OhShea
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Joined: 1/19/2006
Msg: 76 | |
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Posted: 6/11/2006 1:08:45 AM | | Hmmm... I generally cap it around 7 yrs + or - my age. Depends on the guy, I notice a lot of men in their mid 40's are into activities and music that are simply "too old" for me. Given music is 2nd only to oxygen for me, this is a big point of contention. I get a LOT of responses from men my Mother's age, which I find quite disturbing and creepy. If I wanted to hang out with my Dad, I'd just give him a call. | |
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OhShea
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Joined: 1/19/2006
Msg: 77 | |
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Posted: 6/11/2006 1:08:51 AM | | Not sure what's up with the double post, unintentional. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2006 2:46:27 AM | The age thing really doesn't make any sense to me. What difference does it make? If two people can be happy with each other, why would it matter if they were born at the exact second, if the man is a lot older than the women, or if the woman is a lot older than the man. If I want to be with someone and he wants to be with me, I really don't care what the rest of the world thinks.
Then the idea of what will you talk about if there is a big age difference. Maybe the same things you would talk about if you were the same age. What will you have in common, same as with any age. For me, I seem to have more in common with men about 10 -15 years younger, than the ones my age. Don't know why, but seems to be the case. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2006 3:32:33 AM | | i believe age iis just a number,but a ten year span for me is high enough ,i woldnt want to meet someone younger then 38 lol | |
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Posted: 6/11/2006 3:54:44 AM | I totally agree with mellybabez.....(and not just because I'm an older guy!)
What is socially acceptable in one culture is abhored in another...what makes one right and another wrong? | |
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Posted: 6/11/2006 4:58:13 AM | "What is accepted and what is not, what is "in" or "out"?
There should be no "in" or "out" as far as society goes.
The only thing that should matter is you and the other person.
In this day and age, when human kindness and love seems so hard to find, I say love is love no matter what form it comes in, same sex, black/white, young old.
No one can live your life for you so no one should be able to dictate how you live, or who you love.
I do not believe that a minor is mentally prepared enough to be with a much older man.
Personally, I can be comfortable with a guy whos a few years younger then me, but not many, I perfer guys who are older, then who is my age. I don't care what others think is acceptable or not, I stopped caring along time ago, cause if im not being judged by others about how I look, or how I think, its something else, so I love who I love.
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Posted: 11/23/2006 4:03:49 PM | I am talkin hypothetically of course lol
but what would people think if their parent was dating someone younger then them? like the parent is in the forties and the partner is in their twenties (younger than you, as the child)
and I am not talking about love and who we should be allowed to love. I am asking how you would feel if your parent knowlingly started dating someone younger than you and the age gap is 20 years....would people find this acceptable?
Ok...you probably guessed it's not hypthetical lol. Just wanna know if I am being unfair in feeling it's not right. | |
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Posted: 11/23/2006 4:29:54 PM | First, kudos to you for obviously doing a Search rather than starting a new thread on this specific subject matter.
Now, here's my brutally honest response.
If people would not be concerned about 'stuff' like age differences - be it their family/friends/strangers.... disputes amongst family/friends would be far less.
The only circumstance to voice real disapproval would be a parent to an underage child and/or a counselor/friend, etc. to underage people. Even in those circumstances, the reasoning should always be provided.
To specifically answer your question... Nope, it would not bother me if my parent was dating someone younger than me. No, it would not have bothered me when I was a younger adult either. But, that's just my 1/2 cents worth. | |
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Posted: 11/23/2006 4:32:59 PM | Thanks for your reply.
I am bothered by it and I cannot lie.
But like I said, thanks :) | |
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Posted: 11/23/2006 4:40:16 PM | You're quite welcome. 
You absolutely have a right to feel as you do because those are your feelings and you expressed them very well/concise.
I hope you receive responses which will help you to sort thru them and help you gain insight as to why you do feel they way you do. You may be the norm and I the abnormal. | |
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Posted: 11/23/2006 4:56:05 PM | Well I do not want my mom and me to fall out. But she ended her ltr last week and met this 24 year old on sat night and now they are dating. I am worried she will get hurt. Plus she has had her kids and been married. He has yet to do all that. I am failing to see why it had to be more than a drunken kiss on a saturday night. I am 25 on sat. My bf is 30. It seems wrong to me that my moms bf will be 6 years younger than mine!!!lol
I just can't see any good coming of it...but equally dont want her being upset by me being negative. So, I am going to try and stay out of it totally. She is 43 and I have to leave her to live her own life. Though it burns my soul to do so lol (and no people...I am not spoilt and no, I am not jealous before it's suggested lol....I am very happy with my bf and am not attracted to my moms toy boy in the least!!) | |
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Posted: 11/23/2006 7:20:47 PM | When my Father retired, all the kids were out of the house he began to enjoy life again.
