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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/8/2006 11:05:58 AM | Fine Montreal, but u know I would accept a guy's point of u with me just the same as I do with guys. If I would sleep with u and I'm not as good as a woman around ur age, but u're into me regardless, I'm sure u wouldn't just diss me but show me some stuff. And if I would be older than u or around ur age, I'm sure u wouldn't be impressed if I wouldn't be able to keep u going. :) Just cause being around ur age u would kinda expect the person to be better than some almost virgin woman, no?  | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/8/2006 11:22:32 AM | Actually, I think it has far more to do with the quality of the person you are with. If they are not selfish outside of the bedroom, they will probably be the same in bed. If you get someone like that, someone that gets turned on turning you on - experience is just a word.
Actually, when I was about twenty five, I had this short romance with this woman who was about ten years older that worked with me. She was a really classy business woman type, and very unlike any women I had experienced before. Once we were alone, she proved to be quite ummmm ...un-business like. 
Both of us were into the same thing, and saw sex the same way. Although she was far more experienced than I was, I held my own quite nicely.  The one thing that set her apart from everyone else up to that point is that she was very open about improving what we were both doing. She expected the same from me, and was open to suggestions.
Being with a woman like that is a fantastic experience, and one you learn from. | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/8/2006 11:34:01 AM | Like I said, it had nothing to do with age or number of partners. It had everything to do with openess, unselfishness, and good communication.
You could get two virgins in a bed with that attitude, and they might show us all a few tricks. | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/8/2006 11:53:17 AM | "It really depends on so many things, but if u r an older woman, just meaning ur'e not a teenager anymore or in ur early twenties, than in a way who wants to teach someone sex all over again. "
Yeah but good sex is a different thing for different people... maybe to someone before you he was GREAT and what you consider "great" isn't the same. OR maybe he didn't think YOU were so great... it's not like all women are naturally good in bed or something! Guys also sometimes feel pressure with someone new which could have resulted in him not being really into it. Or perhaps you weren't really into because you've got anxieties about sex with a new partner as well... let's not be blamed someone else for your own psychological distractions.
Either way sex isn't something that just happens and either it's great or it's not... if you want great sex you need to know what both parties consider great, be in tune with one another, and be able to talk about it.
Frankly with a new partner I'd pretty much EXPECT to have to tell them/show them a few things (and vice-versa) before it was "great"... I'd not be too surprised if the first few times were less than spectacular (of course there are some things that would be indicative of a major issue... but if it's just a matter of not doing the right stuff or not doing it the right way... that's all stuff that a man or woman needs to "feel out" with a new partner. There's so much you can do and so many ways you can do it and everybody's got different things that do it or don't for them... | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/8/2006 11:55:32 AM | Just say...
" I know i said size wasnt important, but in your case i lied"
Or...
"My Dear...I've seen bigger thing's carwl out of a moldy lettuce"
That should gie them the idea they wasnt very good.
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/8/2006 12:04:52 PM | | i had this recently, sex went on for ages but was soooooooooo boring, i gave him a few more chances thinking he would improve but NO, it was still shit!!!!!! i could have a conversation with him, drink a cup of tea (which i did!!!!) and look at the clock and exclaim how late it was and that i needed to go home!.......i never said out right he was shit but i just never saw him again! | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/20/2006 10:32:36 AM | I think that anyone can be good at sex...even if they are not exactly what you...umm...shall we say expected down below...it doesn't matter what size...only if they can use it well...and that is my job...to communicate what I want and what I like...the only way to let them learn how to be better.
So ladies...don't let the unexperienced, small man ruin what you wanted for a good sexual experience...get the most out of it by gradually letting them know what it is that you want...and when they don't comply...speak a little louder, maybe a moan in that direction will set them straight.
And if all else fails...get out of the situation as fast as you possibly can...and never look back, simply move on ...and find better. | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/20/2006 10:43:34 AM | Very well said tammi. A big part of being a great lover is being able to communicate!
Be willing to listen to what your partner needs and prcatice is fun and makes perfect! | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/20/2006 11:22:54 AM | Try one of theses classics .... “It’s not you, it’s me”....“were just not sexually compatible” or the ever popular… “shoo-shoo, go awaynow”. It's not gentle but it's effective.  | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/20/2006 8:50:09 PM | Hmmm...well there is bad and there is BAD. If he's just bad then I would seriously consider showing him how to do it. Take his hand, show him how to make you orgasm with fingers. Get on top, take the lead during sex. Sometimes guys dont mind if you give instruction- if its not done the wrong way.... TEACH HIM.
And if it still doesn't work dump him, tell him he sucks and that he should be taken out back and beaten.  | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/20/2006 8:55:14 PM | easily .....
