| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/2/2005 7:02:22 AM | I think men out number women in the world period..... this is why women probably get more attention at bars etc... then men.... because there are always 3-4 men to 1 women there..... these are my 2 cents.... | |
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sddude
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/2/2005 7:23:43 AM | Yeah men are at a disadvantage everywhere , at the bar scene , we have to work hard at it , women get tired of being hit on or propositioned , guys would like to have the tables turned and when it happens that a women hit on a guy , that guy goes around telling his friends about his good fortune.
I have had my profile listed for 9 months now and tried to contact every women near my area , I have gotten no real responses from anyone , just the occasional , "not interested"
I am very truthful in my profile and I do not think I am a bad looking guy . If I would have lied and said , "lonely millionare seek love" boy I am sure I would have gotten a response . My female friends that have placed ads in other sites always get 2 to 5 resposes a day at the beining and now about 5 a week , I only get 0 real responses so far , I have been on 5 sites and only had one date froma girl that said right out the bat that she loved guys with money .
We will always be at a disadvantage , we have to pay and work for these women so they can listen . That is why men pay for women (prostitutes ) and not women for guys for the most part , women are less available or make themselves less available unless they run into a guy that catches their interest , usually the players or badboys , normal and nice guys end up just spinning their tires everywhere .
Wonder what is wrong with my profile . | |
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/6/2005 9:03:14 AM | | thatguy99, actually the ratio of women over men is slightly higher in the global population, it has always been the case. But it does appear like it's the other way around. | |
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/6/2005 9:31:57 AM | i don't men are at disadvantage online because all i ask for the true so there won't be any misunderstanding later on.
if a man is more worry about physical appearance he going to lose out anyway | |
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a_vamp
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Joined: 4/24/2004
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/18/2005 9:37:28 AM |
I have the impression that in the online dating world, men out number women by some huge multiple. In addition, I keep hearing that there is a lot of deception going on , with men providing old or false photos and misrepresenting their age, occupation, relationship status and on and on. A guy telling the truth about himself is at a disadvantage (at least during the course of the online email exchanges) in trying to compete with other guys who are creating a fantasy match. Am I off base or are the odds really stacked against us guys?
Ron.
Nah-uh... Never, EVER lie about anything on your profile Ron unless you wanna stay dating the person online ONLY - which is not exactly the interest of most people who'd signed up with POF. We'd like to meet the person for real eventually and by then the "truth" will be out.
Who's gonna like anyone who can't even like him/herself well enough to be truthful? I don't think seeing an appalled look on your date's face after ya lie's been busted is a nice way to have a first date... | |
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/20/2005 2:49:05 AM | a mans odds on a dating site are the same as anywhere else....
if you are attractive, and if you are in the right place at the right time...you will get a date..
doesnt matter what you say or do..its all about looks and timing | |
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/20/2005 6:08:31 AM | | I guess the question should be - why do men outweigh the women on dating sites? not "are men at a big disadvantage on these sites?? No guy telling the truth is at a disadvantage, because that's what counts at the end of the day - any lies, or deceptions online, are going to be found out eventually, by someone! Maybe the answer would be for anyone finding out a gross pork pie (lie) to spill the beans to everyone else - Jeannie | |
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/20/2005 1:35:29 PM | Hi a_vamp,
I agree with you. Lying or misrepresenting may give some temporary 'online success' but long term it's a formula for a big problem.
If your goal is limited to establishing a virtual online relationship, I guess you can lie all you want. But if you ever want to meet someone in person and have physical contact with that person, you will have a big problem trying to unwind the lies and explain how the your profile picture is really 5, 10 or even 15 years old.
I don't think it's a matter of liking oneself. Someone may like themself, but feel that to attract the type of person they would like, they have to project an image different from themselves. I don't know.... maybe they feel that they couldn't establish any type of relationship with someone that they would like without lying. They may feel that if they lie they would be able to establish a relationship, and they could build on that relationship and somehow make it work.
I don't know...I'm just speculating.
Ron. | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/21/2005 10:27:32 AM | disadvantage is that it is normal for women to get more mail than men , women do not answer most of their mail it seems , not all women do this , I am talking about women that are actually interested in a real date , not women who answer me to see how they can correct my profile so I would not have this problem . All women can say they received more mail than any guy as a norm , yes a couple of guys here are studs that live in the right place , do not have this problem , that is not the norm .
