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Posted: 4/16/2007 8:38:09 PM |
I am not attracted to older men. I like to be the same age or younger.
You are not attracted to older men but prefer to be younger then them? Did I miss something here?
We seem to have entered a "logic gap"..... | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 8:46:35 PM | A large # of women are incapable of making clear, rational decisions. OK...  Edit: Reading skills help Mfh. She's attracted to the same age or younger...sort of like you being attracted to only younger. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 9:13:32 PM | Women do not have a problem with age gap just as long as the guy is much younger.
Women also know that we old guys are no fun, are boring and set in our ways. It is ok for women to be this way because the younger guys will liven them up.
And women know that a larger age gap is better, younger guys for this one, because the sex is awesome. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 9:27:25 PM | | Definitely depend on the person him/her self! AGE is only a number but....there had to be some attraction, maturity, things in common ...so on and so forth ! Myself I would prefer a guy a few years older verses younger as the "older" guys know what a woman wants, where she wants it, how she wants it.........never been with a younger guy as such.....Maybe I should try it LOL | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 9:29:00 PM | | So long as things are legal .. who cares ?? I have a friend who is engaged to his fiance who 11 years younger and they have a fine relationship. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 5:25:57 AM | i think i could handle any age gap in a long term relationship as long as their was a deep commitment and real love (not i love you til things go bad love or the money runs out love or problems arise love).
the love that commits you to another person til death no matter what the struggles or obstacles. that love does exist people. it really does. the trick is to find it. that's why we're here. tom | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 8:34:29 AM | As long as it is legal. over the years I have had experience with a spectrum of age gaps, and my views/feelings over time have changed.
First boyfriend was 46 and I was 16, we lived together it lasted over 2 years and at the time I thought it was great. Now that I have children, I see it as so wrong.
When I was younger I tended to be attracted to men older then myself, as boys my age were too immature
Married a man same age, wewere 4 months apart, lasted 13 years ended in divorce as he become more immature as time went on.
Had a wonderful 3 year relation ship with a man 13 years younger then myself, it was he who pursued me, did not think it would have lasted as long it did.
So to me age is just a number, depends on the individul , I say as long as it is legal and you enjoy each other go for it.
Hope there are not too many typos, this font is really small and I seem to have misplaced my magnifier, LOL | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 9:20:17 AM | | Funny how its always the guy that is immature. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 11:24:25 AM | | Just my recent experience. with 15 years younger. too aloof | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 5:55:41 PM |
Funny how its always the guy that is immature.
But of course...ever hear of a woman being immature? Or even portrayed to be?
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Posted: 4/17/2007 6:12:26 PM | | OOOOOPS!!!! LOl, I meant that I like them to be the same age as I or younger than I | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 6:14:58 PM | | No worries....Arugula is always close by to decipher "women speak" for us guys. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 6:24:05 PM | What seems to have happened is, women now have it their way. As so many women say men have had it their way for decades so now it is their turn. And so men today have to pay the price for the past.
Age gaps are good and acceptable for all women of all ages when the guy is younger. Not good or acceptable for men with women being younger. Is just the change in times.
Women will justify dating younger for example by saying "men my age are all boring" when in fact they are generalizing and tell us men not to do the same.
If a 40 yr old man was dating a 25 yr old woman, so many women would blast him for being a pervert, because she is too young for him.
If a woman 40 is to date a guy 25 she is not going to get blasted at all. have to remember these days when a man blasts a woman for something..it falls on deaf ears.
Just face the reality, women rule the dating scene. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 7:32:54 PM |
If a 40 yr old man was dating a 25 yr old woman, so many women would blast him for being a pervert, because she is too young for him.
Actually, I'm finding that to be less and less the case. It use to be though because so many wives were losing their husbands to younger women...i.e. secretaries, etc. That was real. It happened quite a bit.
Now, though, more women have careers and the tables turned. It's not malicious behavior on either genders...in my opinion. It's simply the way the tide has turned.
Keep in mind, this is the 'baby boomers'... the ones who watched their Moms stay in shape, clean the house, look pretty for their husband...the baby boomer's Dad. Then, later many of those men hit a mid life crisis and left to seek out their second childhood. The Baby Boomers watched it all unfold and many many of the women swore it would not happen to them.
Now, throw into the equation... the male Baby Boomers who saw their dads out having fun, etc. AND.. them, the dads, not having to keep their shape up to get the younger gold diggers. Examples were set.
Fast forward to the Present. Many female Baby Boomers are over 45 now and looking good physically. Determination. The male Baby Boomers are finding reality isn't what it use to be. They have the spare tire in front hanging over their belts, etc. and still expect to get the young pretty females.
It's simply a matter of reality... not bashing men.. not frustration or getting even. It's called being a 'Product of Environment'. Nothing more or less. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2007 7:44:32 PM | ^^ This is why I say any man over 35/40 and is single, does not have a career type of job, own a nice house or condo, drive a car bought within the last 5 years will forever be single unless some women settle for less than they deserve. Which the way the tides have turned, women know they can have all they want and women will say they deserve what they want.
And yes women will and can get anything they want. Is why women when they hit their mid 30's will date younger and continue to well into their 50's. Men once they hit their late 30's are called old by women in their 20's, called not good enough by women their age, and end up with women over 40 maybe showing an interest in them when those said women have had their fun dating the young guys and figuring ok I'll settle for a guy my age for now.
