek a secure, stable, loving relationship and still have a past, or even a present.
When your behavior IS ALIGNED WITH what you say you want and what you're willing to offer, that's called integrity. It will take you far in relationships. - Imaginativeone
My friend, I have a deep sense of integrity. More than you will ever know, or understand. I am honorable, trustworthy and a genuinely good guy who occasionally makes mistakes.
The difference is that I disagree with you on this subject in a mature, rational manner. Not that you possess qualities that I'm lacking. If you really need to pat yourself on the back, then maybe "confidence" isn't among the many virtues you ascribe to yourself. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/10/2006 2:46:02 AM | | Gotta agree with Blindheart.....it's only future ammo if you're asking about somebody's past. The mutual trust and respect has to be there, and if it is, the past doesn't matter as far as numbers go. I personally hate the Q and never ask it myself. | |
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