| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 6/25/2006 4:55:13 PM | | Have to agree with Scottish Bluebell, I am best friends with my X always will be. Was not easy at first and was something that we both worked on and our maturity and experience has taught us life goes on regardless, and it's up to us to put differences aside and be happy for each other no matter what the future holds........ | |
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 6/26/2006 5:44:28 AM | | well i have not managed it yet, every time i try to be friends with my x she thinks i want to get back with her. i clearly tell the poor lass i just want to be friends. im in iraq at the moment and its not going to bad she writes but still im worried incase she starts it all up again. | |
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 6/26/2006 5:54:38 AM | | I had the same problem Stu, my ex also thought if I tried to be friends , there had to be an alterior motive.. So I just ceased contact with her, but I think its only with recent ex,s that this problem arises as I,m good friends with all my other ex,s ...In fact my sons mum an ex from 16 years ago is one of my best mates and always will be.. | |
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 6/26/2006 6:14:25 AM | hmmm, difficult, im on speaking turns with the lil ladys dad, but thats more bcos i have too, as with freinds with other ex's , have been but lost touch through time, theres one that still hovers round though, his remained freinds with my mum and always asking me out for dinner, he ended it cos his a guy with a 'big' head! ,lol, ive come along way, whats past is past and i cant be a***d with peops who are up themselves. | |
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 6/26/2006 6:26:32 AM | I'm still friendly with a couple of my ex's.
My ex husband and I are great mates. We stopped being romantic (and sexual) when our marriage ended fourteen years ago, but continued to be friends and, more importantly, parents.
I like his new partner, and their daughter, we are always together at Christmas and on our daughters birthday. I babysit for his daughter - she's almost like a granddaughter to me!
So, the answer to your original question is YES! | |
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 6/26/2006 6:30:36 AM | | I'm on speaking terms with my daughter's dad, but i wouldn't really class him as one of my friends.But I do think it is important to at least try when there are children involved. | |
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 6/26/2006 7:30:17 AM |
I had the same problem Stu, my ex also thought if I tried to be friends , there had to be an alterior motive.. So I just ceased contact with her, but I think its only with recent ex,s that this problem arises as I,m good friends with all my other ex,s ...In fact my sons mum an ex from 16 years ago is one of my best mates and always will be..
cheers, well im away at the moment and im worried when i got back she has not moved on because ive been writing to her, ive explained it all to her. i told her i want to see her happy and move on but she wont listen to me. she has seen me with other girls since we split and she had a fella but when we started to write she split up with him because she thought there was a chance of us getting back together.
is it just women or are us men the same too?????? | |
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 6/26/2006 8:42:08 AM | I have only done it once and that was my first love from when I was 16, so it probably doesn't even count! We got back together for a few months a couple of years ago and that was closure. I learned quickly that the reasons we didn't stay together before were still just as much there as ever. We are still friends now and have an occasional cuppa together if he's in town. We get on really well now as mates and we know each other well enough to be completely honest about stuff. He knows if I'm lying about something or if I'm hurt. He always could read me like a book and it's nice to have someone like that in your life.
I couldn't be friends with my ex after 5 years together, but thats just because I grew to really dislike his personality! I would be pleasant and civil if I saw him, but not friends. | |
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Enryk
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Joined: 12/15/2005
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 6/26/2006 4:32:36 PM | | Few of them I kept as a good friend, others they could not take it. Some I could not take it depends on the relationships when we parted, whether we were angry or amicably ended our relationship | |
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 6/26/2006 7:04:21 PM | Yeah you can still be friends with ex's. Im good friends will all my ex's, we dont live in each others pockets but we still get along and meet up every now and again.
But on the other hand, the girl i split up with about a week ago, we are best friends now and see each other almost every day, we get along really well and are very much on the same wave length and have alot in common and enjoy the same things, only problem is, we're still ****ing! we both still really fancy each other and just can't resist each other when we're left alone in the same room. Im still not sure why we split up because not much has changed. she has met this new guy and she has never cheated on a partner before..until now.
Sooner or later we will both move on but i know at the end of the day we're still going to be good friends for a long time to come...and i still love her and care for her, no matter what.
...sorry if that got a bit deep, thought i might aswel let it all out!  | |
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 7/25/2006 2:03:35 PM | Yes.......................
I have my Ex fiance coming down from Liverpool area next weekend to bring his kids down to see me for the weekend!!!
I'm soooooooooooo looking forward to it...I have missed the kids soooo much!!
Me and Andy has stayed mates.. as it was an amicable break up...  | |
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 7/25/2006 5:26:59 PM | "I AGREE..WHEN ITS OVER ITS OVER..IF YOU STAY FRIENDS WITH AN -EX...WELL: THE RELATIONSHIP ISNT OVER!"
Wrong, Hams. My ex and I are the best of friends. We have a daughter. We were in love once. We had our differences and split. We now get on brilliant. There is no trace of wanting to get back together on either side. We are both grown ups and get on - just as it should be. | |
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 7/25/2006 6:29:49 PM | Yes, it happens, when its done its done, got to know them always 1st as mates, balance tilted to relationship, then shifted again back to buds through time or differing values/lifestyles, lines of communication stay open at all times, with 2 because we are always doing what's best for the kids involved and still there for each other without the need for velcro genitals, also with a couple more ex's 'cos they are decent men, same deal. I'm not really in daily communication with any of them nor to i speak to any of my close female friends on a 'checkin-in' basis, I empathise when required for good, bad or indifferent knowing its always a two way street, they are there for me in the same way.
No probs with platonic.
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caiatw
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Joined: 1/16/2006
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| can people really remain platonic friends with x's
Posted: 7/26/2006 3:00:38 AM | Yes. It took a bit of work, but I'm friends with two of my ex girlfriends and ex partner. Actually, we are probably better friends now than we were. I know that sounds like a cliche, but its true.
I suppose I get a bit too protective of them sometimes when they are in other relationships, but I think they like that.
I like being with them because we can be really tactile with each other without having to worry about the "sex thing" and also I think that I can really see them now and appreciate their support and friendship.
I don't think I'm made to be with one woman in the traditional sense. | |
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