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Posted: 2/21/2006 7:48:24 PM | I use to work in an Adult Video store so there is really nothing that surprises me. There is nothing wrong with sharing your Videos. Most guys should find this a turn on specially if yours are more hard core then his. He might be testing the waters to find out what you really like. So he could be showing you the light stuff that is generically more for girls. If he is really up-tight then show him your videos in person when you both have had a drink or 2 then put them on and show him a reaaal good time. Remember comunication is the key. Givem a chance before you limit yourself. You might find it really liberating that you can be so honest with someone so close.
good luck
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Posted: 2/21/2006 7:58:10 PM | | Midget porn dats nasty girl you just need to show that man yo porn he gonna love watchin with you me & my man used to watch some nasty sh@t hed get freaky in no time. oh yeah baby! | |
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Posted: 2/21/2006 8:05:37 PM | How do you know he isn't hiding something from you also, in fear of what he thinks you might think about it...hmmmm maybe some kinky porn of his own, you just never know... | |
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Posted: 2/21/2006 8:10:39 PM | | hey... your sexuality is part of you... if you use toys, fetishes ..whatever. Part of being with someone and getting to know them in a realtionship is sharing your sexuality... finding a common ground or discovering a new one together. If you aren't comfortable sharing who you are sexually...... should you be having sex with them at all? This is where and why relationships and marriages fall apart, why lovers stray. You have to be open with your partner, if they aren't into what you are then you both have to respect that point. In this day and age i think there are a lot of woman who are more sexually experienced or "diverse" than men like to believe and that can be a hurdle for some to overcome, the guy can feel a bit "less" in her eyes... or so he thinks ... just be open and be you.....if yo aren't being you... than who are they going to be attracted to? | |
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Posted: 2/21/2006 8:19:44 PM | Wow, you Canadians are pretty interesting to read.....
I suppose this subject has a lot to do with if the other person likes porn at all, and if they have a lot of personal issues about themselves that really bug them. Life is too short, I suppose it is important to get to know the person before offering some of your special stash and see if he brings it up first!
Lots of luck finding a fellow that will enjoy it with you. I'm a little surprised that you are having a difficult time..... | |
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Posted: 2/22/2006 1:22:26 AM | | Ok i love watching porn, an i do have an pretty big collection for an girl. But to me i love sharing it all with the guys, gives them hints on what i do enjoy an what they can do to please me. I think its good to share that kind of stuff. Hmmm but that is me. I do love watching by myself too sometimes. It gets me soo freaking wet an horny an i love touching myself. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2006 3:19:00 AM |
I've never been into porn, so maybe I'm not the best person to address this, but even the suggestion of that type of pornographic material seems offensive to me. Staged rape? I couldn't imagine any rational, mentally sound person - male or female - enjoying this.
rape and othe rloss of control fantasies are quite common and have nothing to do with bieng unstable. often our fears and or desires are epxressed through sex. Most people into BDSM, rape fetish etc are overly dominat/submissive in one area of life and the yfind their balance in sex.
Howmany woman do you know that jsut love to hav ehtier hair pulledthier ass slapped and to be told to do (insert nasty event here) on their hands and knees. it is the exact same concept the loss of control and domiantion.
If you want a scratch your head weird fetish. Look into Adult Babies, sploshing, Furries, desperation, and blood. I understand the concepts behind them, but I just don't get it. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2006 5:12:26 AM | I would put the porn into two groups,one group that depicts your sexual preferences,watching these together and talking about what's going on is a great tool for lovers to get insight about their sexuality,which can only lead to better sex.
The other group would be for fantasy only......warn him that you find things of this nature erotic but want certain scenes or acts to remain fantasies.
