| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 2/27/2006 5:18:17 AM | I'd be imbarrased to type imbarrased
But who am I to critique, I have typos all the time | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 2/28/2006 9:25:11 AM | ***Of course wespauley meant to quote the author of those "Five Stages of Drinking", the comedian Larry Miller.***
Yes, Thank you. I think from an HBO special years ago???? | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 2/28/2006 3:03:58 PM | How's this site any different than a Bar? It has all the same type of people... It just doesn't serve alcohol but the game is the same.
So, before I went off being critical about the type of people that frequent bars. I think we all best take a closer look around because things aren't so different here! | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 3/10/2006 10:21:08 AM | | arent so diffrent? dude honestly lay off the crack pipe. I go to the bar every weekend with my friends. Crystal is right listen to her. I have met alot of really nice women at the bar that well if we werent just friends I would date them in a heartbeat. and some how every single one of them I didnt meet with a cheesy pick up line. On this site if you can actually muster up the courage to talk to someone without having to have liquid courage | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 3/10/2006 1:57:29 PM |
arent so diffrent? dude honestly lay off the crack pipe. I go to the bar every weekend with my friends. Crystal is right listen to her. I have met alot of really nice women at the bar that well if we werent just friends I would date them in a heartbeat. and some how every single one of them I didnt meet with a cheesy pick up line. On this site if you can actually muster up the courage to talk to someone without having to have liquid courage
You got that right!
I don't drink, but only rarely and never at a bar. I like to have my wits about me and never try those pick up lines. I prefer to be myself and I think it's a welcomed departure from what the women in those places are use to.
My difficulty is getting one to even speak with me. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2006 4:42:54 PM | No, a bar isn't a bad place to meet women. I think a lot of people who don't agree with me have only one image of a bar -- some bars are as bad as naysayers say it is, and some are just fine. There is no "one" type.
OP: You're in sales? Ever do cold-calling? Hate it, right? Well, that's what talking to women at bars/events/grocery stores/etc is like. Of course it's very different than a refferal. And just like cold calling, if they're not looking for exactly what you present at that moment, whether they're interested or not depends on their current mood and state of mind -- even if you're playing your cards right and you are normally a considerable option in their mind.
So, in essence, just like in sales -- EXPECT being brushed off. Yes, even when you're playing your cards in the best way. It's not necessarily a true rejection, but you wouldn't know, because they brush you off before you could know, anyway. That's of no interest. Maybe they're going thru family drama, maybe they're angry over a relationship, maybe they're happy in a relationship, maybe they're out with their girlfriend who is going thru drama... there's a million cases. It'd be weird if you didn't get brushed off.
So what should your mindset be? Not to get action. For beginners, your mindset should be to meet and talk with women, not to pick them up. Pretend you have a girlfriend, and you're in a conversational mood... and that talking with women may get a conversation started for a single friend of yours or something. Do you feel rejected if a woman brushes you off in those circumstances? Not really...!
So go out there, and just mingle with the mindset of just sparking conversation, like you're sitting at an airport waiting for a delayed flight. And once you do get in a conversation -- keep that mindset, and have a confident mentality that you're a great catch because you're already caught by someone else. You'll be surprised! Heck, I have to tell this huge story to remind myself sometimes, when I've been out of the dating scene for too long. | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 3/13/2006 10:35:10 AM | [I don't drink, but only rarely and never at a bar]
kinda contradicting urself aint ya | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 3/13/2006 12:42:02 PM |
kinda contradicting urself aint ya
Nope not at all!
I'll have a toast at a wedding or a salute to an old friend that's passed away but that's my limit. I have better things to do than get drunk... Been there done that... Move ON! | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 3/13/2006 2:35:04 PM | | u realize of course u dont have to drink when U go to a bar right? most bars dont have a 3 drink miniimum | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 3/13/2006 2:46:44 PM |
most bars dont have a 3 drink miniimum
Never heard of that?
I like being sober myself. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 7:37:57 AM | | u have never heard of a bar having a three drink minimum? dude u aparently have no life pretty much all u local strip bars and what not have that | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 8:06:59 AM | I like going to bars. And I talk to a lot of people when I'm there. Men, women, doesn't matter. You're there to socialize, right? So don't think of it as "hitting on" a woman. Think of it as striking up a conversation. You do it in line at the grocery store, you do it in the waiting room at the dentist. Why not in the bar? The more people you talk to, the greater the chance you're going to meet someone interesting.
