| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 1/23/2008 4:00:01 PM |
OK, here is the answer: PI X your age squared less the rating of your picture/your expected life span + (your desirable weight - your actual weight)
ack!!! according to that my appropriate number of past sexual partners is 1093.54!! I'm way behind... Tee hee, I loved that equation though, it was awesome!! A few kinks though... | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 1/23/2008 10:51:19 PM | Zero is a turn off. Anything reasonable after that is fine.
A possible turn off might be indiscretion ... ie: if a girl slept with all the neighbours and wasn't in control of herself or the situation. If she had all her ducks in a row then more power to her. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 1/23/2008 11:33:29 PM | I have a simple equation here. I do not date women who have slept with more men than half her age.
So if she is 24 and been with 13 guys, shes out. Thats just me, but it works at keeping the fast women away. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 1/24/2008 12:57:05 PM | Geez...by calculations using this formula I'm apparently at 2481.31. I'm not sure what a 0.31 means in terms of sex....is that like a BIT of head and then a really brief quickie with no orgasm? But by that standard I've got some work to do, and I think I'd need a chemical peel after having THAT many women. Maybe that many sessions to date if you counted them up, but no where near the number of partners! LOL But one can only aspire, right?!
I don't have a magic number. I'm often shocked when people divulge how many they've been with, whether it be asked or voluntary. You think you know a person and they seem all nice and sweet and then they say they've been with at least 30 men and they aren't 30 yet and your jaw drops bc it's unexpected! LOL I think about how high my number might be if I wasn't married for 10 years. It could be disgusting even to me! These things add up over time. Even if you only have 4 partners a year that's 40 over a 10 year span! They say the average man has 5.18 partners per year (again with the decimals!). I think if I met a woman my age (28) and she'd never been married and said she'd slept with 30 men in her life I wouldn't be repulsed. If she said her husband was her first and they split up two months ago, but she's been with 30 guys I'd want to take a shower first and DEFINITELY afterward! It all boils down to the caliber of partners and the precautions you as an individual take. If the person was having senseless sex with just whoever and not protecting themself then I'd take issue with it. If they were sleeping with men who were clean and sort of respectable and she made sure to use a condom and such then I'd see no problem. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 1/25/2008 7:14:32 PM |
As for me asking the question "How many men have you been with" I'll ask it outright because if that person is a potential partner Its my personal protective right to know before anything happens
I think that's a valid reason. The funny thing about a lot of people who say as long as there's no STD's they don't care . "I know that people keep saying "as long as the other person's clean..."
Well neither testing nor condoms are reliable. They're just a bit safer than no protection.
People keep saying it only takes sex with one infected person to give you an STD. That's true. But if you keep increasing the numbers of people you sleep with, you increase the odds of running into an infected person. Statistically you're playing Russian Roulette and increasing the number of bullets in the cylinder each time. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 1/25/2008 8:04:36 PM | fractalheart wrote:[qote]I have a simple equation here. I do not date women who have slept with more men than half her age.
So if she is 24 and been with 13 guys, shes out. Thats just me, but it works at keeping the fast women away.
This may sound logical till you get to be my age. That would mean that I could have slept with 23 guys and not be considered 'fast' - which may or may not sound like a lot. But considering that I had a 23 year marriage in there....46 minus 23 = 23 yrs old ...ok say I lost my virginity at 17---23 - 17 =6 . How does 23 1/2 guys in 6 yrs sound to you? Does that make me fast? Its not all in the numbers....its also in the circumstances
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 1/25/2008 8:11:31 PM | m_church wrote:
Well neither testing nor condoms are reliable. They're just a bit safer than no protection.
People keep saying it only takes sex with one infected person to give you an STD. That's true. But if you keep increasing the numbers of people you sleep with, you increase the odds of running into an infected person. Statistically you're playing Russian Roulette and increasing the number of bullets in the cylinder each time.
I'm not sure why only some of us sees this as 'Russian Roulette' . It really does come down to a simple numbers game. The higher your number of partners, the higher chance you will have of contracting an STD.
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 1/25/2008 10:14:42 PM | I'm working on that one!!! Actually does it ever become a turn-off for us guys? Sometimes it feels like work!!
I mean, if I ever get to that place where sex isn't an influence on me, then I might know what it's like to not get played by women, but be the player!! It would almost be like having the same power that women have over us guys.
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 1/25/2008 11:38:04 PM | real12luv(d1255671) says it quite well.
... I really don't understand why it would matter? Your never gonna really know anyways. I don't personally recall the number of women I have slept with & dont delve on the issue. As a matter of fact I don't want to know how many, I'd rather concentrate on enjoying her for how I see her now.
Besides I only have 10 fingers, 9 toes and an iffy memories. Oh every once in a while I get a flash image of one encounter or another. It always bring a smile to my face. I would hope it's the same for everyone.
Enjoy each day and whatever encounters it presents. Don't be in too much of a rush for life is not a race to the finish where there can be winners and losers. Trust me, crossing the finish line is not an accomplishment you wish to achieve rapidly. So savor each day and companion for your time with them, short or long, frequent or seldom, many or few. Reflect on each moment, remember its joys, and honor it by enshrining it on a page in the album of your memory. May your memory be overflowing with all sorts of encounters.
