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Posted: 2/25/2006 10:25:31 PM | | hey man... if that's how it went down... then it's her loss.... some girls just aren't ready for that kind of relationship, and some never will be until they have a kid of their own. But know this.. there are women out there dying to meet a guy with his head on his shoulders, accepting responsibility, and playing a important role in a little girl's life, no matter what obstacle come in his way:) She ain't worth your time..... | |
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Posted: 2/25/2006 10:46:51 PM | | I forgot to add single dads are very sexy for many reasons. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 10:55:18 AM | | i am a single dad and my son live with me and i find it hard to find someone to have a relationship | |
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Posted: 2/26/2006 11:58:13 AM | Guys with kids don't bother me. Kids are awesome!! They aren't baggage either. Sounds like she was a selfish b!tch who wasn't mature enough to share! | |
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Posted: 2/28/2006 10:16:08 PM | | See this is why it is better to just be upfront and honest from the jump. If you start out with the truth then you have nothing to worry aboutcoming back on you later. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 2:03:31 AM | First, I would like to say,I am a single father of two great girls.
Then I would like to comment on judgement this girl is getting. I think it was better for her to be upfront and honest about her feelings of his situation. Some people are not ready or willing for that kind of responsibillity. And in my book a person who is smart enough to realize it and get out before anyone gets hurt can't be all that bad.
I personally wouldn't get into a situation I wasn't ready for, just so people wouldn't call me a "heartless ****". | |
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Posted: 3/1/2006 9:34:39 AM | | It doesn't make you a bad person...I think it shows strength, what kind of a parent someone is, can tell you alot about the kind of person they really are. A man that puts their children first is very appealing to me, mainly because it shows that he knows whats truly imprtant in life. I'm a single mom and after having problems with men running at thought that I had children, I tend to be more drawn to a man that has his own children. We have a lot more in common, and understand the ups and downs of single parenthood. Don't give up the one for you is out there. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 10:02:55 PM | | You know it's nice to hear the ladys say that they like single dads but as a single father with full cutody it seems hard to find a women that wants to get involved with the whole situation.Please don't get me wrong i much preffer to date a single mom due to the understanding we both would have about having kids.As far as the right time to tell someone you have kids it should be first and always first if they run you know it wasnt worth exploring with that person. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 10:55:47 PM | Guys with kids....hmmm.... I find it to be a double-edged sword.
Okay there's this guy with an awesome daughter! He is a very loving, dedicated, full time custody dad. Who puts her before anything, which is the way it should be. It also makes him all the more attractive to me. I am admiring him for his focus and drive to be a great father and because of that focus and dedication, there is little room for me in their lives. It hurts because I have become so attached to them both. I have no children of my own but a very strong desire to be a mom. Her mom is not in the picture. The answer seems so easy but I know it is not. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 3:38:01 AM | | I share Rahs attitude about children , I just got through a custody battle with my ex-wife and they would only give me visitation after thousands ln attorney fees (I could have got that with out an attorney)After thousands of more dollars I now have just less than half custody. I think the system should take a better look at who does what for the child or children and in alot of cases the father is best in the intrest of the kid(s). | |
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Posted: 3/19/2006 4:50:00 AM | I don't think there is anything wrong with dating guys with kids. i have been dating a guy for the last five months that has a little girl. he gets her two days one week and three days the next week. i love the fact taht he cares so much about his child. i have two kids whose fathers don't bother with them at all. so it's nice to see that there are guys out there that actually care about thier kids. our kids go to the same school but i have not been introduced to her as his g/f. i don't see him when he has her. and he lives on the same st as i do. he's spent time with me and my kids but not when he's had his daughter. i don't think that that is very fair. but i know everyone has thier own set of rules .