Women get pounded by mails , guys do not , just like in bars , all kinds of guys hit on woman as a norm and when by a miracle , every now and then a guy will get hit on by a normal attractive women , I wished that happened to me , I would feel so special , like as if it were a crowning acheivement in life , hahaha. | |
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/21/2005 3:16:40 PM | I've come across that a great deal. Alot of men say they're one thing and then, poof..all of a sudden they aren't anywhere near who or what they claim. To be honest, when they do that, it just makes me look at them like...well, to put it frankly, "another one bites the dust". It's a waste of time for both parties. I don't think the odds are stacked up against the honest males..in fact, if anything, I think the ones who are sincere, have a better chance with a woman (at least in my honest opinion), especially once she deals with a few of the fakes and phonies.
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/21/2005 4:54:57 PM | Hi angel,
It would be nice if the odds weren't stacked against us honest males. I think the males on this forum have generally agreed that a lot of their emails are ignored, even where the lady's profile indicates that she is looking to meet friends and the guy seems to match what the lady is looking for in her profile. I think that part of the problem may be that while the ladies are corresponding with 'fantasy super studs', the more normal guys are being ignored. Again, I'm speculating, I really don't why women on dating sites seem to be unresponsive.
Ron. | |
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/21/2005 8:55:11 PM | Hi Ardy,
I know in my case, to be honest, many times I don't respond to some gentlemen. Mainly because if I did, I could be here all day, writing. It's a time issue. I have a great many things to do during the span of a day/evening, and spending days upon days, responding to each and every email I get...well, it could become quite time consuming, to say the least. I'm not complaining, mind you...just saying sometimes, because the ratio of men to women is so great, women usually gets more emails than most men. Of course, I've also seen it reversed, according to some of the men, too.
I agree, it would be nice if the odds were more even. Additionally, even though many women may not verbalize it, I believe physical attraction also has to do with the lack of responses. Then again, you have to admit..if a female is very unattractive to a male, they might be less inclined to respond, too.
Of course, that's just my two cents, for whatever it's worth.
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/21/2005 10:34:14 PM | | There are a lot of disadvantages in dating, much less actually meeting someone. I would say with online dating, men do have more disadvantages. Women are picky! It's true. We **** and moan about not finding someone out there, when women are really looking for the "perfect" guy. Although this is my first shot at online dating, I would say my chances are higher online than at the bar scene, as my personality allows. Plus, it's so much harder to make a real first impression online, it's so superficial sometimes. | |
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 3/22/2005 2:39:25 PM | You know what is sad? Is that what the guys have said is pretty true, and ya it also true that a lot of issues/problems are on both sides.
But really what is more annoying is the people who don’t even put the time to write anything in there profiles… and then the 90% of others who describe who they are and what they are looking for which ends up being completely useless and garbage, because those are the things that EVERY person that wants a relationship wants or has the ideal view of… its stupid and the online dating sites should educate people… I know my profile isn’t all that, but another issue I find at times is the character limits!! I mean SERIOUSLY 250 char? 2k is ok but at times not enough too :P What heck are you going to put there just words? From a thesaurus or something?
With all this tech I would think some of the sites would open the limits a bit in the amount of text content, and also put in a lot more text fields for sites.
And me being the nerdy type I have searched over 50-100+ sites, only a few that are good, and others are just a waste of time pretty much. What is sad is there are some good sites that are not as popular as they should be, and the low membership is a big turn off to even bother filling out a profile. | |
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 4/3/2005 9:38:12 PM | | NO DOUBT!!!! It's one big competition. Their are 3 times as many guys out here then women and usually this messaging back and fourth gets you nowhere. It's seems like everyone is cautious out here and doesn;t want to put in the effor tinto getting to know anyone. | |
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 8/21/2005 1:19:12 PM | MIKE^66 good points, and the read delete thing works both ways, I have found some really nice folks on here, some real game players and mounds of BullDroppings lol. Have to agree, speaks volumes of someones character when they don't have the common courtesy to at least read let alone respond to correspondence, I mean isn't that the whole purpose of this site to meet new people! Oh well, whatever floats their boats. Happy  | |
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| Is a man at a big disadvantage in online dating?
Posted: 10/10/2007 10:20:32 AM | I think men overall are at a disadvantage. Even more so are the males under the 30 age mark like me (22). It seems as though most females under the 30 yr age bracket go straight for the physical attraction first and if you make through with a passing grade then will take the time out to read what you have to say. If not they will just move along to the next person. I havent had to much luck on here. (Im still new but I am a patient person but have been on other sites). Now this is just all from my own perspective.
Once you get into a certain age bracket both male and female it seems as though you tend to look past some of the physical characteristics and want to learn more about the inner personalities of the person, which i believe in all honesty is the correct thing to do. Perhaps this is because you've had more experience with dating and relationships and know how to relate. | |
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