| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 8/23/2007 5:15:36 AM | | First off. Its nice to know that there are a lot moe of us Single dads out there then I thought I know it Fla its rare. I got full custody about 7 months ago and it was a long hard fight. and to be honest I have put all my focus on him and I have had a few very nice women come along but I am unable to put what they want in the relationship ( anther topic) becasue I have been putting all i have into my son and makeing sure all is well with him he has had many adjustments this past year and has been though hell so I have put my life on hold ( I AM NOT COMPLAINING not one bit I would not trade him for anything) to make sure his is headed in the right direction. So its refereshing to see all you other singe fathers out there. | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 8/23/2007 6:19:55 AM | | you know i think single dads deserve as much credit as single mothers and sometimes even more..like another poster said..they're so rare, esp. when most of todays generation prefer not to take any kind of responsibility..as for dating them i can hardly discriminate against one single parent when i am one myself lol..and if i find a guy who comes with a kid..its even better..it means having a playmate for my son!! | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 8/23/2007 6:25:24 AM | | Have to say im a big fan of single dads i have a 2 yr old little boy who i pretty much have all the time other than 1 wekend a month so single dads to me are a godsend that i dont ahve to spend ages felnig embarrassed saying i cant get a babysitter or i have to be back by 11 so i can get home to my boy its nice to know that they understand and its always good to know that the person ur with obv likes kids | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 8/23/2007 7:36:42 AM | | I was married for 7 years before we separted. 2 weeks after separting my then 10 year old daughter came to live with me. Now mom wants to fight me for joint custody when I've been raising her on my own for more than 2 years. I even had to go and file for child support just to get some help from her. my daughter is now 12 and is starting to think mom is the "fun" parent when she sees her 1 or 2 times a month, and I'm just everyday dad. I feel like I'm loosing her. Any advice out there? | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 8/23/2007 9:05:03 AM | I think it takes a stronge person to go for what he or she wants.. And to know that there are a lot of guys out there who go for custody or happen to have there ex's just leave and not take the kids and they will do everything in there power to make things work and raise there kids with love and devotion.
I think it says a lot of guys when u meet them and they tell u there are a dad 100% or 50%. I know that there are a lot of guys now not letting the courts tell them they can't be the one to raise there kids..Or go for 50%/50%...I believe that we all should think about our kids and not continue the hurt.. My son sees his dad everyday and would do anything to spend time with him and provide for him but i know not all situations are the same.. We've become good friend because of our son and know that just because things didn't work that the kid shouldn't suffer.. There's enough people suffer .Why make your kids suffer.
I say god for single dads for going and raising there kids and enjoying every part of it..If women are not into u them they can't see how devoted you are to everything and u don't need to worry about it.. That special person will see the true you and everything will work out for u all..  to single dads all over the world. This single mom thinks u are awesome and i know there 's are a lot of women out there who think the same.
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 8/23/2007 9:18:54 PM |
You know what pisses me off though, is men and women who have their kids one weekend every 2 weeks or so and call themselves single parents. Until you know what its like on an ongoing daily basis you have no right to lump yourself into the same category as the rest of us. Its insulting.
This statement is actually pretty upsetting. I for example am a SINGLE parent who gets his kids on the weekends. Not because I choose that, because I'm forced to do that. My children lived with me and their mother for the first 9 and 4 years of their life and suddenly I am allowed "parenting time" on the weekends for the past year and a half. I am active with what goes on in their everyday lives, school, sports, or any other activities they are in. I speak to them a couple times a week over the phone, the only thing I do not do is see them daily, make them dinner, and put them to bed during the week. What category does this put me in? | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 8/24/2007 5:53:47 AM | | I have so much respect for single parents, it's tough enough to raise them with 2 parents. I guess that there have been so many horror stories about trying to fit into a preexisting family....feeling like the outsider, being judged by the biological parent, not to mention the issues with discipline...ect. Then there are those who don't want to start over raising children. Women especially are very territorial over there children so now you have the ex-wife down your throat. Any way hats off to all you single Dads, keep up the good work. | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 11/1/2007 2:52:44 PM | | I am a single dad of two I have a daughter 6 and a son 4 and I find it really hard to find a woman that will except us. I am a fun loving guy. I love taking my kids to the park and to the beach. I have dated a couple of I would say girls because one broke up with me by sending me a text message and the other is afraid of commitmemt. I know I am not perfect and I don't have a lot of money but I have a lot of love and affection. Most of the time I get treated like a door mat women only come around when they need something. Please help me understand why women treat the good ones so bad. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2007 3:22:05 PM | I have nothing against single dads..my ex hubby was one when we met. He had three children he raised on his own, and i had my three i raised on my own.
It does take a special lady to be a part of that unique family you have built, but they are out there..don't give up hope | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 11/1/2007 7:05:03 PM | Single father of 2 here myself, so I know how you feel mate.
I find it funny that even in todays advancements in womens-lib and equal rights that the guy is still expected to pay for everything (in most cases). I'll admit it does feel good to be able to treat someone to dinner every now and then but if they offer to pay half I usually suggest that they can grab the next one, ( a subtle way of trying to schedule another date) but 9 times out of 10 you never hear from them again.
Can't win for trying I guess.
Stick to it man. | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 11/1/2007 8:14:43 PM | | I'm a single dad, I raised them on my own. I've never had any problems getting dates because of them. In fact, it was an advantage for me. But in any case, women that dont' date you because of your kids, they don't deserve you anyway. | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 11/2/2007 4:00:27 AM | Depends on the single dad. If he's as involved as he can be, then I think he'd be someone I'd wish to date.
However, there are people I've met/chatted with who claim the "single dad" title who don't deserve it. I was chatting with someone the other night who was a "single dad". He was smart, funny, attractive and the first person I was interested in from here in a while. We got around to the ages of our children. He said that his daughter was 4 or 5.. maybe 6.
Obviously I found it a little strange, asked him why he didn't know for sure and then he told me that his ex "wouldn't let him see the kid". I asked how often he's tried and he said he hasn't in a while because every time he tries she says no. I informed him of his rights at family court and he said he wouldn't go the courtroom because "if welfare finds out, [he's] on the hook for child support".
One of his profile pics showed him standing next to his brand new truck.... my stomach turned and my attraction to him went to zero. Actually, the idea of talking to him any more sort of made my stomach turn.
So to all the TRUE single fathers out there, keep looking. Being an active parent is a great trait for those of us looking for good men. :) | |
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| what do u think of a single dad...
Posted: 11/2/2007 4:05:52 AM | | i think women do find it intimidating. i think especially as i have met people who seemn jealous of the fact my kids arnt theirs. bizarre. best thing to do is date sumone in your boat? maybee? | |
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