| Is old fashioned courting out of date?
Posted: 2/25/2006 4:10:40 PM | I personally would love to be courted. I think people say that they are too busy or whatever, but I agree with the first poster about the reason that courting is not common. However, was it ever as common as we would like to believe? ;)
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/25/2006 4:12:55 PM | Hmm, I also think it's a two way street. We are treated how we want to be treated. If you want to go out, don't invite him to your house or except his invites to his home. Go out. We all have choices and women have let it slide just as much as men. Courting is a two way street and should be done by both parties....it is simply a matter of showing common courtesies, considerations and respect to EACH OTHER. The guy opens the door for me, I lean over and unlock his....just one tiny example. At any rate, it should be something done by both sexes and not just the men. I find it amazing that most people are more considerate and polite to strangers than they are to those who love them and whom they love. If you take each other for granted or allow yourself to be taken for granted, I just don't see how it can possibly work in the long run, at least, happily.
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/25/2006 4:46:11 PM | | I agree with most of what you said. However courtin is not dead yet. I am one who still has the values of courtin. Taking the time to know the heart | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/25/2006 4:57:42 PM | in my culture [i'm filipino]...courting is very much so alive. though, i for one never really understood it. so he's being nice...how am i supposed to respond to it? if i like him, how does it work? do i just sit there n enjoy his lavishing gifts n attention n all that...lolz. cuz, as far as i'm aware, courting is when he is trying to *woe* the lady. so...what do i do if i like him as well to begin with?
oh...then there are even those who would ask for my permission if they can court me. one of them explained that he said he was just being *polite*. THAT i totally do not understand. i apparently *rejected* a guy when i told him *think about it before doing so* [since its a long distance thing]. oh man...all these things are so complicated...hahahahaha  | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/25/2006 5:20:03 PM | Now if you're a talkin' courtin EllieMae the girl with the CEEEment pond and the double barreled slingshot with all the critters who can whoop Jethros sorry ass I'm a with ya'.
Now remember to make this a real redneck song you have to include trains, guns, god, pickup trucks, momma and prison. | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/25/2006 5:32:43 PM | Well, it sort of hurts my heart to see how many women on here have not been courted. I don't think I've never not been.
I find anyone I've ever had any sort of relationship with has taken the time to get to know me and for me to know them. And by the time you're talking heavy courting stage, we both know we really really like each other as people.
I don't know how to say this without sounding ,,,I don't know,, but I've received lots of flowers over the years. I've been treated really well and I don't have any great horror stories. I don't know why that is, but it is my reality, I wish it was the same of all of you, because we all deserve it. Treat people well and hopefully they will treat you the same. Flowers go both ways. Peace | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/25/2006 5:38:39 PM | don't you just love the warm fuzzy feeling you get from those wholesome oldies? ..
doubt many kids these days are getting the same kind of warm fuzzies ..
video killed the radio star .. | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/25/2006 5:43:20 PM | > It is old fashioned and evidently, also rat infested.
Perplexo:
HA! One of the funniest posts I have ever read. I can attest to the fact that online dating is rat infested. My trap has caught a few over the years.
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/25/2006 6:35:59 PM | | Many women I come accross think of courting as a man taking the woman out and buying her things - as we struggle to achieve equality I've come to view courting/dating more as coming together with someone else and sharing our lives, our stories our time together. I think the money or manly control of setting things up and making things happen is outdated and interferes with two people getting to know each other as individuals/partners - I'm not trying to buy something or win something - I'm trying to share something. | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/25/2006 8:14:22 PM | | Do you people know what I would give to have a relationship that isn't based on solely sex...where you get a chance to know someone b4 you sleep with them or get serious! I would love to court a woman...but it's a little hard when you're first or second date is the "hey wanna come watch a movie at my place with a bottle of wine"....ARGH! lol just a little vent thanks | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/25/2006 11:52:40 PM | Courting is alive and well in my world.I appreciate taking the time to get to know one anothers little nuances.I hate rushing into things.A spiffy friendship base is such an important catalyst in a happy relationship.If someone doesnt want to put in the time or effort to really get to know me....thats their perogative and Im not offended by it.I am old fashioned though and enjoy the courting process,.I like when a man holds the door open for me and its a big A+ if he writes me a poem. I enjoy doing nice aweet things for a guy I like as well,so it isnt all one sided | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/26/2006 4:09:42 AM | | I agree I think poetry is an awsome way to show affection I love writing poetry not to mention a guy deffinitely should hold a door open at least once in a while. well said | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:50:46 AM | | when you hold the door open, and there is another door ahead, are you supposed to rush to the other door and hold that one open for her too? what's the best way to open a door if you know there is another door right after the first door? | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/26/2006 5:54:01 AM | I love it!!!!!
But if she isnt indicating through her body language and actions that there is attraction, them I am not going to do it. And besides, women say that they KNOW in 5 minutes if they are attracted to someone, so why spend 6 monts courtin when they made their mind up 5 months ago. | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/26/2006 7:52:44 AM | In my world, a man who "courts" me is 100% better than all the rest. I am my own person, strong and independent. BUT, a man who takes me out, opens doors for me, brings me a flower or two for no reason just makes me feel like a 100% sexy woman. I love being able to go out and talk to someone and just get to know them without being groped. There is nothing more romantic to me than just holding hands, or sitting next to one another(and letting me put my head on your shoulder), or taking a walk in the moonlight. Come on guys! Even the girls who like "bad boys" would probably eat that kind of behavior up! | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/26/2006 10:34:24 AM | | How should you open a door when you know another is in front of that. It's kind of up to the lady to allow you to be a gentle man as well. When she goes through the first door, she should sort of step to the side to allow you to come through and a little in front of her and she should always always say thank you. Thank you very much. I just love a gentleman, pretty much gaurantees he'll be more than happy to do it again and again. I just adore gentlemen.... | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/26/2006 11:03:06 AM | | If there is one door and it is awkward to open it because you must stand aside and have her squeeze through under your arm, then it is acceptable to help her open it by pushing gently on her back, pressing her against the door to open it. In the case of two doors, open the first one, step through, hold it for her to follow, then step through the second one and hold it shut as she tries to open it until she calls you a name, then laugh and open it. For revolving doors, let her go in first then hop in behind her in the same section, pressing up against her because there isn't much room. Trap doors are always gone through first, giving the lady yourself to land upon to break her fall. It is usually good manners to show the lady in the door before you with these exceptions, or in case of bringing her home to your apartment when it makes sense to run in ahead of her to hide whatever you left out in the open she should not see yet. | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/26/2006 12:19:19 PM | catch_a_star, perplexo, thank you for 2 quality posts .. i will try pushing gently on her back ..
another dilemma .. it is correct for the man to walk on the road-side of the sidewalk, but sometimes one finds oneself on the wrong side of their partner .. should the man rush ahead to correct the order, or lag behind to correct the order? .. pass in front, or pass behind the woman? .. which is correct? | |
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| Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/27/2006 9:52:03 AM | A man should always walk on the curb side of the street. All people should walk on the right side, it's international etiquette... You should drop behind to correct, never in front.  I love that you want to treat a lady nicely and are looking to do things correctly.
Funny, how I actually remember having to go through the flatware service, eating your courses from the outside in flatware wise....desert flatware at the top of the plate... yada yada... , walking with a book on my head for proper posture, taking ballet, live theatre every second Saturday. I felt as if my entire life were lessons in how a young lady presents herself...and then I laugh till I snort and my mother walks away shaking her head. Oh well... all we can do is try... | |
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