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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 10/29/2008 4:56:29 PM | I'm totally turned off with cigarette smoke. this past Sunday, went to a club to a show, fully knowing there would be smoking. not a lot of people were, big surprise, but enough smoke to make me leave after an hour and a half. ripped off my clothes at home, threw them into the wash, showered, washed my hair and went to bed with a massive sinus headache. Monday morning, still had the headache and the sinus thing just got worse. my own fault for going to a club, but it's reinforced the fact that I do not date smokers!  | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 10/29/2008 5:03:21 PM | I wouldn't mine a guy smoking if he's a considerate one. That shows he's a gentleman and respects my feelings. Niceeeeeeeeeee
But is probably something next to a pink elephant. LOL | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 10/30/2008 2:39:17 AM | | god yes, massive turn-off, i hope people realise this and it helps them quit...it really is the biggest turn off, you could be the hottest girl in the room and if you were interested in me and you were a smoker i would say no thanks. | |
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tecnic
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Joined: 4/20/2008
Msg: 582 | |
| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 10/31/2008 12:18:12 AM | | i wouldnt date a girl thats smokes no way i hate the bloddy things and when you kiss a girl it will leave a taste of smoke in your mouth that is not good at all plus the smoke make your cloths smell of smoke but thats a very good point if i go on a date with girl the first thing i would ask her do you smoke if she says yes i wouldnt date her but if she is a non smoke thats ok but i can stand smoking i used to smoke many years a go but i just took it up but i tell you canock i wasnt long giving them up and i stayed of them ever since i dont even drink i done the same with that as well | |
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tecnic
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Joined: 4/20/2008
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 10/31/2008 12:26:02 AM | | you have a great point there smoking does make your clothes stink of smoke i would never date a girl that smokes if i met a nice girl i would ask her does she smoke first if she does i would say good luck if if she doent will that would be even better smoking does nothing for you only kill you and did you know each time you light up a fag you five mins to dieing thats what i was told and if your a smoker and trying to catch a bus/plane/train you will be put of breath that the smoking kicking in so i wouldnt date a girl that smokes no way i am 100persent on your side | |
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Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 585 | |
| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 11/12/2008 2:05:40 PM | | yep,smoking is just nasty.my dad remarried a smoker over 20 yrs ago.he may put up with it but i wont.its pretty sad when my 10 yr.old son doesnt want to visit just for that reason.not to mention people ignore the health risks associated with the habit.they are a dying breed,BUTT OUT!!! | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 11/19/2008 2:34:09 PM | Smoking has always been a definite NO for me. Although I did smoke for a while myself. But then it has been nearly 30 years .... nothing worse than an ex-smoker !!
I just think it takes away the natural charm of a woman. Could it be a form of self esteem issues ? My last POF first date was a real success.... big hair.... long ugly fake finger nails....a set of solid silicone 38DDD's on display, then she lit up one of those brown cigarello type things.... with the occasional rough cough in between. Yet her profile looked so sweet, not a word or picture to indicate the hidden dangers lurking below... even after a month of lovely messages and phone calls ! I was like a dear caught in the headlights ... yet, she did not seem to understand my dilema, she thought she was the sexiest thing alive. Yes, she had a very kind and sweet personality, but a packet and 1/2 of cigarellos per day .... I am looking for a partner to share my time with, not nurse a potential lung cancer victim. Am I being unfair or selfish...? | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 11/19/2008 3:12:59 PM | I've never smoked in my entire life. Beats quitting, as far as I can tell. When I was in high school, many of the kids were already trying to quit---and having a hard time doing so. I figured, with my lack of will-p0wer, I would have an even harder time quitting than they were--so I never started.
I have dated smokers in the past, and it was OK. But I drew the line at dating anyone who is a chain-smoker. I married a non-smoker (one of the good things I liked about him) and since then, have only dated non-smokers.
Smokers tend to have an easier time staying thin, so they might have an advantage (particularly women) with other smokers who like a thin woman. But for me, smoking is a big minus.
First of all, I have teenagers in my home. If they were to see that I make exceptions for my dates, and not for them, that seems hypocrytical to me.
Second, I care about the people I date. If I care about someone a lot, I want them to be around a long time so we can be together a long time.
I know from experience with family members who were trying to quit that is is extremely difficult to quit. And that's just for their own reasons. Its even harder to care about someone and want them to change--even for a good reason. Most people want to be accepted for who they are...warts and all...so to expect anyone to make such a major change that requires so much effort is really being unrealistic, and even rude. It is another stress on a new relationship that makes it more difficult to connect and feel comfortable with them.
Third, I don't like second-hand smoke. It makes my eyes hurt, my nose hurt and the smell of stale cigarette smoke when kissing is a big turn-off sexually. I don't like ashtrays, the extra risk of fire from smoking materials, and the expense of it. Both financially to buy them, and the medical expenses from the health problems.
