hotnix
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Joined: 1/30/2006
Msg: 51 | |
| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 4/3/2006 8:06:00 PM | I honestly do believe that your situation is in fact possiable. My parents got married after only being together for a couple of months and they have now been togeter for 29 years. Whoever said that love had to happen after a certian period of time? When it's love it's love...it doesn't matter if you've been with that person for 3 weeks or 3 years. You can't help the way you feel. I say if you feel that way then go with it | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 4/4/2006 9:54:07 AM | good for you...remember though, the energy between you is easy now,keep focused and remember to always work on it......cuz life has a way of gettin in between that energy..........love and light to both of you | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 4/4/2006 10:12:08 AM | Question; why is it the ones that have been on this site for 2 days 3 days or maybe
as little as couple of weeks are the first to claim they found the ONE?? Look at
the testimonials and check out the date they first joined.
My thoughts, they are too desperate and afraid to live alone that they've become
blinded to the truth....most of them - not all.
Cynical?....you bet. | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 4/4/2006 1:48:28 PM |
(Msg 53) Question; why is it the ones that have been on this site for 2 days 3 days or maybe as little as couple of weeks are the first to claim they found the ONE??
Probably because they were seriously looking. I wonder how some folks can be on here for months and even years when there are literally hundreds of thousands of people to choose from.
I'm sure we've all known people who said they were looking for a car or a TV set or whatever and as the months pass they never aquire one. They're waiting for the HD TVs to come down in price. The projection TVs are too costly to repair. People are asking too much for a second hand car. They can't find a deal. Well, I'm sure you get my point. Whatever they are looking for is not a priority.
Most people agree that meeting a person is necessary to establish if there is a connection yet people make excuses not to meet. They exchange emails and phone calls just waiting for any reason to disqualify the person because they are too lazy to get off their a$$ and meet for a coffee.
When I was looking for a relationship I was out "every" night meeting people. One week I met six people in five days. How long does it take to meet for a coffee? If someone isn't interested in meeting how do they expect to find someone? How can anyone limit their meeting/dating to once a week and expect to find a partner?
I don't see people as being desperate. I see them as being serious. Those folks that write things along the lines of "looking for friends and if a relationship happens, great" or "I'm not in a rush for a relationship" what does that tell the other person? Why would someone bother to initiate a relationship with someone who doesn't feel a relationship is an important aspect in their life? Are those folks going to put any effort into maintaining a relationship if a relationship is not all that important to them? Does anyone put effort or caring into anything that's not important to them? I see little difference between someone saying what I mentioned above and a person saying, "Looking for a relationship but if things don't go my way I'm gone because I really don't care if I'm in a relationship or not."
I believe anyone who is seriously looking will find someone. Like anything else worth having it takes time and effort although I wouldn't call sitting down having coffee a big chore. Most folks on here have had a relationship or two. They know what to look for IF they want a relationship. I feel it's just not all that important to some. | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 4/5/2006 2:29:34 PM |
Yes - I believe it happens...I am in this situation right now. Be VERY careful....once the newness wears off and reality sets in, you might be surprised what comes out in the wash.
Squeak
Wise words....Listen to the wise.... | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 4/5/2006 2:32:58 PM | I knew this russian lady. She was married for 25+ years, two teenage kids. The husband owned a hair saloon with her. She claims he was the sweetest man in the world, until he hired a hairstylist and slept with her. They got divorced and she was devastated...
She used to cry with me and say....Can you believe he did this after 25 years????
3 weeks!? I dont know.... | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 4/9/2006 7:47:59 AM | | I too am in the same situation,what a wonderful feeling it is,good luck,trying to take it easy is what Im doing,you should too.Hope it works out for you. | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 58 | |
| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 4/9/2006 8:36:42 AM | Of course it happens!! It happens very often...you meet someone feel the connection, sparks fly, emotions rule, you get all squishy feeling inside when he's near, it's certainly fate and destiny stepping in and doing their job, your life has a purpose now and it all makes sense to you. Ahhhhhh the BEST feeling in the world, no doubt!! The next thing ya know it's 6 weeks later and you're thinking "What the hell is goin on here? Who is this guy? What did I see in him? Get me outta here now!!" or.....he starts asking himself all those quesitons before you do and he is the first one to walk out.
It's called lust. It's great!!!!! But it's very temporary...after a few weeks your feeling this way about someone means absolutely, totally and completely NOTHING. Big Deal. Now, if you still feel this way in a year THEN I will be very impressed and happy for you. But....until then this is routine, run of the mill, ordinary, daily events. Hormones. Hopes. Fantasy. Yawn.
I would LOVE to see a "testimonial" thread only for people who met on here and are still together after a year. I bet I could count those posts on one hand! | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 4/9/2006 9:29:00 AM | Quote;
"It's called lust. It's great!!!!! But it's very temporary...after a few weeks your feeling this way about someone means absolutely, totally and completely NOTHING."
He is the one. Ahhhh, brings back memories. My ex girlfriend said that I was the ONE after just a few weeks. After a year we split she found another. In a matter of a month, she got engaged, moved the guy in and said HE was the ONE! You know whats funny? She wanted me to move in and get engaged after only a few weeks. Somehow I sense a pattern, I'm glad I'm no longer part of it.
