| | Is a 9 year age difference too much?Page 2 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | | I agree that if the age difference occurs at a place too far on the lower end of the scale (teens, twenties), it can be insurmountable. I am 53 years old. I consistently end up dating quite a bit younger. I've found that early thirties is about as low as I can safely go in terms of age. By the time I taught a guy in his twenties everything he would need to know to keep up with me and make me happy, I'd be too old to enjoy it. Bear in mind, however, that some guys in their early 30's can handle the normal maintenance that comes with a relationship very well, while I've met some in their 50's who don't have a clue. You have to take it on a person by person basis. I will say that after you pass 30, age is just a number that is only 1 factor involved in making a decision about a partner. | |
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deb35
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 10:19:07 AM | age is just a number....don't worry about it. Have fun, have great sex....enjoy what you have!!!! My ex's girl friend is almost 20yrs younger than he is! They love each other and I am totally happy for them.
P.S. If i met a 30 yr old or a 28 yr old and the sparks were there, hell age would me nothing.
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deb35
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 10:34:32 AM | | last year, [i was 21], i *chilled* with someone who 31. i was considering of dating him...but there are just some barrier. he's sexually active [which is *duh*], n i'm not. so in the end, it wouldn't have lasted...so no point on going further with it. he's cool though. i wouldn't mind dating someone 10 yrz older...as long as we're on the same page =D | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 11:03:50 AM | Like you said... as you get older, it becomes less of an issue. I think what it comes down to is mentality and intellectual development. In your first scenario, a 25 year old has much more life experience than a 16 year old and as such it would likely not work. In the actual scenerio of 38 and 29, I don't think it is an issue since by 29 she has likely (more or less) developed into the person she is going to be. You can still both share adult experiences (not THOSE kind of experiences), rather than one person being on a adult level, and one person being on a teenage level.
Personally, I often find younger women more attractive than women my age. So I generally look at girls about 5 years younger as a rule. Not to say I'd at all rule out someone who was perfect for me if she was the same age, of course.... | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 11:19:21 AM | | I just went out with a girl 13 years younger than me Friday night - she likes me and wants to see me again ;of course she does not know my true age- she is well educated and does part time modelling- these modeliing women fall for established older guys as well | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 12:11:43 PM |
course she does not know my true age
puahahahahahaha...yea...modeling women do fall for established older guyz indeed. if she only knew how much OLDER... | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 2:30:38 PM | | I am sorry to say but Bella Mia , I was telling the whole and complete truth .... I know if sounds crazy but yes i did go out with a young lady who was a lot younger than me | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 3:16:07 PM | I'm 48 and the majority of the men I date are at least 8-9 years younger than I am. Current guy is 40 and it's not even an issue... I was engaged to a man 11 years younger than I and there was no problem.
Age is an attitude... not a number. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 4:54:09 PM | the age doesn't matter as long as you can afford her. She wouldn't be wasting time with you if you were broke. Also, you're probably the best she can get. That, or she has low self-esteem. I mean, how would you like to be rolling around the sheets with some old, wrinkled has-been? 9 years is longer than most people have ever been in a relationship. You've probably been around the block more than a few times. What would you prefer - a new car or an old jalopy? ps - you're no spring chicken. Use her before you lose her. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 8:59:15 PM | | I think its all about attitude n how u2 click, age doesnt mean a thing, ive been out with men 12 yrs younger than me n get along gr8, still good friends till this day, its all about whats in common n if u click I'd say, *maturity levels*. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/5/2006 10:35:28 PM | | great movie to check out on people who date and have HUGE age differences, it comes out on Tuesday, it's called Prime Uma Therman is in it!! check it out, great stuff. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/6/2006 2:55:59 AM | I remember I was 32, I think at the time, and I emailed this 38 year old (somewhat attractive) woman online....
See, when I'm in my early 30's, there's some women I meet that seriously even look MY age...so am I thinking, "Heck, she definately wouldn't mind the age difference, since she LOOKS my age, right?"
Get an email back, "sorry the age difference is too great" even had that happen with me with a woman that I met in real life.....
Sometimes I wonder if women lay that "You're too young for me" or "Our age differences are too great" Lines....if they simply aren't attracted physically. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/6/2006 2:57:25 AM | "last year, [i was 21], i *chilled* with someone who 31. i was considering of dating him...but there are just some barrier. he's sexually active [which is *duh*], n i'm not. so in the end, it wouldn't have lasted...so no point on going further with it. he's cool though. i wouldn't mind dating someone 10 yrz older...as long as we're on the same page =D"
Actually, at your age, you should be the most sexually active. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/6/2006 3:13:06 AM | What really matters is if the two of you have hit it off, have mutual interests, are ok with the age gap, and most of all enjoy each others company. Screw anybody if they have a issue with it, after all what really matters is the happiness the two of you encounter together. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2006 3:22:03 AM | hey there jerry age differences in a relationship are only a promlem if u let them become a problem normally its only other people who actually accnowledge an age difference between a couple i am 27 and my bf is only 22 we dont even remember about there being a difference as they say "age is just a number"
and its chemistry between two people that really matters so if u love each other then to hell with everyone elses opinion!!!! | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/6/2006 3:40:05 AM | Good post. Nine years no probs in this respect to me. I am far from judgemental (emphasis on the mental part :P) I would appreciate feedback on a 43 year old dating a 17 year old.
I know of an individual (not personally thank goodness) doing this. I have a very strong opinion on this one. IT IS SICK. Emphasis on ill.
I look forward to feedback.
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/6/2006 4:02:40 AM | | I think you are both old enough to make a wise decision. If she were under age or young enough to be your daughter, that would be icky, but 29 and 38 shouldn't be given a second thought. | |
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