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| What would you think if you found someone with no flaws?
Posted: 2/23/2006 7:44:00 AM | man of ink Awesome post, you expressed that better than I did.
We did progress from noticing each other on the forums, replying to posts, emailing, phone then first visit. Over a period of at least 6 months, it was something that built and grew. Neither of us are impulsive by nature.
We are "perfect" for each other. Flaws are something that each person looks at differently. As some have said, what one sees as a flaw someone else may see as something charming or unique. And manofink I DO find my man flawless in that way!! | |
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| What would you think if you found someone with no flaws?
Posted: 2/24/2006 9:50:48 AM | I think where you erred, and what you are famous for is being overly Pedantic.
As mentioned before, FLAWLESS is PERFECT - check out any thesaurus.
And so, if we are to accept your style of writing (pedantic), how else could such a
topic head except down hill - and fast.
I've been dating a girl for over 1 year now, but I wouldn't suggest she's flawless....one could
be happy for me, but if I were to make her into a discussion forum, how is that
going to be an uplifting story? Am I writing the thread to receive kudos?
So, back to your thread, what exactly is the thrust of your thread again?
Love also brings to bear on perception a very powerful selectiveness in vision; love is blind. Blind to flaws; blind to anything that might rub you the wrong way.
I said this (as did most) in my own words......if you met somebody PERFECT or FLAWLESS, you only have BLINDERS on. The feelings are over-whelming and you're senses are
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| What would you think if you found someone with no flaws?
Posted: 2/24/2006 1:14:32 PM | "...with all your faults, I love you still,
it had to to you, wonderful you,
it had to be you..."
I was someones perfect man but I turned out to be too perfect. Before anyone starts to bash me for saying that, I want to say that perfection is objective to ones own mind.
Anyway, after a long time of being perfect, she left me because she never thought she was up to my standards. They were standards that she set, not me. She waited and waited to find something wrong with me and she worried and worried that she wasn't good enough for me.
So, make sure you're perfect for him, in your mind and his. Don't live each day trying to find flaws or you will become consumed by it. Be happy and excited that you found someone so special; someone that is so great that you may not see his flaws through all the great things.
GOOD LUCK, I'M TRUELY HAPPY FOR ANYONE THAT FINDS WHAT YOU HAVE...
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| What would you think if you found someone with no flaws?
Posted: 2/24/2006 1:22:03 PM | cxs33 We have said and discussed many times how perfect we are for each other. You really understand and I appreciate that. Neither of us thinks of ourselves as perfect, yet when we look at ourselves we don't see what the other person sees. I'm well aware of my imperfections, he doesn't see them and vice versa.
It's a damn near perfect match, we fit together well personality wise better than any couple I've ever known. I don't look or contemplate whether he has flaws or not, I just enjoy him. And as silly or sentimental as it may sound, he really makes me want to be and do my best.
I am excited and happy and want to thank you for your terrific post. Also let me wish for you that you find someone that you will consider flawless and terrific. | |
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| What would you think if you found someone with no flaws?
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:34:48 PM | I'd be nervous if I met someone with "no flaws", I'd wonder what sorts of skeletons reside in his backyard or garbage can (perhaps I've taken too many criminology courses in university). Also, if someone is too "flaw free" I get a little nervous, like somehow I am required to be perfect as well. I'm more comfortable around people with a reasonable assortment of flaws, who is willing to look at these flaws and resolve them, because when you think about it, this is what life is about, if you were perfect, you wouldn't be here... a "work in progress" is a lot more interesting then a "finished product" . It is disconcerting when people do not think they have flaws, and thus expect other people to be perfect.
I had a friend/workmate like this, no girl was ever good enough for him, and he was always looking for new reasons to dump the girls he dated...one time, he said about a girl he was dating, "we were in the car, listening to music, and she CHANGED THE STATION, after that, I knew she was not the girl for me" consequently, he never had a relationship that lasted beyond several weeks. | |
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| What would you think if you found someone with no flaws?
Posted: 6/25/2008 6:17:13 PM | I think something along the lines of 'woo hoo!'
But I don't really meet a person with the idea in mind that I should hurry and dig out all his 'flaws'. People have different traits, different approaches to life. It's not about putting plus or minus marks next to all his attributes. | |
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