| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 4/25/2006 11:03:24 AM | Seems like I am not the only one here that has a problem with the 'let' word. 
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The double standard issue has been raised but I would not be involved with a bi-man outside of a friendship basis.
On the other side, I have my man's blessing to play with the girls whenver the mood strikes.
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| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 7/31/2006 9:23:41 AM | there is nothing wrong with bi-sexualism at all, why cant people have the right to choose who they want to be with...1,2,3,4,5,6,7 partners who cares even if all at the same time i think it should be up to the person(s) involved If they all agree and there isno problem then why the hell not.
Being Bi-sexual is having the best of both worlds even if your a man or a woman Bi-sexuality is a choice, an inbetween marker line... I am Bi, I will never be a Lesbian, I will never be straight. thats just the way it is. | |
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| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 7/31/2006 10:34:49 AM | "Bi-sexuality is a choice"
Incorrect. Sexual deviance is a choice. Theres a difference. :)
OP.. whats right for some, isn't always right for others.
Each situation has their own sets of rules and regulations on the going ons in a relationship.
I think its each individuals choice as to how they manage their relationships.
Basically what it comes down too.
Could I allow my mate to be with a man.. if he was bi? Yes. Would I be involved. No. | |
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| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 7/31/2006 11:22:10 AM | I could never see myself wanting to be with a man who had a man on the side. Id be terribly jealous. Its my demon I deal with... ahhgggg...
Would my man be ok with me being with a woman?? I know he has been involved in some rather odd, kinky relationships in the past where the women allowed three somes and all that to occur on a regular basis. (his past is not so nice) He is very open minded but I have seen the jealous side come out in regards to other men... but one night I got way trashed out of my mind... and when I say out of my mind I MEAN IT!! I dont recall a bit of the night and Im not fooling just to make an excuse for my terrible behavior .... but anyways I kissed.. well im told I actually made out with my best friend. He was fine with it. I told him that if I were him I would dumb my ass big time!!! How disrespectful of me! So at this point im thinking he would be cool with it. Im not going there though!! No way!! I take this as my ONE get out of jail free card... I feel like I was unloyal and very very rude to him. | |
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| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 7/31/2006 11:30:29 AM | | Whether or not they are bi is not the question. Whether or not you have an open ralationship is the question. No one can choose anothers orientation or their preferences. If you are not in the same room during sex what does it matter? Some prefer not to be in the same room in case they don't measure up. If that's the case then bi is the only way because you won't feel threatened. Also if you want three ways say yes, and introduce her to bi women. Look at it as a gamble. I have talked to a lot of wife swappers and most of the women who I have met have been bi. Their husbands don't seem to mind. | |
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| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 7/31/2006 11:34:33 AM | | I wouldn't have a problem having a GF that is BI but I'd have to be invloved in some manner. You can't be part of something if there's a part of your partner that is off limits to you. | |
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| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 12/13/2006 9:03:14 AM | if the Op is asking could i let my Girlfriend or wife be Bisexual? I would say no. Trust wouldn't be a big issue there, cause if i am inlove with that person i would have trust. I just find it improper to have thoughts for one and have the same or more thoughts for another. | |
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| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 12/13/2006 10:21:00 AM | All of my ex's have been BI
i told them straight up... Just because you are bi.. and i am not, doesnt create separate rules.. anyone asking you to do so should tossed with the trash.
If they screw can around with ANYONE outside of the relationship... I will want the same courtesy/..
She she wants to sleep with a woman without me.. then I shall sleep with a woman without her.
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| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 12/13/2006 10:35:41 AM | UMmmmmmmm......OP stated no sharing and it is a stablished relationship........
Soooooooooooo.......My opinion is...........
WISH he would have stated the fact he had Bi tendencies before we began a relationship!!!!
Why is everyone sooooooooo upset with the simple word LET?????....If he would not LET me then I guess I would have to make a choice wouldn't I???.....SIMPLE!!!
If I am in a committed relationship then that means HE comes first!!!!!
And if HE wants to change teams then HE has my blessings!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 12/13/2006 11:13:16 AM | | Hell no...while i think there is something sensual about 2 women being intimate (though i never have and most likely never will), the idea of my man getting nookie in some guys cookie pot makes me wanna barf, i have nothing against gay people i just dont want my man to go there.. | |
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| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:48:15 AM | im bi, but i only share. i consider it cheating if i dont bring her home for him to play with or watch play with me. some couples like doing that though. no strings attatched sex? happens. just not with me. | |
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| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 12/15/2006 8:52:46 PM | | OKAY first off, 98% of you do NOT know the meaning of being bi-sexual, being bi has nothing to do with wanting to be in a relationship but have a same sex gender lover on the side. It has NOTHING to do with 3somes, or orgys, etc.... cheating is cheating! Being "bi-sexual" is pretty much the same thing as being open minded to the fact that you could become involved romantically, mentally, emotionally, etc... of someone of the same sex. You dont limited yourself to finding happiness within one gender. I dont care if your bi-sexual, lesbian, gay, homosexual, transvestite, etc... CHEATING IS CHEATING! If your partner is willing to let you freely have sex with another person, regardless of gender, then IMO its not worth having them in the first place. Thats just IMO. I dont consider myself a lesbian, nor a bi-sexual, i am gender free when it comes to someone I care about. | |
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| Could you let your girlfriend/boyfriend be bi-sexual
Posted: 10/17/2007 3:45:00 PM | I think you're over looking the fact that we're all people with wants and needs. Being bisexual is an orientation, not some life threatening disease that could permanently alter a relationship. And by asking "could" you "let" them, is that really in your power? Do we honestly still believe we have control over how people feel? The idea of that kind of makes me skiddish on where society today is going.
But you should be honest, by all means. If you like both, tell your partner that. The thing about being bisexual is everyone feels slightly different; whereas some people choose to be with two partners rather than 1. But the same could be said with a straight couple (also polygamists). It should be discussed in the relationship, but certainly it shouldn't be a factor that could end a potentially great union between two people.
So I say, get past what the person is attracted to because they wouldn't be with you in the first place if there wasn't some general attraction there. If they mention bringing another partner into the relationship, give it some thought. It comes down to your ideals, really. But it shouldn't be looked down upon as something 'sick'. | |
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