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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 8/24/2006 8:12:58 PM | Here's one that doesn't want his lady to act like a "tomboy".
Personally, I want my mate to be all female and feminine through and through. I'm attracted to women who act like women, not women who act or dress like men. If I wanted a man, then I would date a man, but I want a woman. | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 8/25/2006 10:21:38 PM | You know,it really wouldnt matter if every single man posted in this forum saying they disliked tomboys.It wouldnt change who Ive always been I love being outdoorsy,dont mind getting a little dirty (get your minds out of the gutter heh ),love playing sports,camping,rock climbing,hiking,and I like the peacefulness of kicking back and chatting by a camp fire.Ill always climb trees until Im 80 yrs old,and swing on the swings with my daughter at the playground.I enjoy the carefree feeling of going barefoot,and know my way around cars a bit too.When I see women at the beach in full face makeup,I cant help but giggle a little before I go running into the water and dive in under the waves.Some women are so overly concerned with appearing feminine at all times,it seems like they've forgotten how to have fun and let loose,all for appearances sake.The thing is,for all of the tomboy activities I love,Im still very much a feminine woman deep down.I love having a man in my life and I embrace all of the important aspects of my femininity.Women can be outdoorsy in conjunction with being feminine as well.I like to dress femininely,wear perfume,and paint my nails on occasion justas much as the next girl.I say yay for tomboys!  | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 8/26/2006 1:44:09 PM | | Kat......I think most men love the kind of Tomboy you are......Someone to have fun with a day at the beach or a backyard football game but someone who can clean up at night with all the sexy appeal and lady like qualities. | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 8/26/2006 7:33:35 PM | Black Knight, thank you. You made my night because that's me. I love a day at the beach, diving into the waves and later cleaning up, putting on a black dress and enjoying a nice night out. Sounds good to me
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 8/26/2006 8:49:50 PM | I always do a lot of the physical jobs by myself without the help of anyone, some things
I try to figure out.
I don't mind getting my hands dirty, but still I would welcome the help of a man anytime.
If he offered to fix a flat for me, then I would definitely not object!!  | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 9/18/2006 8:39:53 PM | Any of you watch "Firefly" created by Joss Wheedon????
Their mechanic is a gal named Kaylee who has a way with engines but she is definitely a girl. She likes frilly things as well as knowing how to fix engines! | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 9/18/2006 9:37:45 PM | I work in a profession that is very much still a male dominated field. It is necessary that I not only know- I must take charge of a situation. It is not a matter of being a tom boy- it literally can mean life and death. When the alarms go off- most can run away from the area. It is my job to make the area safe- not even the firemen or paramedics nor any other personnel can enter the area without my say and permission. I have to direct them and give them instructions as to how to proceed. That is just the way it is. I did not make the rules. That is my job. Does this make me a bit*h?
As soon as my shift is over I hit the shower and come out usually with a dress or skirt on. I am very much a lady. I am in no means butch. I am strong. I am independent. I am intelligent. I have no hesitation in hopping on my quad and heading out into the moutains. I am confident and feel that I have a lot to offer the world. I have many interests that would show more of the real me- I volunteer, I am the one who drops in with a meal already prepared, I am the one who shows up to give a hand, or to visit when you are lonely, I am the one who friends and family will turn to in times of crisis, I ask little to nothing in return. I was raised this way- I do not need to be in the spotlight, I know what I have done and am perfectly happy if you want to take the credit.
The problem? you tell me....
I am coming to the conclusion that the more I succeed, the less men out there that are interested in ME. Most are still hung up only in looks.
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/4/2006 7:47:12 PM | I think a Tom Boy who also knows how to be a woman is so sexy.
If she can enjoy the outdoors with me and we learn things from each other
then yes, there is a heaven. I haven't worked on my truck in a while, but I can fix
the bikes, fishing gear, load the kayaks and gear and find our way through the
wilderness. Get dirty, clean up, do it again. | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/4/2006 7:55:39 PM | | Its attractive when a girl is versatile like that but when it comes to actual attraction a girl should look like a girl lol.. meaning she needs to be a girl sometimes and look sexy | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:01:02 PM | | I am tomboyish and I would never change my ways or my likes for a man but I have found that sound men either dont like it or are turned off by it but hey.......thats their fricking problem cause I aint about to change my likes for anyone........but then some men are turned on by it so I thinkk it is just a preference just like we women have a preference of men........ | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:33:46 PM | I do plumbing (hooked dishwashers, garbage disposals, facets, totally rehauled the sink and all underneath it . . . moved plumbing), electrical (wired to next room, extra outlets, extra ceiling lights, ran wire for fans, etc.). I turned my kitchen into a master bedroom and my bedroom into a kitchen (with this one a guy helped me hold the cabinets), knock down walls and make them arches all by ME, MYSELF & I . . .heheee. I lay down tile down DIAGONALLY. I cut the lawn. I did my landscaping, (layed the pvc, wired the electrical sprinklers, etc.) I paint without taping. If I have the muscle I will do it myself. I have falled off of ladders many a times (too many margaritas . . heheee). I have yet to learn how to change the oil in my car but only because I have been too busy. I'm sure I'm forgetting something . . .
Now outside my "overalls" . . . . . . . I'm a LADY ALL THE WAY. Ooooh sweetie . . . I'm not blowing my own horn . . . but I have to tell you that NO GUY has ever doubted my abilities of being a LADY!!!! Me a "Tom Boy"? They would say "never"!!! They will also say . . . . "Babe you can be anything you want . . . JUST DON'T CHANGE WHAT YOU DO!!!! hahahahahahaaaaaaa!!!!
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:44:06 PM | Three cheers for Shylala......
