| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/7/2009 5:07:08 PM | I dated a man 23 years older than me for 8 years! To me looking back seems like a joke now, but it was not so bad when I was dating him. The difference came in to play when he basically retired. We enjoyed a lot of things together, well I did anyways, till I found out he was cheating on me, usually depending on the person I think is what makes the difference, what works for one might not for the other.  | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/8/2009 8:05:39 AM | | Now in my opinion thats a real classic jerk not being honest right off the bat? Did you not tell her to bait her in , what do you think she might think about your big fat lie? | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/8/2009 8:50:11 AM | | my personal answer to that question is no, within the last two years I've had 2 girlfriends. I'm 47, one the them was 58. 11 years older than me, and my last girlfriend was 39, 8 years younger. and age was never an issue with either of them ... the only time it becomes a problem is if either of you feel guilty about the age difference ... | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/8/2009 9:23:16 AM | | My personal belief is that age is largely just a number. We are all shaped by our experiences and outlook on life. I dated a man 16 years my junior and one who was 17 years my senior. These days I have been asked out by men who are within five years of my age either way, which works well. We grew up in the same era so there's more common ground than we'd have if one of us was significantly younger or older. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/9/2009 7:45:40 PM | I just read a fellow’s profile where he stated the ideal age of the women men should date is “half your age plus seven”. He got this from a local radio talk show host whose demographic is 18 – 34 year old males. Said owner of profile is 54 looking for a 34 year old lady. Give or take a couple of years.
Me? I just can’t keep those 92 year olds from beating down my door!  | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/9/2009 9:28:11 PM | | Same here ... piece of useless trivia from a Men's Mag. Starting at 22 years of age, the youngest lady a guy could date and still be seen as socially acceptable was half his age plus 7. I would like to see that social demographic. So at 22, acceptable is 18 (11+7) and for a lady of say 40, that would be a guy of 66. Not so sure. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/9/2009 9:43:36 PM | | I think it only matters when it comes to the age of the younger person. If they are above 25 I don't think it matters who old the oher person is! Most woman are mature and know who they are by 25. Good luck! | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 6/23/2009 9:49:09 AM | | lol people are funny age is just a number! Its about the personality and chemistry! my bf is 13 years older than me! | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 6/23/2009 10:07:05 AM | One of my uncles was married to my aunt for 40+ years, and SHE was 10 years older. And he was definitely the man of the house.
A cousin (female, gay) was with HER gf for about 10 years, and her gf was 20 years older.
This is one of those areas where I could give a rat's butt what people thought. If I wanna do it, I'm gonna do it.
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:06:44 PM | It really depends on chemistry, attraction and mental maturity. In my previous relationship of 6 years, she was younger by 10 years and it was great! It didn't end because of the age difference.
My current interest is a 22yo Asian coworker who I've been pseudo-dating for about 3 months, I'm 42. We have great chemistry and she doesn't mind the age difference partly because I look about 28 or 30. She likes the fun we have without the immature drama from emotional guys her age. And, even though we don't have a formal "relationship", we do kiss and hold hands in public. It's a bit of an 'outside the box' type of friendship and it works for us.
Don't focus on the age gap too much! Focus on the qualities that make the relationship work. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:09:54 PM | | 38 and 29 isn't a problem at all. If I remember right that is the age that I was and my last date. Age is just a number unless it puts you in handcuffs. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 7/6/2009 3:30:01 AM | Personally I have a "10 year rule". I am 58 by the way. I do think the older you get, the less of an issue it becomes. Well I mean unless there's like a 35 year difference!!!
Ideally...I feel most comfortable with 5 years on either side of my age and the closer to my age the better.
Having said that...I don't honestly feel like 9 years younger is such a stretch for OP. However...there's 9 years younger and 9 years younger. It kind of depends on the maturity level of the young lady. It's kind of a case by case basis.
I mean she could be your exact age and have the emotional maturity of someone 15 years younger. At the end of the day...if she seems emotionally mature, if you feel like you communicate with her well and there are significant commonalities...then it sounds like you have the makings of a great relationship.
Good luck to you!!!
Kind regards to all fishies...
...Barbi  | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 7/6/2009 4:19:04 AM | | Age is not the key word here.. Compatibility is.. If you feel compatible with a partner 20 years younger or 20 years older I say go for it.. I personally believe a 3 to 8 years difference is more likely to work.. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:24:35 PM | Nine years is not an issue if both are above a certain age...arbitrarily I'll suggest 25.
How many years of age a person is, is less important than how many years they have left.
If a 40 year old hooks up with a 20 year old and the older one lives to 100 and the younger to the age of 80, the match was right on.
I often hear this question: "Who wants kids when there in their 60's?" The answer is probably someone who wasn't so 'blessed' in their 20's. The question is predicated on a mioptic point view. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/23/2009 8:02:05 AM | | I think as long as the younger of the two in the relationship are atleast 21 or 22... nine years wouldn't be too much. Though I'd personally rather be closer. | |
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