If anyone has porn that they would'nt want their families to see in the event of their sudden death or disablement i would suggest they have a ''porn buddy'' ......they are informed about the exact location of the material,have a key,password,links and whatever else is needed to go retreive the goods before your family comes in to clean out your belongings............this is mainly used for single people but sometimes married couple have secrets too.....just a thought. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2006 8:15:32 AM | | I personally would approve of any kind of porn, except that which involves children. I might be a little shocked at animal, lesbian, gay male, or incest porn should my GF have such kinds of porn, but I would support her decision to watch such porn as it's what makes her happy. But, that's just me. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2006 11:34:29 AM | Wow, lots of replies, thanks everyone.  Im gonna try and comment on everyone’s post, in one post, bare with me.
very hard for us to expose ourselves, our deepest or darkest secrets to the judgemental eyes of the people we care about. Bandito, you are so right, and probably the reason behind why I haven’t yet. He has been buggin me for months, lol.
it would be more intimate if you did. nipoleon I think your right, I want that, one of the reasons why I started the thread. I want to share, just having a hard time doing it.
Webwanderer, wow great minds think alike, lol, I was going to make him a cd, for when I am not around.
And to PeaceOfficer, just call me irrational and not a mentally sound person. Palease, this coming from a 19 year old boy who isn’t into porn, lol, yah ok. Thank you Bandito and raverdad, for trying to set him straight. Geeeezzz kids.
Hhhmmmm tallguy wants to see my porn, lol, yah I don’t know bout that. I did sent the vid in question to a male friend last night to watch. Haven’t gotten any feedback yet.
You might find it really liberating that you can be so honest with someone so close. Gibbleguy yes that is for sure, and exactly what I want.
Lilchick33, lol, yah he might be hiding something from me also. But the porn I watched of his, he doesn’t know I did, lol. long story
gibson lp , hhhmmmm very enlightening post, and so true. He is very aware of all my my fetishes, quarks, likes and dislikes. He is even on a first name basis with ALL of my sex toys, lol. my porn and my fantasies list are the only things I have kept from him.
Widow96, you are absolutely right, life is wayyy to f’ing short. Im not having a difficult time finding a guy I would share with. I am having a difficult time with a guy I DO want to share with.
6shotter, thanks buddy. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2006 12:58:34 PM |
And to PeaceOfficer, just call me irrational and not a mentally sound person. Palease, this coming from a 19 year old boy who isn’t into porn, lol, yah ok. Thank you Bandito and raverdad, for trying to set him straight. Geeeezzz kids.
I totally forgot that 19-year-olds are completely senseless imbeciles who can't have opinions on anything. Thanks for reminding me!
Go watch your fake rapes and bugger off. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2006 1:06:42 PM | | do tell us what it is that you like so much about porn and what is it that you do while watching it??? | |
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Posted: 2/22/2006 1:26:06 PM |
I totally forgot that 19-year-olds are completely senseless imbeciles who can't have opinions on anything. Thanks for reminding me!
That man there ^^^^^ is one of the smartest men on this site..hate to tell you. Read his damn posts...he makes very good points. So he doesn't like porn...what's the big effing deal. There's more for you now. Yikes :) | |
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Posted: 2/22/2006 1:29:38 PM | Thanks, Smile. :)
I wasn't accusing you of being mentally deficient, Becky. I was simply saying I don't understand how any sane person could like staged rapes.
I also don't understand how space shuttles are built, but that doesn't stop them from working (most of the time).
You're perfectly entitled to enjoy pornographic movies, whether they're twisted in nature or not.
Enjoy.  | |
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Posted: 2/22/2006 2:24:11 PM | Becky, are you worried he will be startled? or do you think the fantasy will lose its thrill when shared? Seems to me that sharing this kind of porn might lead to some interesting bedroom, kitchen, elevator-style scenarios :)
Curious how it comes out :) good luck and happy you are with a guy who you can do this with-- pretty intimate.
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Posted: 2/22/2006 3:15:50 PM | ^^^^ thank you very much.
ok, now im pissed.
peaceofficer, first off, your first post you insulted me.
I've never been into porn, so maybe I'm not the best person to address this, but even the suggestion of that type of pornographic material seems offensive to me. Staged rape? I couldn't imagine any rational, mentally sound person - male or female - enjoying this.
dont care how you implied it, but you did. Fine you find it offensive, you could of left it at that.
than your second post, you insulted me again.
