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Posted: 12/29/2006 10:11:02 PM | You still have that since of humor dont ya.Peace-Out bub | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 8:44:42 AM | Maybe... it is you!
Maybe... you are making wrong decision!
Maybe... you are using wrong bait to cutch rigth fish!
Maybe... you just choosing wrong man!
If you choosing a prince... he just gone "do you" and go...
If you gone choose simole guy... you have a chance to keep him! | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 10:24:03 AM | Hey Cindylynn, if you figure this one out, I will back you publishing the "how to" in a book, because everyone wants to know! A best seller for sure.
Man, what a tough question. Each person has out there has a bazillion unique characteristics and to find the one with a percentage that will match a percentage of your bazillion unique characteristics.....well, it ain't easy. I just recommend you have fun trying, enjoy the journey! It could be the next guy. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 11:02:53 AM | | always keep your standards..........dont settle for less than you deserve........be patient | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 2:49:03 PM | I keep being told the same thing.
There are good men and bad men out there. Its up to you to avoid the bad ones and wait for the good ones. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2007 6:53:32 AM | | And to agree with 'prissybear' (just what is a prissybear?) keep to your standards and set them high....never settle for. My Dad always said to always strive for the very best....and you will never be disappointed. Later learned he meant I would not be disappointed in my efforts....but the uncontrollable aspects do present a challenge at times. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2007 7:40:31 AM | | java...............a prissy bear is a girlie girl......sweet, romantic......brunette | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 9:22:40 AM | Not much to go on here Cindy. I read your profile and forum comments, and you look great, seem intelligent and attractive.
I suspect that you may be one of those girls who still just wants what she can't have.
Just shooting in the dark here of course, but a lot of women still go for the bad boy types hoping to bring out the hidden inner prince. Kissing frogs, so to speak.
Looking for a diamond in the rough when all that is really there is a lump of coal.
Ok, can't think of any more corny analogies. LOL
What I'm saying is lot of women ( men too) love the chase. The challenge of taming the player and making him theirs. The problem is, once he's tamed, if you do manage it, the challenge is no longer there.
Then he's just another boring old nice guy, that you've got wrapped around your little finger.
He becomes on of those "wrong guys' that want you.
Time to move on.
As I said, please don't be offended. I may be totally off base with you, but there are a lot of people who play this scene out time after time and just cant figure out what is wrong.
I've done it too.
Just food for thought.
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Posted: 7/20/2007 1:54:51 AM | what are you doing to attract the wrong guys and scare off the ones that you are interested in? This sounds like a "step back and look at the big picture" kinda thingy. Just go after the guys who are interested and leave the others in your dust.
IMHO  | |
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Posted: 7/24/2007 9:46:02 AM | I have to rant a little here... 
Why is it???
We seem to be so caught up in our petty little dating "problems", relentlessly **** in public forums about being "victims" (when in reality we set ourselves up for 90% of the crap we complain about), and we don't seem to acknowledge how good we have got it here, to be able to DATE and not be told WHO we MUST marry...
Case in point:
LONDON (Reuters) - A Kurdish woman was brutally raped, stamped on and strangled by members of her family and their friends in an "honor killing" carried out at her London home because she had fallen in love with the wrong man.
Banaz Mahmod, 20, was subjected to the 2-1/2 hour ordeal before she was garroted with a bootlace. Her body was stuffed into a suitcase and taken about 100 miles to Birmingham where it was buried in the back garden of a house.
Her badly decomposed body was found in April 2006, three months after the killing.
Last month a jury found her father Mahmod Mahmod, 52, and his brother Ari Mahmod, 51, guilty of murder after a three-month trial. Their associate Mohamad Hama, 30, had earlier admitted killing her. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2007 12:26:25 PM | Tea you make a very valid point, we do have it really good here in the USA. However, not to discredit you or your comments at all but someone decided that we needed to find "creative" ways to spend our "free" time...albeit not always wisely, so here we are chatting away on the internet.
Thank you for reminding us that in many parts of the world...there are others far less fortunate than us ... those who do not share the same sense of freedom.
