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Posted: 3/9/2006 4:26:30 AM | I'll come kick his ass for you... Your friend sounds like a dog, and it's guys like that who make fantistic women like yourself hesitant about dating men who are honest and truthful!
Me for example I am now dating someone I met through this site I don't check out profiles anymore but I come into forums..... I have added to my profile a sorry to the ladies as I am dating someone and very happy!!! | |
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Posted: 3/9/2006 4:34:44 AM | well coming from a genuine as guy i would not dare e-mail other ladies while dating you,and if he is still doing this have him put in his heading [taken but only on here for chat and forum] that way if he still wants to chat to ladies its very clear thats all he wants,and i guess if he cant or will not write this he could be a game player,but is he doing this while you are standing with him like you said you meet on weekends is this when he is e-mailing other females,and are they the same females he is e-mailing???,well coming from a genuine guy as said before i would not be e-mailing females at all / tell him he can do this as long as he puts your profile name in is message and what you have been upto each weekend like going out for tea,sight seeing,swimming or what ever you two get upto to on the weekend | |
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Posted: 3/9/2006 6:26:09 AM |
I don't know when he would have time to see other women though.
We are together every weekend, and most of his spare time. He has three children
that he has during the week, and he usually calls every night, so I don't think he is
out with other women
Hahaha - I know what you mean... I recently spend some good times with a gal I thought I was building something with. Later on, she tells me that not only did she NEVER feel that way about me, but that she had been dating two other guys for MONTHS. This despite the fact that we talked every day, spent most of our weekends together, and when I asked her about it before, she'd said she wasn't dating anyone.
Lesson : People lie... | |
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Posted: 3/9/2006 9:25:43 AM | LOL... and here I was feeling so much better...
Oh well... I might as well play back don't you think??
Do you think that if I back off and start to become unavailable that he will either
pull up his boot strings or leave? | |
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Posted: 3/9/2006 10:20:36 AM | I like to keep my private life private, especially when I am having problems with it!
I don't believe it. A person has a simple problem with a simple solution and after a week later and discussing it with 100 postings the problem is not resolved and the whole thing over a pathetic three month long relationship? Oh yeah. This is a real private life you got there.
I'm gonna go check for other threads. Perhaps people need help selecting toothpaste as well.
I am not trying to be mean here. Just saying face reality. If you (and I mean anybody) cannot solve such a simple problem without discussing it for a week with God knows how many people, you best never get married to anyone because there won't be time on the planet to handle all that will come into the mix.
As for people lying, yes they do and people can very easily call you every night and talk for an hour whilst beside another naked person in bed. The call has absolutely no validity for proof of faithfulness. One does not have to be a professional film star to have excellent acting skills either and your eyes/ears are only a form of camera to them.
People have been known to have multiple marriages in different cities with the whole kaboodle - house, kids, neighbors.
Some people have multiple personalities and they are not even aware of what they do in those other personalities nor who they know. I mean not aware, as in getting a copy of an invoice in the mail for a new car with their signature on it and not having a clue when nor where they bought the vehicle. I met a woman who had that happen. She looked out her window and there was that new car that had been sitting there on the street all week and she had no idea it was hers.
Taking care of a profile on the web is a simple problem in life; as is keeping a promise to someone; as is deciding not to pursue a ridiculous romance with the wrong person, trust me.
Life is like the pea soup at the Leaky Cauldron. You best eat it before it eats you. Take it away Earnie! | |
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Posted: 3/9/2006 12:33:33 PM | My question is more like why you all think they have to be exclusive as a couple? How often do we see that? People go out a few times and suddenly break off all communication with every other person of the opposite sex.
When I was young and had the energy to juggle, I dated three girls at once. They all knew about each other, in fact they all knew each other. I never made any overtures that I was looking to pick one as a life partner. One liked sports but not concerts or movies. Another liked movies but not sports or concerts. The third liked concerts but not sports or movies. (They all liked dinner!) None of us was in any hurry to become an exclusive couple and this situation went on for maybe 2 years. I'd see them each maybe 3 times over 2 months.