Go watch your fake rapes and bugger off.
yah the porn i described ends with a fake rape. i also described the other things this 40 min porn had. doesnt mean i am into the whole thing 100%. So I try and defend myself from your first insult post, and you do it again. Because I called you a boy? What you can dish it out but cant take it? Oh that’s right im dealing with a child here.
Than your third post:
I wasn't accusing you of being mentally deficient, Becky. I was simply saying I don't understand how any sane person could like staged rapes.
I also don't understand how space shuttles are built, but that doesn't stop them from working (most of the time).
You're perfectly entitled to enjoy pornographic movies, whether they're twisted in nature or not.
you insulted me again, any sane person? twisted in nature? Like WTF?? No you were accusing me of being mentally deficient at all. PALEASE!!! I cant be the only person who reads his posts and see he is putting me down?
Smiles with your eyes: This is the smartest man on POF? I don’t care if he makes good points on other threads or not. On this thread he is being an ignorant adolescent. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2006 3:28:05 PM | Becky- I think PO is talking about simply not understanding how this could be sexy--- I don't hear insults intended in his posts.- for eg- I think he is trying to be playful with the 'go watch your fake rapes and bugger off' comment.. not rude.
Even though I see the appeal (my own fantasies are twisted little creatures IMO) - were I an alien watching people I would probably completely baffled by the allure of 'fake rape' footage causing people to become aroused (esp considering what reality looks like!- in life it is a terrible thing-in fantasy it is Erotic?! WTF? but it can be for some so there we are)
I don't think PO needs defending- I hold him in pretty high regard too. Just thought it might help soothe ruffled feathers. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2006 3:37:29 PM | Hey Becky,
It sounds like you're a bit shy about what you like. There's no harm in that, everyone has something they can be shy about. Generally speaking for me, it's being a virgin. I don't like to be upfront about it because then the girls who are all about sex in a relationship assume I won't be a good lover and the girls who aren't looking for so much sex might assume that I've never had the chance to because I'm weird or ugly or something. On the contrary, it's just a choice I've made for different reasons.
I think you should sit the guy down and let him know you want to share with him, but he needs to understand a few things. You can tell him what it is you have and whether or not that something that interests you in real life, that way he knows where you stand, before he's exposed to something he's not expecting. In addition, I'd say watch it together, that way you can tell him what you find to be so sexy about this scene or that act. It'll help him enjoy it a lot more and you'll have helped him reach a point of understanding that you hope for.
Take Care,
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Posted: 2/22/2006 3:40:03 PM | ^^
so PO doesnt like the rape fantasy. That is his opinion, he stated it, but shouldnt tell becky that she is twisted because of her likes.
Everybody has their own likes and dislikes. It's wrong to put somebody down because of what they like.
If I stated everything i was really into, I'm sure he would fall off his chair in astonishment.
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Posted: 2/22/2006 5:02:02 PM | Thank you, Independent. And Becky, perhaps I came off rude - which I didn't mean to - and for that I apologize. I never meant to be insulting, maybe just a bit sarcastic or ironic. I realize that sarcasm is usually considered a poor defense, and I accept that, just I accept that you'll undoubtably be offended by this post, as well.
Like I said, it's your right to enjoy what you enjoy. It's my right to find it offensive. I never meant to have it elevate beyond that.
I may be childish by thinking so. I don't think I need to apologize for that. "Man is most nearly himself when he achieves the seriousness of a child at play." I enjoy childish humor, and find it a welcome relief from the level of seriousness that people think they need to master in order to be considered wise or authentic.
I like to understand things. When I don't, I like to question them. I'm not a very social person generally, and I may not be the best at approaching matters such as this, but I am geniunely interested in how this kind of pornographic material could actually turn a person on.
Amsta,
I'm not a complete prude! I have a pretty strict sense of what I consider morally acceptable, but that doesn't mean I don't realize that everyone has their different turn-ons and quirks. Lay it on me. I promise to be nice, and adult, and mature, and everything a respectable, knowledgable grown-up is required to be! :) | |
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