Cynnie
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Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 51 | |
| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 3/2/2006 1:35:14 PM | jesus
Not only do i have to concentrate on keeping my aging ass and boobs up in the air..
I hafta be able to carry on a conversation too?
you men just ask way too much | |
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 3/2/2006 1:39:00 PM | The same thing happens over and over again with me...When added to MSN, all it ever seems to be is "how are ya?"
When I ask, tell me about you......Their reply.
"WHADDYA WANNA KNOW?"
Geezzzzzzzzz I HATE THAT
Then it's the delete key from there. | |
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 3/2/2006 1:47:59 PM | In retrospect though, conversation really is an art. Some people are natural talkers, very social and can chat with anybody. Others are not. For example, i learned years ago how to talk to people and open up because i spent so much time in the service sector. Nowadays, I can talk to anybody no problem as long as i'm getting some feedback.
But here's the thing. In a bar where all the rules seem to be different and expectations are there, I can't do it. I'm terrible in a bar. Can't work at all. Approaching a woman in a bar for me is very difficult despite my social abilities. But in a more natural setting where if you talk to someone, they aren't assuming you are trying to pick them up, I'm great.
Whats the difference between a bar and being on a dating site? I don't know, it just occured to me while writing this. Weird. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 1:50:53 PM | Hello, I often find it on the net etc, l agree with guy mentions basi skils, even somtimes l write ppl and message and so on, l dont get many replys, why?? | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 1:56:39 PM | I'm sorry xsxyguy but this one is too easy after looking at your post and then your profile.
You're offering naked pics of yourself to these girls? And partying seems to be big on your list of things to do. Then again, could be the spelling. But that could be your keyboard....probably not though.
How's the queen? | |
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| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 3/2/2006 2:16:09 PM |
But here's the thing. In a bar where all the rules seem to be different and expectations are there, I can't do it. I'm terrible in a bar. Can't work at all. Approaching a woman in a bar for me is very difficult despite my social abilities. But in a more natural setting where if you talk to someone, they aren't assuming you are trying to pick them up, I'm great.
Hey Joe I may be the oppisite from you, I have no problem in a bar or club talking or starting a conversation. I think the reason is that I have no expectations and don't use any pickup lines. My conversations are usually light hearted and not about hooking up. Heck I don't even try to pick them up, I just look for conversation.
One of the reasons I don't converse as well on here is that I can't type fast. I'm just a hunt and pecker. I type about as fast as the checkout line lady at the food store of any line I get in checks out. I'm the king of typo's | |
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Cynnie
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Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 59 | |
| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 3/2/2006 2:18:11 PM | I'm fabulous in real life..i've always had to work with the public so i learned to bullshit with the best of them ...but on the telephone you might as well be talking to your nana ilene..
I'm a total lump
dammit
On here and on ims I'm middlin..maybe someone should offer classes ..how to win friends and enfluence people...online. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 2:23:49 PM | HEY JOE
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU 100%........SO MUCH SO THAT I EDITED MY PROFILE TODAY TO REFLECT THE SAME STRUGGLE THAT YOU HAD OR ARE HAVING.
Some people have the personality of a BRICK !!
I find most men here (not all so don't chew at me guy) do not really have great social skills.
I am a very arituculate, outspoken, smart, witty kinda gal and for some reason I struggle when I am interacting with such a personality.
Now don't get me wrong, I am NOT saying one type is better thanthe other, however, for us EXTROVERTS...it is very difficult constantly "pulling teeth" so to speak to engage in conversation let alone STIMULATING ones.
I realize that we are all different personalities. I am an ENTJ for those of you who follow the Myer Brigs (oops spelling).
Here is the thing, people like us SUFFOCATE around those not like us. We love to exchange in conversation. Your a smart guy (i've seen yoru posts) and some women just can't keep up.
Either than or they are multichatting or are having dinner while they talk toyou or bla bla lba
personally, I can tell very early on from IM or email a little about a person's personality...or shall I say ..their vocabulary, art for conversation and so forth.
