| Age gap...
Posted: 3/24/2007 2:53:05 PM | | I think if you can find true love it really doesnt matter what the age difference is... Lifes to short to worry about minor details like that. Just enjoy the time you get to spend together! | |
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Windu
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Joined: 3/20/2007
Msg: 227 | |
| Age gap...
Posted: 3/24/2007 2:57:45 PM | | In today's society with both sexes living so much longer, as long as both people are adults, I don't think age really matters so much. But in my opinion if you start getting close to 20 years difference it can start getting creepy. I've seen a few couples with 15 years difference that were perfectly happy with each other and have been together for years now. SO it really all boils down to the individual couple... and does what other people think of an age difference really matter if the couple really like eachother? | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 3:10:16 PM | | I think that if two people really love each other then age should not matter.Plus it's hard to tell the real age of some people these days. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 3:18:42 PM | Personally, I have dated a couple of older men. I find them more respectful, and less likely to put up with any B.S. (games, manipulation, etc).
But here is a thought... my 90 year old Grandma is getting married to a 77 year old! (and she "acts like a giddy teenager with butterflies in her stomache").
Isn't that the cutest thing you ever heard!!  | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 3:24:46 PM |  "Age is just a number. As long as two people are attracted and compatible, who cares how old or young the other person is? " I agree, though admittingly I'm currently looking for a woman thats younger than I.  | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 4:00:30 PM | | I've heard that it's best to go no more than 10 years older or younger than yourself. Reason being that more one way or the other may cause too much of a generational gap where you can't relate to one another - i.e. music of your generation. Also, if a woman goes out with a much younger guy, it doesn't seem to matter much if she's under 50, but as she ages, she'll worry about looking 'older' than the much younger guy and that can make her feel intimitated - she may start to wonder if he thinks she's looking too 'old' and she may worry that he'll want a younger woman. What I mean here, is if there's a BIG age difference, with the woman being much older. Otherwise, as long as both people are MATURE, RESPECTFUL, HONEST, and have enough IN COMMON, then it can work for a couple no matter what age difference. I, myself, would not want a man younger than 10 years, and no older than 5. If someone were to be much older than me, I would worry about his health problems because as we age, we're bound to have some health problems. I want to grow old with someone my own age, preferably. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 9:41:12 AM | | My late wife was 11 years younger than me and it didn't seem to make any difference to us. We had always just assumed that I would die first, but it just didn't work out that way. Enjoy each day that you are together regardless of age differences and tomorrow will take care of itself because you certainly have no control over it. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 9:54:18 AM | | I've always been more favorable to staying in a 5 year diference personaly | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 10:31:39 AM | Well I'm 25 and I prefer guys a little older. Just seems they are more mature, except for the last 30 year old I dated. My rule is I can date someone close to my parents' age, but if you are getting close to my grandparents' ages, then it's off limits.
But age really isn't a big deal. It's how the person handles themselves and how the two of you connect! | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 11:01:27 AM | | My last LTR was with someone 10 yrs younger, it lasted 3 yrs and did not end due to age issues.Having said that and now been in the internet dating game for about a year now, i have found that many men are after just sex and not relationships( whether they say so or not). If i am going to have sex with a 27 year old or a 47 or 57 year old, i might as well choose the 27 yr with some maturity. That is if its not going to lead to anything more. Someone in another forum spoke of women saying they look younger than they are. Well i for one am a woman that would not ever even broach saying that if it hadn't been said to me over and over. So buddy its not about me saying i look younger than i am its about almost every single person i meet saying that about me. Believe me i am no where near that vain. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 9:28:11 PM |
If i am going to have sex with a 27 year old or a 47 or 57 year old, i might as well choose the 27 yr with some maturity.
Wow if that is not a bash or put down to men in their 40's and 50's I don't know what is.
I guess what is good for your own ego is what is best. Banging a 27 yr old would make a woman feel great compared to doing it with a guy the same age?? Sad very sad. But who am I to say that right? I don't get laid anyhow LOL | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 9:50:48 PM |
If i am going to have sex with a 27 year old or a 47 or 57 year old, i might as well choose the 27 yr with some maturity. That is if its not going to lead to anything more.
^^^^I think it's important to quote the entire quote. She clearly states that she would have sex with the 27 year old IF it was indeed, only sex and not leading to anything else.
~OT~ It's personal preference and right at this very moment, there are 5 active threads about women loving older men. Seems to me that it's a fairly even split: those of us who prefer younger, those who prefer older and those who maintain "age is just a number and it doesn't matter." A positive attitude and a little self-esteem will make or break any deal no matter what age someone is. JMO  | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 10:48:29 PM | I've heard that it's best to go no more than 10 years older or younger than yourself. Reason being that more one way or the other may cause too much of a generational gap where you can't relate to one another - i.e. music of your generation.
This has been my experience, too. My last long-term relationship (6 years) was with someone 13 years younger than myself, and though he was extremely intelligent and incredibly funny, I could just never fathom the sort of mentality that would allow someone to call in sick to work so he could spend 6 hours playing videogames with his friends.
My boyfriend before him was, interestingly, 13 years older than me, and that relationship seemed to entail an even larger cultural gap; he was an unbelievably nice guy, but he didn't like my music, he didn't get most of my references to current events, and thought my piercings were strange.
I think relationships with large age differences can work, but both people have to be on the same wavelength, and the larger the gap, the less probable that is. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 11:10:37 PM |
If i am going to have sex with a 27 year old or a 47 or 57 year old, i might as well choose the 27 yr with some maturity. That is if its not going to lead to anything more.
