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Posted: 3/3/2006 4:38:25 AM | | ^^^ Very true, ksue44, James Dean or bad boys do not appeal to me! Confidence and self assurance in themselfs, Yes that is a turn on. You are also correct about the pictures anyone can buy a disposable camera and just have the pics put on a CD and download the pictures directly to their PC....No excuse for no picture! Even I have had a friend load my pics as my system is older and not equipped for ....So again, No excuse! "To thine own self be true" and portray that confidence!!!!!!!!!!!! It will go far. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 8:01:48 PM | As I am not really expecting to meet anyone on here, I figure why bother with a pic? I just like talking in the forums.
No, I really wasn't trying to act like James Dean or anyone besides myself. The attitude of "cockiness" I spoke about was an experiment I tried just for the heck of it. I was surprised at the results. When I was young I was quite the ladies man. I was also shallow, selfish and unsympathetic at times. As the years went by I built character. I became emotionally and socially more aware of others feelings. I learned alot and actually had things to talk about. The more of a real human being I became, the more relaxed and confident I became. I did not need to be Mr. Cool. Imagine my surprise back then when as I developed into a better person, the less attention I received from the opposite sex! The experiment I spoke of in the OP was just me revisiting my younger self's attitude. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 8:28:48 PM | | Self confidence and Self Respect is always an eye catcher. If someone is happy you are more likely to notice them. Thats just human nature. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 10:27:10 PM | when i was younger i would walk into a place and just sort of 'hang', figuring if a woman thought me interesting, she would chat me up. needless to say, i didn'r meet many people.
nowadays, i find women finding me sexy (may be the sean connery thing; the older i get the sexier i look) and, i'll ask women friends what it is and they all have the same answer;
it's the way i carry myself. i exude self-confidence without c*ckiness. that, and i smile a lot more than i used to, make eye contact more and and start conversations rather than wait for someone else to.
i've been getting a lot of "cutes", also, like "oooh, you're just so damned CUTE!"
i'd just like to know what happened between age 10 and 50??  | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 10:51:43 PM | | the way a guy is confident and has a winning personality and great sense of humor. A captivating attitude and some mystery.With a tint of here I am type attitude. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 1:07:09 AM | | In retrospect, maybe it is not the "cockiness" that women find attractive but the confidence of looking them in the eye and showing interest? Can one become interested in someone just because they looked you in the eye? | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 4:36:28 AM | | Yes they can RD, one it means that you are interested and not hiding. Still shows confidence when you are not afraid to look women in the eye. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 7:41:20 AM | rd sounds to me your going through some mid life crisis. your probably married and wondering if your too good for her. Men with your attitude really peeve me off. I am a very outgoing possative friendly person and i will smile at anyone who looks happy 5months old to 105 it does not mean im attracted to them in any way other than they look happy or smile at me. I cant stand guys who think that if a girl younger than them smiles at them its supposed to mean more than if an elderly lady smiles or a baby for fu***cks sake. Why the hell is it that men think they still look as sexy as they did in their teens it just confuses me. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 8:42:52 AM | | Some men are sexier as they age, and I don't think anyone said we would sleep with them just that you tend to notice men who smile look you in the eye and are self confident. The same holds true for women. Men notice them more if they are happy and confident not hiding and b---y. They may notice the bad attitude but very few would find that attractive. Whether you are married or not it is nice for people of the opposite sex to notice you it doesn't mean you are looking for something new. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 10:08:08 AM | | Dear Woman of (ahem) Substance. For your info, I have never been married and I am not pursuing young chickies either. It is judgemental controlling nags like you that men turn into SOB's to begin with. Maybe the guy you should be dogging is the guy you spoke of on another thread who is leaving his wife and kids for a hooker. I guess that dosen't tick you off huh? | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 3:52:10 PM |
When I was young I was quite the ladies man. I was also shallow, selfish and unsympathetic at times. As the years went by I built character. I became emotionally and socially more aware of others feelings. I learned alot and actually had things to talk about. The more of a real human being I became, the more relaxed and confident I became. I did not need to be Mr. Cool. Imagine my surprise back then when as I developed into a better person, the less attention I received from the opposite sex!
The best thing you have said here RD is that you have changed. The rest will fall into place.
The bad boy you were is an attraction to certain individuals, but not all women want that in a man. I had a track record for bad boys, but have since grown out of that faze, and now like a kind, affectionate, sensual man with a sensitive side instead. So, we all grow in different directions, you just have to apply it and the rest will take care of itself | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 12:11:02 AM | | Dauchsie, I have no intention of going through life being someone I am not, but does it fall into place? I am not so sure it does. I have never been married. I had no intention of being single until I was 50. I believe there is a perfect match out there for me, but she is probably somewhere in Oregon or somewhere and I do not have a snowballs chance in Hades of finding her. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 12:32:27 AM | I read all these replies to RD, and I think you all gave good advice! Just be yourself, show your sense of humor, and be someone that YOU would want to be around.
