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 Serenity_now_4u
Joined: 3/13/2006
Msg: 76
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Hmmm - I might tend more toward 28 than 18. My daughter's 13, and thinking of her dating a 23-yr-old just doesn't work for me.



I think that the older you get... the more accepted it is - as it should be... Gawd my daughter is in grade 9 and I even shudder to think of her "dating" or as they say "seeing" a boy in high school....

Signed (over protective mom)
 38Nascar
Joined: 11/11/2005
Msg: 77
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/16/2006 10:52:18 AM
I guess it depends on the individual...I myself let it be a problem...wish I could get over that.
 blondegreeneyedgal
Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 78
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/16/2006 10:54:32 AM
I think after you reach 25,age makes no difference but for a 13 yr old um yep big problem dating a 23 yr old.Where is the 23 yr old brain at lol
 bc_reiner
Joined: 2/26/2006
Msg: 79
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/16/2006 11:05:32 AM
I'm 49 and I'm dating a 35 year old. So what. I've never been divorced so my opinion on dating might be different on the subject then you that have had to experience that. Lost my whole family in car accidents. I look at life a lot differently now. What makes you happy and makes you feel alive and loved is all that matters. Age, race, fat, skinny, tall, short, means nothing, it's what is in your heart and your soul that really counts. By the way, stop and smell the roses every once in a while....it really does make a difference!
 aftereight
Joined: 11/21/2005
Msg: 80
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/16/2006 11:13:57 AM
Noooo not at all that age difference is nothing, go for it and ENJOY!
 QUEEN GUENEVERE
Joined: 1/24/2006
Msg: 81
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/16/2006 11:47:02 AM
So, at your ages you should both know what you want and age is irrelevant!
 TallVirgo
Joined: 3/8/2006
Msg: 82
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/18/2006 11:39:13 AM
When my folks first met my Mom was just 19yrs and my Dad was 34!!! Yep, 15yr age difference! Family members and friends figured it was a 'lust' thing and that the relationship wouldn't work.

Flash forward 41yrs later (still married) those same folks that doubted the authenticity of their relationship are either dead, never married, or several times divorced.
 Mike Anthony
Joined: 10/23/2005
Msg: 83
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 3/18/2006 11:47:32 AM
Its a proplem if your 90 with a billon in the bank and she is 20 swinging around a pole.



Iam still trying to figure out what the problem is.
 Harley45710
Joined: 8/30/2005
Msg: 84
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/4/2006 4:39:50 PM
Hey, NASCAR I'm 36. I think you should go for it, I'll be waiting
 Elizabeth04
Joined: 4/2/2006
Msg: 85
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/4/2006 4:52:50 PM
I think that a 9 year age difference can make a big difference when you are really young (maturity) or old (heath issues, one person about to retire the other in the height of their career etc.). A person who is 29 is likely to be just as mature and attractive as someone 38 -both people have experience dating, have finished university and have their career on tract etc. The one thing own thing to consider is children, if you have already had yours and don't want any and the other person longs to parent, this isn't fair to pursue unless it is very, very casual (and understood) by both parties.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 86
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/4/2006 4:55:03 PM
As long as your partner is of legal age ... who cares?
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 87
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/4/2006 10:30:08 PM
i know i'm going to get the nasty e-mails for this one but: for 25 you should go 9 years the other way to see what a real woman can do. leave the 16 year olds for the teenage boys to contend with.
 GuyfromUsa
Joined: 4/4/2006
Msg: 88
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/5/2006 1:10:41 AM
It's only a number dont let that stop you at a chance for happiness.
Life is too short to worry about age live each day the best you can.
And hopefully you find love together wish you both the best!
 Strider886
Joined: 3/28/2006
Msg: 89
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/5/2006 2:33:37 AM
Im 26, my gf is 9.5 years older than me. Its not a big deal.
 ImYourAngel23
Joined: 5/26/2004
Msg: 90
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/5/2006 2:52:04 AM
Age difference.........I see no problem. You 38 and she is 29....and ur point is ?
 heart_of_an_angel
Joined: 11/5/2005
Msg: 91
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/5/2006 2:56:54 AM
Well, Im dating a guy 11 years older (im 44, u do the math) and ive always dated guys may age or younger, even much younger...and trust me this is a match made in heaven. Hes everything ive looked for in a man and trust me the sex is awesome He beats out all those younger guys in that department!
 MarkCK
Joined: 9/24/2005
Msg: 92
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/5/2006 8:37:26 AM
I think that's perfectly fine - don't worry about it, she's old enough to have some sense it's not like you'd be dating a really young girl, nothing to feel bad about there, as long as it feels right with the both of you age is just a silly number (get in there!! )
 FHST84
Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 93
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 4/10/2006 11:34:21 AM
C'mon,

