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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/8/2006 10:31:35 AM | I went out with a self-described "Enrique Iglesias" look alike...he looked more like Beetlejuice on a good day! The odd thing was that he commented on the phone how he thought it was rediculous when people misrepresented himself. I also don't care for the caveman attitude, although it did go with his looks! | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/8/2006 11:25:35 AM | I have a really hard time taking this internet dating thing seriously. There's just way too room for improvisation. The first time I met someone from here, we had talked quite a bit on the phone and she was really nice, had all the right answers. She said guys tell her she's a "babe" and that she has "a great ass". Those were her exact words and I did'nt ask, she volunteered. So I figured she had to be at least "decent" looking even if she padded her resume a bit. Well when I finally met her I felt completly lied to and I wondered who these guys were that "tell her she's a babe" and as far as that "great ass" went, she had a great big huge ass. Then it's up to me to end the date asap without hurting her feelings after being outright lied to for a week. What did she think was going to happen when we finally met? Talk about setting yourself up for rejection, join me on a reality break! And after all that she thought we were going to skip off into the sunset together or something. Bottom line is, the more you're going to "lie" "pad" whatever you want to call it the more rejection you should expect. You're setting yourself up for a lot of pain. | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/8/2006 11:37:24 AM | Hmmm...Let me just say that the people that I HAVE met - men and women - have pretty much either looked like their picture or better than. I know I don't photograph well so anyone getting a person to person look would think 'better' as opposed to 'worse'. I don't see the point in lying if you know you are going to eventually meet these people...that's just ummm oh yeah...STUPID!!
Honestly, when I read some of these stories, I have to laugh - do people really air brush their pictures and/or post 20 year old pics? I'm going to have to watch for those I guess lol Ahhhhh the entertainment of online dating - what a rush!! | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/8/2006 11:41:24 AM | | Sparklin, I agree with you...everyone I've met from online has looked like their pictures and been the same in person as they were in email and on the phone. Maybe we just tend to take our time about who we meet and are a bit more discriminant than some. I know some people who meet 5 different people from online *every* week...besides not knowing how one has the time to do that, I can't imagine finding that many on any site that I'd want to meet in the first place, lol. | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/8/2006 11:53:02 AM | When I was still looking I always put the exact DATES of the pictures that were on the profile and never had one up that was more than six months old. Now that I have a bf I've only left the head shot, but it's from July 31, 2006.
It's not a great pic because I took it myself. If I was looking to date, I'd get some better ones taken.
However, I'd rather be truthful and look like my pic than have someone not recognize me when they see me!
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/9/2006 2:59:17 PM | | I usually tell the guy that I'm fat and ugly but they never seem to believe me. Then, when they meet me in real life they tell me I led them on. My pics are recent, not airbrushed, etc. Go figure. | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/16/2006 9:04:41 PM | | Nope....I don't go out of my way to meet men online. If we click, I take it with a grain of salt and meet him in public, with the emphasis on " platonic friendship " upon meeting, so I won't be dissapointed. | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/16/2006 9:11:47 PM | | women do the same s hit quit crying and move on....we all have issues or we wouldnt be here..we would all have our lil perfect scenario..picket fence..yadda yadda yadda....face the f ucking facts and quit looking for validation on a forum....oh and why am I here you might ask? cuz zthis is much more humorous then watching seinfeld re runs on TV thats why...BYE | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/16/2006 9:16:50 PM | | one last comment..women are every bit the lying, cheating, deceitful whores that men are...and yah that is a general statement...based upon my experience....so it is simple FACT to me and within the crucible of what my life is...and from what I have heard it seems perception is not that far from reality...so ladies and gents.......accept that profiles are profiles....ever seen one that says hey I am 5feet tall I have a 2 inch penis I am bald, fat, moody an azzhole and insensitive and oh by the way I am broke.....please feel free to message me...LMAO....whatever....people just be honest..... | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/16/2006 9:52:05 PM | Funny how it sems to be a majority of women replying..
Guys go through the same thing.
i have rarely met someone who looks like their pic... but it doesnt stop me.. there are those with whom Ive had a pleasureable experience and gained great friends...
But then.. Im a fairly easy person to talk to... So I try to make light of it all, and since Im out already... I might as well enjoy myself... but at the end of the evening make it clear Im not interested in pursuing a romantic endeavour.
Perhaps this partly the reason people get the disappearing act. If you were what you projected.. you would have someone bolt on you... because not a single person has ever done that to me... thank my lucky stars.! (Of course i dont mean the OP)
I think its the online phenom.... people can sit and pose forever... just to get that one shot.. we've all done it... and may still do it... we have a fleeting moment to get an attraction amidst the thousands that use this site.
Does it suck... yea.... but its part of the process.
I treat it all like a myriad of blind dates.
You never know what you're going to get. | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/16/2006 10:27:35 PM | | man i have had worse experiances.......i met some real winners on this site...a few didnt even finish high school it seems........and trust me pictures hide tons of things.....people with pics are half the time full of bs .... | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/17/2006 1:22:32 AM | I've met two women from this site and a few from the "pay sites"
some time ago and I've not had the bad experiences desribed here.
All of the women I've met looked like their pics and were gernerally "nice"
even if a couple of them did "show a darker side" later on.
I do make it pretty clear though, that lying is a deal-breaker for me. | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/17/2006 1:51:35 AM | OK,
So what exactly made this guy a 10 before you met him? He looked hot??
