| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 5/13/2006 3:09:35 AM | | hi mate well im also a single dad and all i can say is that im proud of my son hes everything to me so if the females cant exept him then show them the door there no good kids are innocent they need you the same as you need them | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 5/13/2006 5:24:47 AM | | well i didn't read thru 6 pages of this, but IMO: I see a guy playing with his child, taking care if them, etc, and i think its just the sexiest thing in the world. I actually fell for my last guy (he's my best friend now) at the beach where he was playin with all the kids, including mine (which meant i got to keep a good eye on him, and the view was nice, lol) and then he started tellin me about his own kids (theres a long story there) and it was just "WOW, where have you been all my life" | |
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Posted: 5/13/2006 5:35:46 AM | | I think the same thing about a single dad as a single mum...it ain't easy, but it is also pretty fun if you think about it...and they grow up so fast...never ever wish it away...but it definitely has an effect on securing a relationship...it gets complicated so maybe it's best to just casual date while the kids are young...i don't know what I'm talking about...but I tried my best to answer the question. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2006 8:57:37 AM | I would love to meet a single dad... Most of the guys that are interested in dating me are single... so they don't understand that they can't call me at 9pm and say lets go out... sorry my little one is sleeping!
Single Dad & Single Mom's are the best! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2006 9:33:06 AM | i have been a single dad for over 18 years with my kids my oldest son is 19 and my youngest is 7 and i have a 14 year old, now only my 2 youngest live with me and it is hard to find a date i think women see you have kids and go the other way, but now that i am 42 i think well johnny if you were single and had your kids almost grown would you want to start over so i think that has alot to do with it,so i think younger women think that i am to old at 42 so it is hard to find that one that would like to go out so anyways i wanted to give my thoughts on this so good luck out there single dads it is a new challenge but be glad your have this in your nlife and rememebr other dads count on you thanks Johnny  | |
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Posted: 5/13/2006 4:42:38 PM | | Single dad threads are posted all the time, and once again I am going to respond.... I havent read all the post's so if Im repeating others forgive me. If a man is the single parent..he must be someone to contend with. So many guys give up when things dont work out, they get scared and deal with what the mother wants even if shes a f**k up. There isnt a whole lot of men that have the balls to take responsibility for their kids once they split with the mothers, I for one do, I have sole custody of my son. With that said, I applaud all other single dads.....Ladies, a single dad may be just what your looking for..responsible, independant, stable, etc... | |
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Posted: 5/13/2006 5:16:28 PM | | well to me a single dad is the same as bding a single mom. we too get the same feed back from man that men get from women that have no kids in their lives. i myself believe if you find someone that you are compatiable with it shouldnt matter if there is kids in the picture. when u meet someone u take the whole package its not something you can seperate and sure wouldnt want you too. so you see women are not so different from men that have kids we get the same stories and the same looks . so feel free to love your kids always becausse they will always be there when everyone else is gone. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2006 6:41:36 PM | I too did not read ALL of the 6 pages, but read some...
Funny, I have been reading over and over that women find single dad's great. Wonderful to hear... However where are you? Sometimes I feel that I am living 30 years ago when a single mom was not talked about, and no one heard of a single dad unless mom passed on, and they carried too much luggage... I have met a few people, some on line and some not, but finding out that I have two kids and they are no where to be seen again...
Now this time I have taken a different approach to this and my profile clearly says that I have kids, and again, no replies...
So again, where are all these women that find single dad's attractive? | |
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Posted: 5/13/2006 8:08:49 PM | I've got 3 kids. 7, 4 and almost 2.
A lot of women may think that it is admirable to look after your kids in a global
sort of way, like Greenpeace is admirable for saving whales, but when it comes
to who they personally decide that they want to spend their time with, that it a different
story.
The women with kids of their own may not see how things could work with their kids +
your kids (3+2 = 5). The "industry standard" seems to be the dad who sees their kids every
second weekend (I'm from Australia). The never married ones seem to think you're looking
for a replacement mother for the kids.
If is a bit difficult. The ones you do meet can "play" you because they know you don't have
as many options as the ones in your age bracket without ties, or even the every 2 w/e dads.
Chances are you'll still be on the shelf in a fortnight, so they can take their time and see what they think down the track or treat you in other disrespectful ways.
Factors working against future relationships that single dads face are:
> the need for a baby sitter for every date
> a lack of privacy if you want to bring someone home
> Not being seen as being the "industry standard" as mentioned above.
> Problem with generating excitement and spontanaeity, which some girls need.
> shortage of money due to childcare costs and career being put on hold/into abeyance.
It seems to me to be a trade off - have kids living with you or have a life.
I wonder if its better for the kids to live in foster care in a normal relationship or to
live with a Dad becoming more progressively more bitter and twisted about the dating world and life in general.