I've had some amazing conversation (not too many) and many bla bla bla ones that I quickly exited from..no matter how cute or attractive I may find them.
I know there are spelling errors within my post here but I'm sorry , it is the end of the day and I"m way too tired to backspace and make changes.
I personally would NEVER waste 4 or 5 emails back n forth.
You know what you want...Go out and FInd it.................. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 3:00:08 PM | My eyes... the bold type... it's EVERYWHERE!!!  (insert sound of a sizzling retina here)
Aside from that an interesting commentary, I won't even broach the topic of typographical errors on this one since you've already added the disclaimer...  
Ah yes it's the end of the day and I for one can't wait to get out of here, a pleasant evening to all!  | |
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Posted: 3/2/2006 4:47:00 PM | hello Tigerwoods,
My sincerest apologies for the BOLD...I didn't realize the magnitude until after I posted it. Next time I will use the 'edit' button.
Good sense of humour by the way ............."sizzling retina here".. OUCH that sounds painful
For some reaon, my spelling gets worse and worse over the years and I just can't figure out why.
Good night to all | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 10:09:02 PM | thank you joe schmo for pointing that out. very well said and it's something that i've noticed from day number one on.
the only thing i would like to ask, is why even bother to answer those AGAIN? i just leave them behind...
i've had it often enough, wrote a lot, sometimes over 500 words on the first contact and then get something back like "very nice profile/email" or "you are very handsome" or simply pick up on one thing said, answer in one phrase and then the "and how are you today?"
those i may write a second one, just to confirm that her head is empty. a very short one, sometimes i even "great! and how are you?" back at them.
if still nothing comes over, i just drop them before they turn into a waste of time.
greetings
kai | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 3:22:51 AM | I've had that happen too.
I find some you hit the communication and conversation button really well and others it just belly flops.
You are right though, you figure it out real quick - within a few e-mails. Or they ask after the second or third response to meet in person! Or even send back a barage of 20 questions they want you to answer on the next e-mail.
Unbelieveable and a turn off to me.
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Posted: 3/4/2006 4:41:03 AM | I'm not even going to pretend to have this form of communication mastered. I'll tell ya what though, I talk to everyone the same blessed way, whether its a customer I'm giving crap to for handing me a credit card on a $1.50 purchase, to a gal here that resembles Angelina Jolie, I'm mean, what the heck? Are we so preoccupied with selling ourselves to another person, presenting our "best possible side", that we lose who "we" are?
Lets face it, conversation is gonna stall, even B.S. artists can only run so far before giving outta material and repeating themselves. Just roll with it, give each other a rash of crap about it (in a funny way) and continue on ;)
I'm IM'n a young lady I think the world of, there's plenty of times I just don't have anything witty to say, so blank'n what? "Duh, my brains flatline at the moment, no activity.......".
What the heck ever happened to being honest with yourself, so's you can be that way with others. Are we so terribly fragile we can't fail in front of a complete stranger we haven't cast eyes on??? | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 11:16:32 AM | OBX22..............listen up and read carefully !!
First of all. your post was/is funny. Thank you for the humour.
Moving along..............
I think you have missed the MAIN point that Joe Schmoe and the rest of us were commenting on. NAturally there are times when we have little to say and when we feel "brain dead" at times. However, when you are trying to ENGAGE in FIRST TIME CONTACT with someone, there should be something somewhat stimlating to say...back and forth.
I know that I am very unattracted to DUMB MEN..simply said and I couldn't care less how HOT they are or whatever.
What we are trying to say here is that you try to start a conversation with someone and you get an EMPTY ANSWER back like...."so how are you"..or "nice profile'
For those of us a little more sophisticated we realize that such a reply means either:
1. The recipient was too dumb to know what to say (which means move along ASAP)
2. The recipient was too lazy to even bother to say anything to you (even though you put together somewhat of a good starter conversation)
3. They are just EMPTY UPSTAIRS in the brain department and we smart people would drown with those right away.
4. This is the internet ...........and we shoudl LOWER OUR EXPECTATIONS....
In summary, I honestly feel that in this world behind the computer...you ATTRACT the same type of PERSON YOU ARE REACHING OUT FOR...AND IN THIS CASE THROUGH the context or your profile and your pics.
