| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 2/11/2007 4:56:10 PM | Ok I think there may be something to this. My profile 'had' mentioned my status as a single father and I noticed lots of viewing but no real contact; nothing that has lead anywhere at least. In fact one was fairly blunt, even tho' nothing was said to the effect, I feel that there may have been some influence from the fact. Now I say I 'had' reflected in my profile my status as a single father of a 16 year old girl; (( real touchy age there to start with) believe me I know what she can be like sometimes)) meaning I have just removed the part about that, and have decided that maybe it would be best left to discussing with a person after they decide how they feel towards me. Not hiding the fact, just saving it for the right moment. I uinderstand in my years that not everyone does kids. But when an attraction is felt for someone and there reall yis something there worth having . It should not matter. I know my daughter is a great kid and like all kids , she does not want her dad to be hurt so there is always that initiation ( for a lack of better words) phase when her dad brings a new person to share his life. and along with that can come a phase of distrust, that this new girl might take Dad away from her, and not just physically but mentally. Where Dad is not paying attention to her because he likes "Jane" ( just for the argument, no reflection.) better. I can see this a being a conflict of the heart for a woman. Kind of an Alpha female thing that would develop between a girlchild and new woman. So for all the women out there, its not you personally, its more the idea of you that comes into play in these circumstances. But if you are dedicated to getting this person as a life mate then acceptance and reason is the answer. Become her or his friend too. Some times thats all thats needed is to make 2 friends If you catch my drift. Thank you for listening. Will
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 2/11/2007 6:12:31 PM | | I am with all you single dad out there. I have 2 daughters living with me and I have a very hard time finding a date. I might have figured it out by the way I have been rated but I just wanted to say I know what you mean. I hope the best to you!! | |
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Posted: 2/11/2007 6:25:02 PM | | I dont think being a single dad is a problem at all. I have FULL TIME CUSTODY of my 2 kids since my son was 3 yrs old and my daughter was 6 months (My son is now 9). I have had no problem dating. Take control of your life and get out there. There are alot of inequalities for single dads but we have no reason to complain at all, single moms are screwed, especially if the kid is of mixed heritage. There is no advantage whatsoever for a man to be married! The sex usually wanes, and if it doesnt, then it is with the same woman for years. And you do not have to spend any money on someone else. Read nomarriagedotcom. I travelled to Odessa a year ago and had great sex with gorgeous young girls waaay younger than I was. And I currently date girls here that are 10 years younger than me! And they love my kids. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and grab the bull by the horns dude! YEEHAWWW! :) | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 2/11/2007 7:43:00 PM | I hear ya man, ive been single for over 2 years and since i have my 2 sons living with me fulltime its hard for me to get out and meet people.
And for some reason i dont get any messages from any women on here, ok maybe like 1 or 2 a year. And i dont understand why
All we can do is hope that there is hapiness for us in the future, and pray that mrs. right finds us | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 2/11/2007 10:36:40 PM | im a single parent, it is hard to find a female that would even consider going out, they say most of the time, in most cases, that im not thier type, wonder if it is me or the fact i have a child....
Believe the women. You are not their type. Having a child may be a secondary factor. Smart, good looking, athletic guys that are 6'4" and and successful have gals falling all over them and it matters little if they are single dads.
"It's true: Women prefer the tall guys" By Tim Friend, USA TODAY
Does size matter? Studies show that women favor taller men...
Female humans appear to be no different from any other species of animal when it comes to mate selection. Size - in this case height - counts.
That women prefer taller men is nothing new. Short guys, unless they're rich, powerful or famous, have come by this knowledge the hard way. And women all over the world openly profess desires for height in personal ads.
Is that fair? This is what one short man said:
Women...men the world over know very well that discriminating against "BBW," "cuddly," "curvy," "fat," "heavy," or, chuckle, "voluptuous" women in favor of "athletic," "fit," "modeleqsue," "skinny," or "thin" women is generally considered shallow, juvenile, and mean.
Men are chastised by women for openly admitting that we prefer women who aren't overweight. As a result, we are called shallow. We are called juvenile. We are called immature. We are called insensitive. We are called picky. We are called mean: all for prefering that the women in our lives take pride in their bodies, and control their weight.
