| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/4/2006 1:34:32 PM |
Well Juan, I can't be her, I don't salsa
I just said you look somewhat a little bit like her....hehehe
Well, lets see. I might compromise but i dunno, being a musician it is hard to compromise on very commercial music such as dance music.... | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/4/2006 3:47:34 PM | I think we might have type prefferences that we might comprimise on because other attributes are so closely matched.
Physical attributes are easily compromisable like Eye Colour, Hair Length, height, weight, figure. Other attributes like age, location, education are also easily comprimisable. Some things, specially related to emotional needs should not be compromised,
Bandito
I love the name OP | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/4/2006 4:18:20 PM | | I compromised my virtue for some really great sex but then again, it was compromised a long time ago. Oh wait, that was my virginity. It's a shame you can only compromise that once. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/4/2006 4:59:32 PM | It seems to me there are so many out there to choose from ... why would one have to compromise? I would not compromise ... but on the other hand, I don't have any ridiculous stuff listed in my profile.
Does that mean I'll just take what I can get??!!!!
N O T !!!!!! | |
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| What would you NOT compromise?
Posted: 4/4/2006 6:47:00 PM | This is an interesting topic, and excellent post OP.
It's very relevant, as a sensitive and detrimental issue,
that affects relationships beyond anything else.
I mean, what's "compatibility" but the ability to compromise?
What's "incompatibility", if not the inability to compromise?
If everyone stopped being selfish, and accomodated the
needs of everyone else, then everyone would be happy,
as they trust their faith in the universe. But noOoOoOoOooOooo,
the world can't be a perfect place because people want to be greedy.
It comes down to both parties wanting it/each other.
Another poster (Msg: 208) in this thread :
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/3697799datingPostpage9.aspx
Writes
I guess that's what it means: You have to be committed and work on a relationship for it to survive. It's like a teensy little ship lost at sea on a dark and stormy night. You have to want it to survive...
Both must want it.
No relationship is without compromise, or everyone would be
dating THEMSELVES.
I for one would "compromise" quite a bit (there's much to list on perfection),
as long as I feel an attraction. It's about personality...
My one exception is eyes. Gotta have my deep dark eyes, sorry.
We should turn this thread around...
Cause I'm feeling in a Negative mood today
(yes ladies, it CAN happen to guys too!).
What would you NOT compromise?
I've skimmed through hundreds and hundreds of profiles
(mostly women's) on various sites, and have come to the
following conclusions. Remember, this is based on research
and statistics.
- Most women would NOT compromise on teeth.
A man must have perfect teeth/smile.
- Most women would NOT compromise on height.
They can be 5'2", but INSIST only to be contacted by
men of 5'9" or taller. What's THAT all about? Projecting
insecurity perhaps?
- Most women would NOT compromise on yearly salary.
Again, we are shown that men must provide, while women play games.
(These are where the "You're never there for me as I screw
someone else behind your back in your home while you're
at work" people emanate.)
- Most women would NOT compromise on location.
So simply stay where you are; I'm sure a dashing young prince
will come find you eventually, and sweep you off your feet.
Ok, I'm feeling better. | |
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| What would you NOT compromise?
Posted: 4/4/2006 7:00:39 PM | Hope your day gets better talkingtorso I feel for you. Not only did you accurately state the truth about women but about men as well.
Unfortunatley, it goes for guys as too. Well the tend to go for bigger boosomed girls, long legs, hip midsection and ya, killer looks.
Thing is in the end, we all compromise something. I don't know 1 person that hasn't compromised for happiness and that is in the end what we will all be seeking, wanting or have.
Time is of the essence for most, its those who's realized time stands still for no one that have made compromises in the name of love.
And I do truly hope your day gets better talkingtorso. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/4/2006 7:19:02 PM | | I feel the same way about Alternative music. I just can't imagine being with someone long term who was not at least open to new kinds of music. If something is a PASSION for you, the person has to be open to sharing that passion or at least giving it a try, whether it be surfing, sailing, or ballroom dancing. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/4/2006 7:47:48 PM | If its your beliefs or morals, there should be no compromise. If it's physical attraction, I think that some wonderful attributes come in many different packages. It's not about compromise, it's about acceptance, openess, and the willingness to get to know someone beyond the physical attributes. I try to answer all my mail here and I will try to meet as many people as possible, even if I'm not attracted to their photo at first. (looking for friends first)
There is something to be said for immediate physical attraction. It will faid once you find that the mind dosn't connect. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/4/2006 8:11:00 PM |
gallivanting1: Oh wait, that was my virginity. It's a shame you can only compromise that once.
Never say I didn't do anything for you:
http://www.ocf.berkeley.edu/~issues/fall98/hymenrep.html
GE&H | |
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| What would you NOT compromise?
Posted: 4/4/2006 9:08:17 PM | jackietr:
What a lovely post, thank you.
Venting off in the forums seems to do the trick,
though I still think I'd benefit from a punching/sand bag of sorts...
