| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 4/1/2006 10:46:24 AM | | hey vin i can totally relate to the whole single dad thing. myself i have been a single parent raising my son alone for the past 9 years and it often seems women are attracted to the single father but yet they don't want the involvment. i work a little to much and never have the real opportunity to get out and away when i have free time. however i have learned that pursuing all venues that my son enjoys does lead me to many single mothers so i can't complain all that much. but as far as a word of wisdom well here goes as it is what i live by day in and day out...all in the world and life that is meant to be will simply happen and usually when you least expect it | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 4/1/2006 2:15:41 PM | well vinni i think your problem is solved just look at all the single moms in here pick one and go have a ball and get to know them goodluck to you and i myself would date a guy with kids as long as we could get quality time together as well goodluck   | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 4/25/2007 3:04:16 AM | | I know exactly how you feel. I am a 28year old single mother of two children. I would love to date but it is hard when you have no help and no one to babysit to get back out in the dating scene. I have had a couple of dates since i had my last child but they always end terrible cuz they find out I have kids. Maybe if you found a single mom and mad it a date during the day to take the kids out and have fun with the chidren? | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 4/25/2007 12:44:38 PM | Hi VInny,
Your doing a good job mate, it seems that kenorabae and rivergirl have said it all really. At my age and a single mum of two, I would rather date a guy with kids cos they understand they come first. It is hard to go out and you do need that time to let you demons out. I suggest you pick up some leaflets for Lone Paretns or speak to organisations like 'Home Start' or you health visitor about how to find registered Babysitters. They dont all charge a fortune, about £3/3.50 p hour is the going rate £5 after midnite) and get yourself someone you trust so you cab got out and have a luagh.
Good luck.
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 4/25/2007 7:27:38 PM | | I 24 and a single mom, I understand how you feel but the right person will come along I am still waitin :) | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 4/27/2007 8:03:44 AM | hi how are you. i am a single mom i have a girl. i am 31 years old. if you want to chat send me a message :  | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 4/28/2007 2:42:45 AM | | hi vinny i now how u feel i am a single mum with no family other than my son, i dont get to go out because i dont really trust any one looking after him as he is ill, but im hoping one day the right person will come that will take me and my son on with all ours faults as well as our good points........im sure u will find someone one day they are just waiting for you to find them thats all. good luck in your search xxxxxxx | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 4/28/2007 4:11:20 PM | Hey guys.. I'm a 29 year old single dad of a 4 year old child prodigy/dork/future NHL superstar. ;)
When I first separated from my wife, everybody told me "Oh yeah! Women love a family man!" And "he's like a puppy on steroids, you'll be beating the women off with a stick whenever you go out with him!"
Then I found that wasn't true. Mentioning him to the women I was out with would turn things sour.
Man was I confused!! I refused to not mention him.. he's a HUGE part of my life, being with me 50% of the time.
Then I found the real secret. I started worrying about _attracting_ women. Suddenly, women started compromising their usual logical rules about dating. They'd say things like "Oh I'd never date a guy with a kid!.. but.. you are so cool.. I'm changing my mind!"
All I can say to you Vinny, and Dionne... don't sit back in confusion. Figure out what sorts of things about you your ideal mates are _attracted_ to, and make sure you're communicating those things in your everyday life.
