| | POLYGAMY?Page 2 of 12 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12) | | Do you mind me asking what he does for a living, to have so much "extra" money to throw around? | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:14:33 AM | I agree "Out of all the single men on this site You can't find a good Man kind of leaves Me shaking My head......" maybe Im too picky and need more in my life than just lust.
There are some great Men on this site..looking for what could be a wonderful Woman as yourself..You have to believe that.
"Your profile says you are non-religious..what do you think your life will be like as a spiritual wife??" Well Im not sure thats also part of why I vioced this for opinions...
Well I can give You a little glimps of what the future would be like if You go this route of hooking up with a poligimist...............Your Life as You know it will surrender to GOD!!!
how close are you to your family ..you can say good bye to them too..Mother .Father ,Sisters ,Brothers??? | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:16:55 AM | well its not that he has so much money to throw around he helps with what he can n i never ask him for it. if he has extra he helps me. Im not sure "what" he does at work all
I know is where he works n im not gonna post that in here...... | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:18:28 AM | | I understand not wanting to "out" him like that, I was just wondering. Just please be careful and take some time to really think about it. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:18:28 AM | | The only one that would miss me would be my mom but she wouldnt care as long as i was taken cre of........ | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:22:31 AM | | Is this just about being taken care of? | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:27:37 AM | TheGlimmerMan
I'm hanging a warning beacon on this one ladies.....thinks poligimists are real men....yikes.... You're putting words in my mouth. Just like any good "smoking-man" does. It's a seperate statement. Let's analyze :
Real Men = People who don't have time for games.
The Guy in question = Polygamist
But that doesn't mean Real Men = Polygamists
I never said : The Guy in question = Real Man
So you don't have that link to complete the chain.
I may have suggested it, just like you assumed it.
As well, I said "a lot" of men MEAN WHAT THEY SAY.
Just cause this guy MEANT WHAT HE SAID, it doesn't = He doesn't have time for games.
Now that it's all laid out for you, you can CLEARLY see that you're putting words in my mouth. 
Oh and it seems SNUGELKIN took my "advice" not to trust the motives behind every "helping hand" here... 
But don't fret, she's a smart cookie, she'll know what to do.
I understand you're here for opinions, and I gave mine.
Shouldn't have said "Yes" to begin with, but what's done is done.
I really meant it when I said "Good Luck".
Cheers,
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:28:10 AM | | Well yeah thats a part of it ..... but its not like I dont care about him either. I personaly would be happy here in my lil home driving my huge spray painted hoopty. I dont need much in my life. But its not all just that if it were Id just say ok and get it over with. Im scared that if I did it and we never reached that point past deep friends ..... I just dont think I can pass up the oppertunity of finding true love. Ive been married 2 times befor for all the wrong reasons and the second time was totoaly messed up!! I deserver to fall into true love but what if its too late? what if I pass up this oppertunity and never love anyone/ Noone wants to be alone. But then again Ill be alone alot so they way I see it my life probably wouldnt change much except Id get sex every now and then (I think) but hell I could just buy new batteries for that! lol | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:31:51 AM | | Romeo I appriciate your opinions and thanks for the complimet I think Im smart at times but not too smart to get more information into things Im not sure about. Too bad you live so far away Id like to talk to u more you seem intresting. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:35:02 AM | | Before you do it for sex, I say buy some stock in Energizer. There is nothing wrong with being.........self sufficient. It's actually safer and you don't have to put up with any BS, LMAO. If sex is what you are wanting, you don't have to be married for that. Have a friend with benifits if that's what you want. At least then you wouldn't have to worry about paying for another divorce. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:56:33 AM | Too bad you live so far away Id like to talk to u more you seem intresting. If it talks like a duck...  Actually, I'm flattered.
Sure you can "buy batteries", but c'mon, we all know there's more to it than that. Some people need another beating heart and soul close to theirs, and someone to hold/snuggle with now and then. I too "dont need much in my life" SNUGELKIN, but certain things just can't be substituted...
