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| in love with two people
Posted: 3/8/2008 10:26:46 AM | hi starr...
i've got the same issue. saw a woman that i cant get out of my mind. been going on for months now. i would not cheat on my wife. i understand your problem very well. | |
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| in love with two people
Posted: 3/8/2008 11:03:13 AM | i agree with what every buddy els is saying
i think you are out of your mind as well and why would you be on here any way
if your married to your husband. your here to just have a chat with people looks like
to me your on a hunt for some fun and your husband dose put out for you like be for.
why dont you think about that maybe he is up set that his wife is flirting away with other
man and going to end up hurting him as well. think about what you have now and if you meet this guy your in love with all the good things you have will be gone also if you have kids to think about them as well and how they will look at you in the end of you go with this other guy and get a little dirty with him. out of honesty to all the married people on here you should all be a shamed of your self for saying i do when you got married to the one you said that i want to spend the rest of my life with you. think about it star you where there be for in front of the breest and god when you said i do | |
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zonea
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Joined: 2/14/2008
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| in love with two people
Posted: 3/8/2008 11:29:23 AM | I don't think it's possible to love 2 people at the same time. I am not sure you have the perfect marriage you claim to have. If so, you wouldn't have gone to a chatting site seeking companionship. A contented wife with 2 kids would never do that - you sound young, so I assume your kids are small. How do you find the time to be on chatting sites? Looks like something is missing in your life and you went to seek it on the net. I understand because I did that. When my marriage died, I went seeking online friendships because I'd no intention of cheating physically. I have got emotionally involved with online people and they can feel very real, but like many people here advised you, these online attractions may be fanciful ones in our minds and fade out of our memories eventually.
Since I went through a similar situation a few years ago, I understand your dilemma. You don't want to kill your marriage but because of some element of dissatisfaction in your marriage (dying sex life?), you don't want to let go of your dream man online, hmm? Perfectly natural situation. May I suggest couple of things you could try?
Take a good hard look at your priorities. Saving your marriage? For your own sake? For your kids' sake? If that's your top priority, cut all connections with online man. Stay away from the net lest you be tempted. Think hard on what's missing in your marriage. Have a counseling session. If you don't have a job, take up some hobbies, spend more time with your husband...buy a new wardrobe, pack in some sexy lingerie and go on a holiday with him...do something to kindle the flame...good luck! I really hope you can save that marriage for those kids' sake. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 4:19:16 PM | Thank you Star -- I hadn't seen what you said, but can't message you anyway because of your restrictions. I hope everything is going well with you.  | |
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| in love with two people
Posted: 9/3/2008 4:27:58 PM | | Your situation reminds me of the Rodney Dangerfield joke where a husband and wife are lying in bed just lying in bed. Finally the husband turns to the wife and says, "What is the matter dear, you can't think of anyone else either?" | |
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| in love with two people
Posted: 9/3/2008 5:13:42 PM | Now, with my well formed mind, individuality, self-esteem, self-respect, and self-knowledge, it does not seem to be possible.
It did happen to me when I was 16 or at least I thought it did; however, I do not trust my thoughts, ideas, and conclusions from that age!!! Ha ha ha!!!
One question is why would you talk to other guys on that level, or maybe even at any level on a dating site, if nothing is missing in your marriage? Moreover, I do not think that anything is perfect …makes me laugh!!!
I would want to be with someone with higher standards, above average qualities, and well formed mind and self-knowledge who understands that feelings are directly proportional to the treatment from the person toward who the feelings are meant, and, of course, he can’t mistreat me or take me for granted as I will be gone!!! 
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