RD - I didn't notice where you are located, but maybe you should go to a local New Age shop, and have your aura photographed! It will tell you what people feel about you when they meet you. If you have a bad aura, you can work to change it, and maybe people will feel better when they meet you. Just a thought...
(After meeting someone and they are o.k with you, then it becomes a matter of your own personal chemistry, the 'click' and whether the two of you can carry on a conversation, know anything to talk about, find each other amusing, etc. There is something to be said for having stuff in common...)
Just my thoughts-- | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 2:42:48 AM |
Why the hell is it that men think they still look as sexy as they did in their teens it just confuses me.
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Did you not read the thread that clearly stated, us men never really look into the mirror at our selves.
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Who else can walk down the street bald or gray headed with a potbelly and still thinks their god gifts to all women. Guess it’s that’s self-confidence we are so full of!!
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Posted: 3/5/2006 2:43:24 AM |
Why the hell is it that men think they still look as sexy as they did in their teens it just confuses me.
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Did you not read the thread that clearly stated, us men never really look into the mirror at our selves.
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Who else can walk down the street bald or gray headed with a potbelly and still thinks their god gifts to all women. Guess it’s that’s self-confidence we are so full of!!
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Cause we can!! | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 8:56:23 AM | | I don't really think that we picture ourselves as looking like we did in our teens... it's just that even as we age ourselves, our tastes in ladies do not keep up with us. ie, what looked good when we were 25 still looks good to us at 45,55,65... but our chances of landing it are slim to none! I think we would agree the ideal woman would be wise and mature as in her 40's to 60's, but look like in her 20's! No different for us! we would like to look like we did then, but know what we know now! Make any sense? | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 10:55:17 AM | | Funny you should mention this. I was in a sports bar yesterday that was filled with very hot looking young women. Eye Candy for sure but I would never fool myself, like some men my age do, that they would be interested in me. I might get myself blasted here by the women but something occurred to me. I think what appeals to older men about younger women is not so much their looks as it is their attitude. They act playful and sexy. You don't often see women over 40 acting this way and there is probably good reasons for it. I personally think there is nothing sadder than to see some old guy in a bar full of young people leering at the young women. On the other hand I kind of understand. Young people are full of life. You get a group of 40 and 50 year olds together and there is talk of bills, aches and pains, etc. Young people have problems too but it never interferes with them having a good time. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 11:05:27 AM | | Bullseye, RD. I work with some young guys, early thirties, who keep telling me about the gals they meet at their favorite hangouts... part of me wants to go and enjoy the "scenery", but I know I'd look like a dang fool all the time I was enjoying it! | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 11:55:00 AM | | That is so NOT TRUE RD?? I am offended that you don't think women in thier forties are full of life. My friends and I can go out dancing and most of the time we end up dancing with younger men because the older men are dull . I am not interested in a relationship with the younger men but they are fun. Now there was one older gentleman whoo hoo but only one that I saw anyway. Maybe its the part of the country your in. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 12:34:53 PM | Tori, you are SO correct in your statement above. I was out last night with four other people (one young 20's couple) and two gay men (late 30's). I am 48 this year. We had a blast! Age is a state of mind and keeping yourself open to new opportunities is key.
Aggressive men are a turn off to me but I don't like shy men either. I am very gregarious and like someone who can keep step with me or at least be confident enough so that they are not threatened by my outgoing nature. Jealousy is a sign of weakness in my opinion. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 1:08:06 PM | I am young at heart and have an appreciation and joy for life. I don't like men to act "OLD" which alot of men in my age group do..
Younger men have that spice for life when older men just sit and stare. Young men seem to give you a reason to act crazy and wild. They can also relate to you better then men your age.
I've never talked to people (potential dates) about aches, pains and bills. I also don't like to hear about them from the men. Nor do I want to hear how much you hate your job.
So you see it goes both ways. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 1:14:52 PM | kymber..
one could take your last input, and reverse it as if it came from a guy, explaining why he is looking for younger women! But when we say it, we are dirty old men, cradle robbers, not "acting our age". | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 1:56:04 PM | | Oh please the same would be said of women dating younger men as well. While it is true , thank goodness don't have any aches and pains to discuss and am so tired of hearing them on a daily basis have made my friends vow to shoot me if those words ever come out of my mouth. I am attracted to older men but many act Waay too old and that would never work. Age is a state of mind. I would not date someone that was in thier 20' or early 30's mainly because of thier attitude but have had some of the best....... ever with someone in thier 50's. Thankfully not everyone has this view on age and they take care of themselves and as long as they can keep up! lol He has me hooked | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 2:05:32 PM | texas...
I do believe that there is a double standard here. Women who date younger men are considered "ageless, youthful," etc., I think. It has been said that men age better than women, but I don't think that is true, mostly because women take better care of themselves, and usually look better than men the same age. We tend to get our workouts by laps between the 'fridge and the tv, while women are in the gym, or running, or walking! Maybe that is why there is a double standard!! Dang, I just solved my own problem! | |
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