A 9 year difference. Thats nothing. My last 2 gfs were 26 & 28, i was 38, I jus met someone who just turned 30 on another site, and she specifically is looking for someone around my age of 39. If your 25, and the girl was 16 thats an entirely different issue. We currently have a big issue with my niece, she is 14 & dating an 18 y/o, thats an issue. Once both people are adults its up to the 2 people. I usually always tend to date younger, but I don't look below 25 - 26, but I find the bulk of my responses are from girls in their mid to late 20's. I think as a rule a lot of women tend to look up in age as the guys look down, but its all personal preference. thanks!!
 Country Girl 40
Joined: 6/13/2006
Msg: 94
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 7/10/2006 1:05:53 PM
Hell know. I was with a 21 year old when I was 35. Lots of fun.
 FieryRedhead85
Joined: 6/19/2006
Msg: 95
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 7/10/2006 1:08:47 PM
I don't think it's that big of a deal. It's all about where each of you are mentally.

The guy I'm "talking" to is 31 and I'm only 21. Seems to be fine. He's the responsible one and I keep his life exciting and never let him go to bed early for work. It's a good deal. lol

It really doesn't matter as long as you are happy and you really don't have a problem.
 asweet1974
Joined: 10/18/2005
Msg: 96
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 7/10/2006 1:13:27 PM
9 years, Hell no. My grandparents were 17 years apart. They were married almost 50 yrs. (my grandfather passed away few months before their anniversery) I also dated someone 7yrs older. I actually prefer someone 5-10 yrs older...don't know why.
 michaelcorleone
Joined: 3/6/2006
Msg: 97
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 7/26/2006 6:40:43 AM
Here's a formula for determining the perfect difference in age between a man and woman. I picked it up in the Middle East (Ramallah, Palestine) and thought it was brilliant. The formula is:

The man's age, divided by 2, plus 7 = the perfect female age.

In your case, that would mean she should be 26. In other words, your girlfriend is too old for you!

My father, who is Greek, always used to say that 10 years between the man and the woman is a good thing, so chin up, buddy-boy!
 Bryantinfl
Joined: 1/4/2006
Msg: 98
Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/7/2006 7:35:59 AM
38 / 29 - FINE. Go for it!
 Playfulnfunn
Joined: 1/21/2006
Msg: 99
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/22/2006 2:52:58 PM
My ex-husband is 14 years older than me! Two of my sisters are married to younger men....maybe I'll give it a try, sounds like fun! What does age have to do with anything as long as you're both having fun and not hurting anyone else? I say go for it!!!!!
Wooooooo Hoooooooo!!!!!! You only live once!
 MS1970
Joined: 6/29/2005
Msg: 100
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Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/22/2006 3:20:21 PM
Age is not only a number in years it is a difference in life experiences and ways of thinking. I am thirty five and have been single for a few years now. My ex and I were only apart by a few months age wise. Things with her went south after she grew a wart on her nose, started cooking in a big iron cauldron, bought a pointy hat and riding a broom. lol (sorry ladies, I had to throw that in for comedic value) Actually we just came to a place where we couldn't even agree to disagree anymore.

I have a friend right now that is 48 years old. She is a terrific person with an awesome outlook on life and though not gorgeous or even beautiful in the "classical definition" of the terms, to me she is one of the most gorgeous women I have ever met. Through that friendship I have learned that age, in some of the most minor points, can make a difference in attitudes and outlooks, but through that age difference we have both learned thoings from one another. If your strong enough to look at the person, see who they really are, and accept the differences that are bound to be there, then you are sitting in a great position with a huge world ahead of you and opportunities to learn and build something together. If you are not ready to do that, then keep it closer to your own age so that those differences do not drive a wedge into things later on.
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