You can't really blame the women. There seems to be more men than women on the Internet
so if you wanted someone with time to spend on you, why would you pick a single dad. It would have to be a saint of a woman to want to do that. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2006 10:51:31 PM |
Factors working against future relationships that single dads face are:
> the need for a baby sitter for every date
> a lack of privacy if you want to bring someone home
> Not being seen as being the "industry standard" as mentioned above.
> Problem with generating excitement and spontanaeity, which some girls need.
> shortage of money due to childcare costs and career being put on hold/into abeyance.
Why are these only factors that face single dads???
Being a single Mom at 31 (that likes older guys)... I need a babysitter... I can't just pick up & leave and oh ya... money? i work 3 jobs because I don't receive support...
Single parents are single parents... it doesn't matter the number of kids you create when you add the two families together... my last boyfriend (we were together for 3 1/2 years) had 4 kids... and I had my daughter.... ya it was crazy some weekends... but we have love for all the kids! | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 7:05:04 AM | | It does seem like that to me too..but few women seem to be interested in single dads...I 've been a single dad four years now. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 10:23:28 AM | | Wellll them maybe you guys need to come to Ontario! I have a few single Mom friends... who would love to meet single Dads.... they are tired of having guys in their lives that don't understand the responsibility of raising a child! | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 4:33:49 PM | To be honest, I never really think about it. There's plenty of fickleness in the world (I have my own, just like everyone else) so I don't look to one thing to ascribe to a "Read Deleted" notice on my email status. Heck, I cancelled a date recently just because I didn't like the slogan on her t-shirt!
There's a reason why there's no checkbox on deleted email ('click here if you're upset the recipient's earlobes were dangly and you're very definitely looking for earlobe-attached dates') - it doesn't matter. Learn to love this motto: Your opinion of me is none of my business.
Just be grateful they didn't waste your time trying to reconcile whatever hangup they had with your profile, photo, income, religion, colour, lifestyle, location, child, or lifestyle interests. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 6:45:48 PM | i have my 2 boys 4-5 days a week and when i am not with them i almost lose my mind. they are my heart and soul. if and when i meet a female to date my kids are part of the picture,and would not have it any other way. if she can not handle that then she can walk. if i could have my kids full time i would. i would make it work. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2006 7:04:56 PM | | Being in a blended relationship can be tough it takes alot of patience and alot of give and take. I was in a relationship with a man once and he had a son from a previous relationship and his sons mother made our life a living hell, all because she got jealous that her ex was moving on. Theres alot to deal with when you become involved with a daddy. And sometimes (not all dads) because the dad doesnt see his kids all the time when the kids are around they get spoiled and the girlfriend gets pushed aside. | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 5/17/2006 10:57:16 PM | | it would depend on how you did it. Were you sure that she was unfit or just out of spite and you had more money? Yeah...it sounds like it bitter, you bet | |
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Posted: 5/18/2006 2:16:17 AM | for glooie
I understand what you're saying glooie, but there are an awful lot of dads that fought for full time custody and lost because a lot of judges feel the children simply belong with their mother. I was lucky, I didnt have to fight for them. They wanted to live with me and we didnt go to court. Our kids see their mother as often as they like. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2006 2:22:19 AM | Photo guy....Your are so right on the money. Ive read so many posts from women that find single dads sexy and they love single dads or they would love to meet a single dad....and the list goes on. I was on POF under another nic for 4 months,my profile said I was a single dad,and i got ZERO. but then..its easy to say things...its much harder to do them.
So Im in here now for the forums only, cant be bothered playing games. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 5:47:46 AM | Photo guy
Had to reply to your post. I am widowed and divorced. And at 38, some find scary. Rarely want to understand what happened. But in my case, my daughter's father passed away when she was a baby, then met (on the rebound) my son's father. Not the best choice in mates, which ensued in divorce. So, trust me, I understand some not willing to give it a chance to understand. We are all diverse people. With experiences, and some like me, learn and grow from them
Sher | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 3:20:07 PM | | Sher... Keep your chin up... You will find Mr. Right in time... I was married for 4 years to my daughters father.. a man that was very abusive... I got out of that relationship... met a new Prince charming, who 3 years later turned out to be one of the biggest toads in Ontario... I've met someone now... who looks past all of that... and we are taking things day by day! Good LucK :) | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 4:39:39 PM | | i have dated single dads before there is nothing wrong with it it just shows they r great with kids and have a fun loving nature. there is nothing wrong with it at all | |
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Posted: 6/6/2006 11:32:25 AM | | i think single dads are great. i would date one in a second. at least the guy will understand if i need to cancel a date because of a sick child. or can't get away because it is my weekend with the kids. i have always found it really cute to see a father with his child at the park or walking down the street. there are alot of single dads out there doing a wonderful job. | |
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