| | Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later?Page 6 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | Popsicleman,
I want to tell you how much I enjoy reading EVERY post you have in this thread. I couldn't put these concepts into better words myself. I've felt this way about a lot of what you have to say, but never could find the words to describe them. I heard from some of my guy friends that girls are "walking contradictions." Their words rarely match their actions. Yet they want to hold guys to standards they can't fulfill themselves. Your perspectives on attraction and sexuality confirm this idea. Another interesting thing I've heard in my short life..... "understanding human nature." If we understand what each other thinks and desires, why wouldn't we do more to create that desire in each other and create a more loving world??Society has brainwashed guys into thinking they can't have what their sexuality desires, but women seem to be entitled to whatever they want...all while NOT being held accountable for ANY of their actions. Instead they would rather find fault in the man for their shortcomings. It seems we live in a society where men are guilty until proven innocent  and girls are innocent until proven guilty.  WHY???
AMEN TO YOU POPSICLEMAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I really hope girls are reading your posts and taking notes. | |
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| Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later?
Posted: 7/7/2006 10:33:46 AM | POPSICLEMAN ROCKS.
The funny thing about some of these threads is that I dont see the Hater females in here...I see them on threads often hahahahhahaha... Be careful what you say guys, man bashing is a culture on POF. | |
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| Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later?
Posted: 7/7/2006 10:49:18 AM | Love is akin to a burning glowing flame that can be seen through the eyes of kindred spirits.
Under favorable condition, guided by pulsating hearts, honest souls and indigenous tested people whom through the passage of relationships have not lost the lessons of should of, would of, and could of’s of pass deeds and broken vows . The prevailing winds of chance encounters can start a soaring infernal fire of all consuming love that only God can extinguish, however the slightest breeze from a less favorable direction can leave you with a whiff of solitude wet smoldering gray smoke.
These chance encounters of searching/seekers of God’s mature brood are time tested individual who have learned thru broken pledges and tearful agonizing nights have set short time goals of meeting compatible fellow passengers on this quest. It is during these voyages that we pass through the Sargasso Sea of individual trials and tribulation we attempt to find that special traveler to yoke with. Although this ritual is a time tested dance, it is only palatable because the gift of love takes the caustic edge out of life.
I also believe that love isn't loving the perfect person, but loving the imperfect person perfectly. | |
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| Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later?
Posted: 7/7/2006 10:52:19 AM | | Best thing to do is not to listen to what they say but watch what they do. Actions speak a lot louder than words. Thats why its never good to get physical until you really know the other person. May sound old fashoined but some things never change.Nobody wants to be used. | |
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| Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later?
Posted: 7/7/2006 11:16:00 AM | | I believe that love will always be present in some way shape or form, BUT i also believe it is possible to love many. You don't have to just love one person. Love can be romantic, Love can me platonic, love can be political, love can be anything you want it to be. And yes people do fall out of love with eachother, it happens everyday. One thing that i do strongly strongly believe in is that the basis of true love is built by a strong friendship. Love can also be mistaken for lust, but that is a process we all will go thru and be able ot figure out for ourselves one day or another. | |
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| Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later?
Posted: 7/7/2006 11:54:13 AM | hi
jillmac,
I think mens realli dumped out u realli hard so that
the three magic words don't affect. I felt quite sorri for that.
But, i think love is more than these three words.
it can't be expressed, it can onli be felt.
Maybe ur possesiveness or the selfishness of those mens
made ur true vision of love unclear.
often people get attracted to the most fanciest,
that ends withits fancy.Then peps cri for it and
ask why to me????????
At last mi words is that be happi and don't look others
to make u happi, just cultivate urself. | |
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| Just a learner to love
Posted: 7/7/2006 11:57:15 AM | hi
jillmac,
I think mens realli dumped out u realli hard so that
the three magic words don't affect. I felt quite sorri for that.
But, i think love is more than these three words.
it can't be expressed, it can onli be felt.
Maybe ur possesiveness or the selfishness of those mens
made ur true vision of love unclear.
often people get attracted to the most fanciest,
that ends with its fancy.Then peps cri for it and
ask why to me????????
At last mi words is that be happi and don't look others
to make u happi, just cultivate urself.
from
ishwor | |
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| Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later?
Posted: 7/7/2006 3:06:04 PM | Given your definitions I can see why you are puzzled.