Like this " I just don't like you in bed " .... not so hard !
honestly is the best policy, you may want to inform them what it was about them that you didn't like so that they can improve on it for the future ... but other than that be straight forward about it ! | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/21/2006 4:39:58 AM | | I tell you this is one I know all to well about. Wonderful man, worst foreplay, kissing, sex I have ever had, and I was so in love with him. I tryed slowing him down, I tryed to take the lead and slow him down, show him how to kiss more passionately, not just sit there with your tongue crammed down my throat, wiggling it like a had a worm dangling from my lips. To make it all the more worse he was a hefty size man, and extremely small, and had a pump, he could never cum, I tryed explaining to this man that at that time I had a 6 and 3 year old, I don't care to have 4 and 5 hours of sex every night when I have delt with kids all day, plus work and have to do all the work when it comes to the sex too. It was so frustrating cause he would listen, act like I was hurting his feelings and 20 minutes later be back at the same thing. After awhile of me talking and hearing me but not really hearing me, I blamed other reasons for breaking up with him, I hated to hurt him, and I hated losing him too. But I know me, I couldn't of stayed in that, cause sooner or later he would of hit me on the wrong night, the wrong way and I would of lost it. So it was the best thing for me to do. | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/21/2006 4:48:42 AM | well in most cases if theres personality and hes sexy id look past the fact that sex sux
and women call men shallow?!?!?!
I don't see how anyone could compromise on sexual compatibility -- or compatibility in any desire that you have. Some things aren't important, but if you know what great sex is like why would you settle for less? Settling leads to discontent, discontent to a failed relationship. If you think you can "train" him and have the patience, then by all means feel free. Otherwise cut your losses now before things get so deep that everyone gets hurt. HOW to tell him that he sux? Be honest but gentle, tell him that you aren't satisfied. If he is into you, then he will want to know what he can do to make things better -- t | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/21/2006 5:08:26 AM | Just tell him he sucks and that maybe he or you should change teams....
no wait, talk to him and tell him what you like, some people are good listeners and some people want to learn and sometimes the chemistry is just not there | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/21/2006 5:19:01 AM | I have no problem telling ppl they're bad in bed! Hot or Not, I hooked up with this guy who was ****en HOT, stood 6'5", had me quakin' at the knees. When it was time for action, oh man, it was awful! Shortly later, he asked for more...I said no, told him he was bad in bed. Since then, he's been buggin' to make up for it. Sorry bud, give me bad sex once, shame on you...Give me bad sex twice, shame on me! | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/21/2006 5:20:21 AM | If you really like him! And you just want him to change his mojo. Then find a porno flick that really hits your buttons, and make him watch it over and over til he gets it right!
Orrrrrr just put a bag over his head and pretend he's someone else!  | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/21/2006 5:26:31 AM | That doesn't help, bad sex is bad sex...
I felt like I was in one of those movies, where the chick is laying there with a weird look on her face while he's in all his glory for the whole of two minutes.....I even said, "What? You're done?" | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 3/21/2006 6:33:01 AM | Wow, so many factors to deal with on this one.
- If you are sleeping with this guy then you should be able to talk to him. If you can't then end the relationship because even if he got better in the bedroom you could never tell him about it.
- If you can talk to him about it then think about his feelings and be gentle when telling him. Perhaps you could tell him "Hey, I've never had anyone do it that way before. It's kind of interesting. Where did you get those skidproof socks anyway?" Then let him know that while it was a lot of fun and different for you perhaps he would like to try something else and then tell him what you want - sans socks - or perhaps not . . .
- Keep in mind that if you are going to try and make him better in bed it's going to take practice! | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 4/22/2006 9:48:07 AM | Exactly as posted,if he is a grown man explain i like you, but the sex is not good.The most important part is to explain why, is it too hard, to soft ,dou you like to be choked .That would help him in the future so the next woman won't get the same deal.Now to more important issue, in most of these sites women complain about not finding a good man who is trustworty and caring.All (bull)most are so shallow and self absorded it's unreal,if you liked the guy give him a month in bed ,teach him what you like.The ratio of women to men is 10/1 and alot of women are going to be by themselves because they want superman,someone who cooks,cleans,changes the oil,takes the garbage out,and ****s them like Tommy lee.Have you ever thought maybe the reason the guy is not good is because he has not had that many experieces,and possibly that could be a good thing.And the fact that you are so displeased is you have had to many to compare him too. | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 4/22/2006 10:01:46 AM | Although if it's because he's hung like a field mouse there's not much you can do about that.
Actually, there is something you can do about that if the guy loves you enough and you do to and you are willing to make it work regardless... There are temporary prosthetics that men can have made on demand (through their doctor) that are placed on the guy's erection and held by straps - basically like a strap on...
That said, regarding your original question, you have to be delicate in how you say it, use tact, or don't tell him and simply start telling him how to do it. You must be willing to teach him... If you don't do it for the sake of trying to make your relationship work...at least do it for the women that will fallow in your footsteps! Could be a good learning experience for you in the process...help you voice your desires and needs.
For a man to be "good" in bed is not so much an intuitive process but more of a learning one...unless he just happens to be a hermaphrodite. lol | |
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| how to tell a guys you just dont like him in bed
Posted: 4/22/2006 10:14:06 AM | The worse thing to happen is having this great guy ,, hes nice funny, caring great chemistry .. Than you open the package and out pops pee wee ..
Im one for nice guys but seriously joking myself to think that i can train a 40 year old man to have sex is just that-- a joke..
Im one for chemistry but im also one for great sex and i echo the previous poster who said if i wanted to teach someone great sex id sleep with a 21 year old virgin .. no thanks
I have ran into this situation where i was honest and told him exactly why the relationship was over.. how would i feel about it .. meh.. hasnt happened to me so i wouldnt know .. but i go by the honesty is the best policy adage
just my 2 cents ...again...
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