Once you get into that "spend every moment of every weekend together" space, and the weekend together is implied rather than by invitation, then maybe you pull the plug on other contacts. But if that's not mutual, you ought to get out before you allow yourself to be let down. If he is keeping his iron in other fires, the message is clear that you are not the one he wants to be with forever. I'd stop short of saying you are a contingency plan, but the point in ones life that you want to settle in with one person comes at a different time for everybody. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2006 2:41:50 PM |  where do u find girls like this un lucky to just find one.....I need to be on hunt more or is it fishing ooooo yea I forgot im fishing in this big sea I wonder what im suppose to be like. in these waters | |
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Posted: 3/10/2006 2:47:31 PM | ^^^^But you wouldn't want one like me... I apparently put up with too much, or am too stupid to tell when I am beating my head against a brick wall... LOL...
I was talking to my mother about how unhappy I am with my relationship.. and not the reason why.. She told me there are lots of fish in the sea, when I said I didn't really want a fish..she told me that is usually when you find the best kind. When you aren't really looking...
Good luck to you...
And good luck to me too I guess... LOL... have a great weekend | |
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Posted: 4/26/2006 8:57:58 AM | | Hi there.. my question is this... is he meeting these women for "coffee"? Is he talking to them outside of the computer, if so he sounds like a guy my sister met on here. She dated him for almost if not a whole year and when she wanted to do things with him, he was busy, having already made plans with some girl he met through this site. She finally had enough(i hope) and is or has broken up with him... I feel that in my sisters situation that he was just talking to these women so that he could have someone on the back burner.. And was probably sleeping with them too.. I hope this is not true for you and wish you all the best. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2006 11:13:39 AM | you want to kick his ass that sounds stuip you are not talking to him ask him about the stuff you hear about him and a lot of times its a bunch of shit if you are happy with him than talk to him and don't mine the shit going around.
you don't own him so stop trying to just be a woman about this talk you don;t know if any of this is true just hear say it takes to for love trust him and talk | |
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Joined: 1/31/2006
Msg: 112 | |
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Posted: 7/2/2006 4:36:02 PM | | So right at this moment unless the two of you agree to be exclusive he isn't really doing anything wrong. I've had this happen to me before, I used to be a one woman dating guy even if we just met. I later found out that it is common practice for women to date multiple guys before committing to one. So you have two choices either you can do the same and see other guys or the two of you agree to only see each other exclusively. | |
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Joined: 6/25/2006
Msg: 113 | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 4:00:48 PM | Hi:
Also Jesus said this in John 7: 24 "Judge not according to the appearamce. but judge righteous judgment". Which means that you can judge! Shut the door on him, He is fishing for someone better then what he has. That was sent to you by GOD. as a warning! (emails) Obey the sign! or else!
Are you Born Again if yes! then you have your answer! If not the answer was still given! | |
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Ghita
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Joined: 6/29/2006
Msg: 115 | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 4:28:57 PM | | I just had a similiar experience...I had very deep feelings for this man. We both agreed to hide our profiles...but that is a joke. He was still going in and responding to emails from women who had contacted him prior to it being hidden. He was selective as to whom he told he was seeing someone. Even if the rest was just for fun...it was wrong...if he had any intentions of pursuing something serious with me...he blew it. He lost someone else for the same reason. It is not harmless...and I know he regrets losing the first girl...I knew what had happened and was moving much slower. So he is a player...and is addicted...and what you start with is what you will end with...end it now...you deserve better...don't you think so? | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 4:42:06 PM | | It has only been 3 months since you started seeing him. If he means so much to you, back off and don't out the pressure on him. Let him play on the internet. It is no big deal to chat with other people. Maybe he is trying to fll an empty space in himself~ you can't really know because you don't know HIM, not after such a brief period of time! Back down and let him come to you....~Beth~ | |
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Joined: 6/8/2006
Msg: 119 | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 4:52:20 PM | | If he thinks its ok to chat with other women,it should go both ways.You put your profile back up and chat with whoever you want.If it upsets him he will then know how it makes you feel.Better yet, go back into this site under another user name, contact him and see whats up.I did this one time. He was really busted.Later ask him about this other women,only you knowing its really you, and see if he tells you the truth.Bet hes not,but do it anyway to make a fool of him before you dump him. Then you will know you went out in style and not you the one being a fool. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 5:00:47 PM | | felanie,, if it's so trivial,, then why are y0u letting it barther you,, to begain with,,,,,I would have just deleted all the trash,, or got rid of him,, your choice,,, | |
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Joined: 6/29/2006
Msg: 121 | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 10:53:53 PM | | Dont be stupid. I dated someone from another site that also showed last login. You had 15 seconds before your loging would register, and I would check his every day. He never logged on until we stopped dating. Your boyfriend dear, is keeping his options open. | |
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