| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/10/2006 4:18:53 AM | | Technopunk said it best (Msg 5). I couldn't agree more, except to say that if the numbers for either of us was too huge (lets say high double digits), then you have to wonder. And no, I'm not saying ANYTHING about how many gals I've been with, I'm just going to the extreme for the sake of the topic. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/10/2006 11:44:52 AM | Like many have said, it should reflect the ages of the people involved. If you have been sexually active for 5 years, without any long term partners in the mix, I'd assume 1-2 partners a year wouldn't be a stretch (5-10). Real life dictates that some years you'll have more partners than other years.
I don't think it is as easy as putting a number on it though, but if the guy I'm with tells me he's been with a significant amount of people more that I have been then it would give me pause, for sure. Before I get sexually involved with a guy, I will ask the numbers question. One guy did tell me he'd been with 40 women and that was the end of that conversation. So I guess there is a limit for me. Why? Because of the STD factor. More partners, more risk. There is also the morality factor which is different for everyone too. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/10/2006 4:48:29 PM | | im sorry but what difference does it make how many partners anyone has had?????????? what counts is that ur the only partner at the time u are with them. everyone has a past most of us have errrrr had sex before who i have had sex with in the past is my business and noone elses rather than aking them about how many sexual partners they have had which i might add there is no point in as no one tells the truth about that why not go get tested for std's together before u both start having a loving relationship which includes sex. Although hopefully most of u will be sensible and use a condom as well. get a grip and stop worring about how many sexual partners a person has had all that matters is the here and now. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/10/2006 6:40:53 PM | How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
depends on the size of the partners, but i would think anymore than 4 or 5 and ppl start falling off the bed...
How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
oh wait...i must have read the question wrong...i've had several sexual partners and i'm still not turned off by sex...
How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
oh wait...i must have read the question wrong...in a relationship, i'm more concerned about how many partners she has after me than before me...
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/10/2006 7:32:46 PM | | Say a person is 40 and has had 25 partners in life - that's 1 partner for every year since they were about 15 yrs old - too many for me (tells a LOT about the person). NO thanks. I want someone who's been in longer term relationships/marriage's etc. to where they've only had maybe 8 or 10 or so in life like "me" which at that point - you know they're the type who love wholeheartdly and deep and try to make things work/last in a relationship. Easy come/easy go types are a dime a dozen and not what I look for/want in life. Sex is great but - it doesn't mean you need quantity over "quality". | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/11/2006 1:52:06 PM | I dont even bring it up. There are just some things that people dont need to know. If you are with someone it should only matter that you are with them...PERIOD. Your sexual past is your past, my sexual past is my past. Assuming there is an honesty factor about any potential health risks. That is a must!
I think it is unfair to judge someone by saying "if you've had over 8 partners, you are a slut" or whatever. I have had more than 8...but I will leave it at that. I am FAR from being a "slut".
I just think the # has no bearing on whether or not you are able to have a successful relationship. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/11/2006 2:08:36 PM | 937,034.....yeah that would make them filthy enough.
Honestly, who gives 2 sh*ts?....I don't even wanna know WTF shes been up to, could care less. As long as she is into me at the moment, then thats my only concern, if she wants to go f*ck someone else later then so be it.......course she might piss on your stuff, but thats another story all together. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/11/2006 2:34:42 PM | DO YOU HAVE TO COUNT YOURSELF.
IF IT WAS A GIRL ON POF AND HER PICTURE WAS 10 YEARS OLD, WOULD YOU REALLY BELIEVE HER ANSWER.
IS IT REALLY POLITE TO COUNT.
SHOULDN'T I HAVE LOST COUNT BY NOW
MY POLICY (IF I YELL IN IT AND HEAR AN ECHO THATS TO MANY) | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/12/2006 3:09:45 PM | | Why is it that we are even having this conversation? Why is it alright for men to have as many partners as he wants and a woman to only have a few...if your women is still tight, clean and takes well care of herself down there, why should it really matter?? I personally get mad at a man that asks me that question...why is it anyones buisness what mistakes or how many partners i have had...no one but your own....That is your personal sexual life and it has nothing to do with the relationship you are in....just because a woman has slept with a certain number of guys does not make her less than a person, especially when men are getting congragulated because of it....So you are telling me, you meet great women fall head over heels for her....fall in love and everything, then you find out she has slept with alot of men...are you gonna dump her because of that reason? | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/12/2006 4:52:36 PM | Seamless88 you have a lot to learn in life, BUD!!!!!! If you get that far with a person, you should be thankful that she can be honest with you about it.