I suggest you go up to the bar near a woman you'd like to talk to. Order a drink and strike up a conversation. Much easier and more natural than walking up to somebody's table and butting into their conversation.
I'll talk to anyone. But I'm pretty good at extricating myself from a boring conversation without hurting feelings. I'll usually do it by drawing someone else into the conversation and shifting the focus to that person. If a woman does this, move along.
Another point to remember: The most annoying men in bars are the ones who try to monopolize my attention. Some guys, as soon as you give them the time of day, they just Will. Not. Go. Away. Don't be that guy. I suggest striking up a conversation, chatting for a bit, then moving along. Do not ask for the phone number right off the bat. Go away, come back later, in half and hour or so. Say hello. If the woman is not interested, she will avoid starting another conversation. If she is, she might even approach you later in the evening. It's easier after initial contact has been made.
Just don't be in a hurry. Don't be pushy. Don't put a lot of pressure on yourself. You're there to have fun, remember? | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 3/14/2006 12:06:39 PM |
u have never heard of a bar having a three drink minimum? dude u aparently have no life pretty much all u local strip bars and what not have that
Sorry, dude but there is no such thing here, never heard of a minimum... We have all sorts of establishments everything from the hole in the wall bar to the big time Nightclubs... You do have to remeber I live in the toursit captial of the world... So yes we have it all. A hard rock cafe, A Paris Hilton owned Nightclub... You name it we have. We have city walk at universal, Pleasure island at disney. All the night clubs in Downtown... And yes none of them have a three drink minimum... | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:03:40 AM | what's under the dresser in the little case????
I noticed that before the legs!!.....Only because the leg shot it is a lateral calf shot...posterior or frontal with some thigh preferred!!
lol
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:28:12 AM | "u have never heard of a bar having a three drink minimum? dude u aparently have no life pretty much all u local strip bars and what not have that"
lmao.
i've drank in british columbia, manitoba, quebec, ontario, new york, and texas.
never in my life have I heard of a three drink minimum. i also live in a city with more than its fair share of strip clubs. | |
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| i prefer those in france where cover includes a bottle of vodka
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:35:24 AM | when in a club or a bar go with friends andhave fun
yes, I've tried to meet ladies too. it works! so you get their number through sheer personality, a pleasant smile or a goofy grin
in my experience exchanging business cards doens't work so well unless you're a ceo. usually pulling out a cell phone works best for me.
then there's the follow-up. sure she was drunk thought you were cute and told you her number. does she ever call you or is it alwys you callingher
then there's the dating, do you always go out to a patio somewhere pay for all the drinks and never hear from her again?
i prefer this dating site as youcan actually talk beyond :what your name, having a good time, who are you here with, and damn are you legal yet? lol, j/k i see bars and clubs as a good place to go with friends when your backyard is starting to get boring
at times it feels like a high school reunion in local bars and at other times you're wishing they'd stop playing such annoying music | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 9:49:50 AM | well i do see what she means about women sticking around for free booze.. but i still think yo should buy her a drink, not right at first. introduce yourself, dance with her. she'll loosen you up. talk to her like you would a guy friend. ask her if she's interested in meeting new company(proceed if yes). tell her that she's beautiful and you hope her inside matches her outside, (buy her a drink now) give her your number, DONT ASK HER IF SHE WANTS IT. then tell her you gotta go and walk away.
trust me i'd hate to say it but i've used that and many other tactics on women (i'm bi) and it works but i use what seems to suit her better. you cannot expect every woman to be into you but this will help | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:50:59 AM | and honestly babling on about even a football game is better than awkward silence--dont talk about football, but you get my drift | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 11/7/2007 2:46:07 AM | | I think that it is ok to go to bars/clubs and unwind and just socialize. I go because I like to listen to the music. Yes, it is nice when a man notices ya, but its not why most people go to the club. Just try and be yourself. You will know if someone is responding to you by their body language and a smile always is a good indicator. Please do not think that every beautiful woman is taken or will not give you the time of day because they are beautiful. Usually beautiful women are the last to get asked to dance, etc. Just have fun and the rest will follow. | |
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| When in a club /bar!
Posted: 11/7/2007 11:02:41 AM |
whats the signals??? and how do i know if im getting a positive reaction??????
You don't get slapped after anything you say. | |
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