Personally my 30's have been what i call the worst time of my life in terms of dating. Reality has slapped me silly and boy what a reality check it has been. Hearing every single type of rejection reason has made me confused at one point, jaded at another point, bitter at another point and given up for a bit at another point. I now do not hold much water in ever dating, let alone having sex, again because in terms of standards I know what is unattainable and find most women that way. But I am what they call a sucker for punishment and go back for another stab at it and think wow things are looking up and then bam...reality comes crashing in on me LOL. So far the attainable ones over the years being single have had some emotional issues and then start the "I do not trust men" attitude.
The thing is women have made great strides over the deacdes and they know but will not admit that they hold all the power in dating. Just that they alot of times end up falling for the wrong guys and then blame men for their heartbreaks. Instead of stepping back and seeing how they, the women, get to pick and choose while men have to do the impressing, the pursuing, the asking out and are told to accept and deal with rejection. If a guy does not like rejection, like me as I have had my fair share of it for many years, he is called weak and having no shell.
Age gaps are all in favour of women when the guy is younger no matter what because she knows that the only people to make any comments negative about it is men who are her age or older that like her that she will not date. reality sucks but the thing is, most men will not deal or accept it.
Now men will be the ones to settle as women have for so long and now they know they do not have to. If I am to date I will have to take whatever comes along sadly because 90% of the women out there are unttainable. The other 10% will settle. Not much of a pool of women to pick from with such a large amount of single guys.
As for getting them pretty, sexy, hotties? If I had the money I could but sadly I do not make that kind of money so those are what I call the Unattainable..or not being in their league at all. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2007 1:27:53 PM | Here's how it work's:
If the lady doesn't mind; it doesn't matter! Afterall what is "it" exactly that a young man has that I don't? I have more experience, a better job, secure with myself, don't pollute my body the way I used to, self confidence, don't need any of that Viagra...
No, older and wiser, in shape guys are good catch's...!!! | |
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Posted: 5/31/2007 1:39:50 PM | The_Champ_Is_Here
I don't want to get into everything you posted , and you may have some valid points in isolated cases , but I do not think women have it that easy at all ...... not by a long shot.
On topic ..
I think the ideal is for the guy to be a bit older , but age is not very important....however , most often you probably should be within 10 years . | |
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Posted: 5/31/2007 1:53:01 PM | tomozzo on 4/17/2007 5 57 AM
Subject: Age gap...
Message: i think i could handle any age gap in a long term relationship as long as their was a deep commitment and real love (not i love you til things go bad love or the money runs out love or problems arise love).
the love that commits you to another person til death no matter what the struggles or obstacles. that love does exist people. it really does. the trick is to find it. that's why we're here. tom
Im remembering back to when I was 20 hhmmmmmmmm I changed my favorite color every other month, thought the world revolved around me and was attracted to jerks just how deep can a 20 yr old be ?
but they are niave carry on dude so you have a chance lol
I prefer to love my own kids for who they are and respect yours for their young spirits and minds, NOT THEIR BODIES | |
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| Age gap...
Posted: 5/31/2007 2:25:20 PM | If a 40 yr old man was dating a 25 yr old woman, so many women would blast him for being a pervert, because she is too young for him.
That may be true on POF, but it hasn't been my experience IRL. Most people, exes excluded, seem to be pretty accepting of 5-15 year age gaps if the match is otherwise solid. It isn't until the age gap reaches that "s/he could be your child" point that folks become less tolerant. And that make sense to me. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2007 2:41:36 PM | I think it matters more at younger ages. The difference between 18 and 21 can be profound, but the difference between 28 and 31 probably not so much. Its a matter of life experience and maturity. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2007 2:46:41 PM | I agree with Algy on the "she/he could be your child/parent" thing... too creepy!!
My exwife was 11 years older than me when we got married... I've always tended to enjoy the company of women my age and a tad older... since the divorce I'm looking some the other way, but not too young,... pretty but nothing in common past a certain age... plus I don't want to be percieved as some kind of creepy old perv! I'm a creepy pev, just not that old | |
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Posted: 5/31/2007 2:56:51 PM | 1) I know loads of people who were not together for very long.
I don't know that many who are together for very long.
If I am going to spend the rest of my life with the same person, I want to know that she will be there in 20 years time, and not thing I am an old man, and me still appreciate her.
But if it is going to end at some point anyway, what do I or her care?
2) If there is something OK with a 40-year-old woman, and a 25-year-old man, this issue has been asked many, many times, and most posters say he is just interested in sex.
If there is something not OK with a 40-year-old man, and a 25-year-old woman, there is always the possibility of her having his kids.
So I can only conclude that being interested in a relationship with a woman is:
OK for having sex
Not OK for having kids
This issue already exists in most Westernised countries.
The birth rate is on the decline by moderate Westerners.
It is on the rise by religious fanatics.
Bye, bye, Western society. Say hello to religious fanaticism, persecution and war.
So I say, if you want to kill your society, that's your problem.
I'm going to enjoy my life.
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Posted: 5/31/2007 5:02:48 PM | | I'm more attracted to guys younger then I am, won't go under the age of 21 tho... If I were to date older men, I wouldn't go over the age of 40... I don't know, that's just me... | |
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Posted: 5/31/2007 7:05:22 PM | Angel, it's not just you.
40 seems to be perceived as a phase transition for a lot of people.
From reading women's profiles, I find that women in their early to mid 30's are reluctant to look at men in their 40's or even upper 30's. But women in their early 40's, often as young as 41, put 40 as the *lower* bound. | |
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