The guys (or gals for that matter) that bother me the most, are the ones who "brag" about how many they have been with. To me, that should be the turn off.  | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/12/2006 4:56:03 PM |
Seamless88 you have a lot to learn in life, BUD!!!!!! If you get that far with a person, you should be thankful that she can be honest with you about it.
I ve been that far, and further, with both nice women and whores. I prefer nice women. I prefer my opinion, you can take yours. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/12/2006 6:52:01 PM | | just cause some one has slept with alot of people does not make her a whore or not a nice girl....I have tons of really good friends who you would consider a whore, and they are very nice people and one of them is now married and others have had a kid and settled down...Who says what number of partners is a whore...a number everyone just picked out of there head...yet is is ok for a man to sleep with however many he wants! | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 9/12/2006 7:34:05 PM | A good thread--mostly d/t molonel's good sense.
The upshot: Never ask this question if the answer is going to be more significant to you than the number of times she's been overseas, or the number of cars she's owned! Only ask this if you're DAMNED secure.
I'm NOT that secure. I know myself; I am sexually possessive, and prone to jealousy. It's not so much the number that came before me, as my need to believe that I have spoiled her for anyone who might come afterward. So--more than I don't want to know how MANY--I surely don't want to know how GOOD they were!
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 10/23/2006 1:34:40 PM | | It's a touchy topic I guess... I was with this one girl and were just sitting there oneday ..and I asked the dreaded ? she was 22 i believe...... but she told me she had been with 35 dudes I didn't show her my reaction, but in the inside I was just like WOW! it was funny though but I honestly was shocked, she was a really good person and all but after hearing that I just didn't look at her the same... | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 11/24/2007 4:12:28 PM | Interesting topic, I'd like to share my analysis about it.
It seems, the numbers game is a male problem. Some can deal with it while others can't cope with the truth.
Seems like most women do not care about the topic of past number of sexual partners. It does not appear to make them jealous or make then think any less of a man. This is because women are/were the ones to receive negative feedback from a sexual past while men are raised and taught to be whores. The more **** you get as a male the more celebrated you are. Women feel like they should be able to openly run around, like their male counterparts, doing whomever they please without hearing the words "slut" "whore" and "easy". They feel like this is a double standard and it is unfair to women.
Men do have a problem with promiscuous females. This is because, in the eyes of men, woman are* (were*, times have changed) generally the "gatekeepers" of sex. Men on the other hand, do everything they can to break into this castle; they must trick women into bed, have them fall in love with them, seduce them, take them on tedious dates. All just to sleep with them. Sex was/is a challenge for males, almost like a game or competition. Women have changed their role by being "unpicky" and unlocking the sacred gate that was suppose to be guarded.
This infuriates man. Something that was once cherished, guarded, protected from the masses is now open for public use with no regards. Other men that are "unworthy" of the experience get to freely taste from this garden.
This is why men don't like to know his woman is "easy". It is not because she enjoyed sex with many other men. It is the way in which she chose to sleep with them. From his perspective, too many partners means; she had not tended the gates, she lowered her standards, was desperate, was impatient to wait for a better partner, was seduced easily, was tricked into bed, easily falls into and out of love, chooses unworthy/inadequate partners.
What most men don't realize is women love sex just as much as men. Just like men, woman are not willing to wait for the right partner are will sleep with whomever to get some immediate sexual gratification.
The whole problem lies around the deceit and stereotypes we are taught growing up. About the women being sluts if they are easy and men just wanting one thing. This sets us up for emotional problems we face today. Women feeling guilty for their behavior and men feeling cheated for dating an "easy" partner.
(side note - logically I agree with this, emotionally I don't, maybe I can't have a biased opinion because I was raised with these same beliefs. Then again part of me believes this is something instinctual, carved in man's makeup that we can't explain or control. We are possessive, selfish and territorial by nature so why would this not apply to our women?)
So, "How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off'?"
For Men - doesn't matter
For Women - 1 more than your current male partner believes you should have been with.
(I believe this whole issue only applies once two people are in a loving monogamous relationship, I doubt anyone has thought or asked this while having a one night stand or casual encounter.)
The subject of this thread should be changed from "How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!" to "Past Sexual Behavior & Current Loving Relationships" | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 11/24/2007 4:21:01 PM | | I don't think it matters how many people you been with. For me its probably over 20. That doesn't make my a slut for the count. People now and days fuss over sexual history way to much. I never ask questions about the past and don't like being asked those questions cause there hard to answer. People judge too much now. | |
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