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Posted: 3/19/2006 10:18:53 AM | | I guess all that I can say to this is that I never cease to be amazed by what comes out of some people's mouth these days. Men and Women complain so much about what the opposite sex says and does and then they do the same thing that they were disgusted about. People can be so hypocritical that is mind blowing. I'd give examples but do not want to run the risk of breaking forum rules. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2006 11:19:42 AM | | i think most men want to have his children with him but wants what the children want. which is to live with their mother instead of dad. i dont think the man moves on as much as he is -forced out of the picture. you lose your parental authority when you become a part time parent. which just causes more commotion than its worth to even try to step in and be with your children. i spent every chance i could with my two 9,12. they were a quite handful so they stayed with me. when their mother moved out of state. i try to keep them busy around the house with chores and away from too much tv/video games. we also had our share of fun -burger king, blading to the park, laughlin -just to hit the buffet, and all day at the pool, movies, even an afternoons of hotdogs and playing with the plasma tv's at costco. -they both recently decided they would rather live with their mother out of state. we have joint custody, but i sadly gave into their request since i think their mom needed them around her more. im not going to use them as pawns in an allready sad situation. :( | |
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Posted: 3/25/2006 6:31:55 PM | | No problemo! A single dad pushing a stroller works just about as good as a can of oysters and an ecstacy pill...... | |
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Posted: 3/25/2006 6:53:52 PM |
Recently though, a girl I was seeing split up with me when I told her because she 'couldn't handle the baggage'
What a ****, referring to your daughter as "baggage." You should've expressed righteous indignance at her choice of words, held your head high, and walked off before she could. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2006 11:11:15 PM | I think it alot of it comes down to responsibility issues, in my case my ex just couldnt handle the responsibility and sacerfices it takes to become a parent some people cant even hold jobs or anything remotely close to that. Being a parent is hard work it takes alot ,but my daughter did not choose to be born I chose to have her I would prefer to be with a guy who has children he knows what it takes because he is in the same position as I am.  | |
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Star09
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Joined: 3/25/2006
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Posted: 3/26/2006 2:15:32 AM | | It doesn't . A single dad is sexy to me ,her insecurties, maybe she couldn't handle being second, and your child comes first , thats a daddy. In time you will find the one that won't care you have a child and that one will always find you attractive not because of your looks but for whom you are. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 6:02:49 AM | Well, I think it quite fair enough for someone to not wish to date a parent - that is their preference and it shouldn't be judged. But to refer to a kid as 'baggage' is just lousy, and anyone who would do that should be told to take a long walk off a short pier.  | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 8:32:59 AM | She's ignorant! You're a cutie and a good father too. What a catch!!!!! | |
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Joined: 12/28/2005
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Posted: 3/26/2006 10:36:03 AM | NO problem with the kids.....it's the ex I have issues with!
Depends on how the ex is...contolling and mean spirited? Hostile? Hell no! I am outta there! | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 9:21:00 PM | | well hey will someone here point me in the right direction. im looking for the single LADIES who dont mind that your a man with a child seminar. im so sick and tired of being pushed away cuz of my child. even if the woman has a child or 2 of there own. i mean whats up with that? God bless | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 9:44:39 PM | Hey--You think you got baggage? I'm 64 years old with a 15 year old daughter who was taken form her mom by social services. Looks like my retirement plans are on hold. And not many gals at my age group want to go through the teen years again.  | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 9:52:12 PM | Dude, Maybe she was thinking of the child support you would have to pay all those years ahead and how it would affect any future family you might have with another woman. But, for every woman who thinks that way, I bet there are 1,000 who would see your daughter as an asset and admire you for your devotion to her. I am a single parent raising 2 daughters who are now in their late teens. There were a few people who thought it was wierd for a man to raise his daughters, but most saw it as a positive thing. Kids do take time, and a few that I dated didn't understand about my having to stay home weekdays to help with homework and stuff. Kids are not baggage! Even now, at my age as I get older there are some who see kids as undesireable because they require time and effort, and the other person wants all of your time and energy for themselves. It's just another choice. As far as the other thing goes,
well, my ex asked me once if I wanted to be room-mates with her, and I replied "What woman in her right mind would date a guy living with his ex wife??" If you are hanging out with the ex and sleeping over or whatever with her you are throwing a "red flag" out and saying there is a good chance it's not really over on your part. No sane person will put up with that! | |
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| Guys with kids.to Willp
Posted: 3/26/2006 10:22:30 PM | Willp---I can relate. I gave pretty much gave up on dating the last few years and decided to concentrate on my kids. Many times I found them better company than some adults! When I was 44 with my kids I got tons of dates. Now, at 51 it's slowed down. Why didn't I pick someone and settle down again back then? I didn't find the right person who fit in with my kids! There was the tall gal who sang me country & western love songs , but turned out to be an alcoholic. (Didn't want that around them!) A redhead who wanted a "friend with benefits" (What kind of example would that have set?) A short blond who spent money like water and wanted me to sleep over and didn't understand I needed to go home to my kids at nite, and the list goes on! Sure, I let some decent ones get away, I guess!! The point is, do your circumstances fit in with the other persons lifestyle? Even I admit, at my age I'm not looking for someone with a toddler! Kids my own girls ages or somewhat younger would be ok.
I read some statistics that say that after 50 the percentage of people who find a successfull mate or long term relationship is about 3%!! Three percent! It really starts to take a dive after the middle to late forties! The thing is, kids are not baggage! Yes, being a parent means being unselfish, if you wanna be a good one. There are some potential mates who feel they have done all the giving and are done wih the sacrafice being a parent entails at times. Evebtually the kids move out and are on their own. There is that empty nest thing they talk about. Does that sound wierd coming from a man? But, I have had my kids for years! My advice, enjoy your daughter while she is around!! | |
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