But let's apply the same logic to height, and talk about women's expectations for men. No human can control their height once their growth spurts have ended. Yet, women have the she-cojones to require (or prefer) that the men who answer their posts be tall. So why are MEN chastised for our preferences, while WOMEN are not for theirs? Most of us can control our weight (and when I say most, that's a modest assessment...MOST of us can get out of bed, off the couch, or offline and get our asses to the gym). But NONE of us can control our height.
Simply put, the fact that many women openly require, or even prefer tall men over short men while they, at the same time, denounce and discourage men who prefer women who aren't overweight is simply a double-standard, and illogical.
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 2/12/2007 12:56:51 PM | | i think you for staying around for them . im a single mom an it is hard on me also most men want a woman with on kids . so they dont have to deal with them . me myself i want a man with kids an one that is in their lives more than 2 weekend a month someone that trys to have their kids as much as they can an if mom dont let him that is diff. i love kids an would do for his as i do for my own | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 8/23/2007 12:36:04 AM |  what do i think.?.... ha well congratulations on being a guy in this kind of world and actually taking care of your responsibilities. honestly i know you might be thinking to yourself, ha shes only 18 but what does she know.... well, for instance, ive been taking care of my oldest sisters daughter for about 7 years and no in not kidding. so i know how you feel about that whole thing. so imn my opinion, good job, and i respect you for the fact that even though the mother doesnt want to take responsibility, im glad that you do. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2007 1:32:23 AM | | I agree, finding the time to just meet someone is a challenge. But it is very rewarding. I am much closer to the kids now. I used to think putting in big hours to be a good bread-winner was the best way to help the family. But I think completely differently now. All those extra hours were stolen from the family. Now my priorities have been turned upside down. I value time with the kids over working. So I have tailored my working day around school drop-offs and pick-ups. Last year I relied on Mum to do school pickups, and I did the pre-school pickups in my lunch hour. My little one still needs to attend day-care but the other ones seem to be doing really well in school, so I must be doing something right. At least I am instilling a good work ethic in the kid’s minds by doing what I do. The domestic stuff was a challenge for a slob like me, but I have it down pat now. It helps to stop feeling sorry for yourself, and carpe diem. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2007 5:15:36 AM | | First off. Its nice to know that there are a lot moe of us Single dads out there then I thought I know it Fla its rare. I got full custody about 7 months ago and it was a long hard fight. and to be honest I have put all my focus on him and I have had a few very nice women come along but I am unable to put what they want in the relationship ( anther topic) becasue I have been putting all i have into my son and makeing sure all is well with him he has had many adjustments this past year and has been though hell so I have put my life on hold ( I AM NOT COMPLAINING not one bit I would not trade him for anything) to make sure his is headed in the right direction. So its refereshing to see all you other singe fathers out there. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2007 6:19:55 AM | | you know i think single dads deserve as much credit as single mothers and sometimes even more..like another poster said..they're so rare, esp. when most of todays generation prefer not to take any kind of responsibility..as for dating them i can hardly discriminate against one single parent when i am one myself lol..and if i find a guy who comes with a kid..its even better..it means having a playmate for my son!! | |
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Posted: 8/23/2007 6:25:24 AM | | Have to say im a big fan of single dads i have a 2 yr old little boy who i pretty much have all the time other than 1 wekend a month so single dads to me are a godsend that i dont ahve to spend ages felnig embarrassed saying i cant get a babysitter or i have to be back by 11 so i can get home to my boy its nice to know that they understand and its always good to know that the person ur with obv likes kids | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 8/23/2007 7:36:42 AM | | I was married for 7 years before we separted. 2 weeks after separting my then 10 year old daughter came to live with me. Now mom wants to fight me for joint custody when I've been raising her on my own for more than 2 years. I even had to go and file for child support just to get some help from her. my daughter is now 12 and is starting to think mom is the "fun" parent when she sees her 1 or 2 times a month, and I'm just everyday dad. I feel like I'm loosing her. Any advice out there? | |
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Posted: 8/23/2007 9:05:03 AM | I think it takes a stronge person to go for what he or she wants.. And to know that there are a lot of guys out there who go for custody or happen to have there ex's just leave and not take the kids and they will do everything in there power to make things work and raise there kids with love and devotion.
I think it says a lot of guys when u meet them and they tell u there are a dad 100% or 50%. I know that there are a lot of guys now not letting the courts tell them they can't be the one to raise there kids..Or go for 50%/50%...I believe that we all should think about our kids and not continue the hurt.. My son sees his dad everyday and would do anything to spend time with him and provide for him but i know not all situations are the same.. We've become good friend because of our son and know that just because things didn't work that the kid shouldn't suffer.. There's enough people suffer .Why make your kids suffer.
