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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 3/20/2006 9:10:29 AM | | I think it's more that people are intimidated by someone who appears confident and looks are usually a factor in that. I've been told I'm intimidating and you can see from my picture, I'm no greek god, but I'm not concerned about what others think of me. It's more how you carry yourself and interact with others. If you're positive, confident and the center of attention, this will most likely intimidate someone who's got an eye on you. The positive side is, if you have the balls to approach a person like this, they're usually very impressed, because I'm sure they're not approached often. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 3/20/2006 1:49:10 PM | Funny this question was asked as my personal experience has been that there have been men intimated by how I look, my lifestyle, what I own and my personality.
We are just a shell, really what is important is what is inside, so just because you see a good looking man or woman, they could be lacking inside. I don't have a problem being friendly to an attractive man, but within a few minutes can tell what his fruits are by a few simple questions. Also, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, what may be attractive and good looking to one may not be for another. I happen to like men with dark hair, light eyes and moustaches but I would not rule out someone just because they did not meet that criteria. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 3/29/2006 7:09:12 AM | shrthang
i agree with you........ i think guys are intimidated to approach me... and i feel like i'm a fun lovable person....and when i do approach... or they approach me.... i think they get scared and wonder why i would be into them..... even though i don't look at myself as a hottie.. guys that i do approach are so shocked that i'm talking to them......oh well, guess i need to find myself a guy who is very confident in himself that he doesn't have to wonder..... we need love aswell, but guys who say they are confident but once you meet , they use the needy thing to get out feeling not worthy.......but they are just covering there real feelings about themselves... not everyone is as confident as they say they are..... i think i guy should be happy to feel needed.... maybe they are afraid to really show there true self....(this goes for women aswell) we tend to try and blame , make up excuses for not wanting that person to really get to know the real us because we say that we are confident but really we all have our secrets and when they feel that they aren't as confident as they thought they are because of the person they are with then they push away that person and make that person feel as if they aren't worthy instead of being honest and seeing that we all have our faults....
i think we shouldn't be intimidated by anyone cause no bodies perfect and if they think they are the are just hiding something.... if you like something go for it.. if they responde then great if not oh well, thee lost... learn and use that to make you stronger.... life should be enjoyed, live and be happy..  | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 3/29/2006 10:30:39 AM | I have met and dated really handome men. I can tell you that handsome is only a package that is wrapped nicely. The gift inside can sometimes be great or lousy. I never let them intimidate me because they are great looking, I need to get to know them first to see if it is anything that I would want to unwrap any further. So guys and girls who only rely on their looks are not doing themselves a favour at all. Window dressing is all it is. Substance is much deeper.
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 4/20/2006 9:48:48 AM | This is for Flirt859's post. She said:
""In a word.. " YES!!!" But I once bought the best looking guy in the bar a drink and told him it was " for looking so damn good" then I just walked away. lol.. I think I made his day.. he was all smiles.""
That was YOU, Flirt859!!! What a small world. Thanks so much for the drink. I owe you one. (You REALLY DID make my day! I wish more women had your sensibility and great taste)  | |
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Posted: 4/20/2006 9:58:06 AM | Guess some of you will think I'm nuts, but I, personally, am not attracted to the really attractive men. I mean the Tom Cruise types. Give me a rugged looking tall man in a flannel shirt working on getting a fire going in the fire place and I'm there.  | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 4/20/2006 10:28:40 AM | hi iwarrior, some are and some aren't. Same for the guys. For me it depends on the situation. I too have bought a drink for a man that's in my opinion drop dead gorgeous !! I also get caught "drooling" If I can approach without losing my dignity(LOL) then I always take the chance. If not then I make sure to *wink* and let him know that WOW you are attractive. I never think I'm not good enough or question myself as to why would he want me? Confidence. I learned a long time ago that attractiveness is all packaging. Inside is what is attractive and leads to compatibility. Besides it's soooooo embarassing to be introduced to a Greek God, 6'4, Blonde, Blue-eyed, stunning ( someone I knew, knew him and sat me next to him so we could meet) and have him lean over to shake hands and say in a Mickey Mouse voice "HI" . My reaction was less than stellar !! | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/10/2006 8:00:47 PM | | If your in a bar i say walk up to a chick start talking to her. No fear in that but i do no that is a fear of a lot of guys. Ive never been bitten by a chick doing this. For the fellas read a book by marquis panzier dateing coach. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/10/2006 8:13:47 PM | Who wants to know a huge secret?
Men and Women are the same. OMG, THE SAME!!! We are attracted to each other in the same way, we get nervous for the same reasons, we both can have low self-esteem, and OMG YES! Women get horney too!!!
