| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 4/4/2008 11:21:46 AM | Lol, wouldn't if be funny if a hot guy and a hot girl who were mutually attracted to eachother couldn't, because they were both intimidated by eachother lol. ahh funny scenario
I bet that has happened a lot. Or they are both use to the other gender catering to them and they stand there face to face waiting for the other person to act like all the previous ones did. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/11/2009 4:25:40 AM | Very interesting forum topic indeed. And probably a good revelation for many men whom suffer shyness due to their internal, unfounded fears. Id rather take rejection than regret... so if you dont attempt/try, one can safely say you will never succeed.
women, beautiful women, have as many hang-ups and insecurities, if not more, than men. Dont let it fool you... and men, dont place yourself beneath someone due to their looks (social value)... it is not a confident trait and somewhat shallow. Do you see them as a person or some sort of prize. Dont be so clingy and needy... stand tall and have the confidence that you are comfortable in your own skin and you dont require validation from anyone, especially those who dont know you or you just met. Dont be arrogant and shut people out, however, approach PEOPLE, regardless of sex, with the understanding that they also may have ups and downs just like you, have insecurities and might even be thankful that you are the one breaking the ice. People are fun and a joy to get to know and learn. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/11/2009 12:02:14 PM | | I personally don't ever talk to anyone first- if their cute, attractive,plain, bald, head of hair, pudgy, skinny..doesn't matter I'm just the old shy woman that goes about her business. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/16/2009 2:54:38 AM | | I have had expierences with realy good looking men all my life from the age of 14 and up and so, I have never been shy at all. But now that I am 26 and looking for something more serious I always look at realy attractive men and wonder, is he someone that can love me through thick and thin? Is he someone that is a loyal type, is he someone who will be a good dad. I question thier abilities in regards to the aformentioned because often attractive guys are conceided, and often can be cut throat, not all but it is a stereo type. So I let the guy approach me if he can have manners and act cool then I know he has some potential. For long term I need the guy to prove he is good on the inside ecspecially because looks don't count for much in the end, at least for me. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:38:42 AM | I'm definately nervous around good looking guys, especially if they don't seem to realize or care how hot they are. But when they seem to know it, it's off-putting and I don't feel intimidated.
There have been so many guys I would never even presume to talk to because they are out of my looks league. Oh well. They're still pretty to look at.  | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:47:09 AM | | I have to say that women are intimidated by very good looking guys. Seen it all the time. I've seen it where the girl does not want to get too serious because she feels that because all women hit on this guy she will eventually lose him, and one thing women want more than a good looking guy is a guy that feels long term. This actually plays well for guys like me, I do not consider myself good looking but rather, capable on the wits of my character, and gotten the girl instead of the hot looking guy simply because they talked to the guy, didn't connect, then talked to me. Hehehe. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:52:25 AM | out of your league?
pffft... no one is out of anyone's league.. perhaps out of range, due to other circumstances, but you cant seriously think this way.
besides, oblivion77... i cant feel too sorry for you on this topic as from appearance standpoint you are what is considered extremely attractive. Im sure you dont have that many dating problems ;-) | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:00:55 AM | No, I seriously do think there are 'leagues' maybe it's not popular to say so, and of course, everything is subjective, but looks, intelligence, income, every area of life has it's own levels, and it's just better that people be on as many of the same ones as possible.
