| love is all you need ..errrr...or is n't it??
Posted: 2/28/2006 11:04:02 AM | | I used to think love was enough, but after I got married and divorced I realized that you definitely need more! Trust, honesty, faithfulness, and communication is just as important as love is to me now | |
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| love is all you need ..errrr...or is n't it??
Posted: 2/28/2006 11:08:34 AM | Love alone is never enough. Money doesn't even enter the equation so let's not even go there. Communication isn't easy when you can't see the total package. A lot of trust in your partner's faith and sincerity might make up for what you can't see for yourself. You can love the most abusive person in the world, but do you trust them? You can love your way through lies and deception, but do you believe in them? You can love someone even though you feel they're keeping secrets, but are you communicating? If you don't have trust or communication, love just gets you hurt.
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| love is all you need ..errrr...or is n't it??
Posted: 2/28/2006 11:37:21 AM | PEOPLE PEOPLE PEOPLE!!!
All one has to do is read ol' Steve's posts. THIS man knows what time it is! Steve is the Mr. Miagi of Love, and we are all Ralph Macchio's who need to go wax a few cars.....
A wise old father-in-law once told me: "In both a literal and figureative sense, Love don't mean dik, son. You have got to trust, communicate, compromise, and respect. In a lasting relationship, "love" as most people think of it, isn't the answer. Those 4 things are. In fact, those 4 things ARE love. Now, go be young and stupid."
Drew, I appreciate the thoughtfulness you put into your posts. You are obviously way way ahead of the game from where I was when I was your age. However, it is somewhat apparent to me in digesting your posts that you may not really get what I'm about to say or why I'm saying it (and I'm not going to spell it out for ya), but trust me on this:
Love is not math. Love is not a geometry problem. Logic has little value in matters of the heart. Period. No exceptions. No remainder. If you think you do get it, great, but think about it some more anyway. | |
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| love is all you need ..errrr...or is n't it??
Posted: 2/28/2006 11:41:43 AM | I watched a couple huddled in a corner by a seven eleven wearing a blanket last week in the freezing Canadian cold bumming cigarettes from people and looking pretty beaten . probably wondering if they would make it through another night till the shelters opened in the morning for some stale oatmeal . But they probably loved each other .
You tell me ? | |
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Sarahv
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Joined: 1/29/2006
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SuGar0
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Joined: 1/15/2006
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| love is all you need ..errrr...or is n't it??
Posted: 3/1/2006 5:39:00 AM | I don't need a long distance relation. It's not so different from being single in my location.
I don't need Love ...Been there, Done that.
I 've learnt how it feels when Love starts and when it ends
It's the same cycle and never changed . Only one thing that changes is a person whom U have the sentimental feeling to. | |
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| love is all you need ..errrr...or is n't it??
Posted: 3/1/2006 6:50:27 AM | Well I love my x....I told her " all I can give you is my love " That wasnt enof for her...but she has two kids...so theres the deliema.
I want to say how selfesh she is...but at the same time she is supporting two kids on her own..so Im being the man and respecting her decissions.
But now shes dateing a man who dosnt have a job, and treats her like s#it...I know deep down she never loved me...but I love her.
Now I sorta have an Idea of why some people stay in abuseive relationships...they think that some day it will change....but it never will. | |
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| love is all you need ..errrr...or is n't it??
Posted: 3/1/2006 7:30:16 AM |
Drew, I appreciate the thoughtfulness you put into your posts. You are obviously way way ahead of the game from where I was when I was your age. However, it is somewhat apparent to me in digesting your posts that you may not really get what I'm about to say or why I'm saying it (and I'm not going to spell it out for ya), but trust me on this:
Love is not math. Love is not a geometry problem. Logic has little value in matters of the heart. Period. No exceptions. No remainder. If you think you do get it, great, but think about it some more anyway.
Thanks intercooler. That just eases my mind a bit about my current relationship.
-Drew- | |
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| love is all you need ..errrr...or is n't it??
Posted: 3/1/2006 7:32:54 AM | Sugar0...so peccimistic. I feel so bad for you. Giving up on love helps in the short run but hurts in the long run. Hopefully your view changes again and you start looking for love, whether that's in an LDR or not.
-Drew- | |
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| love is all you need ..errrr...or is n't it??
Posted: 3/1/2006 7:39:40 AM | | love is enough for some people not for others all depends on who you are. some people will stay with each other whether they have money or are dirt poor you know the whole "for better, or for worse" that's what love is about my freinds and everyone is looking at it as oh if there is no money then love can't carry through...bullsh!t I say....my family has been dead broke my whole life but that doesn't mean my parents just gave up on each other because they didn't have the money or what have you. no they kept to that vow..."for better, or for worse." I think if you look through the vows that are typically read at a wedding that will tell what love is about not these posts no matter what kinds of opinions are stated I think that really can anyone but the married and divorced people really know the truth on this since they are the only ones who have taken it far enough to say those important words...seriously folks modern society love isn't "love" anymore what people view as love now is just "convenience" when it's convenient for me to love you then we'll be together when you are older uglier and broke then loving you isn't convenient...anymore....if we're married we'll divorce since everyone in this world does it especially in America...mainly because we are the most greedyand power hungry....but to all of you on this post I ask this question and hope to see some responses.....anyone who has parents who are still together ask "them" what love "is" and if it's enough to carry a relationship by itself.....then maybe we'll start to see how corrupted all of us really are myself included probably but it'd be good to know and change..so let me know what those people who have been together 20-50 years or more have to say...talk to your parents people I assume that you all still remember them...older people giving you orders as a teenager...that'd be them...lol so go to these relics as some may call them and find the truth about what makes a relationship last. | |
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SuGar0
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Joined: 1/15/2006
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| love is all you need ..errrr...or is n't it??
Posted: 3/6/2006 7:47:06 AM | | drew...I am not being peccimistic.....But only love doesn't always make relationship work. It is only the beginning. You need to use love as force that help you overcome problems that may come in the future. And never ever take another person's love for granted. | |
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| love is all you need ..errrr...or is n't it??
Posted: 3/6/2006 7:54:51 AM | No it's not enough.
If I love a person..I want ALL of her: Want to ear her talk, I want to share with her, to touch her, experience all the things in life with her.
I want to wake up in the morning and look at her sleeping and smile to see how lucky I am to have found the perfect someone for me. | |
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| love is all you need ..errrr...or is n't it??
Posted: 3/6/2006 8:26:36 AM | read betwen the line musicalthespian.
The description i made include that I live with the person, that we both share conversations, point of views, bed, and all sort of things.
Sorry if I wasn't clear enough. | |
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