For crying out loud..if I had BOOB SHOTS or me and Thongs and bla bla bla..with a profile that says..."i'm easy going looking for fun"....................WEEL GEEZ..I wonder what that would ATTRACT. ...........
Meanwhile if you look at my profile it is EVERYTHING OPPOSITE from what I've described above and HENCE I normally get the same engery back..not always.
I hope I haven't rambled on....just trying to shed some light where you definitely are seeing FOGGY weather...LOL LOL | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 11:41:45 AM | Points taken (need a thumbs up smiley) :t Fog lights on......LOL!
I was thinking about this earlier, and about the questions we ask each other. Questions which can be answered with a single word reply like "So, how are you today?"-reply- "Fine."
Do we set ourselves up for this kinda crap?
I dunno, I'd hate to think I have to step back and ponder a proper reply. Not the kinda thing you can do in person (like on a first date), therefore you end up misleading simply cause you can't think on your feet. You'd come off looking like you had a ghostwriter.
(sigh)
Its looking more and more like online dating is just like the bar scene or anything else.
The****, shameless self promoters will always attract their crowd, the aloof temptresses theirs, but now the quiet, dare I say "nerdy" types have a voice too.
Screw it, I'll still be me. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 11:30:20 PM | For crying out loud..if I had BOOB SHOTS or me and Thongs and bla bla bla..with a profile that says..."i'm easy going looking for fun"....................WEEL GEEZ..I wonder what that would ATTRACT. ...........
many or all men? ... some girls too i think...
(good luck with the new flame obx22, hope it will work out!) | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 1:04:47 AM |
One of these girls the other night, I finally had enough of. After about 4-5 mails of nothing, I wrote saying she didn't seem very enthusiastic and sounded like she was just being polite with her responses so I wouldn't be bothering her anymore.
She wrote back, "Um, ok. :S "
i think it's safe to surmise she wasn't hurt either........possible not a lack of conversational skills but instead a lack of interest... | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 2:05:42 AM | Hehe, that sounds familiar  I've learned not to expect Jack shit from the girls I talk to. Be it online or in person, expectations lead nowhere. | |
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Cynnie
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Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 72 | |
| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 3/5/2006 6:03:42 AM | For crying out loud..if I had BOOB SHOTS or me and Thongs and bla bla bla..with a profile that says..."i'm easy going looking for fun"....................WEEL GEEZ..I wonder what that would ATTRACT. ...........
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Hey !..I resemble that remark!
But there's nothing easy 'bout me!..I live on a small teeeny island in the middle o' nowhere!
i like my boobs..
Trust me..I'm demure compared to most women on this island..
Blah blah ..how's the weather ?
( holding a conversation ) | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 12:17:27 PM |
Cinney....................funny funny !!! YOur pics aren't that Bad.....
HERE IS A THOUGHT EVERYONE !!!
WHERE THE HECK IS JOE SCHMOE?????
WE ARE ALL ANSWERING AND COMMENTING TO HIM......but he is no where to be seen
HEy Joe...........where are ya babes?? | |
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Cynnie
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Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 74 | |
| People who can't hold a conversation
Posted: 3/5/2006 1:03:41 PM | I live in Puerto Rico!!
It's hot..women wear skimpy clothing..
heck, do i hafta put on a potato sack to have a picture made ?
Where is joe ?
out having a life ..you reckon ? | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 3:36:27 PM |
WHERE THE HECK IS JOE SCHMOE?????
WE ARE ALL ANSWERING AND COMMENTING TO HIM......but he is no where to be seen
maybe he is having problems holding the conversation | |
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