Oh and cooldudinberlin - thanks for the nice words, but if I didn't have that many dating problems, would I be on this site? Lol. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/16/2009 8:43:19 AM | | I've been intimidated by a few women. But never based on their physical beauty. They've all been very high-powered, accomplished, and extremely wealthy. But based on physical attributes alone? Bosh I say. Nobody should ever be intimidated by another or say they're 'out of my league' based on that. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/16/2009 12:08:15 PM | oblivion77
not everyone on here has dating problems, nor is any online or "alternative" way of meeting people mean that...its only an additional method, brought about by the modern times we live... let's face it, romance and dating, like work, play, hobbies, etc., is a big part of anyone's life.
still, you seem like a catch... yes, i checked your profile and your interest, message and zest for life would definitely make me contact you if I were in the Toronto area | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/16/2009 9:01:21 PM | | Yes we are! Sometimes it's hard to gauge whether we're good enough for him or not and I think women are even more afraid of rejection than men. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/16/2009 10:03:40 PM | Isn't it so ironic...we prop the "lookers" up to such an extent that we feel intimidated by them...."oh why would he ever go for me"
you know what's happening here? you're building up that "looker's" ego to such an extent that they become increadibly insecure....it's kinda counter intuitive...but just think about it....the so-called attractive person gets so many compliments and special looks, privalleges, that their entire self worth is based on what other people think about them....
Ego is insecure...so while you're sitting there giving yourself excuses...that "looker" is sitting there feeling just as insecure as you are and wondering why the hell is it so hard to really connect with anybody....
I once heard a self proclaimed "confident" woman say that even if a good looking guy approaches her and lets her know he wants her....she'll still think that he's "too good to be true" and couldn't see herself with him.....that's completely F*CKED.....
Looks are completely irrelivant....it's all about the interaction....and in the end...the only thing we all long for is to genuinely connect with someone...how can we connect when we get in our own way with rediculous self defeating thoughts..... | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/17/2009 1:13:55 PM | Are you REALLY intimidated? or do your nerves just go crazy automatically? Turn that "fear" into EXCITEMENT....
In the end we're all the same...we experience the same emotions....the only thing that separates us is circumstance.... | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/17/2009 5:11:11 PM | | This would be the only logical explanation for why I never receive messages on this site. That, and my profile smacks of bitterness. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/18/2009 4:50:03 PM | I have had my share of attractive drop dead gorgeous
guys and not so nice looking guys.
I am an equal opportunity dater. Usually the not so nice lookings
have tons of charm and I end up falling hard. The real nice looking
ones I get very intimidated - dont ask me why, I have no clue as I am
not horrid looking but the not so nice looking guys seem to give me self
esteem issues because I am so nice looking but being seen with me makes
them want to cheat- okay anyway .....
I find out tonight there is a local guy who is freaking gorgeous has found out
that I am again single and is asking everyone I know where I live so he
can show up at my door - Im intimidated. Why - I have no idea. You would
thing at almost 50 I would get a grip. Nope. Still freaking.
Scared- you bet. Intimidated - you bet. Will I meet up with him - Good God
yes.
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/18/2009 8:11:46 PM | | No. They're still men and have vastly different tastes in women. I wouldn't talk to or approach an attractive guy if he seems really into himself. Big egos are a turnoff. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/18/2009 9:46:54 PM | When I was super scrawny I got approached more often than I do now. I've put on some good weight and now my clothes fit well and I hardly ever get approached. Now I have to do the work of approaching others if I want to find conversation. I don't really get it. Plus, I'll talk to anyone and everyone. If there's a good personality then there's going to be a good conversation.
FYI, I don't think I'm one of those super "Attractive Men". I just made a vast improvement to my physical attractiveness compared to what I used to look like. | |
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| Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:37:50 AM |
Scared- you bet. Intimidated - you bet.
But if it were a REAL fear...you'd probably run....I wonder why we equate that unconscious nervous energy to fear? ...I've felt it recently too...senses go crazy...maybe you're thrown off a wee bit....but it's just a rediculous attraction...the furthest thing from "fear" and "intimidation" .....
I choose to turn it into excitement...because life is too short to pass up opportunities...you know....so called "attractive" men feel the exact same things...we're all the same....
The only way someone can be truely intimidated is if they have a very low self esteem...oh and btw...self esteem doesn't come from people telling you you're attractive....it comes from within...simply because you're happy with yourself...by yourself...and you truely know you're doing the best that you can..... | |
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