Back on topic...OP, it is what it is...and it is what you make it. If you set yourself up in your mind to believe that this is all there will ever be...then this is all that you will ever see. You must be willing to step outside of the mold that you have created for yourself and (to take a quote from a recently aired great movie:) "change your stars".
A higher power may have predetermined your possibilites but you alone decide the outcome. You choose the door that is opened...which door will you choose next time? | |
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Posted: 7/25/2007 1:59:20 PM | ... ways to spend our "free" time... albeit not always wisely, here we are chatting away on the internet.
Back off topic ~ I love it when a woman demonstrates her own points! Good job Susan!  | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 4:31:42 AM |
Back off topic ~ I love it when a woman demonstrates her own points! Good job Susan! -Teagmháil  "I am not worthy"
Thank you Teagmháil[/]...and back on topic...why is it? Because, we can always count on you to bring us a little enlightenment each day with very important informational tidbits from who knows where you get this stuff from. You are a gushing fountain of handy dandy info!!!
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Posted: 7/27/2007 12:14:05 PM |
Because, we can always count on you to bring us a little enlightenment each day with very important informational tidbits from who knows where you get this stuff from. You are a gushing fountain of handy dandy info!!!
Pssst... hand me my hip waders... it's getting DEEP in here!  | |
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Posted: 7/27/2007 3:49:48 PM |
Pssst... hand me my hip waders... it's getting DEEP in here!
I second that....... Way to deep.lol
On topic. It would be very hard to find love on a website in my opinion anyway you look at it. But OP, I here that all the time from other people. Ive never have had that problem myself. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2007 4:26:25 PM |
why do all the wrong guys want me???
and all the guys I am interested in dont ???
Define wrong guys, cuz if your talking about men that are just bad boys you can send em my way. The must of course meet the pre requisate. But after a few bites from me they' ll be running for the hills .
As for the guys you want not being intrested.... umm maybe they just need to be hit upside the head with a base ball bat a few times....
Errr umm not that it's how I date or anything.  | |
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Posted: 2/22/2008 2:50:39 PM | | ya know us guys god made us men we all dont look a like unless your a twin like me but any ways so if your gle an some are the ones that are ugle no matter what you do to try to inprove your looks wont help none i know im ungle an god made me so i live my life this way i have one thang he bless me with is a warm open hart lots of lady on here take one look at you on your profile an hit you back sayin no or block you hay by lookin at theres you wonder what made them say some theng stuped like that to hurt the outher one that is tryin to be nice why are ya on here for to compeat with the outher ladys to thank your the only one that god put on here an your the queen of the nile (wrong) i do atmet your a very nices lookin lady its the outher ones on here i dont understand,, ya no we i mean us ugle ones on here have feelins to an thay do get hurt an get deprest i do to know me is to love me i wish some one with an lovein hart wood give me that start ,, i dream in my mind if i look like some one hot an can dream i wood have it made i wood have any one i wonted but that will never happon its like hitin the lotto (not goin to see it happon wont see it happon ) in my life time ,, im no babeo by far just wont that love from the soul of some one to show me there is some one out there for me,, ray in auburn ga | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 8:54:47 PM | ok one time..............definiton of wrong guys.........unemployed, under employed.....looking for someone to take care of them, living with parents, no teeth. alcohol and drug problem, money troubles, height and weight disportion, no automobile, lots of drama.....BASICALLY TOTALLY NEEDY and of course there is that bit of phyiscal and emotional chemistry.
So not the "Bad Boy" type........lots of those dont even come near to fitting into the above catergory. Personally nothing wrong with a shaved head and tattoos........
And yes I still still not had any luck..........same old story............they are interested in me and I am not in them............perhaps there is something wrong with me.........probably because I am a self supportive woman not wanting to just settle..........hahahaha...........I was always referred to as Cinderella as a child maybe I am wanting on my prince charming.............hahahaha | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 8:36:15 AM | Abpoofdaddy,
Nice responce and point taken!! But, to add a little insight on the point you made about us women doing the initial contact...... I have and most will not even say "Thanks but, no thanks"?? Why is that?? do we not know that a simple thank you is??