I think true love can die, or atleast change it's form. We change therefore our feelings do. Sometimes the one we love changes and is a different person. Not the one we once loved. A person may be lying when they tell you they love you, or they may indeed be telling the truth. They might have been in love with you, dumped you because they no longer did. To say true love never dies, is to make it so you will never know when you truly love. You need hindsight for that. If by never, you mean the rest of your life, then you would need to die to know if you truly loved someone..... | |
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| Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later?
Posted: 7/7/2006 9:41:40 PM | quote:Mogrl, Yes men change do their minds and I don't have a problem with them changing their minds about the relationship itself but I do have a problem with them changing their mind about their love.Love is not a switch that you turn on & off.Love is 4ever!Quote
You go girl right on! | |
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| Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later?
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:43:08 PM | | ok seriously!!! women have what we want. why not hold out 4 a good guy?????????? u guys make the rules!!!!!! there are lots of great men out there. this may not be popular to say but u women are choosing these jerks!!!!!!!!! dont go for the flash of the bad boy, find a nice guy and ull see!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 | |
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| Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later?
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:31:55 AM | | My soon to be ex of 10yrs. says he loves me not her, I asked if he ever thinks of me "all the time" he says but will not try to work things out with me. He dont want a divorce but has lived with her for the last 5 months. We were there the perfect couple, friends and family cried when they heard. Now someone explain this to me. | |
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| Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later?
Posted: 6/29/2008 11:13:08 AM | Because my dear, feelings are not an immutable thing, feelings change.
If a man is "afraid" to show his love with his actions... oh surprise, it is maybe he doesn't feel that love...
Why is this so complicated to understand? | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 2:28:13 PM | I read the Last Lecture this last weekend. Randy Pausch wrote ths book about what he thinks & believes- leaving it as a legacy for his children, as he is dying of cancer. His advice to his 18-month daughter whom he will never see grow up is, "just ignore everything they (men) say and only pay attention to what they do." Even at my age- this struck me as some kind of Truth that I had never, in all of my life, realized.
Another Mars-Venus type of issue has to do with the fact that women are internal ^ men are external- if you know what I mean,,, So a woman needs to to FEEL loved to want to make love, whereas a man will feel loved AFTER has has made love... hence, you have a man TELLING you that he loves you- so he can get you to make love with him. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 2:34:00 PM | [you start out with an unrealistic ideal of love, and then after a failed relationship you jump right into foreswearing love ever again]
Love should be an ideal. That's what makes it so special. If you start out with a low opinion of love, what is there in life that could ever make you truly happy? Dearest opinionator.... I sorely disagree with your opinion. Maybe you should name yourself low-self-esteem-inator! lol | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 3:44:55 PM | | I don't know what your talking about,I've always walked the walk& talked the talk and ment what Isaid.I don't understand you ont. women,most of you are picking the wrong men (The bad boys that will treat you bad)& walking right by the good ones,we are not all ugly,i'm not bad looking just don't take pics. too well!LOL!! | |
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| Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump
Posted: 6/29/2008 3:59:46 PM | this is a multi edge sword,I'm afraid to say.
This happens to men as much as it does to women.
I've known males and females who have survived this situation.
We all some how move on to more peaceful water's,
instead of always fighting out a squall.
It's part of the game apparently! | |
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| Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later?
Posted: 6/29/2008 4:37:19 PM | | I still will never understand why guys do this I had a guy recently who told me he loved me more than anything and that he was never so sure of anything in his life as he was the love he felt for me. Then 3 weeks later he left while I was at work, then he called me a week ago and said he didnt tell me it was over he just had a lot going on he needs to deal with. Yea right why cant he deal with these things while we are together sounds like an excuse to me and not a very good one at that. Then I find out he has been married and has never divorced her. I dont know if anyone believes in it or not but I went and had my cards read after he left me and took a picture of him the guy who read my cards didnt even look at the picture and told me everything about my dumper right down to the color of his eyes. He said he did love me and that he was scared of loving someone the way he loves me thats why he ran. But that does not take away the pain. He also said my dumper would be back into my life soon, but so far all he has doneis call a couple of times and then stoped that to. So why do guys dothis can they really turn their feelings off and on like an light switch? I dont know about any one else but I cant, wish I could for the sake of my heart. | |
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