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Posted: 3/5/2006 7:10:38 AM | Male prima donnas? Who has time for that charade. Vain men are a deadly combination!
Beware because the only person they can love is themselves! | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 8:10:35 AM | I just want to make a suggestion here....
but when you talk to someone before you make
plans to meet, ask them if they had ever met anyone from
online before.
Maybe they haven't.
If they haven't you need to be sure to meet them at a highly
public place and plan only for a very short meeting, like for a coffee
in a mall.
Be sure you tell them exactly what you'll be wearing and send
pictures that look like you, recent pics, so when they show up they not only
recognize you but a time limit has been set. Do not push the time limit anfd be respectful
to the time you have agreed upon
Also if someone has not met somene from online before... its best to maybe talk
on the phone for a few weeks beforehand.
They have to be comfortable in meeting if you want it to go well....
sometimes men are pushy to hurry up and meet. They do not take into
consideration that it is a very terrifing thing for someone who has not met
anyone from the personals before.
Pushy people suc k......
were you pushy? | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 10:29:33 AM | Perhaps she didn't want to meet you in the first place or was unsure..you seem rather pushy with you opinion perhaps that's not the only thing you are pushy with. Maybe she felt pressured into and changed her mind and just couldn't do it...doesn't make her a phony because she chose not to meet you...
Everyone gets nervous sometimes, meeting new people can be very stressing, I know I wanted to run like heck the first few times and not go, I was literally sick to my tummy with worry, that doesn't make me a phony just a lil chicken..  | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 10:45:32 AM |
3. A few of you are taking the OP's angry response - and somehow forming the conclusion that the woman who stood him up somehow "sensed" all this about him and bailed. Ummm, how did she do this without even meeting him? I agree with y'all that he shouldn't be getting THIS upset over it - but you people are making some pretty uninformed judgements.
THANK YOU!!! Yes, they ARE making uninformed judgements. She did have my picture. We exchanged pics. She knows what I look like. She didn't sense anything. I am the one that sensed I was gettin played. I never contacted me once. SHE was the one who was always messaging me, saying how she wanted to get together, and sendin me sexy pics. I told her I didn't really believe her, but she insisted that she was for real.
Your response to a stood-up date are on the verge on being scary.
Yeah yeah yeah, that's great. I don't care what you think of me or my personality. Yes I am upset that I got played, and I wanted to know if anything could be done about people who ABUSE this site. Yes, I got mad, but that doesn't mean that I was not taken advantage of. I am not the one who did something wrong
I would give more credence to your reactions if you felt crushed or hurt, but when I notice hostile feelings toward her, I immediately question your Integrity.
Obviously, I was hurt. At what point did I say anything hostile? If you read my posts, you will see that I say I don't want revenge, I want to expose her as a phony.
I remember a thread about an incident like this a while back, where a woman was stood up in this exact same manner - expressing the same level of anger with being "conned". There were about 2 1/2 pages of threads in response - some of them saying what people have said here....that he probably just got cold feet, etc - but most of them told the lady that he was probably a player, superficial, untrustworthy, etc. Interesting to see the difference in responses between the threads.
THANK YOU!!!! That at least gives me some kind of satisfaction. I just hate being played, and it makes me mad, and YES, oh my God do you people think I don't know that it is a character flaw on my part that I got so upset about this? I KNOW DAMMIT!!! But whatever, she is still a phony, and I don't like that, and I don't want it to happen again, or to anyone else. I wish something could be done about phonies. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 10:49:04 AM | | Cold feet is quite possible. It just happens and there is no real explanation for it. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 12:59:37 PM | | sunfish, I didn't misunderstand. I can just imagine where she is coming from. Maybe she decided that the idea of meeting you scared her, and she was creeped out, and rather than confront you about it, she simply blocked you. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 3:33:53 PM | sounds like you invested too much (intellecutally) in this date..... before you even arrived.
Set up something convenient, give it a time span, and if you get a no show, that is the way it goes!
I once drove up to and arrived 9 minutes late, but my date looked like she was so angry she would rip the walls out of a brick building.
I caved. Wrote her a note, stuck it on her car under her wiper and chalked it up to experience!
It happens.... | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 3:35:26 PM | Sunfishone2001, you're right. They should make her go out with you.
There should be enforcement of verbal and written promises.
If she's on this site advertising her availability, she should be forced to put up or shut up!
Something must be done about these phonies!!!
Something!
But what?
What can we do?
If she said she'd go out with you and didn't show - do you have it recorded? Maybe she can be exposed as the fraud that she is. And you can be shown to be someone who stands for what's right and good in the world. Then all the other honest women will vie for your attention. You may become the most sought after member. Keep it up, good man.
ps. it's probably an ex getting back at you or your buddies pulling the wool over your eyes.
you've been had, dude. Wise up. you are the fool. No one is clamoring for your attention - least of all a pretty woman sending you hot pics.