You gotta ask yourself if you're willing to perhaps move to Africa (but good) for this guy (as sweetied30 suggested could be a possibility), but then, ask him what he has planned in store for the future (I know that was redundant, shoot me).
And then, do the same with a lot of other questions you might have (more wives?).
If he's really a straight-forward a guy as he seems he is, he may just give you your answers truthfully.
A tough one would be : "What if I decide I can't marry you, will I have to pay you back for all the money you've given me?" Try that one. His reaction could be all you need to move past this period of ambivalence...
It seems that you already get along with him and his (current) "family", and if you think he'll truly take care of you without abuse, it's always nice having friends around. Picture 5 years down the road, and create any/all scenarios you can think of (more wives?) and then you must ask yourself if you'll truly be happy in those scenarios, sharing him.
It's all in your hands, don't let him push/force you into anything.
I say ask questions.
~ Romeo | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:59:02 AM | Now that it's all laid out for you, you can CLEARLY see that you're putting words in my mouth.
oh romeo oh romeo..let down your hair...putting words in your mouth??I can't do much of that, we can all see you have your foot cramed in it too......and working your way up to your tigh...
SNUGELKIN
good luck | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 1:02:10 AM | | Oh and sweetied30 *looks at above post*, it's been a while, am I right? | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 3:24:49 AM | | Now that's some more of your business!! I was just making a simple statement, don't marry someone for sex, or if sex is what you want get a friend with benefits. How does that say it's "been awhile"? I'm not going to lie hell i'm self sufficient, anyone who says they aren't are FOS, there isn't anything wrong with it. Like I said it's safe and you don't have to put up with any BS. By the way, you know what they say. Never assume, why because it makes an ass of u and me. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:18:59 PM | ^ Yikes! Snippy. I was teasing, lighten up.
Cheers.  | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:22:08 PM | Being in LA, and haunting some of the underworld scenes, I know my share of triad relationships.
They really do not seem to work for the long term.
People (unless exceptionally jaded and cold) tend to do best one on one.
That being said, 4 wives - very hot idea. :) | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 1:08:12 PM | lol polygamy i never would have thought......lol i couldnt imagine handling 4 wives, id be exaushted.
I prefer just "one love". | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 10:04:41 PM | | Well you will all be glad to know I decided to end this befor it was a marrage and way too much for me to handle... | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 10:10:46 PM | | No offense but you sound like a fruitcake. What kind of woman allows some man - her neighbor - pay for her divorce? You sound like a user to me. And it's clear you're actually considering marrying him - despite the fact that he's not a U.S. citizen, despite the fact that he'll be moving back to Africa (and you have a CHILD -where does your CHILD fit into any of this?, despite the fact that he's a polygamist? You haven't written once that you care about him, that you love him - yet you're considering marrying him because he does nice things for you, like pay for things for you, fix things, etc. Put down the crack pipe, seriously. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 10:18:03 PM | I just find it hard to understand the heart in these matters.... There is no "heart" in polygamous matters.............. 
Same scumbag that pays for your divorce? You got some wakin' up to do, dear.
Its about power and control, not love. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 10:19:42 PM | My god, I've been reading this thread since it began, and just sat back, kept my mouth shut...but...let me just say....I'm sooooooo glad you decided it was just a bit to much on your plate!! Happy to hear it!! I was genuinly worried about you Snug.....you're making the right decision!
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Posted: 2/19/2006 10:30:11 PM | well said Roger and elizabeth................... | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 10:37:21 PM | Well, thanks Glimmer....I *almost* couldn't take it anymore.....heh! Snug, you should know that it's very likely that even if you were going to be well taken care of your mom would surely and most certainly miss you so much! And Roger is right, it's ALL about control....scary stuff for sure!
....I'm gonna go dance with the banana.....or is it a pickle......?
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Posted: 2/19/2006 10:39:44 PM | Might be legal where he comes from but HE LIVES HERE....
Squeak
Hey Glimmerman...do you know when my mommy and daddy are gonna come back and get me from this skeery planet?
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Posted: 2/19/2006 10:43:01 PM | | Squeak......that was so effin' funny.......best laugh I've had all day (and I laugh a lot)....LOL! | |
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