People are just people. Skin is just skin. Eveyone's the same underneath.
One of my biggest pet-peeves is the Warren Harding Error. It's basically stated that the taller or more attractive you are, the more successful in life you're going to be. There's actually an accurate calculation of height to salary increase increments.
Just because a guy or gal is hot or tall or muscular does NOT mean they are a good person.
Wake up people.
I'm not saying it's wrong to be attracted to someone that’s very attractive, but look at the whole package and remember, even supermodels have low self esteem. Most of the time they have lower self esteem than the average joe. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 10/11/2006 8:41:02 AM | Intimidated, no...
.. but I do tend to avoid the more genetically blessed varieties of the male species.
Par exemple: I was checking the profiles of a couple of dudes who had messaged me via POF, and one guy was so beautiful, he literally made my ovaries hurt. So I deleted.
Crazy, yes? Let me explain. I like to fancy myself a nice girl, well in control of herself. But when that kind of yumminess is laid out before me, wicked thoughts start to enter my brain. Thoughts of hot and sweaty nights. It's not pretty, but at the same time, it is | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 10/11/2006 3:11:46 PM | | i think for myself anyway i would be nervous. like yeah i'm still one of those girls that thinks er is that person looking at me? or the wall behind me? even when really cute guys come to me i still can't believe it. although i have to admit that i've been told that i'm one of those intimidating girls as well. i don't see it because i don't carry myself that way...or at least i don't think i do. it's funny how you see yourself one way and the world perceives you in another. but personally yes i do get nervous around very cute guys, but especially so if i feel they're the trendy or GQ-dressed kind. i would say i'm quite attractive myself, but i don't do the whole trendy, sorority girl wardrobe. i kind of dress middle of the way and i find it hard upon first impressions to be down with someone who takes care in picking out the latest fashions to wear. i know it sounds mean, but you know this my initial reaction. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 10/12/2006 7:22:38 AM | So I get the capri's, work on some rock hard abbs, look at myself in the mirror non stop, empty my head, become full of myself, and buy into the whole namebrand generation, buy an expensive sports car, and that is what it takes to be feared by women?
Count me out. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 10/12/2006 7:23:09 AM | So I get the capri's, work on some rock hard abbs, look at myself in the mirror non stop, empty my head, become full of myself, and buy into the whole namebrand generation, buy an expensive sports car, and that is what it takes to be feared by women?
Count me out. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 10/12/2006 5:47:56 PM | | Are women intimidated by attractive men?? You bettcha!!! What woman wants a fabulous looking man really? Not many, I dont think. What kind of a life would it be to have to beat all the women off him every day, in the supermarket, at the mall, in the dentists`, in the bars!! I dont think so. Personal experience, if you can believe this one. My ex was a very attractive man and women used to flirt constantly with him. Being honorable, he always pretended to "not notice." The day after I gave birth to our first child one of the student nurses almost threw herself at him. I was horrified and so was he. A couple of years later I told him that I was going to leave, not because of anything he ever did, but just because my confidence had been suffering for many years. He graciously understood and we parted ways. I told him when hes 70 and old and wrinkled to come on home. Would I go out with an attractive man again? Well only if hes attractive to me and not the rest of the female population!! | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 10/12/2006 6:23:49 PM | No, I am not intimidated by a very attractive man. I won't
knock anyone for being blessed in the looks department.
And for the record, I think that is a very poor excuse to divorce a man ileah.
Wow, I wish that was the only big problem I had, huh!
I can understand that you were bothered with women hitting on him,
but you have to work on your insecurities.
I had a bf once, who told me that he would never get involved
with an attractive woman, after me, he would rather be with
and ugly girl, he figured no one would want her. His friends used to
hit on me. Anyhow, he looked me up many years later, and I was
married, at the time! | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 10/15/2006 12:27:46 PM | | Have to add something to this post because I have had a lot of people question me on it. Obviously there were other reasons why I left the marriage, but not at all to do with this subject, so I would prefer not to add anything else. My main point is men and women alike are always intimidated by being with someone that is super attractive, no one can be that secure if they are in love. If such a creature exists, then I applaud you!! ileah | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 10/15/2006 6:34:58 PM | | I can't speak for all of us, but i know i am. I feel like a shy little school girl who blushes and can't make eye contact. Feels great tho. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 10/13/2007 8:35:59 AM | A couple of women said something similar to this: "I am definitally intimidated...especially with the guy who doesn't know how hot he is. lol that means he has a great personality too."
So, the question is, exactly how can you tell who "the guy who doesn't know how hot he is" is?
I mean, can you tell just by looking, or does this determination come somewhere farther down the line - after you've gotten over being intimidated, have gotten to know him, etc.? | |
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