Oh well, have learned to live with that but, I will keep going until I find the apple of my eye... so to speak!
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Posted: 4/27/2008 12:17:00 PM | Prince Charming does not exsist, you will turn to dust waiting for him to come around.
Dating is fairly simple, if you dont set yourself up for disappointment.
You meet someone you have some shared interests with, someone you can talk to, and you build on that. Eventually it'll become love.
Rainbows and happily ever afters are for children that are going through their first love. Not grown independent women.
With that said, why dont you look deep into yourself to figure out why you are attracting (and are attracted to) these "needy" men? Do you have a need to nuture, to take care of, and basically be a provider? Some women are just like that, and some men dont mind being taken care of. There isn't anything wrong with that, if that is the kind of relationship you have to be in to be happy. If that is NOT what you want then take steps to steer yourself in another direction. Really think about what you want, how you want it, and then go for the man that will most likely give you that.
I wish you the best of luck!
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Posted: 4/27/2008 1:22:12 PM | Cindy,
Man have my point of views changed. I have recently gotten really into church and found a great one to be honest and two weeks ago they did a sermon for singles finding what they wanted and Mr. Right.
One of the main points was, God didn't make "the one" for you. You have to open your eyes and look for him. It said persue your goals in life and then look to your left, look to your right and see who is hanging in right next to you as you do so. I loved that. There is actually a way to listen to the whole sermon if your intrested (email me and I'll let you know where). The views and standards of living a life that your suppose to , maybe these wrong guys are just to prepare you, and remind you. But never lower your standards. I must admit, I have met some Mr. Wrongs as you described them, many years ago I met one, and I will be the first to tell you, I saw his potential, and after verbally kicking his butt a few times, so didn't he. Now he is getting married and a awesome guy. He just let the world and all the things people said to him get him down. So maybe some of them you need to look inside and the rest kick to the curb.
And last but not least and hear me loud on this Darling there is nothing at all wrong with a woman that doesn't want to settle, when you do find the one that works for you he'll be well worth all the wrong ones you've thrown back. I still have not found mine, been single a year now, and it's not lack of guys trying to change it, it's lack of feeling they were on the same path as me.
OTOC
For self confident, non settleing women and men | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 2:20:24 PM |
God didn't make "the one" for you
I agree with this. God didn't put a certain perfect one for you on this earth. He also didn't put one soulmate for one another either. I think its funny when people say god sends people in our lives. If that were so, you wouldn't have free will. Every woman and man on this earth are soul mates for each other. Theres just some who get along with each other better. JMO | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 7:27:16 PM |
I think its funny when people say god sends people in our lives.
Wow, I am truely sorry to hear you say that. I think God does send people into our lives for a reason, not saying that it's to choose whom we are with. But each person that God places in your life changes you. From the little old lady smiling at you on the bus to the child you held in your arms till she fell asleep. Everyone impacts people's lives one way or another. One person simply smiling at you can put a smile on your face for the rest of your day, weather you realize it or not.
If that were so, you wouldn't have free will.
Free will is something completely diffrent from whom God places in your life. Free will is the right to walk away from that person, never talk to them.
I love this quote and it so fits here.
God choses who walks into your life, it's up to you whom you keep, whom you let walk away and whom you refuse to let go of | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 7:09:52 PM | Cindy,
Forgive me for being honest but you did ask so I'll attempt to answer as honestly as I know how without ever having met you.
First, you're very attractive so I'd guess that no average looking guy would ever have a chance with you. No matter that he meets all of your other criteria.
Second, your profile states, "I am not originally from the south. And I am a very independent person which seems to intimidate a lot of true southern men...." I am a true southern man. And I can tell you that being independent may intimidate southern boys, but not southern men. Southern men will just be turned off by the attitude that statement conveys. I guess northern men can handle it huh ?
Third, If you're looking for Prince Charming then maybe you're not as mature and independent as you like to think you are.
Again, not meaning to offend. Just giving my honest opinion as best I can without knowing you.
A true southern Rebel ! | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 3:04:52 AM | Rebel333
What can i say, I read her profile and you hit it right on the head. | |
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