Believe me, me and my brothers and sisters weren't a cakewalk.
When he started dating young ladies in their mid 20's we were happy for him.
It was nice to see Pops happy. That was all we cared about.
I say let Mom get her grove on, she deserves it. | |
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Posted: 11/23/2006 7:38:25 PM | Myisland, you had a smart granny!
I prefer a few years younger. I think I have my browser set to 37-50. | |
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Posted: 11/23/2006 7:57:13 PM |
Min lady's age = (Man's age / 2) + 7
I am really digging this. For me, the answer is 30, which is my minimum. The max is subjective, but no more than 60 for me right now. | |
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Posted: 11/24/2006 12:39:19 AM | I guess the general consensus so far is its all good.
I will hve to work on that one then!!lol x | |
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Posted: 11/24/2006 1:37:35 AM | 175 Kangaroo years
dont ask me how much that is
DO I LOOK like a zooologist ?? | |
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Posted: 11/25/2006 6:41:26 AM | | For some reason I have always ended up with younger men. I guess it's a personality thing. I really dont think age should be an issue as long as you both are attracted to each other physically and mentally. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2006 3:47:13 PM | | I'm 44 and prefere guys 44-54.... but when it comes to love you donr know.. I have younger guys liking me all my life.. and dont like it.. sounds silly.. but I prefere/want an older guy.. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2006 3:58:44 PM | The age thing on here used to drive me nuts. In one day I was told I was too young, then 10 min later was told by a different lady that I was too old. lol
Both of these ladies were within 10 years of my age. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2006 4:01:13 PM | | I would probably feel too guilty and immoral about dating a girl more than 10 years younger than me. But, who really know what I'll be like when I'm middle-aged. By that time, after a mid-life crisis, anything's possible. Right now, the only "younger girls" for me, are only about five years younger- and then it gets illegal. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2006 4:15:41 PM | I am 13.5 years older than my ex wife (married 17 years) there was NO age gap. She was 26 and I was 40 when we got married.
These days - for me at my age now - I think it would be “unfair” of me to get into a LTR with a gal that was under about 45 and that is NOT because of some age gap thoughts - it is due to me potentially croaking in 10-15 years.
As far as a boink or two - bring um on if they are over about 30 lol. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2006 9:15:11 PM | Wow. I'll be one of the few to say that age can and does matter.
I think it matters more the younger you are. And I *am* creeped out by a person in their 30's or 40's even considering a late teen or early 20's young adult.
There is just too much changing in maturity that happens in the earlier adult years.
I think age matters in that seasons of life can have a significant impact on relationships. Pregnancy, children, aging parents, college, retirement, career building; it's all stuff that requires a lot out of people and from a relationship. Being in different seasons of life can have a tremendous impact.
For example, I'd rather not date someone who has children younger than my kids because I don't want to move back to that season of life. I had one very nice gentleman my age say "no, thanks" because he wanted to have his own biological kids and I'm done with that.
My ex husband was 15 years old than myself. Age rarely was an issue earlier on, but if we had stayed together, I think it would have become a greater one. | |
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wurl
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Joined: 7/2/2006
Msg: 99 | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 7:59:19 AM | | Interesting topic OP. I agree, it appears to be acceptable for women to date significantly younger men these days and but unacceptable for men to do the same things. Strange huh? I think it might be because older divorced women realize that men their age carry a lot of financial baggage and responsibility. A lot of women around 40 are divorcing these days to sleep around with younger men. lol Whether they do this in a contrived manner I don't know. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 8:11:43 AM | I don't think any two situations are the same, so I don't think it's easy to completely rule out someone for age, but I think 95 percent of the time it can be a dealbreaker.
As for age not mattering or the question of maturity, I think there are plenty of older people out there who don't know or understand squat. Living longer hasn't made them any smarter and it probably never will. But I'm sure some people have learned a few things from experience but it doesn't mean their circumstances are attractive.
An older person needs to have a lot more going for them than a younger person if they want to date younger themselves. I think it can happen, but I also accept that it's pretty rare. | |
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