| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:23:14 AM | | Frozen if it isn't equal it's because guys like you have that attitude towards women like that. It's up to people today to change attitudes. Just because it's always been like that, doesn't mean its right or not worth changing now. If a woman is sensible enough to carry condoms good on her. At least she is being sensible. I'm pretty certain that if any man here pulled a woman who had a condom with her they wouldn't think twice about sleeping with her. They may not want too at first but if she pursued him he will sleep with her no doubts about it. Anyone who says they wouldn't is lying. | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:26:45 AM |
I'm pretty certain that if any man here pulled a woman who had a condom with her they wouldn't think twice about sleeping with her Of course but thats not the point. Would that man want to have a relationship with her? Many wouldn't | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:36:41 AM | I'm not sure wouldn't that depend on what happened in the build up to having sex. If it was just 2 people, slightly/very drunk shagging each other, then probably not. On both sides.
However if it started out just meeting for coffee, conversing, dinner, etc and you really got to know her and then made love to each other (there is a difference between sex and making love) because it seemed the right thing to do, then I can see relationship coming out of that.
It would all depend up to the circumstances leading up to the SEX part, as to whether a relationship develops. | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:40:21 AM | its no surprise a lot of the posters on this thread are single...thank god for that too..less chance they can procreate and carry on the narrow minded vitreol that comes from their lips.
that aside..so...if you (as a woman)carry a condom you are some sort of slapper or worse...or you are not intelligent etc etc..the biggest loads of nonsense i have ever ever read on this forum
Those who think that should be ashamed of themselves and their very limited insight into the human mind!
Does it mean because you carry a condom you must be gagging to get your knickers off...no it means..that should you on date 1 or 1001 decide to have sex/f*ck/make love or what ever..you are prepared for it
(because those who are at ease with their sexuality and feelings may decide that at home, in the dark on the bed is not how they want to do it..perhaps under the moonlight atop a hill is their desire and pardon me if im wrong..there are no chemists..or bed side cabinets fully stocked with contraceptives in such places).
The intelligent are prepared..the unprepared are down the clinic have their syphillis treated..or horrified at the thought of the unwanted pregnancy.
Does it also mean that if you carry a condom on the 20th date..but god forbid forget to remove it at the start of a new relationship your a slapper..ffs...get a life people. Carrying a comdom does not mean you want to sleep around..it means you take your sexual health seriously.
besides its the very men on here that shout the loudest about women that sleep about that would be more than happy to assit these same women to sleep about...small minded and foolish to say the very least
lou
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:40:57 AM | | personally i would not carry a condom on me on a 1st date as i would not intend to sleep with someone on a first date, but there is nothing wrong with girls who do carry condoms and it doesnt make them a slapper and it also doesnt mean they would sleep with someone either. people who carry condoms do so out of habit for safety reasons. to me thats a more healthy additutude than the posts of some of the guys on this thread. everyone has skeltons in there closet and with that small minded attitude you are going to have alot of disappointments in life with any poor sole that dates you. | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:57:48 AM | No I wouldn't take condoms on a 1st date, if it got to that stage every public toilet has a machine that you can buy them from so why carry one around .
I don't see anything wrong with people carrying them I just don't see the point for myself.
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/18/2007 1:12:16 PM | i would have thought ladies might have preferred flowers or chocolate on a first date
i think thats a bit too forward hi nice to meet you look i brought you these | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/18/2007 2:10:18 PM | | I have to be honest, I have never carried a condom with me, I have never even bought any. Maybe i'm old fashioned, but sex for me has to be with someone who I feel is special, not just some one met for the evening. | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 7:02:37 AM | so just out of curiosity .... to all the first date condom carriers who have used the aformentioned contraceptive after a few hours of knowing someone.
a. is this a good way to get someone to like you and do you use sex as way to get someone to like you.
b. did you get a second date .... i'm assuming it didn't develop into a successful relationship or you wouldn't be here ? | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 8:05:13 AM | ^^^^^^^^^ why are you generalising?
Which person who carries condoms actually ever said they had sex within a few hours of meeting?
I carry condoms, it doesn't mean I've jumped into the sack with someone just because I carry them!
I have done it once ......... many years ago, with a man I met in a pub. We went back to mine, had sex and never spent a day apart in the 18 months we were together ...... until he was killed. I've never regretted it.
DOES THAT MAKE ME A SLAG?
So, contrary to your narrow minded, anally retentive, emotionally retarded view of the kind of people that do carry protection, it does and can work! Get off your prissy soap boxes and open your minds to the fact that people carry them for different reasons, not just to have a quickie up the nearest dark alley with a total stranger! | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 8:14:08 AM | so just out of curiosity .... to all the first date condom carriers who have used the aformentioned contraceptive after a few hours of knowing someone.
a. is this a good way to get someone to like you and do you use sex as way to get someone to like you.
b. did you get a second date .... i'm assuming it didn't develop into a successful relationship or you wouldn't be here ?
Let me recount a story of mine....
I met a bloke (Let's call him 'Chris' shall we?), while I was out shopping. He was with a friend of mine. We all arranged to go out that evening.
