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Posted: 3/3/2006 3:14:35 PM | lmao... I know... heart says one thing, head says the other...
I am usually the one running from relationships... so this is very new to me..
I am always the dumper... and I hate doing it... Besides... He has grown on me..
LOL...
OH WELL... I am a yahhoo for dating him the first place... I should have followed
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Posted: 3/3/2006 3:19:14 PM | Absolutely.....seee......YOU knew all along!
Before it even began......us women and our intuition hey?
Serve us better to pay attention to it more often me thinks.....
I like those little dots all in a row............
I guess I am a yahoo toooo
Resolved for you darlin? yes? | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 3:25:10 PM | | This is not the 1st I have heard of this....I have so many stories, my profile is fake btw, just come on to read this stuff. Anyways, my dear.....don't be stupid, if he was into you, he would not be here and you know that....why or why do women do this to themselves? I understand you like him but do u know where he is all the time? probably not? guys do this all the time on here and they are players in making you stick around so he can line then up and wait for better to come along. I have had girls tell me this a few diff times, same old story and they found out the truth. He probably is emailing u himself or has told someone ur address, come on, no other way around it, get rid of him and move on. IF this is how you get treated now, imagine the future?/????? if you were chatting iwth guys would it be innocent? no, a guy u don't know online is a potential lover or whatever, talking to girls for u ok fine but why does he need to chat with girls? Anyways be strong and tell him it is over....don't get played ur a woman, prove it. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 3:30:56 PM | | oh and to coutry sugar I think is her name...you say only been dating 3 months? not long for lifetime commitment? no it is not, but by being on here tells me for sure he does not want that with her ..... if you are on a dating site and meet someone and dating them for 3 months or one month and show some kind of commitment then you should not be on here at all. You look at this site in a diff way....think about going out, shopping and you meet a guy, dating him, things are good and then you find out he is on a dating stie chatting with other women??? would u not be upset? I sure would, you play it off like it is okay because it is from a dating site, not good enough. more like a sex site to most, very upsetting... | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 3:34:20 PM | LOL... I am just here for the forums!!!!!!
I am not looking for a date, my profile on CUPID where we met has long since
been down, and was since we talked about NOT seeing other people.
Obviously not many have read my profile....
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Posted: 3/3/2006 3:38:33 PM | This is going to be a little tough to swallow, but... you posted this in another thread:
yes I have dumped a few guys... when all else failed... I started screening my phone calls... telling them I would call them back, or say I am busy with my son... just made excuses until they stopped wanting to see me....
It sounds like he could be doing this with you.
It's no fun when you feel like someone you're interested in isn't being totally up front with you, is it? No one likes the guessing game. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 3:39:22 PM | If there are already problems and you are only in the first 3 months, you need to dump him.
He obviously has no repect for your feelings. He knows this upsets you, yet he continues to do it.
The first year or so of a relationship should be the very best, everyone on their best behaviour and trying to impress the crap out of each other.
Sounds like he is just creating a lot of stress for you.
I wouldn't put up with it for a minute. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 3:41:32 PM | | I did not mean u were looking for a date, I understand why u r here....use ur brain k....not saying you have not, but, look very hard at this.....I used to be one here, i met a guy, he played me, not for long, as I found him out...I made a fake profile and send a pic of my cousin and he was like wow let's meet thursday but at the same time, on msn he was telling me that he really likes me, is getting off plenty and does not want to meet anyone else and would like to not to either....so i played him haha, took me 3 weeks after we met but maybe u should try the same, childish I know but that way I did not waste my time, I saw things, signs and followed my instincts you shoudl to | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 4:00:12 PM | Why is it o.k. for you to have yours still up, (joined 1/23)
yet your angry that he won't take his down? Maybe he's
waiting on you to remove yours? Something doesn't seem
right here,just can't put my finger on it.If you two aren't
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Posted: 3/3/2006 4:00:22 PM | yes it does suck to wonder where things are going,
I am usually the one doing the dumping, but then again, I m not a player,
I just don't like being pestered when it isn't going anywhere, so lets just make on thing clear, I never call him on the phone, he calls me, he asks me to do things, I cook supper for him once in a while, and we go out and do things.
Don't twist this around... LOL... | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 4:28:47 PM | There' s always two sides to every story, Would have to hear his side of this soap opera you seem to be enjoying. I think the last place I would ask for advice about someone I cared about was from people who knew nothing about me or the person I was dating or seeing or whatever you choose to call it.
As for the advice you got about cutting off the sex , why punish yourself if you enjoy the sex with this guy? But I am not the best person to get sexual advice from. I don't believe in using sex as a weapon against someone. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 5:38:27 PM | FELANIE-(msg.62)Yes,I have read your profile.It was just the
timing I was asking about.What does his profile say as far as
what his status is or what he's looking for?Because he may only
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Posted: 3/3/2006 6:00:43 PM | Probably his wife or girlfriend, trying to warn you before something bad happens. He sure sounds like that kind of a guy... And if it's not a wife or girlfriend- do you really want the drama that is sure to happen coping with whoever has access to HIS emails and YOUR work email? That is the way you keep a roof over your head, and you don't need drama at work.
I wouldn't waste my time on someone like that- the guy is a player and will probably never change. If you both agreed to take down your singles profiles, and he didn't- he is already lying to you. And it won't get better- as was said earlier in this discussion- there is a curb outside your door with HIS name on it. Before you catch something from the man that you don't need to have! | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 6:01:54 PM | Gal, I'm a guy but don"t like the type you are shining up to...Move on! There are all kinds
of us out there,I want to be one of the Honest ones,That earns respect,ect...
Thanks for your time...Ron :) | |
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Posted: 3/3/2006 6:55:18 PM | I'm afraid I have to agree with most of the advice on here - you are setting yourself up for heartache (been there, done that - threw away the t-shirt a long time ago)
If he is ever ready and you and he are right together, he'll wake up and get in touch - in the meantime, I have to agree - move on - you deserve better.
Also, speaking from recent experience where I made the mistake of browsing singles sites after I started dating a great guy, kinda blows away the whole trust thing if you know what I mean. And when he started doing the same... (not that I could point fingers d'uh) - it was the beginning of the end. If we hook up sometime in the future, I will know better.
Take care of yourself first, girl, time to move on. He sure sounds like someone who is still looking for something in addition to what he could have. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2006 7:17:08 AM | | Let me share some very hard-earned wisdom: If there's a significant problem in a relationship, you've discussed it with your SO, and no solution has been put into effect, then it is time to move on. These issues either get resolved quickly, or not at all. It does NOT matter how many other GOOD things there are in the relationship - it only takes one significant BAD thing to ruin it. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 12:17:55 PM | I cut and pasted it.. fantastic words of wisdom.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he does not want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that is not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you, as you deserve then heck no, you cannot "be friends". A friend would not mistreat a friend.
Do not settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Do not stay because you think, "it will get better." You will be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Do NOT EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he will cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
Not all men are dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he does not turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you are always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Do not fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others. | |
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