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Author: John Dryden
Source: Spanish Friar (act II, st. 1)
In my opinion, she MIGHT be the one if she orders steak at Applebee's on the first date.
Brat,......~winks~ | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 7/2/2006 2:20:19 PM | | OK, I was the guy this thread was about in the first place. So here's the update. After about 4 1/2 months, it was decided that we were both looking for different things out of the relationship, so as you can see I'm back on POF. It was a great 4 months, intense, beautiful, wonderful, a great learning experience about each other and ourselves. We were both out of a LTR for about the same amount of time, and it was a time when we were most vulnerable. We needed each other, and needed to learn how to respect ourselves and other people. And to show ourselves how we each deserve to treated. Was I heartbroken? Yes. Would I take her back? Yes. A year from now? Depends on my life at that time. We might have used each other but not in any hurtful or malicious way. It was done with love and respect, but we probably didn't realize it at the time. So now it's time to get over it and move on. Take the best lessons from it and make the next relationship even better. | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 62 | |
| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 7/2/2006 2:49:06 PM | Wow....thank you thank you thank you for the update. When I read the OP I was just going to add my post that "everyone who writes these kinds of testimonials and then deletes their account should be required by law to give us thier phone number so we can get updates every now and then",,,,then I saw your update. Thanks!!
happy fishing to both of you. | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 7/2/2006 3:18:39 PM | | If people would be more reasonable by not jumping too fast, there wouldn't be as many break ups.. How in the hell can someone know a person well enough to know they could spend a lifetime with? Sounds like desperation to meet someone to me. Sorry. I don't believe in biological clock ticking... | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 7/2/2006 3:47:39 PM | Darlin, I am a believer, but think you should wait until at least a year to make that type of committment. You guys can be engaged for that long, live together, whatever makes you happy, but to marry in such a short time of knowing each other. I think if the percentages were before us, you would see high failure rate in what you are thinking of doing. Slow down a little and smell the roses to make sure the peddles are not lined with thorns. | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 7/2/2006 4:05:35 PM | I believe you can fall in love with someone quickly...I met a guy... felt that "love at first sight"...we became intimate after a coupler of weeks(I usually wait longer)...He moved in a apartment beside me a month later we dated over a year...( and my feelings for him just got stronger)..and when we broke up,I was still in love!.I let him go because he wanted to go to school out of the country...and I wasn't ready to follow him because I was in school myself at the time..plus I had a good job, and didn't want to give all that up,or to change it for him....he is one of my regreats..I dont think "love at first sight"..happens alot..and to those it does happen too....count yourself lucky!. | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 7/2/2006 4:50:31 PM | | I believe it is possible. However, I also know that its more likely lust at first site. He could be the one, but hold off a little. It's not love til you've seen his socks and clothes all over the floor. His bad habits and not soo handsome side. If, you can then accept this (clearly w/o the rose tinted glasses) then it could possibly work. But, don't rush. True love is a choice.....you choose to love a person despite his messy house, hairy back or when the newness has dwindled. You have to work at it. You commit to love someone and work at it. Can't say enough....it's work. You are still in the newness (adrenaline) stage. That makes him oooooh so wonderful. One day at a time. | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 7/2/2006 5:37:39 PM |
My thoughts, they are too desperate and afraid to live alone that they've become
blinded to the truth....most of them - not all.
Cynical?....you bet.
I would say that yes, you are correct at that one! They just joined the site and may get snagged up by one of the predators on here!
They might seem almost to darn good! That is because they are too darn good. Although I just figure I will let them live out the so called fairy tale life, and then figure out that they do not even like this person.
I was a perfect example of it!
I joined this site and within a week or two, I got contacted by this dream woman! I mean she sounded to darn good to be. She was just agreeing with everything I would say!!! I got to know her truly, and the flood just broke through the dam right then! She was nothing like who I pictured, and athleticism not there! So I would totally agree that the people are just real desperate and are rushing into it! | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 7/2/2006 6:08:47 PM | anyone not shaking their head after three weeks is asking for the same trouble you are.
Keep your bank info private.
Keep your appt.
Make sure your friends know where you are.
Keep your car running in the alley for the hasty get-a-way that's coming ! | |
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MISS13
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Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 72 | |
| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 7/2/2006 7:07:45 PM | Did you two meet yet??? or is this an online thing??
EDIT: Awe sheesh...I missed it...I'm late...they already divorced....
Damn things change so fast out here....lmao | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 7/2/2006 7:31:39 PM | | My main question is, "Have you been intimate?" If so, then you can't be objective. I know, I've been there. I've rushed right in, felt he was my soulmate, discovered his true self, got hurt, had to break up and was devastated. That's how it goes for those who do not wait to get to really know a person before they become intimate. If you haven't been intimate, then "hats off to you". You're doing the right thing. Get to know someone first before you become intimate. Otherwise, you can't "see straight". Good luck to both of you! | |
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| He is the one....only after 3 weeks
Posted: 7/6/2006 7:19:28 PM | Thats hilarious i'm in nearly the same situation -- we met on Pof a month ago and ever since we've been together nearly every night and we're in love. HOWEVER as per any relationship you need to stay true to yourself before all else
So why do i believe this happens
1) I'm in the same situation
2) There is not set time limit to fall in love, it can happen at/within any time frame | |
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