We met at a club, and Chris and I got along really well. There were sparks. In both directions. We sat and chatted in the club all evening. When it was time to leave it was obvious that the heat between us was reaching boiling point. We went back to his house and made love all night long.
That was in December in 1979. I moved in the following year. We had a daughter in 1985. We separated in 1992.
So, in answer to your questions:
1) I certainly didn't need sex to make him like me. We had sex because we liked each other so much we couldn't NOT!
2) I think that what Chris and I shared (and the friendship we STILL share) counts as a second date, huh?
Does the above make me a 'slapper'? Does having sex on a first date, and carrying a condom in case that happens preclude me (or any other woman) from being 'relationship material'? I, and Chris, think not!
EDIT: Goodness, I almost wasn't on topic then..... I WAS carrying a condom on that fateful might, we used it, and had to go out for more! | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 8:19:31 AM | the condom carriers are quite touchy about this subject .... there seems to be a lot of huffing and puffing over a simple question or two.
take a deep breath .... calm down | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 8:50:13 AM | | If she should discover that I am carrying one, I will state that is an SAS trick to contain water in an emergency. | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 9:19:07 AM | i have condoms everywhere, (dont know wether it is tempting fate though lol ) i think it is more to the fact i was tought what the genetalia looked like and the damage that a person could be left with after contracting an STI, bloody hell scared the crap out of me, do some research, jeeezzzzz and that is without the fear of an unwanted pregnancy.
People have the right to have sex wether in a meaningfull relationship or not,no-one has any right to judge. just a thought that occured to me, those using the 'branding' do you enjoy sex? why would a 'slapper' put you off? she could be the best thing since sliced bread, she just enjoys sex, does that mean a woman has to be a virgin when she gets married???
Personally should i ever have the chance to have sex again,  i am sure i would rather he have a condom with him and risk my wrath, then i would be more inclined to think he had one at all times, thus in theory more likely to have practiced safe sex in the past.  do i ever make sence???
also....... any offers to help me lower my condom count........  | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 9:25:39 AM | is it just me..or are there some people on here..who cant see the wood for the trees...????????
Carry a condom is VERY different from carrying a sign that says...'lets have sex now'
Carrying a condom does NOT mean you have to have sex on the first date.
Carrying a condom means you are taking responsibility for your sexual health.
To all the prude brigade and the clearly uneducated and those without foresight, forethough, open mindedness and any others who feel the same....wake up and smell the roses!! You are only here once..life is not a dress rehersal. Sometimes its all the curve balls, spur of the moment decisons and a little sexual frission that makes life a wonderful thing.
Get off your moral high horses and accept that thankfully there are responsible and fun people out there...cos without them we would still be burning books and asking if 'Lady Chatterly' was of sound moral thinking.
lou
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off to boots to get a 3 pack..cos if you are doing it right..one is ever enough! lol | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 9:27:55 AM | | Surely the point is if your carrying them no one would need to know unless it came to the point of needing them in which case it can only be a good thing??? | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 11:30:32 AM | This is one of those unanswerable paradoxes.
If you carry condoms you are a wide boy, on the make, tart, flooze etc etc.
If you don't carry condoms then... possibly you expected not to fancy your date.?Or you are a walking disease risk and socially irresponsible?
I think the best policy is always to have some in your car (in case you break down in the middle of nowhere and need a handy receptacle to carry 3 gallons of water back to your boiled over radiator etc etc).
Or sumfink | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 11:37:54 AM | | sure cuz if the mood takes us you dont wanna be caught out.... blokes are always on the prowl (as are some women) | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 1:05:34 PM |
Surely the point is if your carrying them no one would need to know unless it came to the point of needing them in which case it can only be a good thing???
Good point, Mildred!
The simple, bottom line, truth is that if you have them in your handbag you have ALL eventualities covered. And no-one but you needs to know!
And if no-one else knows then they can't judge you, label you, or form any opinions about you.
Simple. | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 1:17:28 PM |
the condom carriers are quite touchy about this subject .... there seems to be a lot of huffing and puffing over a simple question or two.
take a deep breath .... calm down It seems to me they can't handle the fact that not every man wants them. Women always say they want an 'honest' guy yet when they get honesty they go mental cause they don't like it. Not every man is going to bow down and agree with you, deal with it condom carriers. | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 1:23:28 PM | Maybe not EVERY man wants them, because they don't like wearing them, and when asked to they MOAN!!! 
Oooohhh sorry you mean, men wanting women......lol
Hmmmm well let me tell you i never make those advances first off with a bloke! Probably find that with a lot of people actually!
Fact is, people are entitled to do what they want, and a lot take responsibility (male and female), whether it's a first date or not.
Foxy.....i guess that makes me in the same league with you then hehe, because i keep them in my bedside table lol god i'm doomed because i'm being sensible!!! lol
To clarify as well, the bloke i met from London, stuck around for 8 months. | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 3:05:45 PM | | what are they? just stick it up and be done with it,no point in fanny arsing around,otherwise the excitments gone and its roll over and go to sleep! | |
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| Condoms on a first date?
Posted: 6/19/2007 3:06:52 PM | | I don't carry them with me on a date but if he comes back to mine I have some there. I think that's because I'd never go that far with a guy on a first date and I wouldn't bring him back to mine that soon. | |
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