There is a limited amount of places you can go on a date. Our community has gone entirely smoke-free. This is great for me, as a non-smoker, but for dating, it has to be uncomfortable for a smoker. I really would hate to go on a date with someone who is uncomfortable because he cannot smoke where we are having dinner.
Last, I have already lost a child to cancer. Ever since then, I have tried to avoid anything that causes cancer. I make my own cleaning supplies out of safe ingredients, buy pesticide-free foods, don't spray chemicals on my lawn (I do hand-weeding) and avoid furniture made with formaldehyde, and other things like that...
From my experience, there is nothing worse in this life than watching as a person you love very much dies of cancer. I really want to avoid ever having to do that again, no matter what it takes. Not that any of the things I am doing are a guarrantee that I won't, but I don't want t0 have any regrets if it does happen again. I want to know I did what I could. | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 11/19/2008 5:01:57 PM | Ugh! I would never again consider dating a smoker. I was living with a chain smoker a few years back and I'm much surprised that I didn't end up with lung cancer. He refused to go outside when at home, and wouldn't even roll the window in the car down a crack when we went out. The smell and the smoke were horrible! Even some of the furniture had burn holes in it........so nope!  | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 4/27/2009 4:32:21 PM | I thought I would bump one of these existing threads....what is the deal with people that note "occasionally"...I was reading one person in the profile review that listed as "often" and once everybody said that her smoking was a turnoff by many...switched to occasionally.
I guess the b.s. filter should throw out most of these....maybe some are trying to quit? I cant believe some people just light up once a month? | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 4/28/2009 9:30:10 AM | | smoking = HUGE turn-off. it's a deal-breaker at this stage of the game for me. i dated a smoker when i was much, much younger, when getting laid was top priority. kissing her was like kissing an ashtray, tho. | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 4/28/2009 10:39:10 AM | The funny thing about smokers is often the way they don't see everything it does to them.... I'm not talking long term health here...
I dated woman who smoked... lovely lady, bot her and her girlfriend were very vain about their looks (mirror watchers) constantly complained about how they were looking older... yet got angry if anyone suggested that maybe it's the smoking that is aging their faces....
I've known several women who smoked... alway found it funny that before going out they would pick out clean fresh clothes, shower, put on a nice fresh (and often expensive) perfume or scent, and then have a cigarette... which would promptly, leave them, their hair and clothes with a wet ashtray smell.... seemed like such a waste of effort..... | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 4/28/2009 11:48:45 AM | m church, I totally agree with your post. Smoking does affect someone's face. It, in fact, "smokes" it like a ham.
As for going to a lot of trouble to look and smell nice when going out, then lighting up a cigarette and stinking of smoke, that's true, also. I especially find it annoying since I don't smoke, take some pains with my appearance and have to walk through a cloud of stinking cigarette smoke on the way downstairs. People here aren't supposed to smoke in the breezeways, because of fire danger, as well as not subjecting people to their second-hand smoke. It happens quite a bit because, hey! I'm a smoker! I have a right to smoke anywhere! Who cares how YOU feel about it? And, by the way, you have a nasty habit of your own, don't you? You drive a car, right? You're polluting the environment more than I am!
There's logic for you! Yes, I drive a car, but I don't get out and suck on the exhaust pipe for thrills. | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 4/28/2009 1:14:42 PM |
i dont like guys who smoke, hate the smell. I find watching a guy eat meat a bit of a turn off to but can cope with that more than smoking YUK!
I've said it before and i'll say it again; I smoke and i eat meat...but only from cows that smoke.
I don't like fat women...especially the ones that try to jam it into tight fitting clothes.
Ewwww...red flags, deal breaker ! | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 4/28/2009 7:25:03 PM | I completely understand the whole "smoking is a dealbreaker" thing. I quit smoking when I was pregnant and the smell actually made me sick. That's when I understood why non-smokers are so put off by smokers. I know I should have never started back, but once the sickness went away after having my kids....
I am fine with being passed over because I smoke-it's a personal choice for me and I don't lie and say I smoke occasionally or I'm trying to quit. They'll find out anyway sooner or later. They would need to accept me for how I am and my choices....the same as I would need to accept them for how they are and their choices/lifestyle.
I wouldn't want to kiss someone with bad breath, so the same thing should go for smoking or anything else like that that would turn you off. It's just a preference like others we all have. No big deal to me.
I tend to date smokers anyway. Most of the non-smokers I have dated ended up being too preachy about my smoking habits, which just served to piss me off. They knew about it beforehand, so stop trying to change me. It ranks right up there with someone trying to beat me over the head with a Bible....annoying and pointless. | |
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