| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 4/28/2006 12:39:24 AM | hey there,when I see a guy with his children single or not,it warms my heart! as a single mom I do under stand all too well I have 3 kids that are my world but some guys think that I am looking to find a daddy for my kids(which I am not) its hard for some people to under stand that they will have to kinda take a back burner to your children!
Keep your chin up, there is some one that will under stand,I commend you totally!! | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 4/28/2006 6:01:46 PM | I to am a single dad and raised 3 kids. 2 have left home and the other is with me who has a slight disability. Its been a struggle and a lot of heartache but im through the other side for now. I believe all women need a medal for their efforts in raising children. I also find it very hard to get into a relationship as the most ive dated have run for the hills. Not only is this a problem but i have also found being short, 5'4", women dont want short guys. They want tall masculine guys i guess for protection and security. Us short guys can also do that. So being a single dad has its ups and downs, well for me anyway. I wish all of us (single dads all the luck in the world.  | |
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Posted: 4/30/2006 6:39:45 PM | | I think that a single dad is the greatest thing there is. For he is doing what a father is suppose to do. That is of course take care of his kids. Finding a single dad is rare and one that really does care for his kids and how they are being taken care of. I know guys that are rasining their kids for the moms didn't want to be a mom before and they have had a struggle. But if you ask them they wouldn't give it up for anything. I admire men who do that. Well for all the men who are single dads and are setting the right example for their sons, brothers or any other males. My applause to you. Liz | |
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Posted: 4/30/2006 7:26:55 PM | | i am a single father of three ....1boy and 2girls....my boy is 6 and my girls are 9 and11 i am 39years old my kids havent seen or heard from there mother in over 5 years ...i find that most women my age are not intrested in a man my age that have children as young as mine... my kids are my whole world and if women cant understand that i have children then thats ok becouse .i love my children ...so remember if you have children then you have all the love you will ever need ...dont get me wrong ...but if the right women come along i would date her but i cant ever see that happening .....kids first women later ...good luck to you and your son ......jeferey | |
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Posted: 5/1/2006 7:06:29 AM | | I think single parents that put their children first before a relationship are all wonderful. I have seen many a single mom, not just focusing on them, but they have a revolving door when it comes to men. Everything comes before the kids. Single dad on the other hand, I find more to be focused on their kids .......except my ex........but that is why he is the ex. Hats off to all parents that realize the gift that children are, despite the torrment that they may put us through........ha ha. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2006 7:36:01 AM | I think single dads speak volumes! I give you all credit for stepping up, and doing what is best for you child(ren). I think it is better showing people that you take responsiblities, rathen then walking away.
on a side note, i have a difficult time with parents on this site who post pics of their kids, it makes me turn the other way, to me, posting pics of your kids is not the most responsible thing, as you never really know who all is on here! Better safe then sorry. I know you are proud of your kids, but you can maybe show a pic of them to someone once you start talking a little more??
But the end result is, if you are a single parent, then you have courage, strength, and values. Your child will learn all of these traits from you, I give you full credit for taking care of your child. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2006 8:21:22 AM | Hello to all... first time poster here. I would just like to give my take on this issue. As a parent that does not live with my children but see's and is involved with my kids on a daily basis plus the every other weekend deal, I too have had past experiences of woman that accept the fact that i have kids at first but once they see that my kids come before EVERYTHING else and always will, they don't seem to like it as much as they said they would. I think kids are a blessing and as much as I would love to have that special someone in my life, it is very hard to find the right woman to accept you and your children for the long haul.So with that being said, weather your a single dad or a dad that's is totally involved with his kids, I would have to say that it is really hard sometimes to meet someone meaningful, not to mention once you think you have found someone special and let them be involved with your kids(which by the way takes a while in my case), the kids to get attached to the woman you are dating and when it doesn't work, your kids get hurt as well as you do. Sometimes I think that it is easier to just stay single for my kids sake as far as their feeling are concerned.
Anyways, that's just how i feel.
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Posted: 5/1/2006 9:11:20 AM | I am beginning to think along the same lines as London guy from a woman's perspective. I date only when my children are gone to their Dad's and I have introduced 3 men to my children but that is only after many many months after we have met as a couple. I don't have sleepovers with my children around and as far as they know I don't have a social life. So.............I will continue on my merry way, involved with my kids and if someone should by chance pop into my life then I guess I might be ahead of the single game. But until that time I will remain single and honestly loving it........ | |
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Posted: 5/1/2006 9:15:26 AM | I may be more inclined to trust a single dad with my kids than a man who never had kids.
I have three young childern who live with me full time (despite the custody agreement) and with work and time contraints and having to get a sitter, I find it almost impossible to get a date. Even here.. a free web site, I can't get past the chat.
I would guess you'd have better luck with a woman who already HAS kids who understands the issues that go along with dating a single parent. For those who do not have children yet, it's a different world with different priorities and daily issues.