...there is absolutely nothing wrong with a "Ms. Fix-it"
In my early 20's I worked all kinds of construction and machine shop jobs.....and I have to say there is definitely something empowering about being able to do whatever job is put in front of you.
I am whole-heartedly a tom-boy (my first requested toy was a Tonka dump truck)....but I enjoy my feminine side to the fullest. Anyone that says you can't do both is full of it and more than likely just envious because of their own self-imposed limitations. | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:57:56 PM | You know, when it comes to women who are capable of taking care of themselves, fixing things, the car, etc, I think it's great. If she knws how to do those things, then hey, I don't have to.
And I make up for it by shopping, cooking and cleaning. At least, I do when I am in a relationship. Right now have to do it all, because there isn't anyone to share the load.
I love it when a woman likes to camp, fish, etc, do outdoors stuff, because the more we can share, the better. I'm not the type who wants woman to stay home so I can go out with the boys. There are no "the boys". Just me. So I look for a woman I can do as much with as possible.
And if she outfishes me? (and it's been done, a LOT) well, more power to her. As long as she shows me what she was using!
EDIT- But yes, I also want her to like to get dressed up, go dancing, etc. I like a happy medium. | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/4/2006 8:58:49 PM | | I think she means total feet . most trailers are either 48 or 53 ft. add the length of the tractor. ( stretched tractors plus a 48 ft trailer can come out to 80+ ft) Sparticuss, do you have a stretched tractor. say close to 300 inch wheelbase? I drive tractor trailers as well, my trailer is a 53 ft dry van and my tractor has a 270 inch wheelbase. Comes out to 70+ feet total. | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/5/2006 3:39:21 PM | Good question..i get confused as well..I am a plumber...how unfeminine is that..whenI am not working, and go out, men never beleive me when I tell them what I do..until they see my hands that is...
I am a very independent woman...my mama taught me never to "need" a man..just show him that you want him..i have found some men really are intrigued by a woman like me, and others want someone very helpless..it all depends, in my opinion, on the security or insecurity of the man...
on the flip side...different strokes for differnt folks...I can not be attracted to a man who is too feminine...if they have soft hands and soft voices i am instantly turned off..however some men like a soft man..I have always had relationships with men who knew how to be my buddy , fish with me, camp with me, fix up the house with me..but they had to know when buddy time was over and treat me like a woman too...
It's a hard balance to find..I know when to turn on the feminine side..normally if a man meets me in that mode he is surprised when he sees me at work...if he meets me at work, he is surprised to see me cleaned up..some can handle it , some can't..
I think most men want to feel needed or like a hero ..so sometimes, wether you are able to do it yourself or not...you have to play the part for them ... | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/21/2006 4:44:28 AM | | Thats a kinda complicated question. I don't have a problem with a girl being a tom boy but they always seem to get lumped into the friends category or "one of the guys". That is if they look and act like a tom boy all the time. I love a girl who enjoys and does the same activities I do, but I would also want a woman who shows her feminine side as well. I personally don't see why any man would want a girl to look and act like a guy all the time. I also think guys mis-interpret tom boys. Some men think they might be a butch lesbian and are never given a second look at. I don't say this to be mean or cruel I just personally think this. Tom boy means different things to different people. Do you define a tom boy by how they dress, act, job they perform, or all of the above. Me personally I guess I would put more of the emphasis on how they look. I would not consider the woman who races for indy a tom boy based off of other things she has done even though she is doing what is traditionally "a mans job". Note: that is not my opinion so i don't want hatemail. | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/21/2006 4:59:26 AM | Tom Boys are so cool.
Nothing beats a woman with a healthy sense of self, health and confidense.
That independant streak is what endears me to them.
I find assertiveness another endearing quality.
A Tom Boy who finds the right time to be dainty is a nice hidden treasure indeed. | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/23/2006 9:18:13 PM | Well now.. I have a little chihuaha.. and I can assure you. he will be in my saddle bags way before some silly little pink handbag... ewwwww... have you ever seen the women who DYE their dogs to match them or what they are wearing???
The most foo foo thing I do.. is paint my toe nails.. but then how else can I hide the dirt???
Just kidding... sorta... | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/24/2006 4:22:33 AM | | i'm a tom boy. i have to be. it's funny how when there's no one else but you to do a certain thing, you take a deep breath, grab the hammer and the duct tape, and get the job done. i like my self reliance. i also have an awesome tool box that plenty of guys would like to get their hands on (no inuendo intended). i like doing all that stuff. i can install tile, i can fix a broken floor board, install a sub floor, dry wall, vinyl, marble fireplace surround, - love to get my hands dirty - love to do lawn sculpting, home improvements, will fall in love with the man that let's me help install a tile floor and use the wet saw.... i'm not frilly... i have summer dresses that i love, and skirts, sexy underthings. i hate being scratched and poked by too frilly under garments. but if i'm wearing a sweatshirt, you can generally bet i have a lacy bra on underneath. like to sleep in a roomy tee shirt and undies, not some scratchy thing. absolutely love a good pedicure, and paint my fingernails too. but have to keep them active/short. always try to have on mascara, lip gloss and earrings. if any guy is interested, i could really use a cordless power drill for christmas...... | |
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| Tom Boy's, a Plus or a Minus in Men's Books?
Posted: 10/24/2006 12:20:52 PM | ^^^^^
Hey all you ladies . . . aka "Tom Boys"
What yal say we open a business together . . .
Hummm?
How does this sound . . . "call us and we'll fix your problem"
Also we can be sooooo creative as to what we wear while fixing it . . .
ooooooooooooooooooooooo the joys of being a lady!!!!
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