You're just a dumb shlub. Too dumb to figure it out. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 3:42:35 PM | Sunfishone2001 -
You got stood up.
Happens.
Life sucks.
Its crap.
Whats the point? | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 5:37:20 PM | | Sunfish maybe you said something that scared her. Or maybe she ran into someone who knew you and they badmouthed you to her. I have had that happen where someone I met ended up having a friend who knew me and she didn't like me. My date even implied her friend bad mouthed me even though I haven't seen her since high school. Needless to say I never called the girl back. Just forget about her and be a big boy and move on. This whining on here has got to stop, other women notice this and women always remember this stuff. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 7:42:14 PM | | Funny, I remember reading recently about a woman who said she was suppose to meet a man somewhere for an intimate encounter. So in jest she said she would meet him there and did'nt show up. Not showing up for a meeting, does not break any rules. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 7:50:25 PM | | msg 11 ok she didn't turn up but why did she block him sounds a tad suspicious to me. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 9:38:43 PM |
Sunfishone2001, you're right. They should make her go out with you.
Hmmmm, is that a quote? Did I say that they should make her go out with me somewhere? Did I say anything even remotely similar? Maybe my memory is slipping me, or maybe you are psychotic and reading things that do not exist.
Maybe she can be exposed as the fraud that she is. And you can be shown to be someone who stands for what's right and good in the world.
Ummm, yes that would be good...... ???? Something wrong with that? Are you against what's right or something?
You may become the most sought after member.
That is not my goal either.
Whatever. All I have learned from this thread is that people are more likely to come up with excuses, such as she just got scared, rather than accept the obvious that this person played me.
My Case, one more time
1) she contacted me the first time, to tell me that I'm sexy and stuff. She continued to send me sexy pics. I sent her one picture of myself.
2) whenever I tried to end the conversation, she would beg me to stay and talk, and she would try to talk me in to meeting with her, even though I had trouble believing her.
3) We agreed to meet a certain time.
4) We chatted just before I left to go meet her, with her assuring me that she was going to be there, despite my doubts.
5) I went to the meeting place, she did not show up.
6) I come home to find that she blokced me.
I rest my case.
My conclusion is that women constantly complain about insincere men, but woman cannot accept that many women are also insincere. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 9:45:24 PM |
My conclusion is that women constantly complain about insincere men, but woman cannot accept that many women are also insincere.
Women are terrible. I'd never date one.
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Posted: 3/5/2006 9:48:28 PM | why is it when someone gets rejected in any way....they feel the need to bash them on this site or confront them...what are we kids in high school? i see this behavoir alot in this site...i personally think its very childish behavior. does it make you feel any better...to put another one down ...you feel superior now? why cant people just except the fact ..theyre just not interested in you....an move on. next?
i been rejected so many times to...but u dont see me bashin those little boys in here...just not right an it would be very immature of me if i did....besides why stoop to a lower level...and play their game...be a better person an walk away.
i can on the other hand relate to alot what your goin thru...just remember your not alone at this..i am sure alot fof us have gone thru the same ordeal or another. its not fun i will admit it...its bit ridicoulous if u ask me...thought we were suppose to be mature adults here... someone smak me....lmao quick | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 10:03:40 PM | | For starters....try practicing what you preach!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 10:06:20 PM | | ...then maybe you will see that you really are an 'adult' too. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 10:08:14 PM | | well i have to agree with you about your comments. don't lsiten to the ones comming on and saying the *suck it up crap* also i will say this. it seems that people don't come on here to read what you said. they just come and make stupid comments on about how people whine. it don't make you look kool. just anal. the guy is looking for some understanding and compassion. if you have nothing nice to say then dont' say anything at all. only a moron sits back and picks on a person for saying what he feels. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 10:26:30 PM | Can I assume you never shared your pic with her? If that's the case, you
experienced the hazzards of blind dates. You can't fault her for that.
What if I showed up on a blind date to discover something completely different
and "out there" from the image I painted in my head - am I to ride this thing out? Nah! | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 10:26:45 PM | soulrebel78
Sounds like you fell victim to one of the many forms of the "Nigerian Scam".. Some sites are over run with with it and sad as it is, there are plenty of those scammers on here... | |
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Posted: 3/5/2006 10:30:43 PM | | for starters my posting was referrin to the OP...an not anyone else in here...just wanted to clarify that | |
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Posted: 3/6/2006 12:29:51 AM | THANKS BATTA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have learned two lessons.
1) trust my instincts.
2) people tend to respond on the forums by calling you a whiner, even if you have a legitimate complaint. | |
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