Give it time.. you'll find the right one for you and your child.  | |
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Posted: 5/1/2006 6:03:35 PM | | I know just what you are talking about. I have 4 kids 3 of them custody of. there mom did not have time to do alot with them until she got pregant agin and could not work ( she 34 he is 21 whats with that ladies?) carries them on her foodstamps now. well enough of tha. I find it hard to meet ladies when they find out i have 4 kids they seem to run. and this is dating stuff is hard you never know what to say or say on a profile about your self. i am always honest and let them know about my children. i think they need to know i am a package deal, and i understand that about them if they have kids (i have decided to try to only date those with kids hoping they are more understanding) i do not belive in the whole "STEP"kids thing. If you love somebody them you have to love their kids. That makes them yours and your resonsibility too. if i meet somebody and i have 4 kids and they have 3 kids that means if ask i would say i have 7 children. i am talking a long term marriage type of relationship. i do not mean this as a put down to the other parent or a replacement of them just that it is a package deal and don't enter it if you can't handle the responsibility. the kids donot need to see or go through that. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2006 6:15:59 PM | Yes ladies single dad do it all , aren't most of you ladies look for a caring,loving,understanding man that can look after himself and others. I to have found the same thing women like single dad but they don't really wont to date them. Not sure why till later take care stay safe be happy Howie | |
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Posted: 5/1/2006 6:39:28 PM | | you know what? dont let all of those selfish women obscure your view on real women. myself,being divorced and a mom of two girls,i would love to meet a good father and a man who loves children. we arent all bad,i promise.you will have luck when the time and woman is right.i promise.good luck,amy | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 5/1/2006 6:42:33 PM | i too am a single dad .. i agree with the above .. people come on and say what type of person you are blah blah blah... they need to take 5 seconds and read bio's . every woman says they want honest truthfulness funny etc. well let me tell all the ladies one thing you need alot more qualities than most of you are looking for to be a father .. so i'm with the guys ... get out there and hunt down those "DADS" most of us are looking for great companionship and friendship and to get a little social life outside of our childern.. i love mine to death (boys2 and 5) but i need some grown ups in there somewhere or i'll turn yellow and square and start spinning webs out of my hands
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Posted: 5/1/2006 7:33:59 PM | I would love to find a single dad because they would understand all the hardships of being a single parent. I am a single mom of 2 girls that are my life blood, but it would be nice to actually be able to have an adult conversasion once in awhile. So i would like to bow, applaude, and take my hat off(if I only wore one) to any and all single dads that includes the ones that take an active roll in their kidses lives. You have earned and deserve the name DAD.
Congrads,
Davida | |
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Posted: 5/1/2006 8:17:17 PM | I wish you didn't live all the way in California. Maybe we coulda' met each other. Good Luck, and God Bless you and your son! | |
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Posted: 5/2/2006 9:19:35 AM | | When I see a single Dad who loves his kid's and show's them that he will ALWAYS be there for them with that unconditional Love----I see what a REAL MAN is...I dated a man that was a full-time Dad to his daughter, she was like my 2nd child...She's grown now & has a daughter of her own...I still love her and have more respect for that man than anyman I ever dated...Any woman that is worthy of a 2nd glance would know that when she find's a good Father, then she has found a very GOOD MAN....... | |
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Posted: 5/2/2006 11:42:53 AM | it actualy does not bother me if a guy is a single parent or not... a lot of people find themselves in that sittuation....including myself....it would not put me of dating a guy.... and i think if you enjoy that persons company then the kids come along with that..you work it out | |
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Posted: 5/7/2006 12:50:07 PM | Well Ive been raising my 2 , 6 1/2 years on my own now, and the kids are the light of my life, but they are also an atom bomb to a social life. My time is eaten by work, and then the kids, friends, and family concerns, then after they are in bed, I can spend 1-2 hours chasing a social life, if I can stay awake!.
I think most women want/desire/need more time than I can give them, its pretty hard to invest in a relationship when every second is booked by obligation and responsibility,(always something that needs to be done, hats off to the unsung heroes, the single moms!!).
They lost thier mom, and would bond in an instant to almost any female figure, and that can be pretty intimidating to a date, so I am loathe to introduce the kids, should it not work out, it would only re-inforce thier (the kids) loss. So I have them, but must keep them seperate from dating. Though in the long run, she isn't just dating me, but them as well, a difficult situation at best.
Searching for that right combination itself is pretty time consuming, and by neccesity a low priority, not to mention the patience a potential partner must have. I wonder if it might be easier to wait until the kids are grown,...
Raising the children has definitly had an negative impact on my social life, but the rewards far outweigh the sacrifice. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2006 2:10:29 PM | Sorry, had to reply to this one. I myself, would prefer to date men who have children. Its all aabout understanding. Perhaps if the ladies say they are not interested, that could just be it. It most likely has nothing to do with your child. Its all about finding that right "mesh".
Sheryl | |
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Posted: 5/12/2006 9:12:59 AM | | i`m a single dad and find it very hard to even talk to ladies. once they see kids they think your taken. maybe it`s my shyness. sorry i know it`s off topic but i think it fits in there some where | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 5/12/2006 12:35:09 PM |  I think thats a good idea. It seems to me that most single moms and dads are on the same brain wave, most of the time, and would be of some help to each other, friends, support and maybe more....
Good luck to everyone.... | |
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Posted: 5/12/2006 5:50:01 PM | | Kudos to you and all the single dads and moms out there. We are making a difference in the world as we know it today. Keep you chin up and stand proud for what you believe in. Kids are a true blessing! Im a single parent and would not trade it. My girls are my life. Mrs. Right will come along someday. I have been waiting on Mr Right my whole life. Well at least the past 8 years. He will find me and she will find you! | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 5/13/2006 2:42:35 AM | hello there
im a single mom and people run from me like i have the plage ...
i think that single dads are sexy ...
means that they are smart, responsiable, trustworthey(somewhat) , and have a head on thier shoulders ...
in my eyes they have earned brownie points off the hop | |
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