If he is truly as stupid and dim-witted as you make him out to be then would not some of this been revealed in the content of the messages the two of you sent back and forth, or via your phone conversations???
Were you so blinded by his good looks that you let it all slip by?
...and guys are shallow..... | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/17/2006 2:30:59 AM | I always ask for more pictures before even contemplating meeting a guy off the t'internet
I've had so many bad experiences with fakes/liars that I have to be on my guard
I once had a guy turn up who was at least 4stone heavier than his picture suggested and another guy was the spitting image of Fred Elliott............I say Fred Elliott
Funny now but not at the time  | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 12/17/2006 2:35:00 AM | I totally agree that it is part of the process...I think part of the problem with the internet is you have to opportunity to project who you really are inwardly, and then add an exterior of whom you would like to be. Everyone would love to be slim, attractive, intelligent and sought after on these sites but that is not always the reality.
However, the problem is that people connect and become attracted to the first part, the inner self of the projection, they genuinely have a good time talking and getting to know one another, then when they meet and the outward exterior does not match the ideal that is in ones mind due to innaccurate pictures the whole thing comes spiralling down. People are so afraid of rejection, and have such a desire to be desired that one can convince ones self that 80 extra pounds is only a few...10 extra years are only a couple, etc. because inwardly that is who they are. The worst part of all that is they set themselves up for huge letdowns.
It is possible to be very attracted to someones mind, their sense of humour, their sensitivity to the world, those moments that you find in common and laugh about and become comfortable with. One thinks "wow" this person is awesome, we have everything in common, we want the same things from life, have the same beliefs, I feel so good about this..and in the long run isnt' that what is really important? Then the "looks" factor is thrown into the equation and suddenly those moments of warm happy feel good feelings are out the window.
We as a society have become so set in the idea that one must be trim and young and model like in both sexes that we miss out on so much by being turned off or uncomfortable by someones looks. If people were more into really having fun with someone you connected with on a "real" level and the looks were not so important, I am sure there would be a whole lot less of these missleading adventures. People would be happier and more secure in themselves and not afraid to let it all hang out there, because ultimately it's what is inside that counts. Alas, I am afraid that will never be the case as we always learn that lesson far too late and in the process miss out on so much.
STrickly my opinion...but had to throw in my 2 pennies..
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 1/6/2007 12:52:44 AM | a lot of guys think i'm pushy cause i expect to meet both our earliest convenience ( as opposed to email/ talking on the phone ) i will talk to someone for a few minutes / get a feel for them....but if theyre not up for a meeting after that forget it  { SEE YA } I dont mean we have to meet the next day, but we should arrange a meeting w/in the first phone conversation { which is usually quite brief } I, too have invested valuable time and energies "getting to know" guys on the phone, and theyre NEVER like they say they are, ANYways so WTF 
my best advice is push for a meeting as soon as MUTUALLY convenient, and dont listen to someone who gives excuses or wants to email / phone chat excessively in order to "get to know you"
just my 2 cents, yall.
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 1/6/2007 6:04:35 AM | We have to think that way, you women expect us to pay for everything! Can't go out on a $100 date every weekend ya know! (at least I can't)
But I agree, so many ppl lie on these sites, it's very frustrating!
WELL, not ALL women. I always offer to pay my share and or leave the tip. That is if we meet for coffee/lunch/b'fast/dinner, or whatever. I won't even go on a date if I don't have the cash to spend.
Personally, I prefer a first date who is creative and doesn't spend a whole lot of money. First of all because I live on a "low budget" and can't afford it myself, second of all becuase I like a guy who can be creative in his thinking. I like to meet for coffe or over a drink then if that's going well, we walk around window shopping and talking, or the art museum, a sporting event ... something like that.
So ...speaking for myself, not ALL women want to be expensively wined and dined, to me it's much more important that we are comfortable and allowed to be ourselves. | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 1/6/2007 6:32:35 AM | | i think of all the guys out here, I've had 2 that have lied about their appearance to me. One was DEFINITELY not 'athletic'--but, I did stick it out and spent about an hour with him..and the other one was far from the 6ft tall guy he claimed to be--he was ALMOST the same height as me, and he was wearing a big puffy white jacket when he met that made me wanna burst out in laughter when I saw him, he just looked like a giant marshmallow standing waiting for me. We had a nice night, but there was obviously not going to be a 2nd date. | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 1/6/2007 1:20:21 PM | The moral of this thread is that too many people spend way too much time on the internet/phone chat part of this dating scheme. So many seem to think that if they email with someone for a few weeks, they are "learning" more about them. It is obvious from all the examples already stated that this is, more often than not, completely false.
Bottom line is, you are only going to find out what the person is REALLY like when you physically meet them. After a few emails, maybe a few phone calls, you should have an idea if this is someone who might be worth getting to know. At that point, get off your butt and meet at a Starbucks or something. If people on here are serious about wanting to meet someone, it completely mystifies me why they wouldn't want to do it this way. | |
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| hot guy when met in real life was anything but sexy
Posted: 1/6/2007 1:23:37 PM | But thats just it. alot dont. They want to take their sweet time talking and chatting to make sure the guy isnt a creepy,stalker, physco, killer.
These are the same women that say I dont know anything about you till I meet you in person.. So what gives ladies??? | |
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