You may be right that it goes for most guys as well, but I don't
consider myself average, and haven't studied men's behaviors
as much as I have women's, to comment much on my gender.
I will say that it doesn't look promising though... Hah!
Personally, long legs would probably mean they are taller than I--
not that I mind, but THEY would. Hip/midsection? Meh,
what can you do? As far as the bosom is concerned, I'm really not
that picky as long as the woman is comfortable with herself,
and how she is (fakes are a turn-off). Killer looks... Well, I'd like
to live past our initial encounter... Sure it's always "nice", but it
shouldn't mean that they're granted the right to complete b1tches,
which most of them turn out to be. I'm not saying that every gal
who's considered a "hottie" by the average man has a terribly stuck-
up personality (though I'm still testing that theory), but those who
have "the looks" tend to be a-holes, because they can get away
with everything, and know that they can get any man they want
(except me). So screwing it up with one guy won't matter in the
least to them, when they can simply drop a scarf or something and
voila! Onto the next poor victim... Inner beauty must radiate over
the external type, that really attracts me.
If you'll indulge a digression, I find natural beauty much more
appealing than someone who puts their face on every morning
with a paintbrush and bucket. 
Oh and hairy arms are damn sexy on a woman... 
I have a new take on this :
I'd compromise just about everything (I wouldn't want to get in
trouble here) but who I really am for a woman who wouldn't compromise
who she really is. (As long as there is mutual attraction and want.)
Just gimme my deep dark sexy eyes damnit! 
(And hairy arms.)
Thing is in the end, we all compromise something. I don't know 1 person that hasn't compromised for happiness and that is in the end what we will all be seeking, wanting or have.
Time is of the essence for most, its those who've realized time stands still for no one, that have made compromises in the name of love.
If its your beliefs or morals, there should be no compromise. If it's physical attraction, I think that some wonderful attributes come in many different packages. It's not about compromise, it's about acceptance, openess, and the willingness to get to know someone beyond the physical attributes.
This is great wisdom. Both well said.
It IS about acceptance.
We should have closed the thread on that note. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/5/2006 5:56:44 AM | Thanks GE&H - I'll have to look into that but it looks rather expensive for a one nighter.
June 8, 1996 issue of The Lancet cited an example of a woman who "managed to avoid sexual intercourse for four months by pretending to be insane...[while] she was saving up for the operation."
Not tonight honey, I have a headache is one thing but 4 months pretending to be insane?
I would not compromise my sanity. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/5/2006 12:02:36 PM | gallivanting1: I would not compromise my sanity.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Temporary_insanity
No problem, it's not compromising - it's just lending it out for awhile. Kind of like resetting a computer. It's also like how a nap recharges one's conscious mind or too many beer recharges one's...whatever too many beer recharges.
Yours in science,
GE&H | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/5/2006 4:33:37 PM | Op...
I guess it depends on what it is you are talking about were you are considering comprimising...
If, for example, you are talking about allowing someone into your life that makes you happy, and respects you, even though they do not "look" quite the way you had planned, I see nothing wrong with that.
But if you are talking about allowing someone into pushing you into something that is "wrong for you", such as, for example, sex on the first meet, then I would say that comprimising there probably would not be a good idea.
T_M | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/5/2006 4:44:20 PM | Never the Star Wars, Star Trek, Rocky, Lord of the Rings, and Field of Dreams movies. EVER!!! Just kidding. Everyone likes different types of movies, and I won't make movie preferences a dealbreaker. I just dig those sports and sci fi movies
DW | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/5/2006 5:51:25 PM | I've compromised on bald vs covered (like either one now)
I've compromised on wealth (and realized it doesn't matter unless he's flat broke)
I've compromised on spirituality (because I believe we all have goodness in us)
I've compromised on smoking (and then coughed my way through dates, but enjoyed myself anyway because they were considerate smokers as much as possible)
I've compromised on looks (because the personality remains)
But I won't compromise on integrity, personality, kindness, family, and fidelity.
So if I'm alone because of my lack of compromise, then so be it. Too bad, so sad. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 4/5/2006 10:19:14 PM | | No one is perfect, everyone you meet there will be things you do not like or overlook , that is a compromise. I once dated a Italian woman with way to much facial hair, but as much as I told myself to stay away, I could not, something just kept drawing me in. So I guess when cupids arrow hits, it will not matter. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 12/30/2006 6:37:29 PM | | Sometimes we have to compromise or end up alone for the rest of our lives waiting for our true love to love us back...a partnership and friendship is far more sustainable than fireworks and passion. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 12/30/2006 8:31:38 PM | | Trust, would cause me to overlook many of the things I would prefer to have in my "ideal physically attractive" male. | |
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| What would you compromise?
Posted: 12/30/2006 8:39:49 PM | I feel I seek someone that is easy going,
easy on the eyes and down to earth
so what should I compromise on?
I don't feel those are very tough things to ask for.
I just never compromise on honesty and faithfulness
when I am dating someone. | |
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