The universal way I've found to do this is, be in control. I'm not saying be an arrogant ass pushing people around. But know what you want in life, and be on the path to getting it. People will notice, including your children. The added benefit is, your life should improve in all aspects, not just love. :)
-C | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 4/29/2007 3:09:18 AM | | Dudes and Du-detts? I hear how hard it is for all you`s to find a date. And yet you or the majority of you are so frick`in young. Try being my age suddenly single (divorced) and raising a 10 year old girl. Hell I wanna date to ? | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/23/2008 8:36:50 PM | | I am also a single mother and love every moment of it! other then having to work full time to keep my house in order, when it comes to finding a single dad its a rare thing to see a father get custody of the child in the first place(if thats the case) so I give all you single dads out there lots of credit...my sons father gave up full rights to his child (his choice) and as for my opinion I think the only type of man I would seriously date would be a single dad! or a guy who understands by having friends/family who do the single parent thing, or someone older who wants a family but hasent had the opportunity. its a package take it or leave it...everything happens for a reason | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/24/2008 12:16:38 AM | Well, in life , no body is perfect , every body keeps searching up for particular stuff since the early morning we wake up , and one of these stuff is love , it is a valuabe expression and it takes lives sometimes to get it .it is true that it is just around us but nobody knows where it is , or when it comes , but what is not good , is when u have it and u lose it , it really hurts if one of the belovers is emotional , it takes his her life then or psychological troubles at least . Anyway , actually , everybody is looking for love and she / he wants to share his or her life with someone else bases on love , loyality and thrust on each other , otherwise it is impossible .so all i can say now is that love is just close to u with some of petience and faith , u will get it back again with someone from a nice family ....all of us need loveeeeeeeeee | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/24/2008 12:20:36 AM | | hey single mum , how are u doing ? I am single too but i never got married before . so how will u like to chat with me ? | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/25/2008 12:02:59 PM | | Okay being a single parent and dating is not easy you just have to wait for the right person. I being a single parent would rather spend my time with my children then having to find a date. | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:57:16 PM | | I was on a date with a guy and this kid kept bugging us. He was so cute and I started looking forward to him breaking from his dad to come over and ask me questions everything from, "Why are you brown?" to "Do you like Spiderman?" My date was not happy with this guy horning in on his date and gave the boys dad so very interesting looks. Three weeks later I was dating the kid's dad. The man was pennyless our dates were week nights because he had his son on week ends. I liked him and his son we dated for a long time stopped once he moved back to live with his parents in Ohio. | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/26/2008 3:49:05 AM | There is definately someone out there for you honey, dont give in, when you least expect it is when you will find her, its always the way!
As for women not wanting to date a single dad well you just havent found the right one, i personally wouldnt date anyone who hasnt got kids, you have everything going for you believe me, just wait and see! | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/26/2008 9:23:35 AM | Hiya Vinny,
Women come and go mate,but your kids are for ever,don't worry about meeting the right person they'll come along if it's mean't to be,and if any woman can't except you because you've got a kid then thats there problem not yours,and their loss dude.Just enjoy bringing up your kid mate cause the time with them will soon fly and you'll never get it back,before you know it their grown up and don't want to spend time with you as much.
Unfortunately mate,no matter what any woman says,there are double standards for us single fathers in lots of ways,women seem afraid that we wouldn't be able to show them the time they need,that the kid will always be put first,but thats what parenthoods about,doesn't mean we haven't got the capacity to love them as well though. | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/26/2008 10:37:29 PM | Some women don't have a problem with children.
I would not mind planning around a child myself. If we have to do something together that included something fun for the child, well to see the joy on a child's face brings joy to me.
This may be the type of woman you need to look for. | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/27/2008 5:02:07 AM | Well, I don't have my 8 years old daughter during a week, but I have her every weekend. And I work 10 -12 hours during a week.
But you know, I would never cancel on my daughter, I look forward to the weekend.
Women's just need to understand this. If we want to go somewhere, and it's a weekday, it has to be after 6 or 7 PM. On the weekend, it has to be something that is appropiate for my daughter. Am I having a hard time "dating"? You bet.
Course I am not looking for "love", so it's OK.
My daughter is more important to me, than any women.I did had a chance to make some friends,whom were OK with my daughter, so it can be done. | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/27/2008 12:45:54 PM | I'm wondering if anybody who has posted on here has noticed that Vinny and several others aren't on POF anymore.
Just my opinion but the greatest pleasures of our single life is raising our kids ....of course, discovering a love is too so it's up to the woman and her kids to be part of it together or she can find a new guy. | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/27/2008 10:07:52 PM |
I'm wondering if anybody who has posted on here has noticed that Vinny and several others aren't on POF anymore.
wow maybe this is the lucky thread where you go to not be single anymore. | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/27/2008 11:27:24 PM | I with you on this one. I've got 3 children as well. All from my 1st marriage. I'm currently going through another divorce. Both of my divorces ended because they cheated on me. I'm about to throw in the towel. I'm thinking I probably don't stand a chance of meeting another woman that will want me and my children as well. But I keep telling myself to hang in there, learn from my mistakes. Everything happens for a reason. My soul mate is out there somewhere, but where. Don't lose hope dude.
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/27/2008 11:32:04 PM | | Good for you to keep on going on but before you put a ring on a persons finger ask,why did I pick cheaters? how is she different? | |
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| Single Dad looking for love
Posted: 6/28/2008 1:12:02 AM | | I sympathise with you,it can be a very difficult situation.you just have to cope the best you can. | |
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