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 1/27/2008 2:24:37 AM |
This may sound logical till you get to be my age. That would mean that I could have slept with 23 guys and not be considered 'fast' - which may or may not sound like a lot. But considering that I had a 23 year marriage in there....46 minus 23 = 23 yrs old ...ok say I lost my virginity at 17---23 - 17 =6 . How does 23 1/2 guys in 6 yrs sound to you? Does that make me fast? Its not all in the numbers....its also in the circumstances
I do consider that as a possibility, believe me it has not been neglected in my thoughts on this issue. The fail safe is, if you get into the 20's you are fast or have a unique view about sex that doesn't match mine thus creating an incompatibility.
There was mention about STDs. About 80% of women around the world will at some point have an incurable disease known as HPV and is the leading cause in cervical and uteran cancer. There are over 100 different types, roughly 6 have visual signs for men. You can have it for years before you know you have it, and it can silently be transmitted from person to person through means of intercourse. Condoms don't and can't protect you from it.
Chances of it killing you with dirty nasty cancer, about .01% per outbreak which average about once every 2 years if at all; generally after initial infection the disease goes dormant for the rest of your life. If you are afraid of this, the terrorists win.
AIDS, HIV, and Herpes on the other hand... Be afraid, be very afraid. | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 2/4/2008 9:40:02 PM | i figure the more partners shes had the better at it she'll be lots of practice
its like hockey what good would it be if the same two teams always played eachother
not much you want to play the team with some diversity
you get better if youve been around and so will she
whooo hoooooo
yeeee haaaaaa
thats what im talkin bout
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 2/5/2008 10:39:43 AM | ymeee writes:
i figure the more partners shes had the better at it she'll be lots of practice
Why does it take lots of partners to become good at sex? Why couldn't one be in a LTR for a long time and still be good at sex? Don't you think those people have probably had more sex than the ones that are always out looking? Wouldn't you think they would have been experimental in the bedroom to keep it exciting?
Just because someone doesn't have a lot of partners, does not mean they don't have the experience. Its about quality - not quantity!
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 2/5/2008 12:55:35 PM | A lot of partners means a possibility of
stds
bacteria infections
and just makes you all around whorish
Nowadays, people try to dress it up and make it seem like bieng a slut is a good thing. Thanks to it we have a whole lot more single mothers. | |
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Posted: 2/5/2008 1:19:56 PM | Why would you even ask her that question in the first place???? sheesh. I'm 45, been having sex for more than 20 years. I've certainly had more than 14 men (which by your standards would be less than 1/year) and you'd think i was "that kinda gal?" | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 2/5/2008 1:45:40 PM | first of all...don't ask don't tell.
I mean really, A "reasonable " amount to one, is not to the other.
This is a childish question that has no right answer especially for the guy.
The woman will obsess over the number even if not that many.
The question stems from insecurity not innocent curiosity.
if you love a woman and later found out she did porn, whould it really matter and would you want to know? not me.
The older you get the more you rack up as well.
bottom line who cares? people lie anyway, it only takes one time to get a std! | |
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| How many sexual partners does it take to become a turn off!
Posted: 2/5/2008 2:25:27 PM | Another thing we are missing here is context and perspective. I know a guy who is a serial dater. I would wager that he exceeds that number of 14 every month, and I'm talking different girls. He'll go out for a few dates and he moves on. He's not a player. He's just REALLY picky. REALLY picky. The guy's list of things he wants in his woman is not only ridiculous it's unattainable, and for that reason he'll likely never settle. He's only been at this a year I guess, after his marriage failed last winter. I don't condone what he does, don't get me wrong. I think it's only a matter of time before he knocks a girl up or gets a bad disease that isn't cured with a shot of penicillin or some cream. But he is a very nice, respectful man. He's charming and good looking and on paper is likely the perfect man for almost all women. He's a lawyer but not into himself. He's not narcissistic and crude. He's respectful. He's wealthy, but lives in a modest home (by lawyer salary standards....by mine it's a pretty f'n nice home!), he drives a modest entry level BMW but only because he's a partner in a firm and his other partners said it didn't look well for him and the firm with him driving a Ford Fusion. Sure, petty, but it is what it is, right? He's a good guy. He's not a player. He treats women like princesses. He's a gentleman. He just finds a flaw in every woman he meets. He'll see them a couple times and decide her middle toe is longer than her index toe and that's weird, so he breaks it off. He is out virtually EVERY night with women. I'd wander to guess he might have a sex addiction! LOL But do I think he's disgusting? No. He's not out at the bar joking about nailing the waitress or the hot thing on the dance floor like a lot of guys are. If we are at a bar he'll pick someone up and chat them up all night, and RARELY do I see him leave with the girl. It's usually her giving him her number and he setting up a date the next day.
So I think the number really is just that. It's reference. If someone had never been in a long term relationship they'd have a lot of numbers and it'd be ok. But someone who married their high school sweetheart for 20 years and then gets divorced at 40 could have 2. It's all relative. If she's being gang banged by 4 guys on the weekends I think you might want to throw up now and again, but as a rule the numbers are relative. And to the lady who said she's had a few more than 14 at 45, Mazr the average woman has 4.1 partners per year (men are 5.2), so if you did the math and started at, let's be prudish and say 18 here ;-), you could have had 110 partners. I nearly shuddered when I typed that, but then remembered the perspective. | |
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