I say god for single dads for going and raising there kids and enjoying every part of it..If women are not into u them they can't see how devoted you are to everything and u don't need to worry about it.. That special person will see the true you and everything will work out for u all..  to single dads all over the world. This single mom thinks u are awesome and i know there 's are a lot of women out there who think the same.
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Posted: 8/23/2007 9:18:54 PM |
You know what pisses me off though, is men and women who have their kids one weekend every 2 weeks or so and call themselves single parents. Until you know what its like on an ongoing daily basis you have no right to lump yourself into the same category as the rest of us. Its insulting.
This statement is actually pretty upsetting. I for example am a SINGLE parent who gets his kids on the weekends. Not because I choose that, because I'm forced to do that. My children lived with me and their mother for the first 9 and 4 years of their life and suddenly I am allowed "parenting time" on the weekends for the past year and a half. I am active with what goes on in their everyday lives, school, sports, or any other activities they are in. I speak to them a couple times a week over the phone, the only thing I do not do is see them daily, make them dinner, and put them to bed during the week. What category does this put me in? | |
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Posted: 8/24/2007 5:53:47 AM | | I have so much respect for single parents, it's tough enough to raise them with 2 parents. I guess that there have been so many horror stories about trying to fit into a preexisting family....feeling like the outsider, being judged by the biological parent, not to mention the issues with discipline...ect. Then there are those who don't want to start over raising children. Women especially are very territorial over there children so now you have the ex-wife down your throat. Any way hats off to all you single Dads, keep up the good work. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2007 2:52:44 PM | | I am a single dad of two I have a daughter 6 and a son 4 and I find it really hard to find a woman that will except us. I am a fun loving guy. I love taking my kids to the park and to the beach. I have dated a couple of I would say girls because one broke up with me by sending me a text message and the other is afraid of commitmemt. I know I am not perfect and I don't have a lot of money but I have a lot of love and affection. Most of the time I get treated like a door mat women only come around when they need something. Please help me understand why women treat the good ones so bad. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2007 3:22:05 PM | I have nothing against single dads..my ex hubby was one when we met. He had three children he raised on his own, and i had my three i raised on my own.
It does take a special lady to be a part of that unique family you have built, but they are out there..don't give up hope | |
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Posted: 11/1/2007 7:05:03 PM | Single father of 2 here myself, so I know how you feel mate.
I find it funny that even in todays advancements in womens-lib and equal rights that the guy is still expected to pay for everything (in most cases). I'll admit it does feel good to be able to treat someone to dinner every now and then but if they offer to pay half I usually suggest that they can grab the next one, ( a subtle way of trying to schedule another date) but 9 times out of 10 you never hear from them again.
Can't win for trying I guess.
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 11/1/2007 8:14:43 PM | | I'm a single dad, I raised them on my own. I've never had any problems getting dates because of them. In fact, it was an advantage for me. But in any case, women that dont' date you because of your kids, they don't deserve you anyway. | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 11/2/2007 4:00:27 AM | Depends on the single dad. If he's as involved as he can be, then I think he'd be someone I'd wish to date.
However, there are people I've met/chatted with who claim the "single dad" title who don't deserve it. I was chatting with someone the other night who was a "single dad". He was smart, funny, attractive and the first person I was interested in from here in a while. We got around to the ages of our children. He said that his daughter was 4 or 5.. maybe 6.
Obviously I found it a little strange, asked him why he didn't know for sure and then he told me that his ex "wouldn't let him see the kid". I asked how often he's tried and he said he hasn't in a while because every time he tries she says no. I informed him of his rights at family court and he said he wouldn't go the courtroom because "if welfare finds out, [he's] on the hook for child support".
One of his profile pics showed him standing next to his brand new truck.... my stomach turned and my attraction to him went to zero. Actually, the idea of talking to him any more sort of made my stomach turn.
So to all the TRUE single fathers out there, keep looking. Being an active parent is a great trait for those of us looking for good men. :) | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 11/2/2007 4:05:52 AM | | i think women do find it intimidating. i think especially as i have met people who seemn jealous of the fact my kids arnt theirs. bizarre. best thing to do is date sumone in your boat? maybee? | |
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