It is important to note that what this reads is, if it is just for sex that sex with a guy her own age or older is not good enough, but with someone that much younger it is way worth it.
Just my opinion, maybe it is saying that meaningless sex would be fine with someone 27 but meaningful sex with someone 47 or 57 would be great.
Highly doubt that but hey is worth a shot at asking.
Hey in this day and age, women should be with younger men, older guys can't fullfil what the women need and want these days. I know that from experience. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 11:24:10 PM | Yes i have to agree that older men between the age 25-35 is good its becaues they are more mature.. Well other then the odd 28 year old that is still immture.. Yeah i find that guys that are older are better.. I have never dated anyone younger then me.
Chow!
Michelle.. | |
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zamia
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Joined: 1/3/2007
Msg: 241 | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 11:40:27 PM | I don't agree. Age is not just a number. Generation gap holds true on this one. If he/she is young enough to be your child, or old enough to be your parent....there is a huge separation of life knowledge and style.
Stick with what you know. Where you are in your own experiences. Why on this earth anyone would wish to encounter the potential and very real side of difficulties in such an age gap is beyond me. Stick with what you know........it's a lot easier by all that I've seen/heard/read thus far!
Want easy sex? Sure the younger age fits. For both sides. Want REAL sex and emotion and values. Stick with what you know. IMOP. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2007 12:20:20 AM |
" If he/she is young enough to be your child...there is a huge separation of life knowledge and style"
And perhaps more so than in previous generations.
Why... anyone would wish to encounter the... difficulties in such an age gap is beyond me"
It may not be a wish, it may just be circumstance. I've having a real problem with it. The truth is, there's many more younger women available, most women my age are married. And let's face it, the pool of older candidates IS weighted towards undesirables, that's why we're single.
I'm simultaneously creeped out and fascinated by the thought of a twenty-something girlfriend. I can't help thinking that it's a likely outcome because that's who I meet most often. And they're are surprisingly predatory. At my last apartment, the cute & single assistant manager noticed me getting change for the laundry room. Lo and behold, she just happened to start her laundry about ten minutes later and drew me into conversation. I do NOT think it was a coincidence. Since then, I've been more observant and... well, I'm just not a believer in coincidence anymore, there's definitely some calculation going on. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2007 6:19:07 AM | | I believe that age is just a number - you are as young as you feel! However the question I have to ask is this: What the heck is up with all of the 20 somethings IMing older women for sex? I have asked around and it doesn't just happen to me. Heads up to you 20 somethings - not all women in their 30's and 40's are cougars looking for a younger man to sleep with, most of us are looking for the real deal. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2007 7:05:59 AM | There is no unacceptable match. However, being 36, I would never again try to pick up a young girl. 18 -24ish. I've learned, even if they are smart, we have nothing in common.
I actually think it's funny when I do see that. The things that ppl will sell out for a little sex is funny to me!
Cheers! | |
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star52
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Joined: 3/4/2007
Msg: 245 | |
| Age gap...
Posted: 3/26/2007 7:25:58 AM | When I was 50 I was dating someone 38. It lasted about 18 months. He wanted to get married and I was not ready.
He is a good person. The closest man I ever thought of as a soul mate. The timing was just wrong.
I am now 61 and have had at least four men that are 30 something send e mail or IM.I tell them I am old enough to be their mother.
Its just up to the couple involved. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2007 7:37:47 AM | Other people's opinions is the majority of the problem with dating outside your age range.
Personally... I like younger guys. Not saying that I would write it in stone, but it just seems that they are the ones Im attracted to for some reason. I've dated from 34 (refused to go much below that as they were getting closer to my son's age than mine ! lol .. he's 22 , I'm 43 ) to 58. Honestly, there's not much choice to be made.
On the flip side... I wonder what in the world these very young guys 24-33 see in us older women really . Very confusing with the older guys wanting younger chicks, and the younger guys wanting older chicks ! ? ! ? | |
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Posted: 3/26/2007 7:43:43 AM | I always had an age limit for people that I was looking for until now. I am 28 but I have always been told that I am mature for my age as I have always had older friends- always hung out at the adult table at family dues and so forth.
I don't think that there is an age gap that is acceptable or not acceptable. We can only truly judge ourselves- who is to say what age the person will be that you fall for. There are so many things in life that we have to worry about then to worry about an age gap.
If you gel together- then that's it. Why complicate things even more when you don't have to. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2007 7:45:12 AM | | my biggest age gap younger was 4 years younger than I am. My biggest age gap OLDER was 25 years older. I think its more acceptable for the guy to be older though. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2007 8:52:56 AM | I dated a guy that was 24 years older than me. Our relationship lasted a year and a half. The relationship itself wasn't all that bad...it was more of the fact of raising teenagers (their real mom has never been around) when I was barely out of my teen years myself. It got to the point that I was overly stressed out and unhappy.
There are just a lot of factors that come into play when there is a huge age gap. Welder is actually 2 years younger than me, but, luckily, he is very mature and doesn't act like the average 22 year old male.
If I was to ever be looking again (which I know I won't be) then I would probably stick to someone around 6-7 years older than me and only 1-2 years younger than me.
~Welder's Girl~ | |
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Posted: 3/26/2007 8:56:23 AM | I think the older you get, the less the gap matters. There's a huge difference between a 18 and a 21 year old. There's less of a difference between a 28 and 31 year old. Similarly, there's a huge difference between a 21 year old and a 36 year old. There's less of a difference between a 34 year old and a 49 year old.
The older you get the less it matters.
On a side note: you know what the problem is with being older and dating someone say 4-5 years younger? It's that you're dealing with sh*t from 4-5 years ago, which is why I don't date 20 year olds lol. | |
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