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ohno!
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Joined: 1/23/2006
Msg: 102 | |
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ohno!
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Joined: 1/23/2006
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 2/23/2006 11:55:17 PM | Maybe not as much as me--I have said that an attractive woman (or any woman) who lights up might as well set fire to herself. I know it is an addiction that is portrayed as being sexy and independent and "all grown up". So with all due respect to those (women and men!) who say they "can't quit" I say bullshit. Millions have quit. You can, too. Sorry for being so blunt but it is true.
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 2/24/2006 5:48:06 PM | [Maybe not as much as me]... and that is funny on what planet? David, who is portraying smoking as sexy? every where I look its taboo, and the people who smoke are as if they were less than human. addiction is a disease some say and I say that above all things we should be loving and forgiving... no matter who you are or what you do. prejudice is the same no matter toward who it is directed. having said that I forgive you  | |
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BBdrgn
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Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 107 | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 2/24/2006 6:28:19 PM | This is a major topic with me. So much so it's my first post ever on POF.
I smoked for about 10 years. I wasn't a social smoker by any means. By the age of 18 I was at LEAST a pack a day. This continued until I was 25. During my long tenure at killing myself slowly, I met a lot of pretty girls that didn't smoke and I met a lot of pretty girls that did smoke. At the time I didn't think anything of it. When you are a smoker you don't actually really realize how bad yourself, or the other person you are with that smokes, smell. No matter how much toothpaste, mouthwash, or shampoo you use...that smell still lingers ever so slightly.
Now, after being quit for almost 2 years I started to date a "social" smoker. She caught me off guard the first time I met her because we all met up at a friend’s house and kind of fell for each other at the bar. She didn't smoke all night. We went out again to a pub and talked all night long. Then near the end of the night I noticed a pack of cigs in her open purse (I wasn't snooping it was just open in front of me!). I was a little disappointed, but felt reassured that she only smoked once in awhile. Well once in awhile turned into everyday a couple of times. The taste of someone’s mouth after they have smoked is the most gut-wrenching thing. I never did give her an ultimatum. I merely stated the facts of what smoking does to you. 9 months later and here I am on POF with my profile blocking anyone that answers "socially" to Smoking.
I really don't know how the girls I dated in the past that didn't smoke put up with me smoking all the time. I guess that's why they didn't stick around for too long. I am the first person out of all my friends that smoke to quit and actually stay quit. I give myself a daily affirmation by checking my stats on my quit date:
929 days, 17 hours, 28 minutes and 41 seconds smoke free.
24173 cigarettes not smoked.
$10,265.45 and 6 months, 4 days, 15 hours of your life saved.
Being an ex-smoker it's too hard to date someone that smokes. The temptation sometimes lingers back (especially when your partner leaves packs of cigarettes lying around the house and they aren't there) and the fact that you know they are just killing themselves doesn't really make it worth my time. I'd like to keep someone around for a long time and be in good health. | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 2/24/2006 8:40:00 PM | What if.....you met the person of your dreams...and he /she was an occasional (emphasis on the "OCCASIONAL" part) smoker and you didn't find out until you were a couple of years into the relationship. Lets get past the "I would know he/she smokes bla bla bla crap" for the purpose of this little scenario.
The question remains...what would you do????
I would allow him to smoke one cigaratte or cigar twice a year. Otherwise, he deceived me about smoking and that's not acceptable. Therefore, except for a couple of smokes a year, he would quit or I would end the relationship.
There are lots of men of my dreams that don't smoke.
I read somewhere that smoking in increasingly becoming a low class custom. That smoking is much less common in the middle to upper classes. Does anyone know for certain if that is true?
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 2/24/2006 8:53:33 PM | Since I don`t even allow smoking on my property (inside or out) I guess the chances of dating a smoker are pretty slim and as soon as I see smoking on a profile I move on immediately. | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 2/24/2006 9:20:02 PM | Definitely.
Never mind the stench and the ugliness of the habit - there are some of us that
have survived severe bouts of respiratory illness and asthma (after losing some
beloved family members to smoking...). Breathing smoke actually can cause pain.
I can think of a few things LESS attractive, but not many.
So - before someone flames me for 'hating smokers':
It is important to mention that one of my closest friends smokes, and we usually
speak almost every day - by phone.....and it hasn't hurt our friendship other
than to make visits a bit more challenging.
It is a terrible heartache to lose someone you love because they were addicted;
and as a directly related concept - imagining that loss at the start cannot be a
help to an aspiring couple....
Best Wishes,
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RUSSII
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Joined: 5/22/2005
Msg: 120 | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 2/24/2006 9:31:03 PM | My Father was a captain on the tugboats for about forty years. That would mean he would be out at sea for weeks at a time. He was also a very heavy smoker. When he would come home, two of his fingers would literally be black. He ultimately became eaten up with cancer several years ago and is no longer with us. I have little doubt that his heavy smoking (rolled his own) contributed to his demise. My uncle was also a very heavy smoker. The chrome around the ashtray in his 1965 Oldsmobile was literally black from the smoke. I can't begin to imagine what it did to him. He is no longer with us, either. One of my cousins (a supremely gifted man) died in his mid fifties a few short years ago (also a very heavy smoker). I really couldn't bear the thought of possibly losing someone else close to me in that way. That would pretty much rule out a mate who smokes
I am a devout non-smoker myself but in no way consider smokers to be second-class citizens. As a non-smoker, I unfortunately simply cannot spend any amount of time in a smokey environment. I'm afraid I am turned off by the smell; it simply lingers long after the fact. It really can bowl you over if you are not used to it. | |
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| does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 2/24/2006 11:17:53 PM | I guess it does not really get to you or matter if you are a "smoker" but i could see you'r point kissing somebody or even being with them, and they smoke can be nasty esp if you never smoked before.
And the taste you get when you kiss them or even smell when they are around you can make you wan't to throw up, since you'r not use to the taste or smell. | |
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